VICTORIA SAFDIEH

WHILE WE ARE SO EXCITED FOR THE WARM, SUNNY WEATHER AND TO WELCOME THE CHANCE TO SPEND MORE TIME WITH OUR FAMILIES, THIS TIME OF YEAR, CAN BE ESPECIALLY CHALLENGING FOR FAMILIES THAT HAVE CHILDREN WITH SPECIAL NEEDS.

They tend to greet school breaks with a mixture of feelings because the changes in routine can be very challenging. Many children with special needs thrive on having a routine and a set schedule. While it’s great to have a break from routine for a while and take some time to rest and decompress from the strain and heavy toll that school and therapy can have on them, being out of school and changing up the daily routine can be very disorienting and scary.

In an effort to create a sense of normalcy and routine as much as possible, and to help prevent sensory overload and confusion, it can help to plan a structured but a flexible routine. Surprises and fear of the unknown can trigger anxiety and stress for a child with special needs. The aim is to ensure your kids know what to expect each day, without restricting your families’ activities. You may be tempted to fill your days with activities in order to keep the boredom at bay but don’t forget these breaks can be stressful for everyone and you need to plan for some downtime each day to rest and recharge.

Here are a few suggestions of how to make this break as stress free as possible.
Make a schedule for each day on a calendar ahead of time. Sometimes certain activities are weather permitting, so create a few rainy day activities on the side in case they need to be substituted. A suggestion: not to overload the child’s senses and to minimize the stress and strain is to do half day excursions, it has been a proven successful strategy especially when going to theme parks, or local parks. After a busy and sensory stimulating morning, you can go back home for everyone to rest and relax.

Plan ahead before going out. You may want to have a prepackaged bag that is ready to go, with a change of clothes, chucks, diapers, some of your child’s favorite toys, and electronics, snacks, and books in the event that he/she becomes stressed or bored and wants something of comfort or leisure. You also may want to dress your child in bright colored clothing when you go out so that you can keep your eyes on him/her at all times. If you are planning a trip to the beach or a pool, think about what your child’s needs are for safe water play. In addition to close supervision, they may require swim diapers, adaptive flotation devices or swimsuits. Children with sensory disorders can have a tough time regulating their body temperature. They may need extra help keeping cool and remembering to drink fluids. They may also struggle with applying sunscreen. Try and get the spray-based sunscreen and roll on sunscreen can be helpful for the challenging places like the face and the back of the neck.

Be sure to include playtime in your schedule. All kids need to burn off energy, but for a child with special needs being active can be self-regulating. Give the kids time to go out and play in the yard or jump on a trampoline or mini trampoline. Sometimes buying an exercise ball to bounce or roll on can be entertaining and soothing.

Take a stroll. Taking a walk can be a nice activity, while your child gets some fresh air. It is less stimulating than other activities.

Quiet time in the afternoon is a priority to regulate the senses. Fill in the schedule with some quiet activities that can also be enjoyed as a family on days when you need to stay indoors, like coloring, reading a book, puzzles, listening to music, playing with Legos or magna-tiles. Let them watch a show or movie or play on electronics. Having said that, I wouldn’t recommend giving your child with special needs unlimited access to electronics. Doing so seems to ramp up behavioral issues. Try to limit electronic times to about an hour or so a day, usually at half hour intervals. However you plan this time, a bit of downtime is always needed and much appreciated.

Try to find some time for yourself. This might seem impossible! Even if you don’t think this can be done, you are bound to be able to snatch some time from somewhere. We are not talking about a whole morning of pampering (although that would be nice), we were talking about a half hour break while the kids are occupied with their device or while they are resting. It could even be an extra five minutes you soak up in the shower before facing the day. However you find it, utilize the opportunity and enjoy some time to yourself. Instead of recognizing how little time you have to yourself, look at the time you do have and be mentally ready to take full advantage of it.

Stay positive! Positivity is a powerful thing. Approaching this time with a positive outlook rather than a negative one will more often than not yield a positive outcome. Everyone picks up and feels the negative vibes from mom and dad and then the mood shifts, and everything falls apart. I know it sounds easier than it is, but if you are committed to being positive and you plan and prepare things in advance it will be a positive experience.

You are prepared, you have a schedule in place, you know your kids best and what will push their buttons or make them happy. Remember this short break requires patience and love. You can do this!

Victoria Safdieh is the founder of CARE and mom to children with special needs.

THE DSN BEACH CLUB BROUGHT THE ESSENCE OF A LUXURIOUS PASSOVER TRIP WITHOUT ALL THE HASSLE. FROM FAMILY-FRIENDLY ACTIVITIES TO ADULT AND SINGLES PROGRAMMING AS WELL AS GOURMET KOSHER DINING, DSN ENSURED THAT NO AGE GROUP WAS LEFT OUT.

The festivities kicked off on Friday night April 19th with Teva’s Mom’s Appreciation Shabbat Dinner, an exquisite and heartwarming event that drew over 120 community members. Moms, who had been tirelessly preparing for the upcoming holiday, were celebrated with their last hametz meal in style.

Every day of Hol Hamoed, Jeli’s and Outpost provided a rare kosher-for-Passover experience, catering to the entire community. Special menus were meticulously prepared and members were very impressed.

On Hol Hamoed Thursday, April 25th, Israeli artist Tomer Peretz rejoined his DSN Beach Club family and added a touch of creativity with Coffee and Conversations, a community art project and jean jacket painting, drawing hundreds of participants together. Referring to the art therapy class, Florence Habert said, “We had a truly emotional, inspiring and therapeutic day. We were able to collectively paint our ideas of what life was like before October 7 on the first canvas, then the pain of that day on the second canvas and then our hopes for the future on the third canvas. It was amazing!”

For singles, DSN curated an array of events on Hol Hamoed Friday April 26th, including a basketball tournament and a volleyball tournament. Participants enjoyed the beautiful sunny day with competition and fun.

Sports and fitness enthusiasts weren’t left out either, with exhilarating fitness classes all week long and a pickleball tournament on Friday Hol Hamoed. The crowning champion with overall points was Paula Smouha. The winners for the 1st place team were Tara Oko and Paula Smouha, 2nd place went to Isaac Escava and Margie Turner and then 3rd place went to Terri Harary and Liz Sarway. Special classes included Raquel Feldman, Janie Fallas, Brenda Mamiye, Tootsie Olan, and owner and creator of Perspirology Katy Fraggos.

The kosher-for-Passover Argentinian BBQ on Thursday afternoon was a highlight for all ages, featuring succulent steak, corn ribs, and other delectable delicacies perfectly complemented by the weather. Hundreds enjoyed the delicious menu, while sitting in the pristine DSN Beach Park.

Evening entertainment was nothing short of spectacular. On Saturday night, mentalist and magician Harrison Kramer mesmerized the audience with his mind-bending tricks, including juggling real swords. On Thursday night, the Motown Band kept the energy high with their captivating performance, leaving attendees singing the night away.

For the competitive spirits, the Men’s Toleh Tournament in Teva, overseen by Commissioner Eliot Tawil, saw fierce competition with over 40 participants vying for victory in three separate categories. Sam Cohen, Eddie Tawil, Dennis Gindi, and Adam Sitt emerged triumphant in their respective divisions, showcasing impressive skills and determination. Throughout the tournament, participants were treated to an array of food and beverage items, ensuring that everyone remained energized and satisfied.

Overall, the DSN Beach Club exceeded expectations with its inaugural Passover experience, leaving a lasting impression on all those involved. It was incredible to see all generations of the community fill the building and property during Passover. Beach Club General Manager Keith Acker is excited for what’s ahead. “As summer approaches, anticipation builds for the continuation of DSN’s remarkable events and experiences, promising even more greatness to come,” he exclaimed.

