Joy, Growth, and Giving at The Special Children’s Center

This summer, something extraordinary is unfolding at The Special Children’s Center Deal Camp, and it’s all happening at our breathtaking new Center Farm. Just 20 minutes from Deal, this 30-acre oasis has become a place of healing, discovery, and joy.

At the Center, we’ve always believed in going above and beyond for our children. This summer, with the help of our devoted hosts and an unbelievably supportive community, we’ve taken that dream to a whole new level.

A Place to Grow, A Place to Shine
The Center Farm is simply transformational. From the moment you arrive, you can feel the calm in the air and the excitement on the kids’ faces. With wide open spaces and animal friends at every turn, it’s the kind of place where kids can be free to explore, to express themselves, and to just be.
Animal care has become a daily delight. Whether it’s brushing ponies, feeding chickens, or cuddling soft, snuggly bunnies, these gentle, hands-on moments have sparked something special in our campers. And of course, there’s horseback riding. Each ride is a moment of confidence and connection, where kids feel strong, steady, and in control.
An extra special highlight is the gourmet breakfast prepared daily by our very own Chef David. It’s a truly delicious start to each incredible day.

The Power of People
But what truly makes the magic happen? Our unbelievable counselors. These incredible young women show up every day with energy, warmth, and love that knows no limits. They’re all in. Whether they’re helping a child navigate a new experience or bursting into spontaneous dance parties, they bring joy and security to every corner of the farm.
They’re not just staff, they’re family. And our campers feel it.

A Community That Cares
None of this would be possible without the amazing community that surrounds us. Our devoted hosts have opened their hearts and homes to our children, welcoming them with warm smiles, fun, and love. Their kindness overwhelms us every single day.
From the families who give us their daughters to be our devoted counselors, to the donors who go above and beyond to make dreams come true, you are all part of this mission. This community doesn’t just support us, it walks with us every single day. You believe in our kids, and together we create the magic they deserve.

Summer Smiles, Center Style

Sunshine, Support, And So Much Love

Annual Breakfast

Our annual breakfast, hosted by Kim and Amin Cayre, was a day to experience. It was a morning of togetherness, support, and shared purpose. We have no words to thank our hosts who went above and beyond to make our breakfast the wonderful experience that it was. Richie Dweck opened the morning as always with his words, “There’s no place that does what the Center does, for the kids and for the parents.” He then welcomed Harry Adjmi, whose heart and soul have been behind the Center day in and day out, helping make it the extraordinary place it is.
A special Tallit was presented to Richie, Harry, Elliot Tawil, Elliot Tamir, and Amin, embroidered with the names of all the hostages. Then Yaakov took the stage and sang his moving song, dedicated to those who lost their lives al kiddush Hashem. As Yaakov’s voice filled the air, everyone stood united, coming together to make dreams come true. To everyone who invested so much effort to make the breakfast happen, especially Harry Adjjmi, Richie Dweck, and Elliot Tawil, and Lydia Cohen who together with her amazing mom Norma makes the breakfast the incredible experience it is. And to every single person who came, participated, and gave from the heart, it means so much to have you with us.

The Special Ride

The Special Ride was a real highlight this year! The Ride is the stunning brainchild of Sam Sutton and his beautiful family, created in honor of their very special son and brother, Robbie. With endless dedication, Mike Sutton, Elliot Tawil, Dan Rusinowitz, and Lawrence Pahuskin worked hand-in-hand all year long to make this year’s Ride the incredible success it was. Over 100 riders came together to raise vital funds, and to have an amazing time doing it. Huge thanks to our amazing riders for making the ride such a special success, and a special thank you to CO Dessler for making the logistics and safety look effortless.

Giving Children Wings

Everything we do, every acre of the farm, every moment of programming, every smile from a counselor, is about giving our children wings. At the Center Deal Camp Farm, they are not defined by their challenges; they are lifted by love, laughter, and limitless potential.
And it doesn’t stop at summer. The Center provides services to over 1,000 children all year long, offering a full range of programming designed to meet every need we can think of. From our after-school program, to Center Respite House, to Between Camp, legal holiday programs, and more, we’re here to make life with a special needs child not only manageable, but beautiful.
Each day at the Special Children Center, whether it’s at camp on the farm or in our building, reminds us again and again: when children are given the right environment, the right support, and unconditional love, they soar.
This summer, they are flying high at Center Deal Camp. And we are all better for it.
Reach out today to find out how you can get involved. Email chaya@thecenternj.org or call (732) 367-0099.

Linda Argalgi Sadacka

We met twice: once at a rally for Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu—before the world was set on fire on October 7—and again more recently for drinks, the sound of war in the background, and history unfolding in real time.

Between those two meetings, something major happened: President Donald J. Trump appointed Tila Falic Levi to his Holocaust Education Board. It didn’t happen by default: it happened deliberately. At a time when Jewish memory is under assault, and Jewish survival is being questioned in public squares across the globe, Trump chose a woman who isn’t reading from a script—he chose one who’s living the mission. “I didn’t come here for war,” Tila told me. “But I’m not running from it either.”
She flew to Israel this summer with her three younger children. Her three older ones were planning to join—but before they could, the skies shut and the missiles came. Friends messaged: “You got stuck.” Her answer? “I’m not stuck. I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be.”
Tila’s Zionism isn’t Instagram-deep. It’s multigenerational. Her family—the Falics—are pillars of Jewish education, Holocaust remembrance, and philanthropic muscle that spans continents. But Tila doesn’t coast on legacy. She builds on it. “I carry the torch,” she told me. “But I use it to light new fires.”
She’s raising six Jewish children in a world where being Jewish is suddenly political again. Her older children are already outspoken Zionist leaders. “Now I’m shaping the younger ones,” she said. “That’s the real mission.”
Her appointment to the Trump Holocaust Education Board came recently—after the October 7 massacre, and in the wake of a global surge in antisemitism. She’s not there for optics. She’s there to speak plain truth. “There’s no comparison to the Holocaust. But when the hatred that fueled it starts resurfacing—cheered on by mobs and ignored by elites—it’s time to stop making excuses and start taking action.”
Her work on the board won’t be passive. She’s not interested in panel discussions. She’s interested in powerfully educating a generation that’s being taught lies—about Jews, about Israel, and about the very meaning of Never Again.
Tila’s life in Israel right now isn’t curated. It’s real. She’s spent nights in bomb shelters, comforting her children under the sound of sirens and airstrikes. Yet each day begins with Modeh Ani—the Jewish prayer of gratitude. “When you say Modeh Ani in Israel, it lands in your bones,” she said. “You don’t just say thank you. You say, ‘I made it. Again.’”
She’s watched Israelis weep and celebrate in the same breath, bury friends in the morning and dance at weddings by night. “This is the only place in the world where death and joy sit at the same table. That’s Israel. That’s what makes us unbreakable.”
“October 7 didn’t change me,” Tila said. “It revealed everything. It showed us who we are—and who our enemies always were.” She sees it clearly now: a dividing line between those who hide behind nuance and those who stand without flinching. “We now know who’s on the right side of history—and who never was.”
To young Jews afraid to speak out, her message is simple and sharp: “Know who you are. Own your history. Speak with strength. And stop apologizing for being a Jew.”
Her loyalty to President Trump is just as firm. “He understands antisemitism. He understands history. And he never backed down from defending Israel—not when it was hard, not when it was unpopular. I’m proud to serve under his leadership.”
Tila Falic Levi is not a pundit. She’s not a performance piece. She’s a mother of six raising Zionist children under rocket fire. She’s a Trump-appointed board member shaping how the world remembers the Holocaust. She’s a woman with legacy in her blood, and leadership in her bones. She doesn’t whisper. She doesn’t wait. And she sure as hell doesn’t ask for permission to be proud.
In a time of moral fog and cowardice disguised as diplomacy, Tila stands as a lighthouse—unapologetically Jewish, defiantly free, and fully awake. And I’m proud—deeply proud—to call her a friend, a sister-in-arms, and one of the fiercest Zionists of our time.

