LAURA SHAMMAH MS, RDN

PEOPLE WITH ADHD know how much the condition can affect all aspects of their life — from how well they do in school to their relationships. But many people with ADHD may not be as aware of just how much the condition can influence their eating habits. And if left unchecked, these poor eating habits could eventually affect their mental and physical health.

Some of the most common problems are “hyper fixation” and binge eating. Hyper fixation is an intense fixation on certain activities or interests but can include eating habits, too. This means some people may only eat a specific food or meal for a while before becoming tired of it and moving on to a different food or meal.

Studies have also shown an association between ADHD and certain eating disorders, with binge eating disorders being one of the most common. Binge eating disorder is when people consume large amounts of foods over a short time, even when they’re not hungry. It’s estimated that almost a third of people in the U.S. who have binge eating disorders also have ADHD.

Some experts believe that people with ADHD may overeat to satisfy their need for stimulation. Binge eating may also happen because ADHD makes it difficult for people to have self-control and self-regulation, meaning they may be more likely to overeat if they’re feeling sad or angry, and they may not find it as easy to know when they’re full.

Some evidence suggests that binge eating in people with ADHD may be attributed to a heightened neural-reward response to food rather than impulsivity. This is when the brain is exposed to a stimulus that is rewarding and responds by releasing an increased amount of dopamine, a chemical in the brain associated with reward and pleasure. However, impulsiveness (another symptom of ADHD) may also lead people to overeat — especially foods that are unhealthy.

Some ADHD medications can also suppress appetite during the day. But as the drug’s effects wear off in the evening, appetite increases, which may lead to binge eating. Sensory issues may also explain why some people with ADHD tend to eat or avoid certain foods. Certain textures or smells may cause sensory overload, making it difficult for people with ADHD to eat them – leading to avoidance of those foods or food groups altogether. Dopamine may explain why people with ADHD prefer high-sugar foods.

There’s also evidence that people with ADHD tend to gravitate toward junk foods, especially food that is high in sugar. This may be because high-sugar foods stimulate the release of dopamine. People with ADHD have lower levels of dopamine. As such, they may be more likely to seek dopamine out. Since eating simple carbohydrates like candy triggers a rush of dopamine in the brain, this may be why people with ADHD tend to hyper-fixate or binge on these foods.

NUTRITION AND ADHD

Not having a varied diet or only eating foods that may be high in sugar can lead to a range of health problems, from vitamin deficiencies to obesity. High-sugar diets can also affect energy levels and mood. Highly processed additives and preservatives, may also change behavior and cognitive development.

Several studies have shown nutritional deficiencies can affect behavior and cognitive function in people with ADHD. Vitamin D and magnesium, in particular, are important, they may improve attention and decrease hyperactivity somewhat. Vitamin D can also affect the way dopamine forms in the brain.

But even though ADHD can make it harder to keep eating habits in check, if you have ADHD, there are things you can do to improve the situation. Here are some of them:

1.PLAN

Shop and plan meals for the week ahead. Planning meals makes it easier to decide what and when to eat and may help you avoid buying or bingeing on unhealthy, processed foods.

2.EAT SMALL BUT NUTRITIOUS MEALS THROUGHOUT THE DAY

If these are planned, it can help you avoid filling up on unhealthy snacks – and may also help you avoid evening binges if you’re someone who forgets to eat throughout the day or medication suppresses daytime appetite. A balance vegetable, protein and complex carbohydrates (such as chicken, beans, and whole grains) and healthy fat will help you get enough proper nutrients and vitamins but will also help you feel fuller for longer and give you energy. This also helps brain focus and function better.

3. CREATE A HEALTHY FOOD
ENVIRONMENT AT HOME

Keep nutritious snacks in sight – such as fruit or vegetables, nuts and seeds, which may help improve your attention.

4.SUPPLEMENT CERTAIN VITAMINS AND MINERALS

People with ADHD are more likely to be deficient in certain micronutrients. Ask your doctor if including omega-3, magnesium, and zinc would be right for you. These nutrients are important for ensuring the brain, body, and immune system all function at their best.

While it may not always be easy to adjust your diet, working with a nutritionist, a psychologist, a psychiatrist, getting help from a loved one, or even using a daily meal planner may all be useful in helping you get on track. Even making just a few small changes to your daily eating habits can have a big positive impact on your daily routine and wellbeing.

I see many clients with ADD/ADHD who struggle with eating disorders. Once they find what I call their right cocktail they find success. What is the right cocktail? Everyone is different. For some it is going to therapy, a dietitian, exercise and taking supplements and for some taking right medication along with above is like putting on eyeglasses for someone who couldn’t see. If you are struggling find out what your right cocktail is–reach out to professionals to help you find it so you can live you best life.

Laura Shammah MS, RDN specializes in eating disorders but has clientele that run the gamut from people dealing with PCOS, infertility, hypertension, high cholesterol, Crohn’s disease, diabetes and cancer. She also helps clients who run in marathons, are pregnant and those who would like to lose or gain weight in a healthy way.

