When one hears the word anxiety or thinks of an anxious child the thoughts that immediately come to mind may be crying, clingy, fearful children. What we rarely think of are behavioral, angry and frustrated children. I’d like to refer to these children as anxious, behavioral children whose behavior problems are stemming from their anxiety.
Anxiety comes in many different forms. The anxious, behavioral child may exhibit temper tantrums and angry outbursts that may seemingly come out of nowhere. The anxious, behavioral child may hit other children in school or throw their books. Teachers will naturally respond with behavior modification techniques such as sticker charts for good behavior and negative consequences such as time outs for bad behavior. Schools may specifically assign that child to “stricter” teachers in the future with the hope that firm teachers will keep those children’s behaviors in check. Ultimately, however, the root cause of the behaviors in these anxious, behavioral children gets overlooked and furthermore, many anxious, behavioral children will respond with more behavior problems when faced with rigid, authoritarian teachers. Therefore, it is essential to be able to recognize the signs of the anxious, behavioral child in order to support them properly.
With most forms of anxiety, there is a key component of a sense of insecurity. Children who externalize that sense of insecurity become fearful of things around them; they don’t trust that the environment around them is safe and will mostly exhibit fearful kinds of behaviors. In response, these children are met with reassurance and warmth in order to help calm their fears. In contrast, children who internalize insecurity, become insecure about their own competence in the face of challenges and as a result will often exhibit low frustration tolerance. Low frustration tolerance is an inability to sit with frustration. Anxious children who internalize their insecurity, are not confident in their ability to get through their frustration safely; they literally feel unsafe in the face of frustration. In response, as toddlers they may yell, scream, hit others or tantrum when they feel frustrated playing with a toy or trying to put on their shoes or pick up food with their fork. A child who should be having fun playing with their toys for example, will instead try to break their toys and possibly alienate other children by their “rough” playing. As they get older and are in classrooms, they may begin to feel frustrated when trying to complete a math problem or perhaps in anticipation of tomorrow’s math test. These children have developed insecure feelings about themselves and so they lash out at the world around them. In contrast to anxious, fearful children who are reassured and shown warmth in the face of fear, anxious, behavioral children are often met with rigid consequences and their feelings about their insecurities in themselves are often neglected.
Anxious, behavioral children need the same warmth, reassurance and encouragement that anxious, fearful children need; they need the same flexibility and understanding that anxious, fearful children need. Yet, they don’t get it. Parents of anxious, behavioral children may have a hard time advocating for their child properly since schools and teachers often have a hard time recognizing the signs of the anxious, behavioral child and schools and teachers may understandably, already be frustrated with the behavior problems exhibited by these children. Recognizing the signs of an anxious, behavioral child early is imperative in order to help boost their confidence in themselves and learn to believe in their ability to conquer their world successfully and unlock their full potential without fear.
The front of Shearith Israel – the Spanish and Portuguese Synagogue
Sarina Roffé
My husband and I decided to take a few days and visit Montreal, a place he always wanted to go. It’s an easy city to go when you are Jewish, lots of synagogues and kosher restaurants to choose from. It was an easy trip; we had no plans. We took a tour of the old Jewish part of Montreal and the guide mentioned that the first Jews in Montreal were Sephardim. As we were walking, I googled the Sephardic synagogue and sent a quick message to Rabbi Yehoshua Ellis, the rabbi of the Spanish Portuguese Synagogue in Montreal. I identified myself as a Sephardic historian who was the cousin of Rabbi Sam Kassin.
Imagine my surprise when within minutes I got a call from Rabbi Ellis, praising Rabbi Kassin, as he had been a student at Shehebar Sephardic Center (SSC) in Jerusalem and had received his semicha from the yeshiva. Rabbi Ellis had heard of me and set aside time in his day to provide David and I with a Surprise in Montreal tour of the synagogue as well as information about the community.
The main sanctuary of Shearith Israel – the Spanish and Portuguese Synagogue
Shearith Israel – the Spanish and Portuguese Synagogue began in Montreal in 1768 and is over 250 years old. The current building opened in 1947 and is the fourth building location. The synagogue has a coat of arms. The current location is part of a complex that includes a day school, community center, Jewish public library and Jewish hospital.
Rabbi Yehoshua Ellis explains the
provenance of many of the Sefer Torahs of
the synagogue.
The synagogue has over a hundred Sefer Torahs, one of which is from Sedon (Lebanon) and is hundreds of years old. Many are family Torahs from Baghdad and other places. The synagogue has one Sefer Torah that is over 300 years old from Iraq and it came to the synagogue after the second Iraq war.
Rabbi Meldoal De Sola
The Spanish Portuguese Synagogue has a main sanctuary and Bet Midrash, which has an Aron Kodesh that dates to 1835 and is used by the Lebanese congregants on Shabbat. They have minyans three times a day. The congregation has about 600-700 member families. There are other Sephardic synagogues in Montreal. Shearith Israel – the Spanish and Portuguese Synagogue may be the biggest Sephardic congregation in Canada. Rabbi Ellis estimated that 30 percent of Montreal’s Jewish community was Sephardic, yet they consumed 70 percent of the kosher food
Rabbi Abraham De Sola was an important rabbi in the history of the community.
I asked Rabbi Ellis, who is Ashkenazic and born in Kansas City, how he came to attend the SSC. Rabbi Ellis said “I was a volunteer in Poland for the JDC where I met my wife. I saw they needed a rabbi. I was looking for a yeshiva and a friend was studying at the SSC. I met with Rabbi Kassin and he said ‘Why are you here?’ I said I want to be a rabbi in Poland. And he said “ok, you’re in, but you have to start tomorrow.’ We had the exact same vision, which was to go out and be a rabbi who can keep Jews Jewish. Thank G-d, all of us who got to learn from Rabbi Peretz are in awe of how blessed we are, his Emunah, and his amazing depth of Torah knowledge. So after I got my semicha, I went to Poland for 13 years.”
Rabbi Ellis is in full robes and he stands before the Hechal
Rabbi Ellis lived in Jerusalem for six years in Nahalot and got to go to many synagogues. He said every synagogue is a jewel in the crown of the king. As the rabbi for one year in Montreal, the father of two feels the Kehilla has a very unique synagogue, both emotionally and spiritually very warm.
Abraham de Sola delivering the opening prayer at the House of Representatives on Tuesday, January 9, 1872
Rabbi Ellis told us the history of the congregation. He showed me the portraits of several important rabbis of the congregation. Rabbi Abraham De Sola was the rabbi from 1847-1882. He was also a professor of Oriental Studies at McGill University. He opened a session of Congress in the United States with a prayer. Originating from a large renowned family of rabbis and scholars, De Sola was recognized as one of the foremost leaders of Orthodox Judaism in North America during the latter half of the nineteenth century. His son Meldola De Sola was the rabbi from 1882 – 1918.
Synagogue Coat of Arms
In 1970, the Iraqis began moving here and it changed the culture of the congregation. The presidents that lined the walls included Bitton, Mohgraby, Levy, Benchimol, Elbaz, Shemie and Mann, many of them Iraqi. Many Moroccan Jews also came.
Regarding Rabbi Kassin and the SSC, Rabbi Ellis noted “The institution he built at Midrash Sephardi, is a wonderful institution. He gave me an opportunity. As students we were all inspired to make Jewish life livable for Am Israel. We spread Judaism and do what we can to teach Torah. We learned to spread Judaism of the middle path, making life livable and meaningful, yet staying true to tradition. We keep Am Israel a bit holier and more connected and to bring Judaism to more Jews.”
Bet Midrash used by the Lebanese on Shabbat.
Hechal is from 1835.