RACHELLE MATSAS

OUR COMMUNITY LOST ONE OF OUR BELOVED RABBIS RECENTLY. RABBI MICHAEL HABER A”H WAS THE LEADER OF TIFERET SHAUL FOR MANY YEARS. HIS CONGREGANTS LOVED AND RESPECTED HIM, AND HE REACHED SEPHARDIM THROUGHOUT THE WORLD THROUGH HIS MANY BOOKS. HE WORKED WITH SEPHARDIC BIKUR HOLIM AND ENHANCED THE LIVES OF ALL WHO HAD THE GOOD FORTUNE OF KNOWING HIM. THE FOLLOWING ARE REFLECTIONS AND TRIBUTES WRITTEN BY COMMUNITY ORGANIZATIONS AND MEMBERS IN HIS MEMORY

Rabbi Michael Haber was very influential as a contributing writer during the early days of IMAGE Magazine. His articles were very well-received and anticipated because of their unique style and his ability to get his Torah message across in a manner that readers found very relevant. He was always available to answer our questions and provide sound advice and guidance on business and personal matters.

A Hacham of the highest caliber, as the leader of Congregation Tiferet Shaul, Rabbi Haber was renowned for his ability to teach Torah and make it accessible to others. Yet the trait that truly endeared him to his congregation was his dedication. At any hour, and for any reason, he was available to lend assistance. He told his congregants not to hesitate to call, he was there to share in their happiness in times of joy, to provide assistance and comfort in times of need, or to offer guidance at every significant juncture. He was a leading rabbi of Sephardic Bikur Holim, a founder of the Harmony organization, and rabbi of the Beit Yosef Summer Congregation of Deal.

From his position at the helm of Sephardic Press, he educated thousands with the many important and inspirational books he wrote. In fact, his works are utilized by Sephardic communities around the world. Rabbi Haber, and his wife, Molly, touched countless lives. We were blessed to have him as a rabbi in our community.

THE CENTER

I had the privilege of working closely with Rabbi Haber A”H for many years as the bookkeeper of our shul. He always treated me with great respect and listened to my opinions, even though he may have disagreed with many of them. His mind was open. There were times I changed his mind on some matters, he was never the type to dictate.
I learned a great deal from him about how to deal with people. His compassion for others was unique. I saw him by accident in the hospital several months ago while I was being treated for my illness.
His reaction upon seeing me was, “I know I have to be here, but I don’t want to see you here. Why are you here?”
In spite of the misery he was going through, his thoughts were for me. He led by example, and showed the way to live a Jewish life. His trademarks were his compassion for others, his open-mindedness and the fact that he never got angry. Of course, his humility is well-known.
He didn’t seek or like attention. He was the very best rabbi and person I’ve ever met.
Saul J. Mishaan

DSN

Our DSN organization was formed in 2006 out of the legal entity called the Deal Sephardic Youth Center (DSYC), which was created in 1986. The DSYC was located in the building behind the West Deal Shul. It had a division called ‘The Big Deal,‘ whose mission was to bring the teens and singles together in a safe community environment. We had events in the building behind the West Deal Shul. This was almost 40 years ago, when the Jersey Shore had only a fraction of the year-round population it does today.
Over many years people such as Stephen Betesh, Victoria Missry, Doris Silvera, Joey Tobias and myself had the pleasure of serving the community through this entity. Guess who was our spiritual advisor and a tremendous contributor to our success at the time? Rabbi Michael Haber A”H! To know Rabbi Haber was to admire him, love him and learn from him. He was special in every meaning of the word. His speeches always had an uplifting, positive tone and a lesson to teach. I had the distinct honor to be one of his congregants at Lawrence Avenue Shul for most of my life growing up. He helped to guide us and give life lessons along with his religious instructions. He was a happy man, a brilliant man, and a kind man. I will miss him dearly. He will forever be in my heart, and in the heart of what DSN is today. May he rest in peace always.
DSN Executive Board Member Abie Ades

SAFE

We at the SAFE Foundation are deeply saddened to learn of the passing of Rabbi Michael Haber A”H, an extraordinary leader and beloved member of our community. His unwavering dedication and countless contributions have profoundly shaped and enriched the lives of so many.
Rabbi Haber’s commitment to fostering a sense of unity and family values will always be remembered and cherished. His wisdom and counsel, rooted in his experiences as a rabbi, businessman, and community member, were invaluable to many seeking guidance.
As we mourn his loss, we extend our deep appreciation for his instrumental work in building a more compassionate and unified community. Our thoughts and prayers are with his family and loved ones during this difficult time. May his memory be a blessing.

SBH

Rabbi Michael Haber A”H’s involvement in SBH dates back to when my father Joseph Beyda A”H served as president. As a board member, Rabbi Haber would attend every meeting and begin with a short but impactful dvar Torah before strongly voicing his ideas on how we could better support the community. One such example was the establishment of our SBH branch in Jersey. As a leader in Deal, Rabbi Haber saw firsthand how much our community needed the services we provided in Brooklyn. Many people would go to him for guidance on business, life, and family, so he was able to help SBH understand the broader picture of what kind of help the people needed. This led him to really advocate for what we know today as the SBH Tawil Family Jersey Branch.
Rabbi Haber was also instrumental in creating our job placement division, or what we know today as the SBH Career Services Division. He strongly supported our team to continue to focus on building this division. The ripple effect of decades of this work has positively impacted thousands of families and community members; last year alone, the division placed over 400 community members in jobs with total salaries of over $18,000,000 — all free of charge to the employer and employee.
Beyond the boardroom, Rabbi Haber had the unique ability to relate to all community members, appealing to each individual and inspiring them to volunteer. He would not only stress the effect that they could have on another, but also how much giving back would do for them. Often times, many would seek out counsel from Rabbi Haber on how to address different client cases because he would use his background as a rabbi, a businessman and a community member to truly understand what would help each individual reach their full potential.
Together with his wife Mrs. Molly Haber and their children, Rabbi Haber formed an organization called Harmony which helps couples work out their differences and has helped hundreds of marriages. It is still active today and serves as one of our strongest partners. As former SBH Executive Director Doug Balin told me, “when Rabbi and Mrs. Haber came across problems, they saw them as opportunities to be helpful.” Today we are blessed to have Mrs. Molly Haber as one of our most dedicated volunteers in the Fertility Division. Their children are following the example set by their parents and serve as community leaders. They are true exemplars of hesed, always willing to give of themselves to help SBH and our entire community.
SBH

RABBI MICHAEL HABER A”H A MAN OF ACTION

Jack Doueck

I met Rabbi Michael Haber A”H while serving on the SBH board of directors. Despite our age difference and different professional backgrounds, he always treated me as an equal, valuing my opinions and brainstorming with me as a true partner. I recall when he was a warehouse consultant, and he had an ad in a local community magazine that read: “If your warehouse is running perfectly well — don’t call us!” I asked him, “Whose warehouse runs perfectly well?” He nodded in agreement, saying, “Exactly!”

Rabbi Haber was not only my rabbi but also my close friend. We shared a special relationship, and I thank Hashem for placing him in my life. He enriched it immensely. He was a man of vision, humility, kindness, integrity, and action.

The Chesed Boomerang
In early 1994, I approached Rabbi Haber with the idea of writing a book to inspire people and volunteers to perform more acts of kindness. He not only encouraged me but also agreed to become the editor and publisher of “The Chesed Boomerang: How Acts of Kindness Enrich Our Lives,” which was published in 1997 and again in 1998. Thanks to Rabbi Haber’s guidance, the book became a success in Jewish bookstores. He meticulously edited every page, paragraph, and word. Without him, it wouldn’t have been possible, and he insisted on taking no credit at all.