Linda Sadacka

In a world where headlines are shaped by legacy media and celebrities flaunt their endorsements as if they’re creed, something remarkable is happening beneath the surface. Across New York City, the recent election results have flipped the script, proving that the real power lies not in elite endorsements or media spin, but in the hands of everyday people. This grassroots surge has sent a shockwave through the political landscape, and it’s something every one of us should take to heart: our votes matter.

Take a close look at the recent shifts in traditionally working-class neighborhoods across the city. In places like Washington Heights, the West Bronx, Flushing, Richmond Hill, and Bensonhurst, we saw communities band together, ignoring the noise from mainstream influencers, and casting their votes for a change they truly believe in. Despite being flooded with media narratives and the predictable celebrity endorsements, people showed that they weren’t swayed by empty rhetoric. Instead, they chose candidates who genuinely represented their concerns—on issues like public safety, economic opportunity, and a better quality of life. This movement wasn’t driven by Hollywood; it was driven by you.

Why the Grassroots Shift Matters

These results reflect a new era of political engagement, one that is powered by voters who are tired of being told what to think. Trump’s success in these areas wasn’t handed to him by influencers or traditional media outlets. In fact, his gains were achieved despite them. This was a victory rooted in the real lives and real struggles of New Yorkers who feel overlooked by the establishment and who want leaders who will finally take their concerns seriously. This is what happens when the people take back the narrative.

Consider our own community’s role in this transformation. In the recent New York State Assembly race, we didn’t just show up—we broke records. Voter turnout soared from approximately 23,000 to over 33,000, an increase of nearly 50%. This wasn’t a passive response; it was a deliberate choice to show that we’re tired of being ignored. Our community’s voices resonated louder than any media personality or celebrity endorsement, proving that when we come together, we have the power to change outcomes.

Why Every Vote Matters—
And What Happens When You Don’t Show Up

If you’re not registered to vote, you’re handing over your voice to others who may not share your values or understand your needs. Every single vote contributes to a bigger picture, and when we fail to show up, we leave decisions that impact our lives in the hands of those who don’t represent us. Voting isn’t just a right; it’s a responsibility to ourselves, our families, and our community. It’s the single most powerful way we can demand accountability and ensure that our concerns are addressed.

When we don’t vote, we’re doing more than just skipping a civic duty. We’re allowing those with louder platforms and larger megaphones—often in the form of legacy media and celebrities—to shape policies and elect leaders who may not understand or care about our issues. By staying home, we’re giving them the power to define our future without our consent. This election showed what happens when we refuse to let that happen. It was a victory not just for candidates, but for the idea that real change is still possible when people come together.

The Path Forward:
Building on the Momentum

This election cycle has taught us an important lesson: grassroots movements are not just alive, but thriving. Our community’s increased turnout and impact didn’t go unnoticed. Political leaders are beginning to understand the strength of our voice and the weight of our values. This recognition alone has already strengthened our influence, enabling us to push for policies that align with our needs more directly than ever before. But this is only the beginning.

We must keep building on this momentum. We need to encourage everyone—friends, family, neighbors—to register and to vote. We need to ensure that our voices aren’t just heard in one election cycle, but in every election, at every level. When we continue to show up in numbers, we send a message that can’t be ignored, that can’t be spun, and that won’t be drowned out by celebrity endorsements or media bias.

A Call to Action:
Your Vote is Your Power

As someone who has spent years urging our community to register and vote, I want you to know that this is not just about a single election. This is about our future. This is about showing that no matter what the establishment says, we are the ones who hold the real power. We’ve proven that when we stand united, no narrative is too big, no media machine too powerful to drown out our voices. Let’s continue to push forward. Register to vote if you haven’t. Show up at the polls. Remind everyone around you that their vote is their power. Together, we are more than a community—we are a movement, and this movement has only just begun.

Linda Sadacka is a prominent political activist and community leader.

Rabbi Dr. Raymond Harari was a guiding light for countless individuals, a man whose wisdom, warmth, and dedication touched the hearts of all who knew him. His passing has left a profound void, yet his life’s work and the values he embodied remain a beacon of inspiration. For the Sephardic community, he was not merely a rabbi or an educator; he was a bridge connecting tradition and modernity, intellect and humility, faith and action.

His life was as much about family as it was about community and teaching. To his children, he was “Abba,” a father who found joy in the small, intimate moments and who imparted lessons that would shape their lives. David, his son, spoke of his father’s unparalleled humility and how he managed to inspire through action rather than words. Rabbi Harari’s approach to life was deeply grounded in the value of doing over saying, a principle he emphasized throughout his life. Whether guiding David through his bar mitzvah or offering calm, reassuring words during difficult moments, Rabbi Harari’s gentle demeanor and wisdom were constants.