As to Rabbi Kassin, he said “He’s not interested in setbacks. He is only interested in how to move forward. We had the same vision and I am thankful for the opportunity he gave me.”
A genealogist and historian, Sarina Roffé is the author of Branching Out from Sepharad (Sephardic Heritage Project, 2017). She is researching a new book: Syria – Paths to Freedom. Sarina holds a BA in Journalism, and MA in Jewish Studies and an MBA.
As we transition from the joyous spirit of Succoth to the winter season, the secular calendar reminds us to focus on an evening of Thanksgiving. It’s another opportunity to reflect with the power of gratitude in our lives—both personally and professionally. Have you acknowledged your strengths lately? Do you realize how often stress and struggle leads to more strength?
Gratitude is not merely a reaction to positive events but a proactive stance that can elevate our experiences, helping us recognize the beauty and abundance around us, even during cold winter nights and challenging times.
Building on Past Strengths
Every journey is filled with both struggles and victories. In fact, many of our strengths emerge from overcoming obstacles. The Mishnah teaches us, “Who is rich? One who is happy with his lot”–Because putting in effort always matters (Pirkei Abot 4:1). This wisdom encourages us to cultivate appreciation for our circumstances, however difficult they may seem, as this always lays the groundwork for our future successes.
Client Story
A recent client was a business owner with a mid-sized company that operates multiple product lines. This past year has been particularly challenging for him, especially regarding tension with a key employee over the direction of the business and lowered profitability. He reached out for guidance, wanting to navigate these interpersonal complexities and find a pathway forward.
Turning Struggles into Clarity
What initially seemed like insurmountable struggles, is actually becoming the catalyst for a new level of clarity for him. Through careful reflection and strategic conversations, he has identified the essential focus areas for his business. The chaos he faced forced him to hone in on the core strengths of his company and clarify the personnel decisions that would align with his strengths.
As he navigated these tensions, he discovered that the struggles were not merely obstacles but rather stepping stones toward a clearer vision. This newfound clarity not only provided sanity amidst the overwhelming stress but also illuminated a path toward increased profitability. By embracing gratitude for the lessons learned through hardship, he transformed his approach, allowing him to move forward with confidence.
Celebrating Wins and Milestones
Acknowledging and celebrating our wins, both big and small–is crucial in maintaining momentum. It’s easy to get caught up in the grind and overlook our achievements, but recognizing these milestones fosters a culture of appreciation, resources and motivates us to keep pushing forward.
As we cultivate gratitude in our work environments, we foster a more positive and productive atmosphere. This not only benefits us as leaders but also enhances our relationships with our teams, allowing everyone to contribute to and share in the success. More important than our work, we must get better at being more grateful and appreciative at home with our families.
Practical Steps for Gratitude and Clarity
1. Reflect on Your Journey: Take a moment to recognize the challenges you’ve faced and how they’ve shaped your strengths. Reflect on the lessons learned and the growth experienced through adversity.
2. Celebrate Milestones: Make it a habit to celebrate both personal and professional wins. Recognizing achievements, no matter how small, helps maintain motivation and encourages a culture of gratitude.
3. Communicate with Your Team: Share your vision and the steps you’re taking to move forward. Transparency fosters trust and connection, allowing your team to feel valued and engaged.
4. Engage in Gratitude Practices: Incorporate more gratitude practices into your daily routine–whether through journaling, meditation, or expressing appreciation to your team.
5. Seek Support: Don’t hesitate to reach out to a coach or a mentor to help navigate challenges and gain clarity. The support of others can be invaluable in maintaining focus and direction.
Conclusion: Living in Abundance
Let’s make Thanksgiving a regular event. Be more conscious every morning when we acknowledge Hashem’s blessing in our lives and the world in Mizmor Letodah–“Enter His gates with thanksgiving, and His courts with praise; give thanks to Him, bless His name “Tehillim (Psalms 100:4): Let’s take the time regularly to acknowledge the abundance in our lives and the strengths we’ve developed through overcoming challenges. Embracing gratitude will help us foster deeper connections with ourselves, our families, and our teams.
Consider how the struggles you’ve faced have led to your current strengths. What Current struggles might be the key to unlocking more of your strengths? Let’s commit to celebrating our wins and building on them as we navigate the path ahead.
May this season be filled with personal growth, meaningful connections, and the abundance of Hashem’s blessings!
Rabbi Ezra Max, PCC, MHMP, Xchange Guide & Creator of “The Max Method” assists businesses and professionals deal with stress and achieve success. Rabbi Max has witnessed 20 years of results helping executives, parents and teens overcome struggles, improve communication and thrive. He lives in New York with his wife and five children.
Twelve people, the Kassab and Shama families, in an early group to show up at the Shamosh House in 1950.
Sarina Roffé
The Shamosh family of Iskenderun began helping refugees in the late 1930s when they helped Eastern Europeans escaping Nazi Germany. After World War II and the creation of the state of Israel, the family helped Syrian refugees escape the persecution and restrictions placed on Jews. Between Hakham Yaakov and his eldest son, Harun Shamosh, more than 3500 people were assisted after they left Syria. This is their story.1
Iskenderun is a city along the Mediterranean coast, just northwest of Syria. Hakham Moses Tawil sent Hakham Yaakov Shamosh there from Aleppo to serve the community in 1932. He was the rabbi, the hazzan and the shokhet. After a few years he went back to Aleppo, and brought back his bride, Mazal Esses. Their son, Harun Shamosh, was born in 1936, the eldest of eight children.
Until his death in 1970, Hakham Yaakov arranged for many escapees to get to Israel. Eventually, his son Harun took over the mission, along with other family members. Iskenderun played a big role in helping Jews who escaped over the mountains from Aleppo into Turkey.
There were many restrictions for Syrian Jews. One of them was the restriction on travel, and the fact that you could not travel more than three kilometers from your home without permission. Jobs were lost and there were boycotts on their businesses. Many people tried to escape. Doing so involved baksheesh (bribe), smugglers and a dangerous escape route. For the Jews of Aleppo, the nearest border was through the mountains to Turkey. Since Hakham Yaakov had come from Aleppo, many families knew him and found their way to his home in Iskenderun.
In 1948, Syria only gave passports to its citizens. From about 1950-1960, some paid the Iranian consulate for passports. Those who were able to get Iranian passports went to Iskenderun and took a ship from there to Haifa. The ship only came once every 21 days.
ID Card
Syrian Jews started to show up at Hakham Yaakov’s home in 1950. A group of 12 people from two families managed to get over the border into Turkey and came to his house with no money, filthy, dirty from traversing the mountains.
Hakham Yaakov arranged for them to get cleaned up and got a bus to take them to Istanbul – a 20-hour drive. They had to be escorted by a family member because they had no papers and only spoke Arabic, not Turkish. Hakham Yaakov found a place for them to stay in an old hotel. Hakham Yaakov went to the rabbinate in Istanbul for guidance. Then the refugees were taken to the Israeli consulate and arrangements were made for them to go to Israel. This process of using the Iranian passports went on for four to five years.
The rabbi often invited Jewish people to their home for Shabbat. One week there was a couple who claimed to be engineers working at a local cement factory. Hakham Yaakov’s wife was suspicious. As it turned out they were Mossad agents looking for a partner to help the Jews leaving Syria, Hakham Yaakov became that person. The agent instructed Hakham how to get people over the border.
Those who escaped Syria had no entry visa because they came through the mountains and crossed the borders illegally. Before individuals could leave Turkey, a person needed an entry visa. The issue of getting entry visas posed a problem.