For example, in the original manuscript, I quoted a Midrash explaining why G-d prevented King David from building the Bet HaMikdash. Rabbi Haber read this and crossed it out. “Rabbi,” I said, “Why did you remove the Midrash about King David in the ‘Feeding the Hungry’ chapter of the book?”

He said he didn’t think we needed it because he didn’t want anyone to be upset when they read it. Reluctantly, I followed his advice, learning that he aimed for the book’s acceptance by all Jewish communities everywhere. His long-term vision and attention to detail were unparalleled.

Another example was the cover design. Initially, it featured a young woman pretending to cross my grandmother (Mrs. Virginia Sultan) across Ocean Parkway. He liked the picture, but something about the photo bothered him. He took a marker and started scribbling on the cover. He had extended the length of the girl’s skirt so that it covered her knees, resulting in wider acceptance and distribution of the book.

The following year, Yeshivat Ateret Torah gave out “The Chesed Boomerang” to all its graduates as a graduation gift and the Chabad Rabbinical Program began requiring that all their new rabbis read the book. Naturally, I took all the credit — but he was the wind beneath my wings! It was his vision and humility that made it all possible.

Sephardic Bikur Holim and SCS
Many years before The Chesed Boomerang project, Rabbi Haber started Sephardic Career Services (SCS), a division of SBH focused on finding jobs for community members. As a board member, I gravitated to SCS and started recruiting volunteers and hiring a bigger team to grow SCS to the point where we were helping over 400 people find jobs annually. He stood in the background, encouraged, supported, and advised me — without ever taking any credit at all for anything he did. Despite my entry into his domain, he welcomed my ideas graciously, showcasing his humility and vision.

Joseph D. Beyda Tribute
When Joseph D. Beyda passed away in April 1997, I wanted to write a book about his life. Naturally, I asked Rabbi Haber if he would want to be the editor and publisher of the book. He quickly agreed. With his unwavering support, I interviewed hundreds of people and wrote “Joseph: How One Man Can Make a Difference” over the next five years. When the book came out in the summer of 2002, David Beyda hosted a special night of tribute to his dad. Rabbi Haber spoke about Joseph’s life, describing him as a man who didn’t just think about hesed but lived it. Joseph did the things that most of us only think about doing.

As I reflected on that, I realized that this also perfectly described Rabbi Michael Haber. Many people would think it would be a good idea to publish and distribute handy laminated cards with Birkat Halebanah (blessing of the moon)or Birkat Hamazon (blessing after meals) on them — Rabbi Haber actually did it!

Many people would think it would be a good idea to published and distribute books on the complex laws of mourning, or of the berachot, or kashrut, or the Jewish holidays, or a woman’s prayer book, or a transliterated Tehilim, or a special Tehilim book for various situations. Rabbi Haber spent decades writing, publishing and distributing these books — books that simplified complex laws and served crucial needs of the Jewish community. He even wrote a book about optimism and faith in Hashem entitled “Don’t Look Down,” and many others.

The Secret of His Success
Rabbi Haber’s ability to connect with all segments of the community was remarkable. His soft-spoken nature and warm smile made everyone comfortable. His appeal came from embodying two fundamental Jewish values: hesed (kindness) and emet (truth). He genuinely loved people and showed respect to every human being. When I asked him what to do on the day of my dad’s first yahrzeit, he simply advised: “Spend the day doing as many acts of kindness in his memory as you can.” This practical, life-changing guidance was something he lived himself — every single day.

Rabbi Haber’s integrity was unwavering. In all the years that I knew him, I never heard him exaggerate — even once. He ensured every story in “The Chesed Boomerang” was confirmed and properly credited. Even when a publisher charged us $500 for using a story, he insisted on paying and getting permission, reflecting his commitment to truth and integrity.

Moving to Brooklyn
In 1998, Rabbi Haber decided to move from Deal to Brooklyn. The BSZ search committee that I participated in interviewed him to be our rabbi and unanimously agreed to offer him the position. He refused. Although he would have been an instant success, in a huge shul with hundreds of congregants, he had the integrity to insist that he wanted his own shul so that he would no longer be an employee, but able to make his own decisions based on his own priorities.

He then asked me to join a subcommittee that would meet to work on establishing a new synagogue for him in Brooklyn. Before he made the move to Brooklyn there was some controversy regarding the eruv. I thought if the Rabbi held by the eruv, it would attract more congregants to his new shul, and I called him to tell him my opinion. He thought about it and decided that he would not hold by the eruv in Brooklyn. It didn’t matter how many more congregants he would attract to his new shul. He didn’t think it was permissible, so he decided against it. This decision reflected his commitment to his principles over popularity. It is another example of his integrity.

Tehilim (25:10) says: “All the ways of G-d are about kindness and truth for those who keep His covenant and His testimonies.” Rabbi Haber embodied these “ways of G-d” — hesed and emet.

I thank Hashem for the great berachah of putting Rabbi Michael Haber in my life. He took a sincere interest in everything I did and treated me like a partner, an equal — yet he was a role model who guided me, encouraged me, and taught me Torah. He was a man of hesed, emet, and action — who did the things many of us only dream about doing. I’m going to miss him every day.

Tehi Nishmato Serurah B’srour Hahayim (May his soul be bound up in the bond of life).
Amen.

Jack Doueck is the author of “Six Steps to Overcoming Adversity: How to Turn Setbacks into Comebacks,” and “Joseph: How One Man Can Make a Difference,” among other books.

ARI BAUM, CFP®

WHAT’S THE “HOTTEST” FINANCIAL TIP OR “TRADE SECRET” YOU’VE SEEN ON SOCIAL MEDIA RECENTLY? WHAT ABOUT RETIREMENT HACKS, CRYPTO OFFERS, OR “CUTTING-EDGE” INVESTING ADVICE? IF YOU’RE A SOCIAL MEDIA USER (LIKE MOST), THE FINANCIAL “EXPERT” CHATTER IS ALMOST INESCAPABLE.

So-called “finfluencers” are on nearly every social platform. They tend to offer shortcuts and make grand promises and claims that seem too good to be true. More than ever, people are using social media to learn about money matters.

To help you spot and steer clear of the snake oil, here’s a closer look at today’s most common social media scams, their tactics, and red flags for spotting them.

1. Shopping & Discount Scams
   Get the best deal on our super exclusive product, but only if you buy now!

That’s the hard line many social media shopping scams proclaim. They entice eager shoppers with too-good-to-be-true offers. After taking the bait and making the purchase, the shopper gets nothing — or they’re sent a poor-quality item that doesn’t match its advertisement.

Tactics: Social media shopping scams usually rely on bait-and-switch tactics, often coupled with a sense of urgency, to get people to act fast, before putting too much thought into the purchase.

Red Flags: If there’s no way to contact the seller or the product has zero reviews, take a closer look before you buy. Legitimate sellers tend to be more transparent both in how to get a hold of them and in their product reviews. Scammers are usually more vague.

2. Investment Scams
   Don’t miss out on this big opportunity to double or triple your money! But you must invest now!

These money-flipping scams typically promise extraordinary returns, with fast turnaround times. You just have to send your money overseas, buy certain crypto, or buy in on some “guaranteed” investment. Once you do, your money disappears just as fast as the con artists themself.

Tactics: High-pressure sales tactics are usually behind social media investment scams. They tend to come with “proven” claims, “guarantees,” and limited-time offers that can poke at our fear of missing out (FOMO).

Red Flags: Be suspicious of any investment opportunity on social media that touts all rewards and no risks. Avoid offers that require you to send money abroad, complete a wire transfer, or buy a prepaid debit card first. Legitimate investment opportunities are almost never 100% risk-free. So, second guess any investment offers that make those claims.