Linda Argalgi Sadacka is a writer, political strategist, community organizer, and Jewish activist dedicated to combating antisemitism. A delegate for the ZOA in the WZO elections, she works to protect Jewish interests worldwide. Known for her impactful advocacy, media presence, and writing, she actively mobilizes communities and fights for Israel.

Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks ZT”L

The month of Av is the saddest in the Jewish year, and Tisha b’Av is the saddest day. On it the two Temples were destroyed, the first in 586 BCE by the Babylonians, the second in 70 CE by the Romans. It is also the day on which Betar – the last stronghold of the Bar Kochba rebellion – fell in 135 CE, and on which, one year later, the Roman emperor Hadrian rebuilt Jerusalem as a pagan city, Aelia Capitolina. In 1492, Tisha b’Av was the day on which Jews were finally exiled from Spain.

How did Jews survive these tragedies? That is one of the most enthralling questions about Judaism. It is an iron law of history that civilizations rise, achieve greatness and appear indestructible, but in the end they fail and fall. Only Jews and Judaism have experienced catastrophe after catastrophe, exile after exile, but have endured. Each new defeat inspired resilience. Jews wept, but then rebuilt their lives, often in new and strange places. More remarkably still, each tragedy inspired a new burst of creativity.
After the destruction of the first Temple came the renewal of Torah under Ezra and the returning exiles. After the loss of the second Temple came the great literature of the sages: Midrash, Mishnah and the two Talmuds. The Crusades gave birth to the spirituality of the Hassidei Ashkenaz; the Spanish expulsion to the mysticism of Sfat. The greatest tragedy of all in human terms, the Holocaust, was followed a mere three years later by the single greatest collective affirmation of life in 2000 years – the rebirth of the State of Israel. There is something remarkable about this story, unparalleled in the history of any other nation.
I remember the moment when I first stood on Mount Scopus – today the site of the Hebrew University – looking down on the old city of Jerusalem, and realized that it was here that Rabbi Akiva and his colleagues stood, contemplating the ruins of what had been Judaism’s holiest place. While the others wept, Rabbi Akiva smiled.
“Why do you weep?” asked Rabbi Akiva. They replied “How can we not weep, when we see a fox walking through the ruins where our Holy of Holies once stood. The question is, how can you smile?” Rabbi Akiva replied: “The prophets foresaw Jerusalem’s destruction and they also foresaw its rebuilding. I have seen the first prophecy come true. Now I know the second will also come true.”
Rabbi Akiva shared with the prophets the courage to hope. Hope is not a mere instinct. It is born in faith – the faith that G-d exists, that He keeps His promises and that He forgives. That hope is contained in the very name tradition gave to this month: Menachem Av, the month of consolation as well as tragedy. A people that never loses hope cannot be defeated. The Jewish people kept hope alive. Hope kept the Jewish people alive.

Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks ZT”L was an international religious leader, and philosopher. The author of over 30 books, Rabbi Sacks received multiple awards in recognition of his work. Sadly, he passed away in November 2020.

Redefining Summer Indulgence Without the Guilt

Laura Shammah, MS, RDN

Picture this: It’s a hot summer day. You’re walking with friends or family, and someone suggests stopping for ice cream. It’s casual, fun, and spontaneous—the kind of memory summers are made of. But for some, a moment like this isn’t just simple. It’s complicated.

That small cone might spark a spiral of guilt, overthinking, or the urge to “make up for it later.” The voice inside says, “You didn’t earn this,” or “This is going to ruin everything.” If you’ve ever felt that inner tension around food—especially when it’s something sweet, “bad,” or “extra”—this message is for you.

Treats Are Part of a Full Life
Summer is full of connection: barbecues, beach snacks, late-night s’mores, weddings, parties. Food isn’t just fuel—it’s part of how we celebrate, connect, and enjoy the moment.
When we start labeling certain foods as “bad” or “off-limits,” we take away the joy and turn them into a source of stress. But having a treat doesn’t mean you’ve lost control—it means you’re living with balance.
Reframing the Thought: It’s Just Food
Try this gentle shift:
Instead of “I shouldn’t be eating this,” try “This is part of my day, and it’s okay.”
Instead of “I need to make up for this later,” try “My body knows how to handle this.”
Treats aren’t rewards or punishments. They’re just food. Sometimes we eat for nourishment, and sometimes we eat for joy. Both are valid.

Common Summer Triggers
(and How to Stay Grounded)
The season brings a mix of wonderful things—and also potential challenges:

• Wearing lighter clothing may increase body awareness or discomfort.
• Unstructured schedules or spontaneous outings may feel overwhelming.
• Social meals may lead to pressure or comparison.
  When those moments hit, try this:
• Take a deep breath and remind yourself that you are safe and allowed to eat.
• Ground yourself in the moment. Look around, notice the people, the place, the purpose. Remember that comparison to others is the thief of joy.
• Bring in self-compassion. Flexibility is strength—not failure.

For Parents and Supporters: Lead with Love
If you’re around kids, teens, or anyone who’s learning how to feel okay around food, your words matter.

• Avoid labeling foods as “bad” or “junk.”
• Don’t praise restraint. Instead, praise presence, confidence, and connection.
• Say yes to the treat without disclaimers.
  A child watching you enjoy food without guilt learns to do the same.

Final Thought: You Don’t
Have to Earn a Treat
You don’t need to justify your slice of cake or your second scoop of ice cream. It doesn’t cancel out a good day or undo progress. It doesn’t require explanation.
It’s just a treat—and you’re allowed to enjoy it. Can you picture going the rest of your life without your favorite snack? That’s like holding your breath. How long can you really stick to it? Eventually, you need to breathe. So stop holding your breath, and give yourself permission to enjoy the treats that make you feel good. Have a safe and wonderful summer.

Laura Shammah MS, RDN specializes in eating disorders but has clientele that run the gamut from people dealing with PCOS, infertility hypertension, high cholesterol, Crohn’s disease, diabetes and cancer. She also helps clients who run in marathons, are pregnant and those who would like to lose or gain weight in a healthy way.