Hakham Yaakov went to the police and asked what to do, explaining they could not go back and were refugees. From about 1954 until 1975, there was an arrangement whereby the police – for a fine of 70 lira – would issue entry visas good for 30 days to those who escaped. With the entry visa, the refugees could get a laissez passe (travel papers) in Istanbul and then go to Israel.
Each time a group of escapees showed up at his door, Harun or another family member would take them by bus to Istanbul.
Harun blessed by the Chief Rabbi of Turkey 2016
After Hafez al-Assad became President of Syria in 1971, many families were escaping. Harun and the family were busy. Harun became well known for his work, not just his connections kept him safe.
Harun worked with trusted smugglers who got Aleppan Jews across the border into Turkey. They often used a code, like half of a photo or one earring. If the smuggler had the other half, he could be trusted not to say Harun’s name. The signal was always different.
Jack Imir, Harun’s son, remembers a Turkish Muslim smuggler who was often at their home. He smuggled goods across the border in both directions. He was sent to homes in Aleppo and started to bring people to Turkey. The smuggler was trusted, and he brought families several times a week. As more and more people were leaving in the 1970s, the Shamoshs were able to recruit more smugglers to assist. The smugglers knew what they were doing and were loyal to Harun and worked for them for many years.
Some people had the funds to pay smugglers on their own and others had to be helped with money. A lot of money was used for bribes or baksheesh. All involved wanted a piece of the action and Mossad bribed many government officials.2
Usually, people were smuggled over the border at midnight, when it was dark and the guards were more relaxed. The process was that the smugglers told the refugees only to wear the clothes on their back. They were not to bring any identification. The smugglers were often smuggling other items as well.
Letter sent from Consul of Turkey to Mossad to send Harun to Beirut – reference letter August 1, 1962
Border patrols were looking for smuggling of merchandise, not people. Smugglers were always paid in cash. Harun and his family said the refugees arrived at his home in the middle of the night, about 3 a.m. They walked for days in the mountains, in mud, and arrived at his home filthy and exhausted from the trip. Babies were carried and drugged to keep them quiet. They arrived hungry and needed to be fed.
Occasionally, if someone was caught at the border by the Turkish border patrol, the smugglers would run away, tell Harun Shamosh what happened and he would go to get them released. This happened many times. One family that he helped get released, met him decades later in Israel.
The Shamoshs bought the refugees new clothing and provided shelter until arrangements were made for them to go to Istanbul and then Israel. Shamosh tried to make same day or next day arrangements if he could. At times, the people were coming almost every day and each family member helped out. Harun’s wife, son and daughters often made the trip to Istanbul or did the shopping for clothing.
A separate operation began at the behest of Eddie “Whitey” Sitt from Brooklyn, New York. Hakham Shaul Cohen of Turkey was a friend of Sitt and told him what Harun was doing. In 1971, Sitt went to Turkey and offered to help. Sitt wanted the refugees to come to New York. By the mid to late 1970s, a separate operation developed whereby Sitt sent signals for families that wanted to go to New York. These were people who had families in New York and had been separated. Those refugees who wanted to go to New York had to pay their own way. The Jewish Agency only paid smugglers for the families going to Israel.
Harun Shamosh in his Brooklyn home
By 1979, the 70 lira fee became a thing of the past. About 1980, they switched the operation to Antakya, where the Jemals, Esther’s family lived. Iskenderun became too dangerous for the refugees. Antakya is about 35 miles from Iskenderun but closer to Aleppo. Refugees went to the police station in Antakya, declared themselves to be refugees from Syria who wanted to go to Israel. The police sent them to a State Department office and Harun Shamosh was asked to handle their transportation to Israel.
By 1986, there were fewer people escaping Syria. But Mossad wanted him to stay until 1992. Harun would meet Mossad agents in the Dan Tel Aviv and Harun would give them reports. There are 60 years of reports about the Shamosh family and their work with the Syrians who escaped.
Harun and Esther emigrated to New York in 1992, the year of the exodus when Syrian President Hafez al-Assad lifted the prohibition on travel.
1 Based on interviews with Harun and Esther Shamosh with daughter Rutie Haser on April 2024; Jack Imir on December 31, 2023; Harun and Esther Shamosh with daughter Nurit Sousson on June1, 2024 and October 9, 2024
2 Author has no confirmation from Mossad. However multiple sources interviewed for this book noted the role of Mossad in Turkey and in Lebanon for assisting escaping Syrian Jews.
A genealogist and historian, Sarina Roffé is the author of Branching Out from Sepharad (Sephardic Heritage Project, 2017). A version of this article will be included in her upcoming book: Syria – Paths to Freedom. Sarina holds a BA in Journalism, and MA in Jewish Studies and an MBA.
It’s been six months since we’ve said goodbye to our parents. There has been a lot of thinking, reminiscing, crying, and laughing. We’ve sifted through old photographs and memories, trying to make sense of how we got here. While the pain remains strong and very real, we’ve also come to realize just how lucky we were—and still are. This tribute is a reflection on that journey, honoring the values our parents imparted and the closeness of our family.
From a young age, Mom and Dad emphasized the importance of being polite, courteous, caring, and respectful. This wasn’t just any “run-of-the-mill” respect. If a friend or relative entered the room, we would jump up like jack-in-the-boxes to promptly kiss them on both cheeks. For friends or older cousins, we referred to them as “Aunt” or “Uncle.” Although it may have been considered “old fashioned”, it was a testament to the importance our parents placed on acknowledging and respecting those around us.
Proper etiquette was paramount, especially in how we set the table. I think Mom must have mentioned Emily Post at least once a week. We didn’t know why Emily Post got to decide how you must set the table; she just did. This dedication to decorum instilled in us a sense of order and respect for tradition, even if it sometimes felt a bit strict.
The warmth and friendliness of our parents extended beyond our immediate family. Every housekeeper, worker, the concierge from Florida, hairdressers, manicurists, and healthcare aides showed immense care, sorrow, and willingness to help when they came to pay their condolences. This was a reflection of how warmly our parents treated everyone they met. Their kindness and respect left a lasting impact on those around them.
Our parents spent most of their time together. They would go shopping, run errands, and dine out together. While it may not have been Dad’s favorite pastime to run errands, he was always eager to help and make sure Mom was taken care of. That was what mattered most to him—so much so that he was even known to carry her handbag for her.
One sentiment we constantly heard from visitors was how close our family was. We never thought it was extraordinary, but considering our parents spent over seven months each year in Florida for the past 20+ years, we realized how special it truly was. Our children are more like siblings than cousins, always looking forward to spending time together. This is a testament to the strong family bonds our parents nurtured. We once asked our dad how he felt about only having girls, mom said he actually prayed to have girls, and it showed. He was always the dad who would do the late night or early morning carpool. He loved taking care of and helping us and never asked for anything in return.
Visiting Grandma and Grandpa was never a chore for the kids. Each grandchild and their spouses had their own unique relationship with them. There was always laughter, recipes explained while something baked in the oven, discussions about current events and heartfelt interest in whatever was happening in their lives. And when the great-grandchildren visited, they would drop whatever they were doing. Nothing gave them more joy than those visits.
Friends liked to compare their love to a romantic movie, calling it the greatest love story. We would laugh because, even when they bickered, it was comical. But beneath the humor, we always knew they shared a great love and deep respect for each other.
During their last days, each was more worried about the other than about their own health. Watching them say their final goodbyes over FaceTime was torturous, yet deeply heartwarming. The love they had for each other was palpable.
Mom would always tell us that she would never be able to live without our dad. He was everything to her. When dad started to decline, we were so afraid to tell her. Somehow, deep down, we got the feeling that she already knew. Although she wasn’t critical or terminal, she passed quietly, after the whole family had come to visit, on Sunday, Purim day.