Michal, one of his daughters, fondly recalled childhood car rides in their Datsun without air conditioning, where her father turned hours of traffic into cherished memories by playing games and engaging conversations. She reflected on how he was always there for her, with daily calls at 2:37 Israel time to check in and offer support. Even in his final days, Rabbi Harari’s focus remained on ensuring that his family would not dwell on his illness but instead remember his legacy of love, faith, and connection.

Yael, another daughter, shared how her father seamlessly balanced his public role with his private devotion to his family. He was a man who carried a pocket notebook to cross off his tasks but never forgot to give his children his full attention. Every phone call, every planned vacation, and every family gathering was infused with his thoughtful presence. Yael also reflected on her philosophical discussions with her father during her high school years, conversations that offered solace and wisdom as she navigated her own struggles with faith. His ability to connect, to listen, and to reassure defined his relationship with her and many others.

One of the most poignant moments in his final days occurred during Simchat Torah, when Rabbi Harari mustered the strength to stand and address the crowd gathered outside his window. He read from the Torah, surrounded by his children and grandchildren, embodying his dedication to both his family and his faith. His wife, Vicky, who was his steadfast partner in life, remarked during this moment, “He lived to serve,” encapsulating his essence in four simple words.

Beyond his personal life, Rabbi Harari was a cornerstone of the Sephardic community. His tenure at the Yeshivah of Flatbush spanned decades, during which he shaped the lives of thousands of students. He championed the philosophy of *Torah U’madah* (Torah and science), integrating Jewish scholarship with secular education to nurture thoughtful, well-rounded individuals. Yet, despite his many accomplishments, he remained profoundly humble, often shying away from the spotlight to focus on meaningful action.

Rabbi Harari’s love for Israel was another defining aspect of his life. He instilled in his children a deep connection to the land and its significance. Michal shared how he encouraged her move to Israel and expressed pride in the life she built there. Even as they lived continents apart, he maintained close ties through frequent visits, heartfelt emails, and unwavering support.

As the Sephardic community reflects on Rabbi Harari’s life, they find comfort in the enduring legacy he leaves behind. His teachings, his kindness, and his unwavering commitment to faith and education continue to inspire. For those who knew him, he remains a guiding presence, a reminder of the power of a life lived in the service of others.

Though he is no longer physically present, Rabbi Harari’s spirit endures in the lives he touched and the community he cherished. His children, now the bearers of his values, hold him close in their hearts. They recall his wisdom, his humor, and his love, striving to honor his legacy in their own lives. In the words of his family, he taught them not only how to live but how to connect deeply—with their faith, their community, and each other. It is through this connection that his memory will forever illuminate their paths forward.

Magen David Yeshivah

Dear Vicki, Rabbi Avi and Zehava, Michal and Avi, Yael and Ari, Dr. David and Milca, Dani and Rachel,

On behalf of Magen David Yeshivah, we extend our heartfelt condolences upon the passing of our great Rabbi, Rabbi Dr. Raymond Harari (Zt”l). It is also at this time that we extend a tremendous amount of gratitude and hakarat hatov (recognizing the good) to the Harari family for sharing the Rabbi with us all these years.

While our community has lost a giant–not only in the world of Torah, but equally in the world of character and midot tovot (positive character traits)– it gives us solace to know that his legacy and teachings will live on through the thousands of students and community members that he undoubtedly impacted over the course of his prestigious life.

As expressed so beautifully by his family at the levaya (funeral), The Rabbi had tremendous patience; that patience came from the truest form of humility. The Rabbi‘s brilliance in Torah and world events coupled with his deep understanding and empathy of people deemed him the ultimate leader and, as it was so eloquently put, the ‘gentle giant of our time’.

The Rabbi reached great heights and successes in all his endeavors, but true to his humble nature, Rabbi Harari (Zt”l) simply just wanted to teach. I was one of the lucky students who had the privilege to learn from Rabbi Harari (Zt”l) for four straight years in one of the most rigorous, intricate, high level learning classes that left us with a thirst for knowledge and never wanting class to end. I remember being accepted into the highest honors class at Yeshivah of Flatbush High School, and fearing I wouldn’t be able to succeed at that level, I begged my parents to switch my class. Instead, my dad took me to Rabbi Harari’s office where he offered his warm smile, and promised me “I got you!”.. Those classes, that rigor, the Rabbi’s belief in me and each of his students, is the blueprint of what makes an excellent educator, and stayed with each of us forever. After all these years, I can say with certainty, the Rabbi kept his promise.

They say in Hebrew, “מחיל אל חיל“ (From strength to strength)

Just as “The sun rises and the sun sets” our sages teach us this is the assurance that the passing of one tsadik (a righteous person) will always be accompanied with the birth of a new tsadik.

Our community witnessed this firsthand with the succession of the great Rabbi Dr. David Eliach (Zt”l) to Rabbi Dr. Raymond Harari (Zt”l). The yeshivah continued to thrive and we as a community were the beneficiaries of unequivocally great leadership. I was reminded of that same pasuk as Rabbi Avi eulogized the passing of his father. “The sun rises and the sun sets….”