BBQ Tips and Tasty Recipes

There’s nothing quite like the enticing aroma of food sizzling on a grill on a warm summer afternoon. For many families, backyard barbecuing isn’t just about cooking outdoors—it’s about community, tradition, and enjoying delicious food together. With the right techniques and flavors from expert chefs and pit masters, you can elevate your grilling skills and become the star of your next barbecue gathering.

Whether you’re a seasoned griller or a novice, mastering some expert secrets can transform your barbecue experience. Here are professional tips and mouth-watering recipes to enhance your kosher grilling repertoire, impress your guests, and create memorable meals that everyone will savor.
Great grilling begins with preparation. Experts advise investing in high-quality meats. The quality of your meat significantly impacts your final dish. For the best results, choose meats with good marbling, such as ribeye or brisket, to ensure juicy, flavorful results. Allowing meat to reach room temperature before grilling ensures even cooking and a perfectly grilled exterior, helping you avoid tough or undercooked results.
Once your meat is prepped, seasoning is key. Here is an essential dry rub that enhances almost any grilled dish by creating a flavorful crust, sealing in the juices, and adding layers of depth:

Classic BBQ Dry Rub (Serves 8–10)

• 2 tablespoons kosher salt
• 2 tablespoons brown sugar
• 1 tablespoon paprika
• 1 tablespoon garlic powder
• 1 tablespoon onion powder
• 1 teaspoon black pepper
• ½ teaspoon cayenne pepper
  Instructions: Mix all ingredients thoroughly. Rub generously over meat and let sit at least 30 minutes before grilling to allow flavors to fully penetrate the meat.

Marinating is another powerful way to enhance your grilling. Marinades not only infuse flavor but also tenderize tougher cuts, making them succulent and enjoyable. This citrus-infused marinade tenderizes meats beautifully while adding a fresh, zesty kick that balances smoky grill flavors:

Citrus and Herb Marinade (Serves 6–8)

• Juice and zest of 2 lemons
• Juice and zest of 1 orange
• ¼ cup olive oil
• 3 cloves garlic, minced
• 2 tablespoons fresh parsley, chopped
• 2 tablespoons fresh rosemary, chopped
• Salt and pepper to taste
  Instructions: Combine ingredients in a bowl. Marinate meat in the refrigerator for at least 2 hours, ideally overnight. Drain excess marinade before grilling to avoid flare-ups.

Grilling isn’t just about meats. Side dishes are equally important to round out your meal and can bring delightful contrast and balance to your barbecue. Here’s a crowd-pleasing Grilled Vegetable Medley, offering smoky sweetness and vibrant flavors:

Grilled Vegetable Medley (Serves 6–8)

• 2 zucchini, sliced thick
• 1 red onion, cut into wedges
• 2 bell peppers, sliced
• 2 cups mushrooms
• 3 tablespoons olive oil
• 2 teaspoons balsamic vinegar
• 1 teaspoon garlic powder
• Salt and pepper to taste
  Instructions: Toss vegetables with olive oil, vinegar, garlic powder, salt, and pepper. Grill in a grilling basket or directly on the grate until tender and charred, about 10–15 minutes. Grilling intensifies their natural sweetness and adds delightful smoky notes.

Complement your grilled dishes with an irresistible potato salad, an iconic summer staple with a refreshing twist:

Herbed Potato Salad (Serves 8)

• 3 pounds small red potatoes, boiled and halved
• ½ cup mayonnaise
• ¼ cup Dijon mustard
• 3 tablespoons fresh dill, chopped
• 2 tablespoons fresh chives, chopped
• 1 teaspoon garlic powder
• Salt and pepper to taste
  Instructions: Combine mayonnaise, mustard, dill, chives, garlic powder, salt, and pepper. Gently fold dressing into potatoes, ensuring even coating. Refrigerate until chilled before serving, allowing flavors to meld beautifully.

Experienced pitmasters also emphasize temperature control, noting that “maintaining consistent heat ensures even cooking and prevents flare-ups.” Understanding your grill’s hot spots and rotating your food accordingly prevents uneven cooking. Additionally, always have a reliable meat thermometer handy. Ensuring meats reach safe internal temperatures not only keeps your meals delicious but safe too.
Grilling is an art form, and with practice and these expert tips and recipes, you’ll quickly become known for your fantastic barbecues. Each gathering around your grill will become an opportunity to celebrate good food, warm weather, and cherished traditions, creating memories that linger long after the embers have cooled.

Life in Israel Was Meant to Be

She saved her babysitting money for a whole year to take a teen trip to Israel. It was summer, and very hot. Tuni Betesh visited the Kotel and placed her cheek on the cool stone wall. She felt a strong urge rushing through her body and felt she should be living in Israel. At that moment, Tuni knew she wanted to come back. “I feel gifted and special to have that zachut,” said Tuni.