Navigating between two hospitals was incredibly difficult for us. It was extremely hard to be in both places at once. But then Ronnie and Sammy, their sons-in-law, immediately sat by Dad’s bedside, sleeping there for two days until Mom’s funeral. Dad passed away the day after Mom’s funeral, but he made sure to wait for his grandson Isaac to return from Israel.
We were so fortunate to have the entire family together with the support and guidance of Rabbi Shelby. It was the most beautiful, special closure we could have hoped for and we will always be forever grateful to the Rabbi. Their grandson Aaron had the opportunity to read Shir HaShirim for each of them, which was the most moving experience. We are very grateful to the Rabbi for giving us this gift.
As we continue to navigate this new chapter, we hold onto the enduring legacy of our parents’ values and the strength of our family bond. We feel fortunate for the time spent together and the lasting impact our parents had on everyone who knew them. Their love and teachings will continue to guide us, reminding us of how truly lucky we are. And although it took us all these months to process the enormity of our loss, there is also a feeling of peace, knowing they are together, still looking out for each other. Not a day goes by that they aren’t mentioned and praised for the life lessons they imparted to us and tried so very hard to prepare us for.
With Rosh Hashanah approaching, we are so grateful to have all mom’s recipe cards (approx. 30 boxes). It just would’ve helped to have the Berakhot narrowed down to which recipe was truly her favorite, and some accurate ingredient measurements!
We consider ourselves extremely fortunate to have them as our role models. Everyone should be as fortunate to have a love story like theirs. May their memories continue to have an abundance of blessings.
Michelle Safdieh, Nicole Levy & Claudine Bennaim are members of the Sephardic Community.
Jamie stands with members of the US Army’s 82nd Airborne Division stationed in Rzeszow Poland who played an integral role in assisting Purple Vest Mission at the Przemysl, Poland refugee center.
“Saving lives is priceless,” explained Jamie Lassner, Executive Director of Accessibility Accelerator, when he returned to Magen David Yeshivah (MDYES) to commemorate the first anniversary of the tragic events of October 7, 2023. Lassner previously served as Director of Student Life at the school.
The Administrative team of Access Israel/Accessibility Accelerator with Isaac and Michal Herzog, President and First Lady of the State of Israel after Rimon and Lassner delivered a presentation on the Purple Vest Mission.
At this visit he shared stories about community and resilience of those impacted and those supporting people in Israel touched by the ongoing crisis. He specifically shared details on Access Israel/Accessibility Accelerator Purple Vest Mission that has been bringing people with disabilities and the elderly to safer places since that fateful morning more than a year ago. Reflecting on this poignant occasion, he shared, “It was good to be back with the MDY Family to share about the vital work we are doing and receive heartfelt comments and chizuk from the students, teachers, and former colleagues.”
The Genesis of the Purple Vest Mission in Israel
Just 43 minutes after the first alarm sounded on Black Saturday, October 7, 2023, Access Israel, the collaborative partner of Accessibility Accelerator, activated the Purple Vest Mission, launching an emergency call center specifically designed to assist individuals with disabilities and the elderly. This initiative leverages the organization’s extensive experience in emergency situations and continues to be used to evacuate many using customized accessible transportation vehicles. Since the launch, Access Israel has trained over 1,500 volunteers who form the backbone of the Purple Vest Mission.
Dani, Liat and Lilach, leaders of the Purple Vest Mission in Israel making a well-care visit to one of the many evacuees that were assisted by their team.
The Purple Vest Mission is unique in its innovative approach to evacuation. They have helped people who are bedridden, who sit in a wheelchair, who are deaf and may not have heard the sirens, and those who may be blind or have difficulty getting to shelter quickly. Instead of transporting evacuees to crowded refugee centers lacking proper support for each person’s situation, volunteers relocate individuals to accessible hotels in safer cities while acknowledging the ongoing threat of air strikes.
The dedication of the Purple Vest Mission volunteers extends well beyond immediate evacuations as they maintain regular contact with evacuees to ensure their medical and everyday needs are met. As many evacuees express a desire to return home, Access Israel collaborates closely with local municipalities to guarantee safe returns and provide shelter for all. This long-term support is vital, fostering a sense of stability and security in a time of uncertainty.
A ‘Quiet Day’ in Akko in Late September 2024
Reflecting on a recent mission, Lassner shared, “I was humbled to have helped evacuate and to visit some of the individuals our Purple Vest Mission has helped.” These encounters reinforced his dedication to their mission and highlighted the bond shared between volunteers and the gratitude of those they assist. The personal stories of resilience and hope, such as that of a woman from Akko, illustrate the profound impact of their work.
Michal Rimon makes a presentation about Purple Vest Mission Global in front of former Israel Ambassador to UN Gilad Erdan and other dignitaries from various nations.
Jamie had the opportunity to evacuate a woman from Akko on a relatively ‘quiet’ day alongside Chef Dani Portush, one of Israel’s premier caterers. Lassner describes him as “an angel with a remarkably caring heart.”
Since October 7, Dani quietly but emotionally shared, “I have driven over 3,300 miles across the roads of Israel in the Purple Vest Mission’s accessible vans, solely to evacuate and relocate individuals with disabilities to safer areas.” His unwavering dedication is palpable; it’s evident that he views this mission as a profound calling, one he believes Hashem chose him to fulfill.
Both Lassner and Portush firmly believe that G-d chose them to go into Akko on that specific ‘quiet day’ because the following day, 35 missiles from Lebanon were launched at Akko.
Addressing Critical Needs
As of October 7, 2024, the Purple Vest Mission has provided crucial support to 343 families, benefiting over 3,100 individuals with disabilities and the elderly. It still manages a multitude of daily inquiries for assistance. Michal Rimon, CEO of Access Israel and the visionary behind the Purple Vest Mission, passionately stated, “The names of those we have assisted are not just entries in an Excel spreadsheet; they are beloved individuals with unique needs. We address all types of disabilities—physical, cognitive, mental, invisible, and visible—ensuring comprehensive support.” The organizations’ holistic approach enables them to cater to a wide range of needs, fostering an environment where everyone can thrive.
Access Israel and their North American collaborative partner Accessibility Accelerator are dedicated to promoting accessibility and inclusion to enhance the quality of life for people with disabilities and the elderly and their Purple Vest Mission strives to ensure no one is left behind especially during emergent times. Purple was chosen as it is the global color for people with disabilities; worldwide, on December 3rd, the International Day of People with Disabilities, landmarks are lit up in purple.
Dani Portush, a lead volunteer, on one of his evacuation assignments bringing happiness and warmth on every mission.
Saving a Life is Priceless!
In his address to the MDY family, Lassner emphasized how essential the work of Purple Vest Mission is. He stated, “We have helped many, yet we have much work ahead of us in caring for those affected over the past year.” He highlighted a new program to help with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder as it has impacted a significant percentage of Israel’s population. The profound effects of trauma cannot be understated, and Lassner’s commitment to mental health awareness reflects a broader understanding of the challenges individuals face in times of crisis. He affirmed the mission’s impact: “Saying ‘yes’ to help can be costly, but saving a life is priceless!”
Shirly Pinto, former Member of the Knesset and current Ambassador of Hasbara for the Israel Foreign Ministry, praised the organizations’ work: “Access Israel and its partner, Accessibility Accelerator, are beacons of hope in the aftermath of October 7, 2023. Their implementation of the Purple Vest Mission is crucial in saving the lives of individuals with disabilities amidst the turmoil. I am proud to collaborate with the Access Israel/Accessibility Accelerator Family.” Her remarks highlight the critical role these organizations play in advocating for some of the most vulnerable members of society.