May we continue to find comfort in this great loss and inspiration from the Rabbi’s life’s work.

With much sincerity,

Gladys Haddad.

President of Magen David Yeshivah

YESHIVAH OF FLATBUSH Alumni

In loving memory of Rabbi Dr. Raymond Harari A”H, whose legacy lives on. In Pirkei Avot it says, “Find yourself a Rabbi.” The love of a Rabbi for his student and a student for his Rabbi is like the love of life-long friends. The relationship encourages both to live up to the best of themselves, to seek good and to be a blessing to others. You have been our Rabbi, teacher, friend, and a blessing for our entire family.

Joan & Jack Mann (ES ‘74, HS ‘78) and Family

Sephardic Community Center

Anyone walking into the Center will notice a giant wall in our lobby with pictures of our parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents from yesteryear. They look upon us and the next generation, reminding us that we are the product of lives lived in accordance with Torah values, among them the virtues of service to the greater family.

It seems that from the beginning of his career, Rabbi Harrari was destined to join the wall of giants whose lives made an indelible mark on the good name of our community. And while he did so with countless speeches and classes, it was his character that spoke deepest. It spoke of those long-cherished values that echo from generations past: humility, service, modesty, encouragement, and action.

It was Rabbi Harrari who introduced me on Rosh Hashanah to his shul, speaking from his heart about his beloved community and the special role the Center plays. For me personally, I was lucky to have known him at some of the highest points of my life. He was the rabbi who spoke at my wedding. I was fortunate to sit on his right as a student of his at his beloved Flatbush High School as he taught us Halacha (Jewish law), perhaps never realizing that his example spoke more powerfully than anything he taught.

May our community merit in his memory, may we remember the example he set for us in the way we act, and may his life continue to stay alive within us all as we continue to build on this incredible gift of togetherness that Rabbi Harrari’s life was dedicated to.

Louis Jerome

President – Sephardic Community Center

Rabbi Dr. Raymond Harari, A”H, was a distinguished educator and leader within the Jewish community. As the Head of School at Yeshivah of Flatbush Joel Braverman High School, he dedicated over four decades to nurturing students’ spiritual and academic growth. For the last seven years, I had the fortune to learn with him every morning at Mikdash Eliyahu, known as “the Avenue U Shul,” where he served as the head Rabbi. The most amazing thing about Rabbi Harari was that each of his students was sure they were his favorite. Such a unique connection could only arise from a heart where love and caring combined with a deep understanding that all comes from Hashem. His legacy of warmth, wisdom, and unwavering faith will remain a guiding light for all who knew him and even for those who never met him.

Rabbi Harari shaped the community in ways only he was capable of doing. There were many times when challenging issues arose, whether politically charged or within the community. The Rabbi had a way of guiding you through these matters so gracefully that you would find yourself arriving at the right answer on your own, with him as a quiet, unwavering light along the way. Now, in his passing, we realize we had no idea of the giant we were learning from. I truly miss him every day.

Joey Tawil,

CEO of the Sephardic Community Center

Sephardic Community Alliance

The SCA, along with our entire community, deeply mourns the passing of our beloved Rabbi Dr. Raymond Harari, A”H. Rabbi Harari was a guiding light who touched the lives of thousands of students and families through his unwavering dedication to countless organizations, including the SCA.

Since our inception, Rabbi Harari has been an integral part of our programming. From leading our Annual Rabbi Dr. Ezra Labaton A”H Tisha BeAb Day of Learning to giving inspiring women’s weekly classes, he embodied a deep passion for Torah, intellectual honesty, commitment to tradition, and an abiding love for Medinat (sovereign land) and Eress Yisrael (land of Israel)—all values at the heart of the SCA. But above all, Rabbi Harari taught with unparalleled humility, warmth, and love for every individual he encountered.

I feel privileged to be among the thousands of students blessed to learn from him, both at the Yeshivah of Flatbush and Bnei Shaare Zion. His passion for learning and the profound lessons he shared remain etched in my memory and continue to inspire me.

Rabbi Raymond Harari, A”H, was a beacon of wisdom and kindness, and his absence will be profoundly felt. May his memory be a blessing and his legacy continue to guide us.

Ricky Novick

President SCA

Rabbi Joseph Beyda

In the early morning hours of October 30, 2024, the Jewish community lost one of its most precious gems. Rabbi Raymond Harari served a variety of roles in the Syrian Jewish Community including Head of School at the Yeshivah of Flatbush Joel Braverman High School and as the Head Rabbi of Congregation Mikdash Eliyahu. He was also part of the rabbinical staff of Ohel Yishak in Allenhurst, NJ and previously served as the spiritual leader of Congregation Bnei Shaare Zion and Congregation Kol Israel.