Tuni Cohen, nee Betesh, was married about six years when she moved to Israeli with her Israeli-born husband Jacob. The youngest of three children of David and Esther Betesh (nee Jemal), Tuni was a child of the community.
Meeting Jacob was bashert. After his army service, Jacob came to New York and stayed with Dave E. a”h and Regina Cohen a”h, Jacob’s father’s cousins. It was Regina who suggested the couple meet in October 1985. The couple hit it off and began dating. A few weeks later, the Cohens had a family wedding and Jacob, not knowing the social implications, asked Tuni to join him as his plus one. The couple was engaged in January and married just before Passover 1986. Tuni and Jacob moved in 1991, with their four sons – twins Shaul and David, Jamie a”h, and Aaron. Their daughter Rachelee was born in Israel.
Jacob is an only child and when he decided to live in New York, his parents joined them. Dave E. Cohen had been to Israel and walked into the Cohen store on Allenby Street and immediately recognized his cousins.
Jacob’s parents developed real estate in Israel and began the same business in New York. But after 12 years, they wanted to go back to Israel and tend to their business there. Jacob and Tuni decided to go as well as he was needed in the family business.
It was a difficult adjustment for her and the children. The twins were six, Jamie was five, and Aaron was seven months old. They started in Rishon Leshion and planned on staying one year to try it out. They ended up settling in Harnof, a neighborhood of Jerusalem.
“I came from a Syrian environment, and it took a while for us to find a synagogue close enough that we felt comfortable in. The boys went to a religious school, but one that allowed for Army service,” she said. “All my children served in the Israeli Defense Forces and were in elite units. Rachelee is the sabra of the family, as she was born in Israel.”
Tuni believes that Hashem meant for her to live in Israel and that the family benefits from his plan. Her son Aaron lives in the south on a moshav by Gaza. When the October 7 attack happened, they were sent to a safe room. Sirens are a frequent occurrence near Gaza but on that day, the sirens went off with unusual frequency.
As it happened, Aaron’s daughter was diagnosed with cancer and was scheduled for surgery to remove her kidney on October 8. At the same time, his wife, who is a nurse, was eight months pregnant. They had two other children, ages three and 18 months. They were told not to leave, that Hamas was close by and it was unsafe. They had to keep their phones with them and turned on for the notifications.
Hamas was headed for the moshav when an IDF helicopter flew overhead, was shot down and landed near the moshav. The soldiers all survived and were able to kill the Hamas attackers and save the moshav.
On October 8, the day after the attack, Aaron knew he had to get his daughter to the hospital for the scheduled surgery. The IDF soldiers did not want them to leave, so they took their lives in their hands, trusted in Hashem, and got to the hospital safely.
After the attacks, most people in the south were relocated to hotels and stayed whole families in one room. After the surgery, his daughter needed chemotherapy and other treatments. Luckily a community member allowed them use of their home in Tel Aviv. Aaron’s wife gave birth to a son and they had a brit milah. Eight months later, they were able to move back to the moshav. Unfortunately, there was cancer in the child’s other kidney as well. The family decided to go to New York for treatment at Memorial Sloane Kettering Hospital where she had stem cell treatment and is now recuperating. “If my son didn’t have to be with his daughter that day, he would have been in combat,” said Tuni. “My granddaughter’s illness, terrible as it was, saved his life.”
Tuni is thankful and loves her life in Jerusalem. She works with preschool children and loves to exercise. She feels the exercise gives her the energy to run after the toddlers. She loves sitting on her patio, looking out over the hills of Jerusalem, seeing the thriving forests, the military cemetery and overlooking Yad Vashem.” I am surrounded by Israel’s history,” she said.
Sadly, they lost their son Jamie to a rare disease years ago. Tuni traveled extensively with her Jamie a”h for surgeries and treatments to Belgium, Arizona, Florida, Iowa, and to the National Institutes of Health in Bethesda where they participated in a clinical study. On each visit, she spent a few days in Brooklyn, catching up with family and friends. Despite the distance, Tuni is still close to all her relatives and childhood friends. Often people also came to Israel to visit or for a bar mitzvah.
Tuni still has trouble with her Hebrew language skills and does not think she is fluent, although she gets by. Her children all speak Hebrew and English, and her husband Jacob is also fluent in Arabic. Their children are all accomplished professionals. Tuni and Jacob are proud grandparents.

THERE ARE SO MANY FUN SUMMER ACTIVITIES FOR KIDS AND ADULTS. HOWEVER, SOME OF THEM CAN BE DANGEROUS. THAT’S WHY IT’S IMPORTANT TO FOLLOW SAFETY RULES. ONE OF THE BEST WAYS YOU CAN KEEP YOUR FAMILY AND OTHERS SAFE IS TO LEARN CPR. WE WANT EVERYONE TO HAVE A WONDERFUL SUMMER, SO WE PUT TOGETHER THIS SAFETY GUIDE.

Summer Heat Safety Tips
Stay hydrated: Drink plenty of water throughout the day, and avoid alcohol and caffeine which can dehydrate you. Make sure your children are well hydrated, too.
Dress appropriately: Wear loose, lightweight clothing and a hat to protect yourself from the sun.
Stay indoors during the hottest part of the day: If possible, stay from 11 A.M. to 3 P.M. Plan activities for the late afternoon.
Use sunscreen: Apply sunscreen with an SPF of at least 30, and reapply every two hours or after swimming or sweating.
Know the signs of heat stroke: Symptoms of heat stroke include high body temperature, headache, nausea, and confusion. If you or someone else experiences these symptoms, seek medical attention immediately.

Swimming Safety Tips
Supervise children at all times: Always designate a responsible adult to keep a close eye on children in and around the water.
Never swim alone: Never let kids swim alone, even if there’s a lifeguard on duty. Always make children swim with a buddy. This is very good advice for adults as well.
Know your limits: Don’t push yourself too hard, and only swim in areas that are safe and appropriate for your skill level.
Follow pool rules: Follow all rules at public pools, beaches and water parks, and be aware of any potential hazards.

Beach Safety
Swim near lifeguard stations: Choose swimming spots with lifeguards close by and ensure your family members swim within a designated area that’s visible to both you and lifeguards.
Learn rip current awareness: Educate yourself and your family about rip currents and how to identify and escape them.
Be cautious of tides: Be mindful of rising rides, as they can change rapidly and pose a risk to swimmers.
Supervise children at all times: Always designate a responsible adult to keep a close eye on any children in or around the water, even when there are lifeguards on duty.
Pool Safety
Install barriers: If you own a pool, secure it with fences or barriers to prevent unsupervised children from accessing the water.
Assign a water watcher: Designate a responsible adult to supervise children in or around the water. This adult should provide their undivided attention to this task to prevent accidents and emergencies.
Use safety equipment: Always keep life-saving equipment like a shepherd’s hook and a life preserver near the pool. Ensure that little ones wear a properly fitted flotation device if they are unable to swim on their own.
Encourage swimming lessons: Fewer accidents happen when everyone knows how to swim. It’s an essential life skill that increases pool and water safety.

Bicycle Safety
Always wear a helmet: Always wear a properly fitted helmet that meets safety standards while riding a bicycle. Helmets save lives and are essential for everyone — children and adults.
Follow traffic rules: Obey traffic laws, signals and signs. Ride with the flow of traffic and use hand signals when stopping and turning.
Use reflective gear: Ensure that you and your family are visible by wearing reflective clothing and adding reflective accessories to bicycles.
Check bike condition: Regularly inspect your bicycle to ensure proper brake function, tire pressure and reflectors.
Stay alert: Encourage family members to stay focused and avoid distractions while riding. Do not let anyone use a phone or wear headphones while riding.

Boat Safety
Wear a life jacket: Make sure everyone on your boat always wears a properly fitted and approved life jacket.
Check the weather: Monitor the forecast before embarking on any boating excursion and avoid going out during possible inclement weather conditions.
Maintain a proper speed: Follow speed limits and adjust your speed based on water and weather conditions.
Assign a designated watcher: Assign a responsible adult to keep a close eye on children to prevent accidents.
Educate your family and passengers: Familiarize everyone with basic boating safety rules like always keeping hands and feet inside the boat and avoiding all reckless behavior.
Do not consume alcohol. It is not safe or legal to operate a boat while drinking. Boating while intoxicated can impair your judgement, reaction time, coordination and ability to safely navigate the waters, which increases the risk of accidents, injuries and even death. For both drivers and passengers, alcohol intensifies the effects of sun, wind and motion on the water, leading to diminished decision-making abilities.