3. Giveaway, Sweepstakes & Lottery Scams
   You’ve been selected to win a free gift card for $1,000! Just click here to claim your prize in the next 5 minutes before it disappears forever!

Giveaway scams on social media can pop up suddenly, inviting you to click, like, and share a post before you can claim your prize. After you do, you won’t get money, though. Instead, you’re more likely to get malware or viruses that can steal your personal sensitive information and your money.

Tactics: Surprise, bait and switch, and playing on a sense of urgency all come into play with sweepstakes and giveaway scams on social media.

Red Flags: If you didn’t enter a giveaway, any “prize” you’re informed that you’ve won is probably not legit. Another red flag for these scams is a lack of contact information and no “official” organization behind the prize. Genuine giveaways will have ways to contact the organization associated with the prize, with published, verifiable rules and conditions for winning.

4. Job & Earnings Scams
   Earn bigger bucks and be your own boss when you work with us!

Huge paydays, mind-blowing benefits, and other lofty promises tend to be the lures with job scams on social media. They promise you millions, a better life, and more time — you just have to pay for the screening process, the “starter kit,” or the initial training. After you do, your money’s gone, and the smokescreen job offer vanishes too.

Red Flags: Take a critical eye to job opportunities that hinge on payment requests. Real job offers do not require an upfront expense for screening, consideration, or placement.

How to Protect Your Finances
on & off Social Media
Social media is still somewhat elusive, especially when talking about facts and finances. This can make it a minefield for anyone who doesn’t know how to spot the scammers and avoid the cons. No matter what social media platforms you use or why you’re on them, staying up to date with the latest scams and swindling tactics can help you make smarter choices with your money. So can a financial professional.

The content is developed from sources believed to be providing accurate information. Investing involves risk including the potential loss of principal. No investment strategy can guarantee a profit or protect against loss in periods of declining values. Past performance does not guarantee future results. This information is not intended to be a substitute for specific individualized tax advice. Consult with your financial professional regarding your specific situation.

Ari Baum, CFP® is the founder and CEO of Endurance Wealth Partners, with over 26 years of experience in the Financial Services industry. He brings his in-depth experience to Conceive. Believe. Achieve. for his clients.
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EMPOWERING OUR COMMUNITY

THE SAFE FOUNDATION LEADS THE CHARGE AGAINST SUBSTANCE ABUSE & GAMBLING ADDICTION PREVENTION

DIANE MISHAN

IN THE HEART OF OUR COMMUNITY LIES A BEACON OF HOPE: THE SAFE FOUNDATION. THIS LICENSED OUTPATIENT DRUG, ALCOHOL, AND GAMBLING TREATMENT CENTER STANDS AS A PILLAR OF SUPPORT FOR INDIVIDUALS GRAPPLING WITH ADDICTION. YET, WHAT TRULY SETS THE SAFE FOUNDATION APART IS ITS PIONEERING APPROACH TO PREVENTIVE EDUCATION.

Through our groundbreaking school curriculum, Project SAFE, taught in over 10 community schools to a total of 3,109 students, is reshaping the narrative surrounding tough topics such as bullying, substance abuse, and body image. This transformative impact extends not only to our youths’ education but also to our overarching community wellness.

At the core of The Safe Foundation’s mission is a commitment to holistic well-being. Recognizing that addiction often stems from underlying issues, the organization provides comprehensive outpatient treatment for substance abuse and gambling addiction. From individual counseling to group therapy sessions, The Safe Foundation offers a safe and supportive environment for individuals on their journey to recovery. Moreover, it goes beyond traditional treatment methods by embracing a multifaceted approach to community wellness.

One of the most innovative aspects of The Safe Foundation’s work is its focus on foundational skills. This initiative, spearheaded by Project SAFE, aims to equip students with the knowledge and skills necessary to navigate life’s challenges. By addressing these issues head-on and providing life skill tools, The Safe Foundation empowers students to make informed choices and develop healthy coping mechanisms for any future challenges they may face.

Project SAFE, led by our Director of Community Education, Liat Dahan, has implemented a new curriculum with the help of co-curriculum writer Sally Franco, called Project SELF. This program, consisting of 20 lessons includes topics such as Who am I, foundational tools, relationship building, emotional intelligence and sense of self. Our SAFE teachers are trained and continuously supported to effectively deliver these crucial messages.

Throughout the 2023-2024 school year, alongside our weekly SAFE classes, Project SAFE coordinated 52 special programs tailored to suit the unique requirements of every school, student body, and parent community. Notable among these were workshops on body positivity at Magen David High School where female students participated in a three-part workshop series on body positivity led by Sari Dana. Throughout these sessions, they delved into the concepts of body positivity and its intersection with social media, while also addressing the importance of shedding the diet mentality and embracing positive affirmations. Students not only gained insights into the detrimental effects of diets but also learned to trust their body’s natural wisdom when it comes to food choices. Additionally, they developed a keen awareness of the harmful messages propagated by social media regarding unrealistic beauty standards. Utilizing Sari Dana’s book, “The Journey to Body Positivity,” served as a valuable resource throughout the workshops.

At Hillel Yeshiva Elementary, fourth-grade students and their parents took part in an interactive program crafted and led by Debbie Nehmad. “Stronger Together: Nurturing Values, Fostering Upstanders – A Family-Centered Program,” this initiative encouraged parents and students to collaborate in identifying their family values. Together, they explored instances where living out these values might be challenging and discovered strategies for prioritizing values and intervening when necessary. Witnessing the genuine engagement between parents and children during these significant discussions was truly heartening. A sincere thank you goes out to the fourth-grade parents of Hillel Yeshiva; their active involvement played a pivotal role in the success of this program.

In collaboration with CCSA, Project SAFE organized a program at Yeshivah of Flatbush Elementary School aimed at addressing the critical issue of drugs and alcohol among eighth-grade parents and their children. This session emphasized safety strategies and effective approaches to initiating open conversations about substance abuse. The session kicked off with a poignant video that shed light on the harsh realities of teenage substance abuse, paving the way for collaborative discussions between parents and children. Together, they brainstormed safety strategies and explored effective approaches to initiating open conversations about this sensitive topic. Children engaged in role-playing exercises to hone refusal and peer pressure management skills, while parents received additional education on recognizing addiction signs, identifying various substances, and learning how to broach the subject with their children in a non-judgmental manner. The program provided a platform for children to express their preferences regarding their parents’ responses, and vice versa, thereby fostering deeper understanding and communication within families.

We’ve introduced an emotional intelligence program through art, developed by Steven Franco, to expand traditional learning methods. Under the leadership of the Director of Education, Liat Dahan, and co-curriculum writer Sally Franco, a program was conducted at Yeshivah Prep, focusing on teaching students about their emotions. This initiative aims to lay a foundation for their lifelong emotional well-being and social development, helping them recognize, understand, and express their feelings in a healthy manner.

After piloting the program across various grades in multiple schools, our goal is to train teachers and integrate it into the school’s art curriculum next year. Barkai Yeshivah has already taken the lead by training their teachers and implementing the program into their 4th-grade classrooms!

Beyond the classroom, The Safe Foundation’s work extends to the broader community, fostering empathy, understanding, and a culture of support. As the Foundation continues to expand its reach and impact, it relies on the generosity of donors and volunteers to sustain its programs. Together, we can build a brighter future for our community — one rooted in compassion, understanding, and perseverance. The Safe Foundation stands as a shining example of the transformative power of education and community support, empowering tomorrow’s leaders and building a more resilient community.