A humble man, Rabbi Raymond Harari z”l was one of the world’s greatest Torah teachers. Thousands, if not more, learned from him and virtually all would testify that they cherished the experience. An untold number of his students were inspired and uplifted to become Torah teachers themselves. A substantial number of those teachers have grown into master teachers in their own right, expanding by many multiples the influence Rabbi Harari has had. Developing teachers were often advised to “go watch Rabbi Harari” so they could witness his technical mastery of the art of teaching in a classroom.

Following in the tradition of the Rambam, Rabbi Harari believed and lived the idea that silence is golden and that one should be as clear and concise as possible. This created the space that allowed people to learn lessons from him by watching and observing how he conducted himself. He understood that people learn more from one’s actions than words and set a sterling example of what the Torah asks us to be.

Rabbi Jonathan Sacks wrote that “Listening is a profoundly spiritual act, the greatest gift we can give to another human being,” and Rabbi Harari’s humility made him an outstanding listener. In every interaction, he made sure others had the space they needed to express themselves safely. He took in their words but also sensed their emotions–he knew where they were at. Consequently, he was loved by all. Only after listening and processing, would he offer his opinion, choosing his words carefully and always delivered with grace–generating a feeling of dignity for the other person.

Rabbi Harari’s warmth and empathy did not detract from his strong convictions; he always made clear where he stood. Likewise, his physical strength and commitment were legendary. During the Covid-19 pandemic, Rabbi Harari was forbidden by his doctors from entering the school building. Undaunted, a tent was pitched outside the school in which he taught his Gemara (Talmud) class. Despite the need to brave the elements, his students loved the experience – even in sub-freezing temperatures.

Rabbi Harari was a deeply spiritual person with a deep connection to Hashem. His tefillot (prayers) and shofar blowing on Yom Kippur were memorable for the many congregants he led. Frequently, he would make time for students, individually and in groups, to discuss religious, philosophical and theological issues. He was staunchly traditional, knowledgeable and committed to minhag (custom), yet open to innovation at the same time.

However, what truly set Rabbi Harari apart was his vision. He had a rare ability to see the potential in students, teachers and people that few if any others could. It was an acquired skill, something he worked on and honed. In particular, he believed strongly in educational opportunities for women. One of his proudest accomplishments was that one of his female students became the leading teacher of Daf Yomi (Talmud page of the day) for women with over 3,000 daily listeners.

Although he wore many hats – communal rabbi, head of school, counselor – Rabbi Harari referred to himself simply as a “teacher”. In his close to 70 years, he fulfilled this role to the fullest and it is now up to his many students to follow in his ways and continue his legacy.

Yeshivah of Flatbush

“My relationship with Rabbi Raymond Harari goes back for almost two decades, and his influence has been deeply impactful. Both of my daughters were inspired by his Gemara teachings, which they say transformed their lives and helped guide them toward successful paths. As a Yeshivah of Flatbush alumnus, I’ve seen the lasting effect of his wisdom firsthand. The gift he gave my daughters surpasses even what I received, and his ability to inspire across generations is truly remarkable. Rabbi Harari’s teachings continue to shape our family’s journey, and his legacy will stay with us for years to come.”

-Ralph Shamah, President, Yeshivah of Flatbush

Rabbi Joseph Beyda is the Yeshivah of Flatbush Joel Braverman High School Head of School

Sarah Dabbah

How do you celebrate an organization that has helped literally thousands of community members? Or recognize individuals who donated years of their life to be at its helm? On Monday, November 18th, hundreds of supporters gathered to celebrate the 50th Anniversary of SBH by honoring the past and current presidents of the organization.

Congregation Shaare Zion was full of the men and women who each played a part in building SBH into what it is today, including the 10 past and current presidents: Fred Bijou, Dr. Robert Matalon, Joseph D. Beyda a”h, Dr. Mayer Ballas, Sam Sutton, Jeffrey Gindi, Victor Grazi, M.D., Lee M. Cohen, Jack A. Aini, and David J. Beyda.

M.C. Marshall Mizrahi began by introducing SBH President David J. Beyda who kicked off the evening giving each of the presidents a round of applause. Rabbi Benhaim led a very special Hamotzi (blessing of the bread) before Rabbi Eli Mansour took the stage. The rabbi so eloquently shared how SBH helped shape him from his days as a volunteer for holiday packaging during his youth.

After watching a beautiful video tribute to our presidents (available on @sbh_updates Instagram page), former SBH Board Member Rabbi Ozeri took the stage to speak about the selfless dedication it takes to take on the role of president as well as the dedication of our board members and captains. Honorary Board Member Ronnie Tawil then had the privilege to present each president with their award, as well as Mrs. Barbara Beyda who accepted it on behalf of her husband Joseph Beyda a”h. It was truly incredible to see all of these giants together on one stage for probably the first time ever, standing in unison.