Theme Park Safety
Dress appropriately: Wear comfortable clothing and footwear suitable for walking and being active for many hours. Dress children in bright, easy to recognize clothes so they’ll be easy to spot should they wander off.
Follow height and age restrictions: Adhere to posted height and age restrictions for rides and attractions. These restrictions are in place for safety reasons and should be respected to prevent accidents.
Stay hydrated: Drink plenty of water throughout the day.
Establish a meeting point: Select a central meeting point in case anyone in your family gets separated. Teach children how to identify park staff or security so they can easily find help if they get lost.
Follow ride instructions: Listen attentively to ride instructions from the park staff and follow them carefully. Observe all safety guidelines including the proper use of restraints and seat belts.
Sun protection: Apply high-SPF sunscreen before entering the park and re-apply every two hours throughout the day. Use hats, sunglasses and seek shade often to protect yourself and your family from the sun.
Grilling Safety
Keep children away from grill. Keep kids occupied while you grill so they won’t accidentally wander over to you and get burned.
Place your grill away from your home. Barbecue grills are often placed just outside the back door or on the back deck against a railing. You should avoid placing your grill in these areas because it can pose a potential fire hazard. Grills that are placed too close to the house or other wood structures can heat up adjacent materials and cause a fire. Be sure to keep your grill at least 10 feet from your home or other structures.
Never leave your grill unattended while in use. You should never walk away from your barbecue while it’s in use. Barbecues use high heat and open flames to cook food, and when left unattended can become a safety and fire hazard. If you must leave the grill, ask another adult to watch the grill for you.
Make sure your grill is located on a flat, level surface. Grills that are placed on slopes or other uneven surfaces can tip over easily and cause a fire.
Always clean your grill after use. Barbecuing regularly causes grease to build-up on the grill plates and collect inside the grease tray. If not cleaned, the build-up can then act as fuel and catch fire while the grill is in use. Clean your grill after each use with a grill brush and empty the grease tray when it begins to fill up.
Don’t leave food out too long. The summer heat and humidity is a breeding ground for bacteria. Never leave food out of refrigeration for over two hours.
Wear appropriate clothing. Long sleeves can catch fire easily when too close to an open flame. When grilling make sure your sleeves are far away from the fire. Use long handled tools.

Tick/Mosquito Protection
Avoid using scented soaps/lotions/products. Certain bugs are attracted to these scents.
Dress your child appropriately. When going into tall grass or areas where you know insects will be dress your child in long pants, a lightweight long-sleeved shirt, socks, and closed shoes. A broad-brimmed hat can help to keep insects away from the face. Mosquito netting may be used over baby carriers or strollers in areas where your baby may be exposed to insects.
Use kid-safe insect repellent. Do not use repellents on children younger than two months old. Insect repellents containing DEET have been tested and approved as safe for babies older than 2 months. Choose the lowest effective amount of DEET. For example, 10% DEET is effective for two hours. Apply products in a well-ventilated area to prevent breathing them in.
Do not use products that combine DEET with sunscreen. The DEET may make the sun protection factor (SPF) less effective. These products can overexpose your child to DEET because the sunscreen needs to be reapplied often.
Only apply insect repellents on the outside of your child’s clothing and on exposed skin. Use just enough repellent to cover your child’s clothing and exposed skin. Using more doesn’t make the repellent more effective. Avoid reapplying unless needed. When your children return indoors, wash their skin with soap and water to remove any repellent, and wash their clothing before they wear it again.

fireworks are illegal
In Brooklyn and New Jersey it is illegal to possess fireworks. If not handled properly, fireworks can cause burns and eye injuries in kids and adults. The best way to protect your family is not to use any fireworks at home — period. Attend public fireworks displays, instead.

driving safety tips
We drive all year round and it may seem silly to put driving safety tips on this list, however, car accidents are the leading cause of injury and death in the summer.

Watch out for distracted drivers. Whether it’s families on vacation or students heading toward the beach, summer roads are filled with drivers who are more distracted than usual. While distracted drivers are already a threat on the roads, summer can bring more distractions than usual, so watch out for drivers who aren’t watching out for you.

Have your brakes, engine and tires checked. Extreme heat takes a toll on vehicles. It can lead to tire blowouts and can affect your vehicle’s braking ability. It causes your engine to overheat more easily and places increased stress on just about every mechanical function your vehicle performs.
Paying extra attention to tire pressure and tread, checking the brakes frequently and making sure that your vehicle’s cooling system has all the proper fluids can help keep vehicles from being sidelined during the summer months.
Keep an eye on the calendar. Some days are more dangerous than others. Weekends and certain holidays are associated with an increase in drinking and driving. So, for drivers who are behind the wheel during that time, it requires more attention to the surrounding hazards.
July 4th is particularly deadly, both in terms of motorcycle fatalities and passenger vehicles. On the weekends, the highest number of fatal crashes happen between 3 and 7 P.M. so be aware of increased risk when you’re behind the wheel — and take extra safety precautions as needed.

Be aware of glare. Driving can be hard on the eyes, period, but during summer months, when the sun is out in full force, there’s also an increased amount of sun glare coming off the road and other vehicles.
This can be particularly dangerous during the early morning and when the sun is setting, so invest in a good pair of polarized sunglasses. They’ll help protect your eyes from fatigue and damage, cut down on glare and make it easier to see clearly.

Increase following distance.
Increasing your following distance can help offset the dangers brought by heavier traffic, construction zones and vacationing drivers who are traveling in unfamiliar areas.

Respect the effects of heat. Finally, it’s easy to dismiss just how much the sun can affect us, but it’s important to pay attention to how it affects both drivers and vehicles. Heat exhaustion can make drivers drowsy.
Be smart, be aware and be careful, so your entire family can have a wonderful summer.

THINGS TO DO IN BROOKLYN & MANHATTAN

IF YOU LOVE SPENDING BEAUTIFUL SUMMER DAYS (AND NIGHTS) OUTDOORS, THERE ARE MANY WONDERFUL THINGS TO DO IN NY AND BROOKLYN, INCLUDING FREE CONCERTS AND MOVIES. THERE ARE ALSO MUSEUMS AND FUN RAINY DAY ACTIVITIES. HERE ARE THE BEST PLACES TO SPEND YOUR SUMMER DAYS.

pickleball at the wollman rink
Pickleball can be played at the iconic Wollman Rink seven days a week from 8 A.M. to 9 P.M. There are 14 brand new permanent pickleball courts. All levels welcome. You do have to reserve a court at www.city-pickle.com/locations/wollman-rink. It will be an expensive game, as at off peak hours, the court costs $80 an hour and on peak it is $120. To find out more, visit www.centralpark.com and check out their event calendar.

Bryant Park
There is so much going on at Bryant Park. Every Monday night, you can grab a blanket, your family and friends for a movie. The lawn opens at 5 and films begin at 8 P.M. Another great way to enjoy the park is through its incredible picnic performances. Which, like the movies, are always free. It’s the easiest way to experience NYC’s extraordinary arts and culture. As if that were not enough, there’s Broadway in Bryant Park where you can see performances from today’s top shows, and there’s always something fun going on for children, including story time, juggling and magic shows. To see all of the amazing activities, visit bryantpark.org/calendar.