We rely heavily on the generosity of our community to continue this crucial mission. With 80% of our budget coming from your donations, your support is vital in ensuring that we can continue to educate and empower our youth against substance abuse and gambling addiction. As we strive to make a difference in the lives of our youth, we urge you to contribute to our cause and help us reach our goals.

Please Join us Friday morning, June 28th, at 9 A.M. at the Jersey Shore for our 21st Annual Summer Breakfast Fundraiser, where every donation brings us one step closer to safeguarding our community’s future. Let’s make a lasting impact and create a safer, healthier environment for generations to come.

To donate Venmo @safe-foundation, or visit our website www.thesafefoundation.org/donate.

If you or your loved one is struggling with alcohol, drugs, or gambling don’t wait, call 718-GET-SAFE. Our team of licensed professionals are here to help you! We have offices is Brooklyn, NY and Eatontown, NJ and offer remote services when appropriate.

Diane Mishan is the Director of Marketing and Events at The SAFE Foundation.

MY OLD FRIEND

FREDDY ZALTA

THE OTHER MORNING, I HEARD A SONG BY HARRY CHAPIN, “REMEMBER WHEN THE MUSIC,” AND IT BROUGHT BACK A SENSE OF NOSTALGIA TO ME. NOT THAT IT TAKES MUCH TO MAKE ME FEEL NOSTALGIC. I THOUGHT ABOUT THOSE OLD TRANSISTOR RADIOS I USED TO HAVE AND LISTENING TO THE AM BAND AND SINGING ALONG TO THE SONGS THAT CAME FROM THAT SMALL SPEAKER.

I thought about my father, who as a kid had an aluminum radio kit he would set up on a roof and listen to whatever it would pick up.

For years I would schlep vinyl albums with me in boxes, then cassettes, CDs, and miraculously my iPad. These days I listen to any song I want to hear, and it only takes a moment at most to find it.

It’s amazing to this 57 year old man that, to this day, when I hear a song which I played on my record player that had a scratch on the vinyl, I still expect to hear that skip.

From thinking about the music I loved, my mind moved on to the plays we used to put on when a group of us were teenagers.

Bye Bye Birdie, was the first show I was in. I played Mr McAfee, the father of a teenage girl who falls in love with a Justin Bieber (circa 2000 something) like star. My “daughter” wins a lottery and this star, Conrad Birdie sleeps at the McAfee house. There begins all the hysteria.

At one point, the father, me, gets so fed up that he screams, “this is my house!”

I got so much applause from that one line that it caused a sort of rush which I would try to relive, I guess, for the rest of my life.

However, it wasn’t the performances which kept me coming back to perform many more shows. It was the bond that the cast forged. We would sit backstage in the stairwell and together sing songs — Bruce Springsteen, the Beatles, Billy Joel, and Elton John.

It’s strange and it sounds kind of foreign to me at this point in my life, but a love grew between each of us. Waiting in the stairwell for our turn to rehearse, we’d talk and we would reveal our dreams, fears, and fall in love over and over again. We would simply just hang out and talk, not in a rush to get anywhere. There were no distractions other than having to memorize our lines.

Our director, most of the time, was Steve Doueck. Somehow he would always be patient with us and despite our inability to stop performing, even off the stage, teach us about acting, life, and the importance of being team players. Later on we were blessed to have Hank Menahem, Max Anteby and Yishai Gross as our directors, among others.

The rehearsals were fun, if you ever watched a reel of bloopers, you can imagine what sort of craziness went on with teenagers blessed with undiagnosed ADHD. We definitely tested the patience of the directors and at least one of them almost blew up in front of us. We knew it was our fault, but we were kids and we tested the limits.

We didn’t want the nights to end, as if we had some intuitive sense or defense mechanisms in place to avoid this part of our lives ending.

We never went straight home after the rehearsals. Usually we would end up in a diner, Carvel or Del Rio. Filled with a false bravado only a teenager can have, we were respectful to everyone, yet we felt empowered by each other’s presence.

I would drive my friends home sometimes and occasionally we would sit in the car, outside their homes for hours, laughing and talking about our lives off stage. We would laugh. We would laugh, did I say that already? We would be cracking up all the time.

We would sing the songs in the show we were rehearsing or one of us would start singing a random tune and the rest would join in. I remember one night I was sitting alone on the stairs and I started singing a Bob Dylan song. A castmate walked in and joined me. Then another and another. Soon, we were all there and the stage manager had to pry us away to join the rehearsals.

Years later, I was in a show with some older people. I became very close to each of these ladies and gentlemen. We all shared a common sense of wanting to be heard and seen. I didn’t realize it at the time but now I do, as an adult we are subconsciously selling ourselves. We flirt, we speak nicely and we wear the masks of the faces the people want to see. We become salespeople, teachers, advisors, mothers and fathers. We will be there for whoever needs us to be. It’s in our nature, or perhaps it was passed on to us by the directors throughout the hundreds of hours of rehearsals. We want to be acknowledged, no, our actions demand we be acknowledged. Parents are the best actors or we try to be. With mountains of pressure and constant weights upon our psyches, we manage to smile and try to act as if we have it all figured out.

We learn, eventually, to admit to our shortcomings. First, unwillingly to ourselves and then to the ones who matter. So, those ladies and gentlemen and myself, we stood for each other. We each listened.

My father used to watch Al Jolson movies at home. I used to love seeing his smile and watch as his tears fell. I learned so many of those songs that I was able to sing them with the older folks in the stairwell, always with smiles and a sense of nostalgia on the faces of my friends. It was something I knew at the time, I would remember forever.

I am not talking about my championship seasons, Lord knows we played shows with only the four mothers who would show up as our full audience each evening. Our seasons, like most people’s and even sports teams, end too soon.

These days, nostalgia has taken on new meaning. I had forgotten about that fleeting time since October 7. My mind has been overwhelmed with pain and confusion.

When I am speaking about my past, I’m talking about the years when our spirits were alive and pouncing on each moment. We were young, too young to realize that those times, and our days on this earth, would be numbered.

Success and failure would never be as intense as it was then. Later on, those emotions would be lessened by life’s responsibilities and the truth in failure and success.

Falling in love would never end, only the faces and the names would change. I will never forget that sense of love, that sense of community, that sense of being seen, and being heard.

Even if the words were not our own and were rehearsed, it was us up there, all eyes and ears focused on us — and there was that gnawing feeling that we were more than what people perceived us to be and more than what we perceived ourselves to be. We were singers, actors and dancers. As artists, we reveal ourselves through our art. We have the temerity to stand naked (metaphorically) on stage revealing all of our scrapes and scars.

We get older and it’s ok. You cannot paint or inject yourself with the fountain of youth. Our lives and the lives who touched us and the lives we touched become beautiful memories.

Nostalgia can captivate us, but in truth it’s the future that revives us. Let us pray, let us join together in song, in love, friendship and faith in each other that we won’t forget our lines or miss our marks. If one of us does, we will catch him with some improvisation and an adlib or two.

Freddy has published 4 novels available at Amazon.

AT THE BROOKLYN MUSEUM

NATALIE SENIOR GREENBERG

The band had just wrapped up their tour through the UK, and already had a hit single, but they had no idea that their arrival would be met at the airport by over 4,000 screaming fans. When they arrived at the television studio for the “Ed Sullivan Show,” they could not believe that they would be playing to an audience of over 73 million! The photographs show us what it was like to look through McCartney’s eyes while the Beatles were growing to be the world’s most famous band.

Paul McCartney Photographs 1963-64: Eyes of the Storm, now at the Brooklyn Museum, showcases more than 250 of McCartney’s photos, which were recently rediscovered in his archives. Alongside the photographs are video clips and archival materials that serve as a personal and historical record of this period of time in the band’s history. The photos reveal Paul McCartney’s unique perspective from behind the camera lens, while at the same time paparazzi and fans took their own photos of the band members.