A Legacy of Service
Michal Rimon and Jamie Lassner share another unique bond – both of their commitments to support others is deeply rooted in the education they both received at the Ramaz Upper School. In honoring the promise to be there for their brothers and sisters, a lesson learned from Rabbi Haskel Lookstein, dear friend and Principal Emeritus at Ramaz, Rimon, Lassner, and their team were boots on the ground in refugee centers in Przemysl, Poland, just a few kilometers from the border with Ukraine, actively evacuating, triaging, settling, and providing humanitarian aid to thousands of Ukrainian people with disabilities. Since the outset of the war in Ukraine, the mission has assisted over 14,000 individuals with disabilities and their families, who otherwise would have been left behind.
Michal Rimon, Former Member of Knesset Shirly Pinto and Jamie Lassner make a solemn visit to Kibbutz Be’eri as part of their visit to the Gaza region.
Advocating for Accessibility
In addition to direct assistance, Access Israel actively advocates for legislation that ensures accessibility for individuals with disabilities globally. Rimon proudly stated, “Israel is the only country in the world where every service provider must undergo annual training on accessibility.” This pioneering approach underscores a commitment to creating an inclusive society where all individuals can participate fully. Access Israel also founded the Global Accessibility Inclusion Leaders’ Summit (GAILS), promoting collaboration among over 50 leaders in the field to drive global change. The organization aims to influence policy and create systemic change through these initiatives.
Recognition and Future Goals
The Purple Vest Mission’s efforts have garnered significant recognition, including the prestigious 2023 Genesis Prize and multiple awards from the United Nations and Anthem Awards. The Association for the Rights of Patients in Israel recently recognized the Purple Vest Mission as the top provider of extraordinary patient care since the Operation Iron Swords war began. These accolades reflect the dedication and hard work of the entire team and the lasting impact they have made in the community.
Looking to the future, Lassner remarked, “Our global team may be small, but it is mighty, and the impact of our work is immense.” He highlighted the urgent need for ongoing financial support, noting that approximately 21% of Israel’s population—over 2.3 million people—are individuals with disabilities. The challenge ahead is substantial, but the commitment to making a difference and saving lives remains unwavering.
Join Us in Making a Difference
Together, the Purple Vest Mission and its dedicated team embody the spirit of community, hesed, and compassion, ensuring that no one is left behind in times of crisis. As they continue this crucial work, they are deeply grateful to the community for supporting the Purple Vest Mission now and in the future. To view more details about the Purple Vest Mission visit https://accessibilityaccelerator.org/purple-vest-mission
In an inspiring act of unity, our community recently opened its doors to an extraordinary group of Israel’s elite soldiers—members of Chameleon First Response (CFR).
These brave combat veterans, led by Sean, Daniel, Amos, and Or, are in the United States on a very important mission: to heal and support their fellow soldiers while spreading awareness about the challenges they face.
The connection to our community began in April when Joey Antar and his friends met these soldiers during a trip to Israel organized by Shaare Zion. The bond they formed during that visit has remained strong, with Joey and his group staying in touch with the soldiers. When the CFR team needed a place to stay, Habayit welcomed them with open arms. They enjoyed a beautiful Friday night meal at the home of David and Adele Khaski, offering a warm, supportive environment for these warriors and showcasing the strength of our community’s solidarity.
On October 7th, life changed for thousands of soldiers and their comrades. Thrust into life-or-death situations, they continue to serve, often carrying the heavy burden of sleepless nights, sudden anger, and the invisible wounds of war. As one soldier shared, “I left home as one person and returned two weeks later as a changed individual. Normal life felt distant. Sleep was elusive, anger flared without cause.”
Chameleon First Response (CFR) is not just an organization—it’s a lifeline dedicated to supporting Israel’s elite combat defenders. Their mission is clear: to help heal the wounded souls of their fellow soldiers, many of whom are battling severe PTSD both during and after their service. “Talking to my fellow fighters, I realized we were all struggling with the same thing. Some lashed out in rage, lost jobs, divorced, or even took their own lives,” one soldier explained. “I made it my mission to help shed light on their struggles and provide a community of help and support. So that none of us will ever feel alone.”
CFR is now working to create a *Center for Healing- Bright Horizons* a sanctuary where soldiers can receive recurring resources they need to process their combat experiences and prevent PTSD from overwhelming them. This center will provide a peaceful retreat, using nature therapy and open-space activities to promote mental resilience and healing. “We are creating a New Center for Healing,” CFR leaders shared. “It will be a place where wounded soldiers can find solace and recovery, where we will harness the power of nature to support their mental and emotional well-being.”
The creation of the Center for Healing cannot happen without your help. While the vision is clear, the resources to bring it to life are still lacking. Significant funding is desperately needed to ensure this sanctuary becomes a reality. Every contribution, large or small, brings us closer to offering Israel’s elite combat veterans the support and healing they deserve. Without your help, too many soldiers will continue to face their struggles alone.
Your donation can be the difference between isolation and recovery for these brave men and women. Please consider donating today to make this life-saving project a reality.
In a significant move to raise awareness for their vital cause, CFR has also been invited to speak on the Dr. Phil show. This opportunity will allow them to share their experiences and the importance of supporting soldiers grappling with the psychological impacts of combat, bringing much-needed attention to their mission.
Together, as a community, we can support these heroes and help make a profound difference in the lives of those who have sacrificed so much for our safety and freedom.
If you would like to donate to this important cause, please visit: https://my.givingtech.org/en/fundme/brighthorizon
The importance of proper planning, and the implementation of Buy-Sell agreements in family businesses, is essential to secure a healthy, ongoing, generational relationship.
David Chabbott
One of the core tenets of our community, which has kept us together for hundreds of years, is the importance of maintaining an incredibly close relationship with our family. This can be seen geographically, with brothers and sisters making every effort to live mere blocks from their parents. We see it at the holiday table, with the norm being a large gathering, sometimes 4 generations deep. Inevitably, the tight-knit bonds we develop with our siblings and relatives evolved towards the economic side of the coin. For many, the “family business,” is a bedrock of the sustainability and preservation for the present and future economic health of our community.
Growing up with the expectation of sitting side by side with your father is a blessing that not all are privy to. Working with the people you love the most, on paper, is a dream. The reality is, just like with all relationships, when working with family it is imperative proper steps be taken, to ensure the future of the company, and that organizational structures be put in place in anticipation of the inevitable.
In the 1930’s as my grandfather David Chabbott A’H was on the Lower East Side, selling shmatas (selling clothing or textiles), it’s safe to say he wasn’t thinking about how to split his handkerchiefs into quarters for his four future children. Almost a century ago, the most important thing was creating something to benefit the now; food on the table, clothing for the chagim (holidays), a roof over your head. Fast forward to today, and for so many, our grandparents’ businesses are now feeding their great grandchildren. Businesses have grown exponentially, and the number of people depending on the success and continued expansion of said businesses could be hundreds.
“He’s my brother, we don’t need an agreement on paper.”
As a financial advisor at The Power Forward Group, I constantly deal with members of our community who are partners in their business with siblings, cousins, and close friends. My first question to them is consistent, do you have a partnership agreement? Surprisingly often, the response is hostile. Family matters tend to be the most sensitive topic to broach, and the suggestion that a contract be implemented into a business plan, can be perceived as an implication of trouble brewing within the fabric of a family structure. The fact is, it’s exactly the opposite.
The reason for implementing a partnership agreement is to ensure the continued success of a family business, which be’ezrat Hashem can flourish for the next 3 generations.
