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CREATE YOUR BEST LIFE THIS YEAR

RABBI EZRA MAX

ON ROSH HASHANAH, EVERYONE IN THE WORLD IS JUDGED. YOU ARE ADVISED TO IMAGINE DOING A BALANCING ACT ON A SCALE WITH EXACTLY EQUAL GOOD AND BAD ON EITHER SIDE. THE BAR IS LEVEL AND A TINY NUDGE WILL TIP YOU TOWARD ONE SIDE. EVERY SINGLE ACTION YOU TAKE HAS THE POWER TO TIP THE SCALE TOWARDS GOOD, WHICH MEANS LIFE, OR THE OTHER WAY, BAD, MEANING DEATH.

Truth: You are an incredible human being with the ability to do amazing things. You have the entire world here to support you. Bishvili Nivara Haolam (the world was created for you). Yes, there are likely stressors, struggles, issues, challenges and even potentially traumatic events in your past. All of it was designed specifically for you to help you create an incredible future.

The Almighty loves you and wants you to have an incredible life. He created all the different situations you faced and the different capacities you have for you to develop something extraordinary. Your past actions inform, but don’t determine your future. Your choices do!

Alan, a young man I spoke with last week, is building a company. He has an innovative idea and aims to build not just a million dollar company, but a billion dollar company. I asked him the same question I would ask you, “what’s your reason and purpose?” We dug into an equation highlighting human motivations. Avoiding pain and seeking pleasure. I shared that the best way to constantly be in that zone is with purpose and passion. Because even when you have a struggle, if you’re doing something you are purposeful or passionate about, then even being in that pain, and moving out of it, is actually a pleasure. You too can use this equation to succeed.

G-d is with you in your challenges and struggles. Your happiness is directly proportional to the challenges and struggles. Take them in stride and come out the other side smiling.

The world is recovering from an epidemic and we’re still suffering the side effects. People got very sick, and some passed away. It was scary and overwhelming. The real epidemic is binge-watching and mindless social scrolling. The travesty is that people stopped using time productively and stopped aiming for their potential. The worst loss is not bringing your innate talents and abilities to the fore. You are here for a powerful and impactful reason. You’re here to make a difference—for yourself, your family, your business, and the world. This is essential work, which cannot get done if you are watching a Netflix season, mindlessly scrolling on Instagram, Facebook, or Youtube. Those platforms have a use. We’re supposed to use them for our benefit. Instead, billions of dollars are being invested in these platforms daily to steal your heart, mind and soul.

Choose, decide now, and declare: “This year, I will take steps forward and develop towards my greatness. I will be the best version of myself this year, next year and the year after. I will take someone, or someones, with me.” It’s lonely at the top and nobody likes to be lonely. Bring along a friend or family member, a partner and commit to supporting each other in developing your best year yet.

Replace the wasted time, online or off, by feeding your mind and nourishing your connections. Read, study, listen to a class, interview, or podcast and gain knowledge. Watch something like a Ted talk that will give you insight and teach you instead of wasting your life with fake news, Hollywood and anxiety.

BONUS: Set a timer, take notes and share your lessons with a trusted partner.

Remember, “Failing to Plan is Planning to Fail.”

Imagine your life feels like an incredible balance beam, like a see-saw, with equally good and bad on either side. This means that you will see the value and impact of each of your actions for yourself and in the world. This means that everything you do truly matters. There’s no such thing as “passive” that doesn’t make a difference because it all does.

We don’t look back on Rosh Hashanah and cry about past struggles or mistakes. We don’t say I’m sorry for the bad stuff that we did or the things that we didn’t do. Instead, we declare and commit to our futures. This Rosh Hashanah, you have the power, control, and ability to choose a better future—for yourself, your family, and the world. This year, you can upgrade and be a more significant and better person. You can embrace the challenges and struggles of becoming outstanding. Because when you do this, and I wish you do, you will enjoy the most incredible ride of your life.

Blessing for a Shana Tova Umetuka—A Happy, Healthy, Joyous And Sweet New Year.