Lincoln Center Events
Whether you’re interested in dance, film, opera, theater, jazz, popular music, classical music, or workshops, it’s happening this summer at Lincoln Center. Visit lincolncenter.org/lincoln-center-at-home/calendar to see its eclectic list of events.

the museum of jewish heritage
The Museum of Jewish Heritage, located in Battery Park City in Manhattan, is a living memorial to those murdered in the Holocaust. The museum has received more than 2 million visitors since opening in 1997. For programs and exhibit information visit www.mjhnyc.org.
The Jewish Museum
The Jewish Museum is an art museum committed to illuminating the complexity and vibrancy of Jewish culture for a global audience. Through distinctive exhibitions and programs that present the work of diverse artists and thinkers, the museum shares ideas, provokes dialogue, and promotes understanding. It’s located at 1109 5th Ave & East 92nd St, New York. For more information visit thejewishmuseum.org/.

The Brooklyn JEWISH Children’s Museum
Children will have fun as they learn about Jewish history and culture. Activities this summer include a paint workshop, an outer space adventure where kids learn the Hebrew alphabet and a variety of Jewish movies. The museum is located at 792 Eastern Parkway.

little island
Little Island is a beautiful 2.4-acre elevated park that sits above the Hudson River on Manhattan’s west side. The venue hosts a range of free events, all summer long, for visitors of every age. There’s music, comedy, dance and more. Visit www.littleisland.org/events/for more information.

coney island FREE MOVIE NIGHTS
The Flicks on the Beach series brings movie magic to the shoreline. On select Thursday nights throughout the summer, beachgoers can enjoy free film screenings under the stars. For the full schedule and movie lineup, visit www.coneyislandfunguide.com/event-calendar.

Shipwrecked miniature golf
Mini golf and arcade games make Shipwrecked a great place to spend the day. With tons of fun things to do indoors it’s also perfect for a rainy day. Located at 621 Court Street, Brooklyn, reservations are required. For more info visit www.shipwreckednyc.com.
Chelsea Piers Sports &
Entertainment Complex
This sports complex is situated on 28 acres on three piers of the Hudson River. It has a driving range, a bowling alley, an ice skating rink and if you want to take it easy, there’s a pool, as well.

Kids ‘N Action
This is an amusement park with go carts, a roller coaster, an arcade and a toddler section. Take your kids for the day and you’ll be the coolest parents around, located at 1149 McDonald Avenue.

Adventurers Amusement Park
This is a small amusement park in Bensonhurst. It has go karts, bumper cars, little rides, miniature golf and more. Kids will love it. It’s located at 1824 Shore Parkway. For more information visit adventurerspark.com.

The NY Aquarium
Located in Coney Island, this is another great place to spend the day. Admission is free on Wednesdays after 3 P.M. If you want to visit on a Wednesday, purchase your ticket on Monday at 3 P.M. Located at 602 Surf Ave, Brooklyn. Call for reservations: 718.265.3474.

The Brooklyn Botanic Garden
The Brooklyn Botanic Garden is a 52 acre botanical garden within Brooklyn’s Prospect Park.

tHE BRONX ZOO
The Bronx Zoo is world-renowned for its large and diverse animal collection, and its award-winning exhibitions. There are more than 6,000 species that call the Bronx Zoo home. If you have a little one — or a big one — who loves animals, the Bronx Zoo is the perfect place to spend the day. For address, hours and anything else you’d like to know, visit bronxzoo.com.

Bringing our community together, one match at a time….