One of the most tragic things to witness amongst family members are siblings who no longer speak, because of something in the family business that went sour. We see these fights spill into the shiva, where two people may even refuse to sit in the same house. It’s safe to say that earlier in their working lives, people going through these conflicts never foresaw what the future would hold.
So, what is a partnership agreement? While there are many variations, a commonly used type is a Buy- Sell agreement. In a Buy-Sell agreement, there is an agreement on paper where upon the passing of one of the partners, shares owned by the deceased are purchased by the surviving partner for a set price. The most important aspect to having a working Buy-Sell agreement, is the annual monitoring of the valuation of a company. Even with the most well-crafted, perfectly written partnership agreement, if a valuation isn’t updated consistently, problems will often arise.
One of the best ways to fund a Buy-Sell agreement is a Business Owned Life Insurance policy. In this scenario, there is a Cross Ownership/ Purchase of Life Insurance policies. In its simplest terms, Cross Ownership life insurance refers to a situation where two or more parties, such as business partners or family members, own life insurance policies on each other’s lives. This arrangement ensures that if one party passes away, the others receive the death benefit to help cover financial obligations, business expenses, or personal needs. While not the perfect solution, these types of arrangements are incredibly useful in helping avoid conflict in the inevitable situation where one business owner passes before the other. All business owners should consult with their estate lawyers and accountants when developing such a plan, to learn more about the tax benefits and proper structuring as well.
Personally, when my father passed away in 2019, there was a partnership agreement with a Cross Owned Life Insurance policy in place. While we did not implement the agreement, which was a choice made by my family and my father’s business partner, the existence of this vehicle allowed a peaceful transition, which led to the eventual sale of our business to a third party. Without this in place, I can only imagine the potential hostilities that may have occurred. Now, in my role at Power Forward Group, I hope to share with my clients the lessons I learned as a member of a family business, and best practices to ensure that our children and grandchildren can continue to benefit as businesses pass in a healthy manner from generation to generation. For Educational Purposes Only – Not to be relied upon as financial, tax, or legal advice.
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David Chabbott is a community member and financial advisor at Power Forward Group. He graduated Brooklyn College in 2001, and has spent the last 20+ years operating his small family business. David and his wife Aimee love getting involved in their children’s yeshivah, watching their 4 sons play basketball, and playing Barbie with their daughter.
Manhattan Borough President Mark Levine, Rabbi Elie Abadie, MD., and Rabbi Avraham Moyal cutting the ribbon to launch the E.96th Street campus of The SAM School.
The Stanley I. Chera SAM School (formerly Sephardic Academy of Manhattan) recently celebrated a major milestone with the opening of its second campus at East 96th Street and Fifth Avenue. The ribbon-cutting ceremony marked not only the launch of this landmark building but the continued growth and vision of a school that has become increasingly essential to the Orthodox Jewish community in Manhattan.
Rabbi Shlomo Farhi, Solly Assa, and Harry Adjmi
SAM has experienced remarkable expansion since its founding, with its early childhood program at 74th Street now serving over 140 new and returning students, including its largest toddler group to date. The new 96th Street campus currently has 50 students in grades K-4 enrolled, creating much-needed space for families seeking an education that combines academic excellence with a deep connection to our Torah values.
Rabbi Elie Abadie, SAM’s visionary founder, was honored at the event for his leadership in establishing this institution, alongside the dedicated educators, board members, and community volunteers who have been instrumental in SAM’s success. Manhattan Borough President Mark Levine attended along with many community leaders, celebrating SAM’s role in filling a critical need in the area.
Bobby Adjmi, Rabbi Ariel Mizrahi, and Alex Adjmi
SAM emerged as an educational institution that not only meets the educational demands of our community but is actively expanding to fulfill future needs. The leadership team emphasized exciting plans for the school’s future, including the launch of a middle school next year, with a high school on the horizon. These expansions ensure that SAM will continue to offer a complete, high-quality education for students, from early childhood through high school. To accommodate families from across the Jewish Orthodox community, SAM will also introduce bus service from Brooklyn next year.
Chairman of the Board of Trustees, Haim Chera, sharing his vision for the future of The SAM School.
SAM’s expansion is not just a reflection of its success but also a response to the community’s needs for a strong educational institution that honors our Orthodox Jewish heritage while providing a world-class education. As SAM looks toward the future, it remains deeply committed to shaping the next generation of leaders and thinkers.
David Beyda, Moses Tawil, Elliot Azrak, Ikey Chehebar, Haim Chera, Michael Silverman, Steven Cohen.
Standing behind this remarkable achievement are a dedicated board and parent body, with countless individuals who have made this possible. Rabbi Ariel Mizrahi (Rabbinical Leader), Chary Fox (Early Childhood Director), Michelle Dayan (Executive Director), Dr. Rachel Harari (Co-Head of Elementary School), and Mary Peldman (Co-Head of Elementary School) have been instrumental in making the dream a reality. For those interested in learning more about SAM or taking a tour of the new campus, the school encourages reaching out to admin@thesamschool.org for Early Childhood, and Dr. Rachel Harari at rharari@thesamschool.org for the Elementary and Middle School.
William Barthman Jeweler recently hosted a memorable evening in partnership with Bvlgari at their newly-renovated Midwood location. The highly anticipated event showed a deep appreciation for loyal clientele, as well as the organization’s unwavering commitment to exceptional service and selection of fine timepieces and jewelry.
The Brooklyn space has served as a staple in the high-end King’s Highway shopping district since 1998, and it was given a beautiful reinvention more befitting the modern retailer, while paying homage to its rich heritage. Marble and wood construction with bronze and gold accents throughout create a refined ambiance and aesthetic.
Many thoughtful details were added to the space to elevate its hospitality offerings, including more cozy seating options and a sophisticated bar area. At over five thousand square feet, the Brooklyn boutique is able to comfortably entertain many visitors while maintaining an inviting ambiance. Shop-in-shop installations were meticulously designed to showcase the unique character and craftsmanship of prestigious brands including Bvlgari, Breitling, IWC, Hublot, and Tudor.
With its own dedicated area at the far end of the store, Rolex with William Barthman masterfully created a haven for current and future collectors to experience the beauty and distinction of the brand. As part of the elite worldwide network of Official Rolex Jewelers, William Barthman is authorized to sell and maintain Rolex watches, ensuring that every client receives a timepiece that is both genuine and exceptional, as well as the highest standard of service and authenticity.
Alongside the masters of watches, William Barthman lives up to its jeweler status featuring a curation of artisan-designed collections from Italian favorites Roberto Coin, Pasquale Bruni, Damiani, and Chimento. Also available for purchase is fine Baccarat crystal for your gifting needs. Rounding out their offerings, William Barthman has continued to provide top-tier watch and jewelry service and repairs to ensure that vintage and modern heirlooms can be passed down through generations and enjoyed.
After all, the heart and soul of William Barthman lie in their dedication to providing superior service and engagement within the greater New York community. The original Financial District location opened more than a century ago in 1884 under the Barthman family, and carved out its place in history as a luxury retailer that values professionalism and a personal touch at every interaction. Many may know the company for their original monument to timekeeping, the Clock in the Sidewalk. Although the Manhattan location has been moved twice over, the clock still remains at its spot, and is due for a tune-up and return to its unique value in the neighborhood and with timekeeping enthusiasts.