Paul McCartney’s archivist, Sarah Brown found the photographs in his library. McCartney thought the photos has been lost or stolen, but always remembered that he had taken them in the early years. There were over 1,000 photographs that the musician had taken from December 7, 1963 to February 21, 1964.

The Brooklyn Museum show, which began in London at the National Portrait Gallery, takes us through The Beatles tour of the United States and Canada from August 19 to September 20, 1964. They held 32 concerts, which included venues in Hollywood, Colorado, Chicago, New Orleans, Boston, and Jacksonville and ended in Miami. McCartney used color film for the Miami photos, perhaps because the city was so filled with color and he wanted his photos to reflect the vibrancy of Miami. We need to remember that the Beatles grew up in post-war England, and the country was just getting back to feeling joyful. The Beatles music allowed the Brits to feel happiness after so much wartime misery.

The photographs are nostalgic in the way that a family album might be. The 4 members of the group were so young, and only had each other to lean on during a time when their lives were changing so quickly and so dramatically.

If you are a photography fan, you will enjoy this show because McCartney was skilled with the camera. He had studied photography in art school before joining the band. And if you are a Beatles fan, this show is a must!

Paul McCartney Photographs 1963-64: Eyes of the Storm will be on display at the Brooklyn Museum from May 3, 2024 to August 18, 2024. Advanced tickets are recommended.

Natalie Senior Greenberg is a former Brooklyn College Art History professor. She currently volunteers to teach Art History at the SBH Senior Division.

LINDA SADACKA

AS SOMEONE DEEPLY COMMITTED TO THE PRINCIPLES OF JUSTICE AND ACADEMIC FREEDOM, I FIND THE CURRENT WAVE OF ANTISEMITISM ON COLLEGE CAMPUSES BOTH ALARMING AND DISTRESSINGLY FAMILIAR. DESPITE PUBLIC ASSERTIONS OF COMMITMENT TO DIVERSITY AND INCLUSIVITY, MANY PRESTIGIOUS INSTITUTIONS APPEAR TO BE MORE CONCERNED WITH PUBLIC RELATIONS AND POLITICAL APPEASEMENT THAN WITH CONFRONTING THE GENUINE THREATS FACED BY JEWISH STUDENTS.

lt’s time to confront an uncomfortable truth: universities’ responses to the rising tide of antisemitism are often superficial and ineffective. While these institutions might launch public awareness campaigns or host interfaith dialogues, these actions frequently serve as little more than window dressing. They do little to address the underlying attitudes or to change the campus culture that makes such hatred permissible in the first place. This is not a call to silence free speech but to challenge hateful speech with better, more persuasive speech based on truth and justice.

Legally, universities have an obligation under federal and state anti-discrimination laws to protect all students from harassment and discrimination. Ethically, they are supposed to be bastions of learning and understanding, committed to fostering an environment where ideas can be exchanged freely and safely. However, when it comes to protecting Jewish students, their actions — or lack thereof — speak louder than their policies. There is often a hesitancy to take robust action against antisemitic incidents, perhaps for fear of political backlash or accusations of stifling criticism against Israeli policies. This is a gross misapplication of the principles of academic freedom and a moral failure to protect vulnerable students.

The influence of geopolitical biases on university policies cannot be overstated. There is a troubling tendency within some academic circles to conflate legitimate criticism of Israeli government policies with outright antisemitic statements and actions. This conflation is dangerous, blurring the lines between political critique and racial hatred. Universities must be vigilant in maintaining this distinction, ensuring that their campuses do not become grounds for spreading misinformation and fostering hostility towards Jewish students.

Case in point, the recent campus visit by Representative Ilhan Omar, funded by taxpayers, raises several contentious issues, particularly when considering the presence of her daughter — who was reportedly suspended — and the exclusion of a Jewish professor from the same campus. The use of public funds for such a visit, especially under these circumstances, might be seen as a problematic endorsement of one side of a divisive debate. This situation exemplifies potential double standards in campus policies; Omar’s daughter was allowed on campus despite her suspension, whereas a Jewish professor faced restrictions, presumably for safety reasons in a hostile environment. This disparity in treatment raises serious concerns about fairness, bias, and the undermining of academic freedom and freedom of speech. Such incidents call for a need for transparency and equality in enforcing campus policies, ensuring that educational institutions remain places for balanced discourse and learning, free from political bias.

What is needed now is not more lip service to the ideals of inclusivity but a real, concrete commitment to action. Universities must enforce their anti-discrimination policies rigorously and without prejudice. They should ensure that educational programs about antisemitism and its historical and contemporary manifestations are accurate and profound, not just tick-box exercises.

Linda Sadacka is a dedicated community activist, deeply motivated by personal tragedy following the murder of a close family friend by Hamas. This pivotal event galvanized her commitment to advocacy and community leadership. As the CEO of the New York Jewish Council, Linda plays a crucial role in addressing issues that impact the Jewish community both locally and beyond.

ON BEHALF OF COUNCIL FOR THE RESCUE OF SYRIAN JEWS

SARINA ROFFÉ

Dr. Mayer Ballas was lucky enough to leave Syria legally in 1978. He wanted to leave to escape oppression and because he wanted to get into a specialty medical program. It took two years for him to get permission to leave with the help of Congressman Steve Solarz and community member Steven Shalom.

When he arrived in New York he was alone. He realized that not many people in our community knew what his fellow Syrians were living through, so he started by giving speeches in Shaare Zion and other synagogues.

Background
Even before the creation of Israel, Syrian Jews began suffering persecution. It began with pogroms in 1947. They were virtually prisoners, unable to hold government jobs, or travel more than a few kilometers from their homes without permission. Their businesses were boycotted, and they became easy targets for Muslims. Their identification cards were stamped Musawi — Jew — and they could not travel as a family on vacation. If one person were to travel, they had to provide bond. If they didn’t return, the bond was forfeited and the rest of the family jailed and tortured.

They were not allowed to teach their children Torah; a Muslim principal was assigned to their schools. Women were raped. In 1965, Eli Cohen, the Israeli spy who infiltrated the Syrian government, was caught and hung. Over the course of several decades, many Syrian Jews escaped using smugglers and people outside of Syria to get them across the border into Turkey or Lebanon and from there, they went to Israel, New York, or Mexico.

During a time when the world was focused on the issue of Soviet Jewry, little attention was paid to the plight of Syrian Jews. But virtually every Jewish agency knew and had reports in its archives about the terrible difficulties of Syrian Jews.

In Brooklyn, Isaac Shalom raised money annually for the Near East Jewish Aid Society and worked with the Joint Distribution Committee (JDC) to send funds to Syria.

In the 1970s, there was the Committee for the Rescue of Syrian Jews, operated by Abe Dwek, another Syrian emigree. Dwek had letter writing campaigns, organized demonstrations and did lobbying. At every rally for Soviet Jews, Dwek and yeshivah students held banners to Free Syrian Jews, documented on the front page of the New York Times on April 29, 1974.

Over the course of some 40-plus years, the JDC sent more than $10 million to help the communities in Aleppo, Damascus and Qamishli. There were also people outside of Syria who helped get escapees to safety — Shula Cohen aka the Pearl, Albert Elia and the Jewish community of Beirut, the Shamosh family in Iskenderun, and Judy Feld-Carr in Toronto, aka the Rescuer.