Sophia Franco

When I was a teenager, back in the early 1980’s the only opportunities for singles to meet were over the summer, in the Deal Casino, and at the parties that followed later in the evenings. The community was small, and basically, everyone knew everyone. The crisp summer air put us in a good mood, everyone was invited, and there was always someone to hang out with in Aisle A, or years later, at the beach. It was daylight, no alcohol involved, and no music blasting. It was high pressure then, too, don’t get me wrong- endless laps around parties and weddings were the norm, and often we’d still go home alone, but it was also very innocent. We’d get real dates then, and some of my friends would juggle two or three guys at a time. I’m smiling just thinking about it. We’d get one more chance over the high holidays when we dressed up for shul and saw the guys once again, but after that, aside from a few events, it was quiet until June rolled around once more.
Today, so much has changed. Baruch Hashem, the community has grown wings, and changes by leaps and bounds, every day. Along with the thousands of “mainstream” people, there are more observant and less observant, Persians and Lebanese, Israelis, Mexicans, Panamanians and more. Everybody does NOT know everybody, and sometimes I find myself at a wedding recognizing no one at all. It’s beautiful to behold the magnificence of our growth, but many singles today would not even attend a party with mixed dancing. Those that would, find themselves mingling among the same crowds, repeatedly. Even the most successful parties are depressing for so many.
People are calling it a dating crisis. We are 80,000 strong now as a community. Harry Adjmi recently said, “We have so many weddings, but really, we should have so many more.” I don’t want to sound all doom and gloom, but there are thousands of singles, and the same names are mentioned repeatedly. Others are simply forgotten and fall through the cracks. I believe that every person reading this knows a single, or two, or ten, waiting to get married. Whether single and young, single and old, divorced, widowed, with kids, or without kids; everyone has someone they wish they could help, but how?
In 2019, while opening a post-high school seminary called Shalshelet under the leadership of Rabbi David Ozeri, Kim Dabah began to see the bigger picture — so many incredible young people, both in and beyond the seminary world, were struggling to find their match.
“My ‘why’ became clear: I wanted to help more singles get married,” says Kim. “I didn’t want to just guide them; I wanted them to feel noticed, supported, and get matched. It wasn’t about one demographic or background. It was about building a platform that could serve the full scope of the community.”
With Rabbi Ozeri’s guidance, Kim connected with leaders of other successful initiatives, including Rabbi Moshe Pogrow of the NASI Project who was very helpful. Drawing from their best practices and the community’s unique needs, she envisioned something new.
That vision became Mekudeshet. When she shared her plan with Rabbi David Ozeri, Rabbi Meir Yedid, Rabbi Joey Haber, Rabbi Raymond Haber, and Rabbi Shaul Haber, they didn’t hesitate —parents were pleading for help at every turn, and alone, they couldn’t help them all. They saw the same need she did and formed its rabbinical board. Singles were waiting. It was time.
The word Mekudeshet means, sanctified and betrothed, and was the perfect name for this new and improved gateway to help so many. The Mekudeshet app was launched in August 2023 and in July of 2024 the first fundraiser was held in Jennifer and Isaac Sitt’s home, introducing the concept to the community at large. The app has been building and evolving, and today, there are over 3,500 community singles on the Mekudeshet app, aged 19-99.
Rabbi Shaul Haber, the overseeing rabbi, explains, “For a hundred years, what we were doing was working, but now the community is so big, unfortunately hundreds of people are getting lost in the shuffle and it’s discouraging. If a young man sees a girl, all he knows is what’s in front of him. He doesn’t know anything about her family or background. This organization is changing everything. In the first year we had 94 matches. Today we have 220! That’s more than double; about one engagement, every third day. There used to be stigmas about matchmakers, but today, they are known to be sensitive and intuitive; a lifeline for many. Initially we had 40 matchmakers working on this. Now, we have 80.
We are providing an atmosphere for them to pool their ideas while giving them guidance, tools, and incentive for success. With Hashem’s help, it’s working.”
So, how does the Mekudeshet app work? It’s simple. It starts with the click of a button. Visit mekudeshet.org from your phone or computer. Press, “add a single,” and enter your information. You can add yourself or your child, or even someone you know who could use a little push. Our staff monitors the site, and if you enter yourself, you become one of our “private clients,” and get the first line of attention. Once you are approved as a community member, you can expect a call soon. You’ll be assigned a matchmaker based on demographic, and she/he will talk with you about your likes and dislikes, your wants and needs. Your “I can’t live without” and your “I can’t live with.” Once that is out of the way, your matchmaker can get to work.
Margo Braha, a Mekudeshet matchmaker, loves the tech savviness of the app. She explains, “It is so well tailored and organized. I can filter by age, school, location and yes, even by height. It even highlights clearly if someone is a ‘Cohen,’ (because for a divorced girl, that’s a no-no). Everyone is vetted and has a reliable reference. It’s sleek, efficient and easy to maneuver. And rest assured, this is not a dating app, and there is no swiping left. Only the matchmakers can view the profiles.
“Privacy is a huge priority. Every matchmaker and team member signs an NDA. We follow the highest standards of confidentiality and are super mindful of every person on the app. The most intimidating part of this process for singles is that someone will get their information, but honestly, it’s impossible. They’ve adopted the latest bank technology so that a matchmaker cannot even take a screenshot to send to someone. If they try to, it appears black. If someone tries to take a photo with another device, a watermark appears on it with their name, so the Mekudeshet team knows who’s sharing it. The app also allows us to make our own private notes, so if we come across a new single, or a friend suggests a match, we can be reminded to investigate later. I really believe we are making more connections because of the process.”
Rabbi Shaul continues, “To be a matchmaker, you must be a “ba’al chesed,” a person looking to help others and do good. Everyone on the team here has one objective. How can we do better and pair up more of our singles? We have matchmakers who were around before Mekudeshet, and new matchmakers, too. They meet in small groups and connect daily to network and trade names. It seems obvious, but kindness is a quiet yet essential part of how our matchmakers are encouraged to engage with singles. It’s very important; we want to make things less stressful, not more.
“Sometimes it’s all about perspective. A fresh pair of eyes may be all that’s needed to see the possibilities. Mekudeshet also provides counseling to our singles, if needed. It may be a therapist, rabbi, or dating coach. We ask, why aren’t their dates working? How can we help? It’s important to be sensitive to everyone’s needs. Baruch Hashem, there is also something we call, ‘The Mekudeshet Effect.’ Somehow when we bring up names, things happen for them; I’m sure Hashem is listening, too.”
Renee Shalom Husney was one of the first mainstream brides to have been set up by a matchmaking service 18 years ago. She’s modern, and it was unusual for her to take that route, but her friends pushed her, and it worked. When she heard that Mekudeshet was open to new matchmakers she jumped at the chance. She explains, “My goal is for these young men and women to feel respected, heard and confident. I know how hard it is out there, and I get it. I love the team; everyone is embracing and helpful and brings something new to the table. We bounce ideas off each other, and each of us brings a different energy or technique. At one meeting alone I was able to arrange dates for four different clients. I have such respect for everyone involved. We are changing people’s lives.”
The Mekudeshet app is a beautiful tool and simply, it helps the matchmakers to make better matches, more often. Rabbi Joey Haber explains, “The world has just gotten too complicated to meet people the old-fashioned way. The opportunities are not there, and young girls and boys are feeling desperate much sooner than they ever did before. There’s not one school or demographic that’s immune, no matter their religiosity, financial status or friend group. Their loneliness is the same. This organization is about hope. We want every community single to know, we do have your back, we do care about you.”
The key is for EVERYONE to sign up. Kim explains, “We have 50-100 people adding themselves every month, and 80 couples dating on the app as we speak. We are a demanding community, but we have the most dedicated matchmakers in the world, on call no matter what time of day or where they are. They are unspoken heroes doing holy work, because it’s not all about profiles and resumes. Ultimately, we all know that Hashem makes the matches.”
Mekudeshet is helping both matchmakers and singles find success. You sit near someone in shul or a class, you chat with your friends throughout your day, and everyone is praying for their kids to get happily married and to bring us grandchildren. It’s what we pray for most. Matchmakers are not the little old ladies from Fiddler on the Roof anymore. It’s a new world. Mekudeshet’s mission is to match everyone in our community, and it should be your mission too.
I know that I’ve already gotten six singles to add themselves, so I implore you, tell a friend. Mekudeshet is
changing the game.

Good afternoon! I would like to tell the whole team of Mekudeshet that a very prominent rabbi said to have Hashem’s (hashgacha peratit), first we need to do our hishtadlut (our due diligence) and only then Hashem’s intervention takes over.
Hakadosh Baruch Hu wants us to become a partner with Him and make matches!
I just want to thank you so so much for helping us and the community in this important work!
I saw a name of a girl on Mekudeshet, I called her mother… suggested a boy… she was floored and so happy that someone called her. She was so appreciative—she said she hardly gets calls! She’s going out this week!
Thank you so much again…
A proud Mekudeshet matchmaker

Dear Mekudeshet,
I’m a community father with four children. My third daughter was divorced early in her marriage and truly believed she’d never get remarried. We had no idea how to get her on a date now; specially after we lost my wife- it felt like we were all alone.
I called my rabbi who thought for a minute and suggested we add my daughter to Mekudeshet.
Quickly, quietly, without making a big deal, you stepped in. We got a call and a few weeks later she was matched at first with someone that didn’t work out but she was able to see herself getting married! She had hope and some confidence. Third time was a charm! She was matched with someone who understood her, respected her, and didn’t judge her for her past. It wasn’t instant, and it wasn’t simple—but the matchmakers she worked with didn’t forget about her.
You kept following up, even when we weren’t sure what to hope for.
When things finally started moving, the dating went as smoothly as one would pray for. And now, Baruch Hashem, she’s married to a good man my wife a’h would be proud of.
Thank you for being there when we didn’t even realize how much we needed the support through the process.
You made a difference in our lives.

With gratitude,
Anonymous

The Endurance Approach to Wealth

Ari Baum, CFP®

WHAT IF BUILDING WEALTH DIDN’T REQUIRE MASSIVE DISCIPLINE OR GENIUS-LEVEL IQ? WHAT IF IT COULD BE AS EASY AS MAKING YOUR BED OR BRUSHING YOUR TEETH? BEHAVIORAL SCIENTISTS HAVE SHOWN THAT THE KEY TO LASTING CHANGE OFTEN LIES NOT IN WILLPOWER, BUT IN FRICTION—OR MORE PRECISELY, THE LACK OF IT. MAKE THE GOOD PATH EASY TO TAKE AND MAKE THE BAD ONE A LITTLE MORE ANNOYING. THAT’S WHERE THE MAGIC HAPPENS.