Upon acquiring the company in 1983, Jerry Natkin Sr. has ensured that the operation remains a well-oiled dream-fulfilling machine, now with active involvement from his son Steven and grandson Jerry Jr. Family values and a devotion to preserving the legacy of the oldest retailer of its kind in New York are pillars of the Natkins’ strategy to keep William Barthman relevant and beloved by anyone who walks through their doors in Manhattan or Brooklyn, or even enjoys an online shopping experience via their website. The combined experience of the Natkin family and their expert staff is matched only by their passion for going above-and-beyond with every promise made to customers. The sales staff prides itself on a superb level of knowledge and understanding of product catalogs and customer needs to guarantee that everyone leaves happy and return happier.
With coinciding 140-year anniversaries, William Barthman and Bvlgari set the stage for an evening of elegance centered on the theme “Aging Like Fine Wine.” The attendees were treated to a smorgasbord of delicious Italian aperitivo, mini desserts, and, of course, fine wine. Bvlgari experts were on hand to showcase their innovative collections, and captivated the audience with a special selection of showstopper pieces that are a testament to Bvlgari’s distinctive style and craftsmanship.
The glamorous house of Bvlgari is famous for its fine watches and jewelry, accessories, leather goods, and fragrances, making it a pioneer in many sectors. Now under multinational conglomerate LVMH, Bvlgari continues to position itself as a world leader in creative vision. Working in harmony with partner vendors is a priority for William Barthman to create meaningful moments of discovery for their client family, so expect more intimate gatherings and dazzling affairs from the William Barthman team in the near future.
Guests of the event were also able to view the proud retailer’s newest category offering: Rolex Certified Pre-Owned timepieces. The addition provides an opportunity for customers to own a piece of Rolex history, with each pre-owned watch undergoing a rigorous inspection process to ensure its authenticity and condition. The Certified Pre-Owned collection offers a range of models that are both timeless and contemporary, appealing to collectors and enthusiasts who are devoted to the craftsmanship and heritage of Rolex. William Barthman’s own handpicked collection of non-Rolex pre-owned watches are available in-store and soon to be online as well.
William Barthman remains committed to honoring the values that have guided its hallowed institution since its birth in 1884, and resolves to keep its roots firmly planted in the history of New York no matter what comes its way. World Wars, natural disasters, economic downturns, and acts of terrorism may shake their foundation, but William Barthman stands tall as a beacon of refined taste and community relations.
On October 7th, 2024, Magen David Yeshivah came together to remember the heartbreaking events that unfolded in Israel. The day was filled with meaningful activities that helped our students connect with Israel and show their support.
Our elementary school began the day by displaying a powerful tribute—a large yellow ribbon symbolizing unity with Israel, surrounded by the names of all the hostages. It was a strong reminder of the challenges our fellow Jews in Israel are facing.
Boys in grades 6-8 participated in a live Selihot prayer at the Kotel via Zoom. This special moment made the students feel like they were part of something bigger, as they joined in prayer with those standing at one of the holiest places in Jerusalem.
In Mrs. Nitza Levy’s class, the girls had the opportunity to meet Raymond “Chef RayT” Tawil, a graduate of Magen David Yeshivah. He shared stories about his many trips to Israel and how they inspired him to get involved with the Sephardic Community Alliance (SCA). A big thank you to the SCA for providing the solidarity pins that were given to all the students, from 1st-12th grade, as a symbol of our support for Israel.
Our younger students also took part in meaningful activities. The 3rd graders joined a special Tehilim project, sponsored by Cynthia and Albert Setton and family in honor of Ruby Setton. Each child received their own personalized Tehilim book, which they will use to pray for peace and safety in Israel, and used it to recite Tehillim together on stage.
In 5th grade, Mrs. Lizzy Mizrahi led a creative project where the girls made a banner with the words “נזכור ולא נשכח” (Remember and Never Forget). It was a powerful reminder that we will always keep the memory of what happened on October 7th close to our hearts.
We also had the privilege of hearing from Mr. Jamie Lassner, Executive Director of the Purple Vest Mission, who spoke to the students about his important work in evacuating disabled people from conflict zones in Israel and Ukraine. His stories were inspiring and gave our students a sense of how we can help those in need.
As students walked into our high school building, they took in banners hanging all over the atrium with names of the 1,159 innocent lives lost on October 7th, and candles of commemoration. They gathered for a school-wide program, organized by Mrs. Margalit Alnatan, which began with words from Rabbi Eli Mansour.
Mr. Morris Missry joined us to speak of the heroism he saw while in Israel on the MDY Solidarity Mission in November and how it inspired the members of the trip to donate an Ambucycle to United Hatzalah.
Dr. Yair Ansbacher, National Security Researcher and expert who works as a Fellow in the Misgav Institute for National Security and Zionist Strategy, told us we need to change our viewpoint to see the miracles of October 7th and that each of our students is a Jewish hero and they will bring redemption.
Hazzan Mordechai Salem set the tone for the day as our students reflected on everything they saw and heard.
These activities and presentations helped our students feel more connected to Israel and showed them the importance of standing together in difficult times. Magen David Yeshivah continues to be a place where our students learn about responsibility, unity, and the power of prayer and action. May our nation know no more suffering, עם ישראל חי! (Am Yisrael Chai)
The prostate gland is a small, walnut-sized organ located below the bladder and in front of the rectum in men. It plays a crucial role in the male reproductive system.
What is the recommended screening age for prostate cancer?
For average-risk men, guidelines suggest beginning discussions about prostate cancer screening at age 50. For higher-risk men, those with a family history of prostate cancer or African American men, who are at higher risk, may start discussions earlier, around age 45. Make sure to ask family members if they or any other relative they know had prostate cancer.
How do you screen for prostate cancer?
Screening for prostate cancer typically involves several methods, each with its own benefits and limitations.
1. Prostate-Specific Antigen (PSA) Test: This blood test measures the level of PSA, a protein produced by the prostate gland. Elevated levels can indicate prostate cancer, but they can also be caused by other conditions, such as benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH) or prostatitis.
2. Digital Rectal Exam (DRE): During this physical exam, a healthcare provider inserts a gloved, lubricated finger into the rectum to feel the prostate for any irregularities. It’s less sensitive than the PSA test but can sometimes detect abnormalities not picked up by blood tests.
3. Prostate Biopsy: If PSA levels are high or the DRE is abnormal, a prostate biopsy might be recommended. This involves taking small samples of prostate tissue to be examined for cancer cells.
4. MRI : An MRI of the prostate can be used to get a more detailed image of the prostate and surrounding tissues. It’s often used to evaluate the extent of cancer or to guide biopsies. It’s not typically used for initial screening but can be helpful in the diagnostic process.
5. Transrectal Ultrasound (TRUS): This imaging test uses sound waves to create an image of the prostate. It’s often used in conjunction with a biopsy to guide the needle. Like MRI, it’s not usually used for routine screening.
6. Genetic Testing: For men with a family history of prostate cancer or other risk factors, genetic tests can assess susceptibility to prostate cancer.
What are the signs and symptoms of prostate cancer?
Prostate cancer often develops slowly and might not show symptoms in its early stages. When symptoms do appear, they can vary and may include:
1. Urinary symptoms such as frequent urination (especially at night), weak or interrupted urine flow or painful or burning sensation during urination.
2. Blood in Urine or Semen.
3. Painful ejaculation or pain in the lower back, hips, or pelvis.
4. Sexual Dysfunction such as erectile dysfunction.
5. Other Symptoms such as unexplained weight loss, fatigue or general feeling of being unwell.
In some cases, prostate cancer can spread beyond the prostate gland, leading to additional symptoms such as pain in the bones, swelling in the legs and loss of appetite.
It’s important to note that these symptoms can also be caused by conditions other than cancer, such as benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH) or prostatitis. If you’re experiencing any of these symptoms or have concerns about prostate health, it’s crucial to consult a healthcare provider for evaluation and appropriate testing.
How can I reduce my risk of prostate cancer?