Council for the Rescue of Syrian Jews
After hearing talks from Dr. Ballas and other Syrian Jews, such as Abe Dwek, Maurice Hedaya A”H encouraged Ezra Ashkenazi and Ricky Cohen to start a committee. There was a meeting during a Guindi wedding at Shaare Zion. Judy Feld-Carr was there. Ezra and Ricky were young adults at the time, but they were energized to help and started Save Our Syrian Jews.

In 1989, the name was changed to The Council for The Rescue of Syrian Jews and Dr. Ballas became the first president. He was so dedicated to the mission of freeing his fellow Syrian Jews that he took years away from his practice to work with the Council. The Council was organized to work on getting the remaining 4,500 Jews out of Syria through legal means. There were lobbying efforts and heavy pressure put on consulates around the world.

Janet Zalta and Albert Harary were involved. Jack Mann, Albert Ayal and Clement Soffer were vice presidents. Marcos Zalta was the second president and Alice Sardell was the third president. Gil Kahn, their executive director, had strong ties on Capitol Hill. All of them made herculean efforts to free the Jews remaining in Syria. Dr. Ballas personally met with President George Bush to put the issue of Jews from Arab lands on the table.

During that point in history, the issue of Soviet Jews was at the forefront. The Soviet Union fell apart and no longer was backing Syria. President Assad needed funds and turned to the Americans. It became a political game. During every conversation Assad had with the United States, the issue of freeing the Syrian Jews came up.

The Council brought up the issue of Syrian Jews to every congressman and senator. They met with consuls from many countries. They held rallies. They appealed on humanitarian grounds. They explained that families were separated and should be reunited. They got a resolution passed in Congress.

The Final Exodus
In April 1992, just before Passover, Syrian President Hafez Assad agreed to let the Jews legally leave as families. This was the work of the Council. Assad met with leaders of the community in Damascus and announced he would allow the Jews to leave — an Exodus if you will. About 3,000 people got out during the next five months. The Safra Foundation provided funds for airplane tickets for those who couldn’t afford them. Syria required round trip ticket purchases. When people got to New York, the Council returned the return ticket and got refunds to buy tickets for other new arrivals.

Then, in November 1992, Assad slammed the doors shut again because there was a presidential election. It took until 1994 for the doors of emigration to open again and allow the remaining 1,500 Jews to leave.

Settlement
Scores of people were coming on planes from Syria each week. Each of them needed a place to live, close to the community where they could find kosher food and be within walking distance from a synagogue. Plus, over 900 children needed to be placed in Jewish schools. Sephardic Bikur Holim became the hub for all activities. The United Jewish Appeal raised $30 million to help with resettlement of the new arrivals.

Scores of volunteers helped them find apartments, shop for bedding and kitchen supplies, and obtain furniture. Many of the children arrived in the late spring and summer, so they were given English classes taught by volunteer teachers from Ahi Ezer Yeshiva during summer camp to prepare them for school in September.

The New York Association for New Americans (NYANA) organized English classes. They also helped identify jobs for the new arrivals. The Hebrew Immigrant Aid Society (HIAS) helped with visas and the massive paperwork to get the new arrivals benefits.

The children needed medical exams and vaccines to get into school. Community doctors volunteered to examine the children and do the paperwork for them to go to school. In one day over 400 children were examined.

There were many cultural issues to overcome. For example, the adolescents did not understand why they had to go to school as it was not required to go to school in Syria after age 13. They wanted to work, but American law required them to attend school, and parents were unaccustomed to paying tuition for yeshivah.

Dr. Ballas made a herculean effort to get over 900 children into yeshivot. He called it the sprinkling system. He found a few seats in each classroom, and placed children in those classes. A temporary school was set up on Ocean Parkway for two years. Girls were placed in Ashkenazi yeshivot that opened their doors to the new arrivals.

The Sephardic Education Fund was set up to raise funds for tuition. It was headed by David Hidary and raised $1.6 million dollars from community donors, the Safra Foundation and other financial institutions. Judy Feld-Carr sent funds for some children from the Feld Fund in Toronto.

It has been 30 years since the work of The Council for The Rescue of Syrian Jews. Countless families were freed from persecution and the tyranny of the Assad regime. BJHI (Brooklyn Jewish Historical Initiative) was honored to recognize its work with the 2024 BJHI Torchbearers Award and give Dr. Ballas and the Council much deserved credit.

A genealogist and historian, Sarina Roffé is the author of Branching Out from Sepharad (Sephardic Heritage Project, 2017). She is researching a new book: Syria – Paths to Freedom. Sarina holds a BA in Journalism, and MA in Jewish Studies and an MBA.

DAVID HOORY

MANAGING PARTNER DAVID HOORY SHARES HOW HE TURNED HIS ENTREPRENEURIAL DREAMS INTO A CAREER HELPING OTHERS ACHIEVE FINANCIAL SECURITY.

At 12, igniting my entrepreneurial spark with a small trading card booth unknowingly shaped my future, fueled my passion for business, and led me to become a life insurance agent. It’s been 20 years since I made that decision to pursue a career in financial services, and it’s led to a whirlwind journey of growth, challenges, and triumphs. Today, as Managing Partner of the New York Life Brooklyn General Office, I stand as a testament to the power of daring to bet on myself and New York Life. The Brooklyn General Office is made up of an award-winning team and proud to have some of the highest producing agents per capita across the company.

However success isn’t just measured by these achievements — it’s about the impact we make on the lives of others. One of the most rewarding aspects of my position is seeing the impact a New York Life career can have on someone and their family. The career offers opportunities for both professional and personal growth. I get a great sense of fulfillment from my involvement with Sephardic Bikur Holim (SBH), assisting with the food pantry and offering career coaching.

Working at the Brooklyn General Office gives you the opportunity to serve our local Jewish communities in Monsey, Williamsburg, and Flatbush. This spirit of unity and community extends beyond the work we do. In our office, we have a lot of mentor and mentee relationships, which helps us build unwavering support, collaboration, and shared motivation among the team.

I also take pride in the inclusive and accommodating nature of this vibrant workplace. We provide kosher meals at meetings, and there are nearby prayer services for our Jewish agents. Here, you don’t have to compromise your values or sacrifice what’s dear to you. While we proudly boast a large Jewish population in our office, it’s a melting pot of individuals from all walks of life. The rich diversity of backgrounds, experiences, and perspectives is what strengthens our team.

What’s most important to us is that we give you the opportunity to pursue your passions and chart your own path to success. You can choose to be an agent, reveling in the autonomy to create your own schedule after completing all required trainings, while unlocking a world of significant income potential. Or you can progress into a managerial position, recruit and develop your own team of agents after you have met specified sales production, licensing and other internal requirements. The choice is yours, and the possibilities are endless.

If you’re an aspiring entrepreneur or interested in making a positive impact in your community, I’m here to tell you that you can build your own practice, make a difference, and achieve personal and professional success.

Through the comprehensive training and development programs, ongoing support from the company, and your unwavering commitment, you can cultivate a rewarding career centered around protecting what matters most to individuals and families in our community. If you would like to learn more about what a career as a financial professional (agent) can offer you, then let’s talk.

David Hoory, CLF®, LUTCF®
Managing Partner, New York Life Insurance Company
dhoory@newyorklife.com
718-307-3400

New York Life is an equal opportunity employer M/F/disability veteran/sexual orientation/gender identity.

DAVID CHABBOTT

NOT MANY 10 YEAR OLDS DREAM ABOUT ROASTING COFFEE (LET ALONE DRINKING COFFEE), BUT FROM A VERY YOUNG AGE, I KNEW THAT WOULD BE MY FUTURE. AS IS VERY TYPICAL IN OUR COMMUNITY, I ENVISIONED A FUTURE OF WORKING ALONGSIDE MY FATHER, HYMIE CHABBOTT A”H, IN OUR SMALL FAMILY BUSINESS.