In personal finance, we often look for the “big move”—the next big investment, the right stock pick, the perfect budgeting app. But wealth isn’t usually built in leaps. It’s stacked brick by brick through repeatable, easy actions. The trick is to make those actions so easy they become second nature.

Behavior Follows Design
You’re more likely to work out in the morning if your running shoes are already by the door. You’re less likely to eat junk food if there’s none in your pantry. These small setup decisions nudge you toward better choices without requiring constant internal debates. In finance, the same principle applies.
When spending is too easy—just a swipe or tap—it invites trouble. That’s one reason why some financial gurus recommend using cash. Physically handing over dollars is a lot more painful than casually tapping a phone. It’s a mental speed bump that gives your brain time to say, “Wait…do I really need this?”
Now, some folks might argue, “I track every expense on my spreadsheet, so I’m good.” And hey, kudos to you. But the data still shows we tend to spend less when using cash or debit versus credit. It’s not about being irresponsible—it’s about being human.

Small Shifts, Big Results
We often overestimate what we can do in a week and underestimate what we can do in a year. That’s why focusing on small, low-effort habits can have a bigger long-term impact than chasing big, high-effort wins. This is where financial psychologist Dr. Daniel Crosby’s advice shines: Automate. Simplify. Remove.

Automate: Put It on Autopilot
The best financial decision is often the one you don’t have to make every month. Setting up automatic transfers to your investment accounts takes the emotion out of it. It also reduces decision fatigue. Whether it’s a weekly transfer to a Roth IRA or monthly contributions to your 401(k), automation builds momentum quietly.
Think about it: if money leaves your checking account before you even see it, you’re less likely to spend it. That’s forced scarcity working in your favor—and it’s a powerful wealth-building tool.

Simplify: Fewer Accounts,
Less Mental Clutter
Too many people have money scattered across old bank accounts, overlapping investment platforms, and forgotten 401(k)s. It’s not only inefficient—it’s stressful. Simplifying your financial life helps you stay organized and focused.
Consolidate where possible. Use one app to track everything. Establish simple spending guidelines instead of hyper-detailed budgets. Make your system so simple that you stick to it even on your busiest day. Complexity invites avoidance; simplicity invites action.

Remove: Make the Wrong Choice
Just a Bit Harder
Impulse spending is often just a click away. One suggestion? Delete the apps that encourage mindless spending. Amazon, DoorDash, or your favorite fast-fashion store—remove the shortcut. If you have to open your browser, type in the URL, and log in…you might pause long enough to change your mind.
And if you want to take it a step further, consider keeping your credit cards out of reach—or out of your wallet entirely. The easier it is to spend, the more you will. Conversely, if you make spending just a little more annoying, you’ll likely spend less.

Design Your Financial Environment
We tend to over-rely on motivation. But motivation fades—systems stick. Designing your environment so that the “good” financial choice is the easiest one sets you up for success. Want to read more and scroll less? Move your phone across the room and put a book on your pillow. Want to save more and spend less? Automate your savings and delete the Amazon app.
This isn’t about restriction. It’s about alignment. Aligning your habits, tools, and environment with the life you want to build—financially, physically, and emotionally.
The fact is that wealth isn’t built overnight. It’s built quietly, in the background, by systems that favor the good and discourage the bad. So set yourself up wisely. Because when good is easy and bad is hard, success becomes almost effortless. q

The content is developed from sources believed to provide accurate information. Investing involves risk including the potential loss of principal. No investment strategy can guarantee a profit or protect against loss in periods of declining values. Past performance does not guarantee future results. Consult with a financial professional regarding your specific situation.

Ari Baum, CFP® is the Founder and CEO of Endurance Wealth Partners, with over 25 years of experience in the Financial Services industry. He brings his in-depth experience to Conceive. Believe. Achieve. for his clients. Securities and Advisory services offered through Prospera Financial Services Inc. Member FINRA/SIPC. Brokerage and Advisory accounts carried by Wells Fargo Clearing Services LLC.

Victoria Safdieh

Birthdays, bar mitzvahs, and bat mitzvahs are occasions that most children look forward to for months in advance. As a parent of a child with special needs, you always want your child to experience as many of the usual childhood pleasures as possible. When you think of birthdays, you think balloons, cake, ice cream, friends, presents, and music—right? Those are all wonderful traditions, but what happens when a child with special needs isn’t able to tolerate all those “good things” going on around them?

Planning a party for a child with special needs can be extra tricky—but it can absolutely be done. Don’t worry about what everyone else is doing. Focus on what your child enjoys. A party doesn’t have to follow a preset agenda. Have enough planned to fill the time, but if an activity runs long and everyone is enjoying it, be flexible.
Invitations – Bigger isn’t always better. You don’t have to invite every single one of your child’s friends for it to be a success. Sometimes, a large group can cause sensory overload and make it harder for your child to focus and enjoy. Remember, the party is all about your child. When writing the invitations, make it clear if you expect parents to stay and assist their children. It’s also helpful to ask parents to share any dietary restrictions or other accommodations their child might need.
Food – While many parties revolve around food, yours doesn’t have to. Many children with special needs have dietary restrictions or use feeding tubes. Don’t center the party around the cake. You can still sing “Happy Birthday,” but it doesn’t have to be the focal point.
Time – If your child can’t tolerate long events, there’s nothing wrong with planning a one-hour party—or whatever time frame works best. Choose the time of day based on your child’s energy and mood patterns. If they’re happier in the afternoon, that’s when the party should be. When your child is comfortable, everyone will have a better time. If things get overwhelming, let your child take a break. Giving them a few quiet moments can prevent a full meltdown and keep the celebration on track.
If you’re hosting the party at home, hiring an entertainer can take pressure off parents. Clowns and magicians are popular with children with special needs, but it’s important to find someone who is comfortable and experienced with kids of varying abilities. Give the entertainer some background about your child—what they like, what they struggle with, and how they best engage. Also, let them know what to expect from the rest of the group.
For an outdoor party, consider renting a bouncy house or ball pit. These are fun, active options that many kids love and can enjoy for hours. Another great idea is bringing a farm to your backyard. Kids love feeding, petting, and walking the animals—and a pony ride is always a hit!
If a home party isn’t an option, a bowling party is a great alternative. It accommodates a wide range of abilities. As long as a child can push a ball off a ramp—even gently or with assistance—they can participate. If some of the children use wheelchairs, choose a spacious bowling alley and confirm that it has ramp access to the lanes. Let the staff know about your needs in advance, and consider reserving more than one lane depending on your group size.
Parties are a lot of work. Whatever you decide to do, let go of the guilt and accept what’s realistic for your child and your family. You know what works best. Sometimes the most successful celebrations are the simplest. Celebrate the fact that you and your child have made it through another year of growth and progress. Have fun! When you look back at the photos, you’ll see how many beautiful memories were made.