Reducing your risk of prostate cancer involves adopting healthy lifestyle habits and staying informed about your health.
1. Adopt a Healthy Diet:
Eat a Variety of Fruits and Vegetables, Choose Whole Grains, Incorporate Healthy Fats: Opt for sources of omega-3 fatty acids found in fish like salmon, and nuts. Limit saturated and trans fats and consider soy products. Avoid Red and Processed Meat as much as possible.
2. Exercise Regularly:
Regular physical activity helps maintain a healthy weight and can have protective effects against various cancers. Aim for at least 150 minutes a week of moderate intensity (30 minutes a day 5 days a week) or 75 minutes of vigorous activity a week.
3. Maintain a Healthy Weight:
Obesity is associated with a higher risk of aggressive prostate cancer. Adopting a balanced diet and regular exercise can help manage weight.
4. Limit Alcohol Intake:
Alcohol consumption can increase the risk of several cancers, so it’s advisable to limit alcohol intake. If you choose to drink alcohol, keep your cancer risk as low as possible by having no more than a few servings per week.
5. Avoid Smoking:
Smoking is a risk factor for many types of cancer. Quitting smoking or avoiding tobacco use altogether can benefit overall health and reduce cancer risk.
6. Regular Health Screenings:
Discuss with your healthcare provider whether prostate cancer screening is appropriate for you, especially if you have risk factors like a family history of the disease.
7. Know Your Family History:
If you have a family history of prostate cancer, you might be at increased risk. Share this information with your healthcare provider to determine if you need to start screening earlier or follow additional preventive measures.
Call the Morris I. Franco Cancer Center/ Medstar Medical Referral at 718-787-1800 to guide and help you find the right doctor for your prostate screening.
A Powerful Anniversary Tribute to Israel on October 7
On the solemn anniversary of the October 7 attack, the Jersey Shore community and Rabbis gathered to commemorate the tragic events of the past year and pray for the strength and resilience of the Jewish people.
Over 1500 people filled the DSN Beach Club, standing together in support of Israel and reflecting on the profound connection that has only grown since that fateful day. The evening began with a moment of silence, marked by the powerful sound of a foghorn, creating a poignant atmosphere of remembrance. Nechamia Katz’s stirring rendition of Hatikvah followed, filling the air with hope and pride, as all stood united.
Jeffrey Saka began the night, offering heartfelt words of welcome and gratitude. “We feel very fortunate at DSN to host this Night of Unity commemorating the tragic events of Oct 7th. We’ve had so many wonderful programs throughout the year keeping Israel at the forefront. We are so proud of our team and community. The impact is everlasting and far reaching.”
In a surprise guest appearance, renowned singer Yakov Shweky captivated the audience with three deeply moving songs, including Im Eshkachech Yerushalayim (If I forget thee, O Jerusalem), a song that perfectly encapsulated the community’s shared longing for peace in Israel.
Leading community rabbis joined on stage, including Rabbi Shlomo Diamond, Rabbi Saul Kassin, Rabbi Elie Abadi, Rabbi David Tawil, Rabbi Joseph Dana, Rabbi Chaim Arking, Rabbi Joey Dayon, Rabbi Moshe Malka, Rabbi Moshe Doueck, Rabbi Label Shapiro, Rabbi Ari Katz, Rabbi Moses Hidary, Rabbi Yaakov Sadigh, Rabbi Nasanayl Braun, Rabbi Avi Yagen, and Rabbi Ozeri.
Victoria Sutton, DSN Executive Board Member and Chairperson of Beach Club Events & Marketing, orchestrated the evening as it transitioned into a beautiful prayer and torch-lighting ceremony, with prayers for the hostages, the IDF and the State of Israel. A stunning Magen David candelabra, skillfully crafted by Matania Aharonovitz, became the centerpiece as Rabbis lit the candles, symbolizing the eternal light of the Jewish people.
Rabbi Kassin shared inspiring Divrei Torah, recounting past trips to Israel and reminding the audience of the sacred bond between the Jewish people and the land. Rabbi Dayon followed with the introduction of a touching DSN montage video, showcasing the 65 Israel-related events and programs DSN has hosted over the past year, highlighting the community’s dedication to Israel. He concluded, “Throughout our history, putting aside our differences and uniting has always brought about salvation! BH in this merit we will bring the final redemption speedily”.
The audience was especially moved by the words of Yoni Diller, a survivor of the Nova tragedy and activist, who was introduced by Rabbi Shapiro, and shared his powerful story of survival and hope for the future. Yoni later said how he was “deeply thankful for the opportunity to speak for such an amazing and supportive crowd”. Israel Portnoy, a talented musician, then performed Shema Yisrael, bringing many to tears with his soulful performance.
The evening continued as the audience was honored to hear a Divrei Torah from Rabbi Diamond that encouraged reflection and gratitude. Rabbi Braun followed and introduced Bar Reuven, a reserve combat officer in Unit 669, sharing his experiences as a soldier in this elite special search and rescue unit. Nechamia Katz and Israel Portnoy followed with a beautiful duet rendition of Ten Li Tefilah (Give Me One Prayer) and the night concluded with the entire crowd joining together in a rousing rendition of Am Yisrael Chai, a declaration of the enduring strength and unity of the Jewish people.
Special thanks were given to Ricky Esses, who generously donated his expertise in sound and video, and to Marjorie Ayash, whose photos will help capture the evening’s memory.
As attendees waved Israeli flags, the evening’s message was clear: the essence of the Jewish people is unity, and through strength in numbers and faith, there is no limit to what can be achieved. DSN President Lee Zekaria was proud. “Led by our incredible Rabbis, it was so heartwarming to see our community come together on this night”.
Victoria Sutton, visionary of the event, summarized all of the feelings. “Tonight was filled with so many emotions. Being together on this one-year anniversary of October 7th meant everything. Unity and community are at the heart of DSN and since that day in 2023 we have continuously shown our love and support for our brothers and sisters in Israel. Over the past year so much has happened; with more than 65 Israeli events, we feel incredibly blessed to have shared these moments together and will always cherish the wonderful people we have met and the relationships and friendships formed. Our DSN family has grown closer and stronger than ever. BH. May this year bring home the return of all of the hostages, safety for the state of Israel, and peace for Jews around the world.” It was an emotional, inspiring, and deeply spiritual evening. With Hashem’s guidance, DSN and the Jersey Shore community look forward to accomplishing even more together in the years ahead. Am Yisrael Chai!
When I first discovered Sod Haadam, I was going through one of the hardest periods of my life. Everything felt overwhelming, and my adult children were pulling away from me. I didn’t understand what was happening. I had always thought I was doing my best as a mother, but it felt like our connection was slipping away.
From the very first class, Sod Haadam began to shift everything for me. The calming voice reached my heart, and I started to see things from a completely new perspective. I realized my children were carrying their own pain, and I needed to meet them where they were. Through the course, I began to understand them on a much deeper level and was able to rebuild stronger, more meaningful relationships with them. The program taught me the power of my own heart, and by opening up, my expanded heart has the ability to heal and support my children so they can live their lives with a solid foundation, without fear and anxiety.
The course gave me confidence, clarity, and helped me not take things out of context. I learned to focus on the good in my children and help them break through the emotional barriers we had unknowingly built. Sod Haadam came into my life at exactly the right time—when I needed it most—and it completely transformed my relationships.
I highly recommend Sod Haadam to any parent, teacher, or anyone seeking a deeper understanding of themselves and others. It goes beyond what any therapy can offer. It truly changed my life when I was at my lowest.
Sally Shalom is a wife, mother and grandmother living in Long Branch, NJ