Rabbi Ezra Max, PCC, MHMP, Xchange Guide & Creator of “The Max Method” assists businesses and professionals deal with stress and achieve success. Rabbi Max has witnessed 20 years of results helping executives, parents and teens overcome struggles, improve communication and thrive. He lives in New York with his wife and five children.

BE’ER HAGOLAH INSTITUTES ALUMNI MISSION TO ISRAEL

IN SOME SCHOOLS THE EDUCATION BEGINS AND ENDS IN THE CLASSROOM. OTHER SCHOOLS ADD EXTRACURRICULAR EDUCATIONAL AND SOCIAL ACTIVITIES. BUT BE’ER HAGOLAH DEMONSTRATED WITH THE ISRAEL MISSION THAT ONCE YOU’RE A STUDENT, YOU ARE IN THE BHI FAMILY FOR LIFE.

That is how Rabbi Tully Bryks, the director of admissions of Ohr Somayach described his impression after hosting the BHI alumni mission to Israel. Heavily subsidized by Olami International and Ohr Somayach, the BHI alumni mission brought together 19 young alumni for two weeks of jam-packed days filled with incredible activities, inspiring and uplifting Torah study, and new relationships that will last a lifetime.

The days began with praying, breakfast and Torah classes from the likes of Rabbi Yitzchak Breitowitz, Rabbi Yitzchak Greenblatt, Rabbi Dovid Kaplan, Rabbi Guy Matalon, and Rabbi Tully Bryks. These rabbis brought the Torah alive, explained many fundamental concepts and fanned the spark of Torah in the hearts of the young men, a number of whom are considering a year of full time Torah study in yeshiva in Israel.

In the afternoons, the boys had an opportunity to experience the width and breadth of the Holy Land. The first Shabbat was spent in Yerushalayim with the participation of the Dean, Rabbi Mordechai German and Rabbi Michoel Grunhut, a BHI high school rabbi. A special highlight was davening Friday night at the Kotel with thousands of Jews in unison.

Rabbi Mordechai Fishman, the Be’er Hagolah boys’ division principal, reported that one of the highlights was Shabbat in Tzefat. Seeing the kevarim of the tanaim (graves of rabbinical sages) brought the Torah learning alive. The tour of the Old City of Tzefat, gave the boys a sense of our history. The visits to nearby Meron and Amukah brought out the spark of connection with Hashem through the powerful tefilot. Kabalat Shabbat on a porch with the sun setting in the background made the radiance of Shabbat envelope everyone as they got swept up in song. After davening, they walked the streets of Tzefat and sang and danced with random Jews in the street. They ate the seudat Shabbat in an ancient room with an arched ceiling whose echoing of the tones of the zemirot (songs) Shabbat only added to the energy and feelings of Shabbat kodesh. They also saw the Abuhav and Arizals Shul as well as the famous Kivrei Tzadikim and Arizals mikveh.

Rabbi Bryks noted that these trips offer students a chance to connect with their soul. They ask deep questions as they grow in their connection to Hashem and find their place in Judaism. “This group was different from the typical group,” said Rabbi Bryks, “because the Be’er Hagolah students have a background in Judaism and Torah study to some extent, and they came as a cohesive group which allowed us to skip the first few ‘icebreaker’ days we usually have in these missions. You can see their affinity to their rabbis, and the strong mutual bond. They all wanted pictures with their Rosh Yeshiva, Rabbi German and they were all so proud for him to see their spiritual growth. Rabbi Fishman was there for them day and night. He served every role from educator to organizer and everything else in between. Judaism encompasses the spiritual, emotional and physical and you were able to see the support and ahavat Yisroel (love for fellew Jews) from all the BHI staff members. It was inspiring for us.”

The boys went ATVing, visited the Institute of Technology, toured the City of David, enjoyed eating out, and went shopping for souvenirs in Geulah.

Most importantly, they charged themselves with spiritual energy and deepened their connection with Hashem and His Holy Torah and Land.