President David Beyda took the stage again to share just how much SBH has grown over the last 50 years. “With Hashem’s help, the strength of the community, our dedicated volunteers and staff…SBH will continue to grow, to serve, and to rise to every challenge,” said David. “Because the spirit of service, the commitment to each other is in our DNA and is who we are,” he continued. David touched on some of the many advancements SBH has made over the last several decades, including a full-blown counseling center, the work of our Fertility Division, and announced Lev Hatikvah, a new program that addresses the needs of widows and orphans in the community. David then announced SBH’s big plans for growing its footprint: a complete two-story renovation to the flagship on Kings Highway and the purchase of a new facility for the Tawil Family Jersey Branch.

Equipped with more knowledge of the breadth and depth of SBH’s many, many services, M.C. Marshall Mizrahi showed our audience just how many different people mobilize to help every single client. Through a vignette that demonstrated SBH’s comprehensive holistic approach to serving its clients. Many audience members were left in awe as he took us through a mock case that ended with over two dozen professionals and volunteers involved in helping get that client back on her feet.

Following a video showcasing how we are the ‘Building Our Future’, SBH VP Eddie Rishty presented Charles Anteby with a beautiful award to mark 15 years of his unwavering dedication to the organization and most notably our youth! Rabbi Meyer Yedid then shared his gratitude to SBH who helped him and his family when they arrived to the country.

The night closed with a very special note – literally. We were treated to the world debut of ‘By Your Side’ which was written exclusively for SBH’s 50th featuring community creatives Abe Heaney, Irv Safdieh, Ralph Hanan, Isaac Silvera, Sam Tawil, Albert Ashkenazi and Marshall Mizrahi (also available on our Instagram @sbh_updates!). It truly was an incredible night that left so many motivated to volunteer, support and celebrate SBH!

On a beautiful fall evening, DSN Beach Club demonstrated its unwavering support for Israel with a sophisticated and impactful event titled “Sip, Savor, and Support: A Taste of Israel.” Held at TEVA, DSN’s flagship restaurant, the evening was a true celebration of Israeli culture, TEVA cuisine, and community spirit.

In partnership with Shira Granot, affectionately known as the “wine fairy”, DSN collaborated with the Israel Wine Collection to showcase five renowned Israeli wineries: Agur, Dalton, Drimia, Matar, and Tulip. The event featured over 12 exquisite wines, paired perfectly with Teva Chef Valerio’s mouth-watering culinary creations. Each wine tasting was a journey through Israel’s diverse wine regions, highlighting the obstacles, resilience and creativity of the Israeli people.

As guests mingled and enjoyed the fine wine and delicious food, Shira Granot addressed the crowd, reflecting on the profound impact of the events of October 7 and the ongoing war on Israel’s wineries, lands, people, and businesses. Her heartfelt words resonated deeply with the over 200 attendees, who were eager to show their solidarity and support for Israel’s wine industry during these challenging times. Chuck Mamiye, a committee host for the evening, noted “One year into the war in Gaza, Israel’s wine industry has been heavily impacted since the events of October 7th. Vineyards have been bombed, harvests ruined, and many families’ livelihoods threatened. Despite these hardships, inspiring stories of resilience have emerged from this sector. It’s crucial to remember the sacrifices made by Israeli farms and vineyards. I’m incredibly proud of our community’s dedication to supporting the Israeli wine industry and of DSN’s ongoing commitment to hosting these supportive events.”

To make a tangible difference, attendees were also provided with QR codes, enabling them to purchase wines directly from these featured wineries. This initiative not only supported Israeli businesses but also allowed community members to bring a taste of Israel into their homes.

Adding to the evening’s warmth and elegance, Alexis Cohen, a community member and exceptional baker, generously donated a selection of desserts to complement TEVA’s new fall offerings. The beautiful floral arrangements by Victoria Mamiye and Privet further enhanced the sophisticated atmosphere, while Almar Party Rental ensured the setup was flawless.

The ambiance was elevated even further by the soulful music of Israel Portnoy, whose live performance of Israeli songs, accompanied by his guitar, added a deeply emotional and authentic touch to the evening.

Jamie Dweck, an esteemed photographer in the community, captured the essence of the event, preserving the memories of a night filled with unity, support, and celebration.

Shira Granot said “I want to extend my heartfelt gratitude for the incredible event you organized and for the beautiful work you are doing. It was an absolute pleasure to work with DSN and was truly curated to perfection! It was more than just an event; it was an opportunity to connect with your warm community, which was a real privilege. This event was incredibly meaningful for the wine industry, the opportunity to share their stories and the support you have shown is a game changer in ways I can’t describe. Seeing our shared goals come to life was truly rewarding.” The success of “Sip, Savor, and Support” is a testament to DSN Beach Club’s ongoing commitment to supporting Israel and its people. Through events like these, the Jersey Shore community not only stands in solidarity with Israel, but also actively contributes to its resilience and recovery, one sip and one step at a time.

Reflecting on a Decade of Love, Growth, and Support for Children with Special Needs and their Families

One evening in early 2014, over a dinner that would prove to be life-changing, Meyer and Victoria Safdieh sat with activist Michael Wahba. As parents raising three special children, Meyer and Victoria saw firsthand the unmet needs in the community and expressed a deep concern: “The community does not have enough support for children with special needs.” Watching families struggle with limited resources, that evening the seeds of CARE were planted.