Before Gillies Coffee Company moved primarily into wholesale, my dad, on occasion, used to take me to one of his stores on Bleecker Street. I would return home, with the aromas of mocha and java embedded on my clothes, and the taste of our freshly ground peanut butter still lasting on my tongue. What did operating “America’s Oldest Coffee Merchant” entail? That’s a question that didn’t mean very much to me, but the concept of working alongside my dad, was all I could ever imagine.

Fast forward thirty years, and it’s very hard to comprehend the path that has brought me to being a financial advisor for Power Forward Group. In December of 2023, Gillies Coffee sold its assets to a larger, New York based coffee roasting company. This was a culmination of many, both identifiable and unidentifiable turning points in my life, on the road to helping other community members better prepare themselves for planning their financial future.

I think my story is a common one. My father, at least to me, was always the smartest guy in the room. He provided for his family, was hands-on when it came to parenting, and was an active member in the community. When he passed in late 2019, I would be remiss to say we were all in shock; it didn’t take us completely by surprise. Anyone who knew my father, knew he had many health battles throughout his life. He beat cancer, lived with diabetes (insulin injections and a cocktail of pills in his pocket), and survived heart surgery. After his death, when the shiva ended, my mother faced a lot of questions about what she did or didn’t have. Baruch Hashem, my father left my mother an estate that she could safely feel would take care of her in this next chapter of her life. This realization, though, did not immediately become clear to her, until her first meeting with my friend since Nursery at the Yeshivah of Flatbush, Ruvin Levavi.

I remember sitting in the kitchen with my mom, trying to get a grasp of her finances. “How many retirement accounts did you and dad have jointly?” “Did you have a pension from when you used to work?” “What kind of life insurance did dad have?” “How much Social Security do you collect?” While basic in theory, answering these questions after one of the most life-altering events for a family, is never easy.

My mother was scared for her financial future, but our first meeting with Ruvin and his team changed all of her and my preconceived notions about navigating this next phase. While the void left by my father’s death will never be filled, the concept that she can continue living a certain lifestyle, visit her grandchildren in Israel, do all the things that make her happy, and not be constantly worried about her finances, immediately gave her a sense of ease. Running out of money, was something she did not have to be fearful of.

I also walked out of that meeting feeling something. Firstly, Baruch Hashem, that my father had the wherewithal to properly prepare for when he would no longer be with us. Secondly, regardless of the fact that I was only thirty-five, it is never too early to start putting together a plan, and implementing it, to ensure that when the unexpected (or even partially expected) occurs, the ones you love are taken care of.

With my father no longer sitting a few feet away from me in his office chair, the small family business didn’t feel the same. As COVID stopped the world for some time, my conversations with Ruvin evolved into something more than our usual banter. His business relationship with my mother, which also felt so personal, stuck with me. This was a business that could literally change a person’s life, and I saw it with my own eyes. My mom never felt like a client. It felt like he was a partner in mapping out the future that best suited her needs. Well before the Gillies business sold, I had a feeling that joining Power Forward Group could be a potential destination for me. It is incredibly exciting and fulfilling to be taking this next step in my life, and in my career. The idea that I have the opportunity to share the peace of mind afforded to my family as a career, is very special. And who knows? Maybe right now, my own 10 year old is thinking, “I can’t wait to help someone plan for their retirement!”

David Chabbott is a community member and financial advisor at Power Forward Group. He graduated Brooklyn College in 2001, and has spent the last 20+ years operating his small family business. David and his wife Aimee love getting involved in their children’s yeshivah, watching their 4 sons play basketball, and playing Barbie with their daughter.

Victoria Safdieh

What do we mean when we say a child with special needs? Isn’t every child special? We all think so! Special needs can mean many different things. The term “special needs” encompasses various conditions that impact a person’s daily functions. A person might be born with special needs, or they may develop THEM later in life. You may be able to spot an individual with special needs, but you probably won’t notice all of them. The individual could have a diagnosis that isn’t noticeable unless you know the person well.

Life can be extra challenging for an individual with special needs. It might be hard to do everyday things, like learning or reading. If a person has a physical handicap, just getting around can be difficult. The term special needs can mean many different things to different people. The definition in the dictionary for “special needs” is an individual that may require accommodations, specialized services to participate in everyday activities.

When someone refers to people with special needs, they could be referring to someone who has a medical issue, someone who has sensory impairments, someone with a mobility impairment. It could mean a developmental delay, an impairment in communication, self-care, social interactions and cognition. It can refer to a wide variety of conditions and disabilities. The following are some ways to categorize special needs. Physical disabilities can include but are not limited to:

Multiple Sclerosis: Where the immune system eats away at the protective covering of the nerves disrupting communication between the brain and the body, symptoms can include vision loss, pain, fatigue, and impaired coordination.

Cerebral Palsy: Results from a brain injury that occurred during fetal development, birth or shortly thereafter. Symptoms can sometimes include seizures, paralysis, and disruption of motor skills. Gait and posture could also be compromised.

Epilepsy-Seizure Disorder: Recurring seizures. Seizures are caused by a sudden burst of electrical brain activity, that cause a temporary disruption of the messages passing between brain cells. It can be managed with medication.

Limb Differences: Someone can be born with a differently developed limb, or may lose a limb later in life. Both require adapting to the world around them.

Genetic Disorders: Range from physical disorders to neurological disorders which have many different prognoses and symptoms. A saliva test or blood work can diagnose an individual with a genetic disorder.

Down Syndrome: A genetic condition caused by the presence of an extra chromosome in a person’s DNA and occurs by chance at conception. It is a random mutation and is not proven to be passed down from the parents. There are distinct physical characteristics accompanying Down syndrome. It can sometimes come along with complications like visual and auditory problems, thyroid disease, decreased muscle tone or cardiac conditions.

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD): Verbal and nonverbal communication can be affected by autism. This is sometimes evident before age three. It can affect educational performance and social interactions. Common characteristics can include but are not limited to repetitive activities and resistance to change in routines.

Sight Impairment: Blindness or loss of sight can be managed and diagnosed by an eye doctor.

Hearing Impairment: Loss of hearing and total deafness are considered special needs.

Tourette’s Syndrome: A condition of the nervous system, which causes tics — sudden twitches, movements or sounds that are done repetitively. The individual cannot stop or control their body from doing these things over and over.

Sensory Processing Disorder: The senses might be heightened or lowered to stimuli, like being touched, loud noises, tolerating light, and maintaining eye contact. The feeling of certain textures rubbing against the skin can be irritating. This can be a disorder all on its own or it may be a characteristic of another special need like autism, M.S., or Tourette’s syndrome.

Some individuals with a diagnosis can also come along with a secondary diagnosis. Such as obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) — obsessions or excessive thoughts that lead to repetitive compulsive behavior; oppositional defiance disorder (ODD) — a type of behavior disorder. Children with ODD are uncooperative, defiant, and hostile toward peers, parents, teachers, and other authority figures. Developmental problems may cause ODD or the behaviors may be learned. ADD is a term used to describe people who have excessive difficulties with concentration without the presence of other ADHD symptoms, such as excessive impulsiveness or hyperactivity. This can also come along with a more significant diagnosis.

Loving someone with special needs or going through life with a special need yourself, can come with unexpected gifts. Families and children with Down syndrome know the boundless love and affection these children can bring to the family. They enjoy life in the moment. People with autism experience life from a different perspective and often times have more intense honesty and curiosity with the world around them. People living with a sensory processing disorder may find their bodies naturally enhance other senses to make everything more pronounced. It’s all about understanding these needs and knowing that you can get through it.

Victoria Safdieh, founder of CARE and mom to children with special needs.