MELAMEDET’S 2ND ANNUAL GIRLS’ NIGHT OF LEARNING WITH OUR TEACHERS-IN-TRAINING

ESTHER BETESH

ON THURSDAY EVENING, JULY 28TH, THE JUDAIC STUDIES TEACHERS-IN-TRAINING AT MELAMEDET HAD AN INCREDIBLE OPPORTUNITY TO GIVE BACK TO THE COMMUNITY. UP UNTIL THIS POINT, THEY HAD BEEN WORKING HARD THROUGHOUT THE PREVIOUS YEARS OF THE PROGRAM, TAKING COURSES RANGING FROM “TEACHING NAVI” TO “CURRICULUM DEVELOPMENT” TO “TECHNOLOGY IN THE CLASSROOM.”

They had heard from many leaders and teachers in the field of Jewish Education, observed a variety of classes, and practiced creating and giving their own classes to one another. On this meaningful night of Torah classes for the girls of our community, it was time to take everything that they had learned and give it all back. Thank G-d, we had such a successful event last summer, and this year once again the teachers-in-training were ready with detailed source sheets, positivity, love, and the desire to inspire and be true role models. Students from 5th grade all the way to high school came to the classes with enthusiasm, curiosity, and excitement, but what they left with was even more special.

The Melamedet teachers-in-training gave meaningful, interesting, and vibrant Torah classes. They captured hearts and minds, keeping their students engaged, involved, asking questions, and requesting that Melamedet offer more classes in the future. The Melamedet teachers-in-training left that night feeling grateful for the opportunity to give back.

The community girls left with a deeper love of Torah and a beautiful connection to amazing community role models.

Melamedet is blessed to be a part of the next generation of community educators in Jewish Education. We are looking forward to another amazing semester including some incredible new students this fall, Be’H (with G-d’s help)!

Here is what some of our students had to say about the beautiful night of learning:

Judy Elmann: “I thought last year’s class was too good to be true, but this year was just as enjoyable, if not more! As soon as I started teaching, the words just flowed out. The fifth and sixth grade girls who attended my class were thrilled to be there and participate even in the middle of the summer. It was so empowering to give such a successful class. I can’t wait for the next one, B”H!”

Sally Choueka: “Every summer brings new experiences, and I genuinely look forward to teaching the girls who attend our night of learning. After a year of learning new content and new skills, I was excited to give it my all. We learned, we talked, we discovered. I can’t wait for next year; thank you Melamedet for the platform!”

Mary Jajati: “What an honor learning Torah and teaching Torah to the special girls of our community! We’re so thankful for the opportunity; it was a pleasure!”

Eileen Dweck: “The night of learning was so special! I’m so grateful for the opportunity to teach in such a comfortable setting.”

We would like to add a special thank you to Bet Rachel Synagogue for hosting us.

Esther Betesh is the director of Melamedet, a teacher training program in Jewish education. She teaches at multiple community yeshivot and institutions, and is a doctoral candidate for Jewish education and administration at Yeshiva University.

SSC GRADUATES 16 NEW RABBIS

SARINA ROFFÉ

WHEN COVID CAME TO THE WORLD, EVERYTHING CLOSED DOWN FOR TWO YEARS. NOBODY KNEW WHAT THE CONSEQUENCES WOULD BE IN SYNAGOGUES AND EDUCATIONAL INSTITUTIONS. FROM HIS HOME, RABBI SAM KASSIN, DEAN OF SHEHEBAR SEPHARDIC CENTER (SSC) IN JERUSALEM, CONTACTED PEOPLE WORLDWIDE WHO WERE INTERESTED IN BECOMING RABBIS AND EDUCATORS AND BUILT A PROGRAM FOR THEM.

He worked with Rabbi Yaakov Benizri to develop an online semicha program that lasted 18 to 24 months. Rabbi Benizri taught classes several times a week over Whatsapp, Youtube and Zoom. As a result, 16 outstanding students received their diplomas and began their work spreading Judaism throughout the world.

The graduation of these new rabbis was held on Monday, August 8th. The students came from India, Germany, Hungary, Singapore, Italy and the United States to receive their rabbinical ordination and celebrate at a gala dinner at Montefiore Hall in Jerusalem, a grand hall in the Old City overlooking the Western Wall.

Among the 200 plus people who attended were several of Israel’s chief rabbis, dignitaries, ministers, Knesset members and other top education leaders.