Meyer and Victoria began meeting with other families who also had children with special needs, listening to their stories, their struggles, and their hopes. It was a mission to ensure no family would ever feel alone in navigating this path.

CARE started 10 years ago as a small network of eight families navigating the overwhelming world of special needs. For many, finding support, resources, and understanding felt like an impossible task. But when Meyer and Victoria Safdieh founded CARE, they weren’t just creating an organization—they were creating a lifeline, a place where families could be seen and understood, in moments of both joy and struggle.

Today, CARE serves over 600 families, each unique, each vital to our community and has become the vital hub and the only place families in our community with special needs children turn to for guidance, support, hope and strength.

The journey over the past decade has been one of constant growth and adaptation, as CARE expanded to meet the diverse needs of children with special needs. What began with a few families has blossomed into a comprehensive network of support that reaches far beyond what could have ever been imagined in those early days.

One of CARE’s first initiatives was the creation of sibling support. CARE introduced dedicated programs to make sure siblings felt seen and supported as integral members of the family journey. Today, the sibling support programs includes weekly Sib-Shops providing outlets for bonding and fun—a space for siblings to feel they have a community too. Soon after, CARE began to focus on family and community and began to launch many events and gatherings. These gatherings became spaces where children could connect, share experiences, and find understanding from others walking similar paths. CARE’s community events skillfully integrate the special needs community and the community at large.

CARE’s support does not stop with children and siblings. Over the years, CARE developed a range of parent support programs, nights out and events, creating a haven for parents to unwind, to be heard, and to gain strength from each other. Led by CARE’s founder, Victoria Safdieh, and CARE advisor Rachel Mitrani, our weekly mom support group has become a cornerstone for many of our mothers, helping them navigate the complexities and beauty of raising children with special needs. Each week, parents come together to share triumphs, challenges, and a good laugh, finding community, advice, and friendship.

One of CARE’s major milestones was the opening of the in-house therapy clinic, which currently provides over 50 therapy sessions per week for CARE siblings and parents. This space is dedicated to supporting families with the highest level of care, featuring social workers and professionals that provide vital emotional support for the entire family.

As CARE expanded, the need to do more for teens with autism grew, which led to the launch of the Autism Initiative. This program provides a weekly social group for teen boys, offering them a safe, supportive space to build friendships, develop social skills, and enjoy meaningful activities. Each week, the boys grow in confidence and independence, a testament to what can be accomplished when teens with special needs are given the right support.

In the past year, CARE’s growth continued with the opening of a neuro-screening center and, most recently, the launch of CARE’s Deal branch, bringing essential programs and services to even more families.

CARE’s founders- Michael Wahba, Meyer and Victoria Safdieh, recently reflected on the accomplishments and progress of CARE. “Looking back on these last 10 years, we are filled with gratitude for every family who has joined CARE and allowed us to be a part of their lives, to the entire CARE staff that is available at all hours for the families, and of course for our dear friends and supporters,” said Meyer.

“CARE has become what it is today because of its foundation of strength, compassion and love. We are more than just an organization; we are a community, a family, a source of comfort and hope,” said Victoria.

From the first eight families to over 600 today, from special needs programs to regional expansion, CARE’s journey has only just begun! “To every family who has walked with us, thank you for your trust and for letting us be part of your lives,” said Michael.

As CARE looks forward to the next decade, they are committed Be’ezrat Hashem to grow, to adapt, and to reach more families that have a child with special needs, because to CARE, at the heart of it all is one mission: every child and every family, deserves to feel supported and loved. q

The following story is an excerpt from our new book, SBH: 50 Years in the Making. We’re thrilled to announce this exciting new project and to share the story of one of our community’s most vital and distinguished organizations. This book will feature never-before-seen interviews with past presidents and archival documents that capture the magic and wisdom of SBH’s leaders and volunteers. Dive into the history of SBH, from its humble beginnings in a living room to the absolute force it is today. SBH’s story is as captivating as the individuals and teams who were integral to it, and we are so excited to share it with all of you. Our hope is for this book to live inside every community home, to pay tribute to our past and inspire our leaders of tomorrow.

By Esther Chehebar

On Monday, November 18th, SBH is hosting its 50th Anniversary Gala honoring the past and current presidents of SBH. To learn more about the dinner and journal sponsorship opportunities, contact Charlest@sbhonline.org or visit www.sbh50.com

CHAPTER 3

THE EARLY DAYS OF VISITING

Back when SBH was in its infancy and the only uniting principle was to visit the sick and elderly in hospitals, Fred Bijou walked into the room of a man he respected very much; there he found Hacham David Shammah in a “snakepit” ward, surrounded by seven other patients. The situation was intolerable to Fred. He realized he needed to do something, ASAP. In addition to mobilizing more volunteers, SBH’s financial committee – as it was then called began fundraising. It wasn’t easy. Many did not believe that such poverty existed in our community, let alone the very real pandemic of loneliness. Others were ashamed to admit that they knew somebody in need or were resistant to the idea all together. With tenacity and perseverance SBH was finally able to raise the funds and move Hacham David Shammah home as well as hire a nurse to care for him. And SBH as we know it was born. As of 2023, SBH houses over a dozen divisions which address everything from fertility to career choice to medical and senior services. There are over 75 therapists in SBH’s employ and the organization fields, on average, 300 calls a week from community members in need of assistance. At times it can feel impossible to identify which moments propelled SBH from one stratosphere to the next. But one thing is certain: the SBH of today exists because somebody knocked on a stranger’s door.

“Fred Bijou created something from nothing, and he did it with a lot of pushback.”

Barbara Matalon

MICKY’S LIST

Barbara Matalon and Gloria Bijou are a part of SBH’s DNA. They began visiting patients in the hospital together with their husbands, and were present at those very first meetings in Fred Bijou’s living room. At the time, Barbara Matalon was just twenty two years old and had three young babies at home. Still, SBH’s mission was a calling she could not walk away from. Barbara had been doing hospital visits for a few months when Micky Kairey’s list changed everything. Micky and Barbara were in the car on the way home from a hospital visit when he turned to her and said: “You know, there are people at home that you really need to visit. Start with this one.” Micky had been entrusted with a list of widows and orphans that originated from Ma’oz La’ebyon in Syria. Quietly, and on his own, Micky had been taking care of scores of people, community members who were privately suffering, hidden from the mainstream. Together with Linda Benun and Gloria Bijou, Barbara Matalon began taking on cases from that original list.

FROM HOSPITALS TO HOMES

HIDDEN IN PLAIN VIEW

Every SBH client was connected to a mainstream community person is some way or another; it just wasn’t spoken about. Not only that, many were skeptical that the need for a social services organization in our community existed at all. On their very first home visit, Barbara and Linda trekked up five flights of stairs to visit an elderly woman with no siblings. With no hired help or childcare at home, Barbara and Linda brought their babies along, as they would continue to do on most visits. The client, a 97-year-old lovely lady who stood no taller than four feet tall, opened the door with great excitement, “You came to visit me? How lucky am I!” Barbara still remembers how the woman cooked an entire shabbat meal in countless. tiny pots, all for herself. “Everything was a beracha to her.” Barbara recalled.

“The captains would catch things. One woman was smart enough to realize her client had a stroke when nobody else had noticed. Indeed, he did have one and was able to get help. “

-Barbant Matalon

The pair did everything from offer mental and physical support, to washing dishes… Barbara recalled one particularly difficult visit: “We rolled up our sleeves and began scrubbing pots as [the client] lay under piles of covers because she had no heat. There were tins of cat food all over the floor and no cat to be found. When we asked her why she simply replied: ‘Because it’s cheaper.”

THE HOME VISIT CREW RECRUITS VOLUNTEERS

Barbara, Linda, Gloria and Sandy Esses all. juggled young families while visiting 1-2 times a week. They realized they needed to recruit more volunteers. Barbara soon had seventy women in her living room eager to help. Hacham Baruch’s wife was one of them. Gloria Bijou’s mother-in-law was another.

SBH was barely a year old when Passover rolled around, and the harsh reality that many clients would not be able to have a seder, materialized. What would it take to make a seder plate for each one? The team wondered. Ideas began firing off at all cylinders.

We’ll make the berachot!

Gloria will cook the meals!

What would it cost?

$2,000: Money they didn’t have.

The next day, Fred Bijou opened his mail slot to find a banker’s check for $2,000. They never found out where it came from. But in the years that followed small miracles like this would happen time and time again, helping SBH attain the unattainable.

On another hard visit, Barbara and Linda decided to leave their children at home. They knew that this case would be tough, even for them. They knocked on Rosie’s door, but nobody answered.

They knocked some more, and could hear shuffling coming from the other side of the door. They continued to wait until finally, Rosie had dragged herself across the floor to open the door. The sight was shocking. The floor was soiled and the apartment was a mess. But Linda and Barbara continued the visit and told Rosie that they would be back again next week. The following week they knocked on the door, expecting the same wait and litter on the other side. Instead, Rosie answered the door immediately, fully dressed, her makeup and hair done. The apartment was completely clean. In just one week they had seen what their visit had done for this client.

THE YOUTH GET INVOLVED

During the early days of visiting SBH operated out of its original office at 530 Avenue R. Linda and Gloria decided to try and involve the high school students by prompting them to make Purim packages. This led to the students delivering the packages and paying a visit at the same time.

It’s difficult to imagine just how revolutionary this was. Today, there are countless community organizations and individuals who make and deliver packages for any and all occasions. However back then, it wasn’t nearly as common, if at all!

The kids were inspired to do Hesed and learned invaluable life skills in the process; how to be compassionate, respectful and inclusive of those different from you.