The new rabbis have been studying diligently during the past few years to earn their Rabbinical Degree so they can serve the Jewish people in their countries. Most of them are businessmen who wanted to get their ordination in order to go into Jewish education in their communities. In addition, seven Ethiopian students graduated as scribes.

At the end of the semicha ceremony, there was an explosion of unstoppable dancing among the attendees. People were very overjoyed about the occasion.

Ricky Cohen (l) receives his semicha certificate
from Rabbi Sam Kassin and Rabbi Tuvia Keil
Rabbi Jonathan Goldschmidt, received a new level of semicha. He is moving from his position in Cochin to the Philippines.

THE GRADUATES WHO TRAVELED TO JERUSALEM

Ricky Cohen, Brooklyn
Zac Gindi, Deal
Micha Yerushalmi, Hungary
Yochanan Canfield, Sarasota, FL
Maurice Zalta, USA
Netanel Yaacobov, Germany
David Hayak, Singapore
Benyamin Pereira, Colombia
Abi Bitton, New York

GRADUATES FROM ISRAEL WHO HAVE ALREADY BEEN PLACED IN COMMUNITIES

Akiva Ben Ezra, Durban, South Africa
Aryeh Attias, Albuefiira, Portugal
Simcha Rubinov, Queens, New York
Yosef Deil, Milano, Italy
Jonathan Goldschmidt, Philippines (formerly in Cochin, India)

Since its inception in 1980, the SSC has grown into a world renowned institution with an outstanding reputation for high quality programs. It has become a resource for Sephardic communities worldwide to identify rabbis, dayans, teachers, mohels, shochets and spiritual leadership.

Founded by Rabbi Sam Kassin with the help of Rabbi Eliyahu Shamoula A”H, the SSC yeshiva in the Old City has grown from a small kollel with 10 students into a thriving rabbinical school. It has grown in number, scope, reach and purpose into the present day Shehebar Sephardic Center and global outreach program that has placed over 400 rabbis.

Seen as the global source for Sephardic training, Rabbi Kassin fields calls and emails daily from Diaspora Jewish communities looking for rabbinic leadership to build a kahal, lead holiday services, to teach in a school, or to oversee the kashrut of a restaurant. Rabbi Kassin spends one third of his time traveling to visit communities, meeting the leadership and helping them identify a rabbi who fits their needs. No matter what the need, the SSC fills the void by sending its graduates to the remotest towns or the most highly populated cities, to serve and inspire the people there.

A genealogist and historian, Sarina Roffé is the author of Branching Out from Sepharad (Sephardic Heritage Project, 2017). She holds a BA in Journalism, and MA in Jewish Studies and an MBA.

CONSIDER A NEW CAREER THIS NEW YEAR

DAVID HOORY, CLF®, LUTCF®

WITH THE NEW YEAR UPON US, MANY PEOPLE USE THIS TIME TO REFLECT ON LIFE CHOICES. CONSIDER THE AMAZING OPPORTUNITIES AVAILABLE TO DIRECTLY AFFECT THE COMMUNITY YOU LIVE IN. CULTIVATING YOUR CAREER AS AN INSURANCE AND FINANCIAL PROFESSIONAL MIGHT BE A CHANGE WORTH CONSIDERING. HERE’S WHERE YOU’LL START.

After connecting with a recruiter, you’ll participate in a thorough interview process. It may seem lengthy, but it’s important to make sure that this is the right choice for you. Once the interview process is complete, you’ll obtain your licenses, and, once you’re on board, you’ll start training for your new career.

CONNECTING THE DOTS
As part of your training, you’ll begin developing your own book of business by promoting yourself to people you already know—friends, family, and colleagues. Our work is founded on relationships. It’s never been easier to start a successful career as an insurance and financial professional because people have never been so connected. Take a look at your phone. You’ll be surprised how big your network already is and how far it can take you.

WHAT YOU MAKE IS UP TO YOU
Let’s be clear. This is not a 9-to-5 job with a set salary. You will be building your own practice, but with help from us. Your commissions are generated from what you sell, so the more you produce, the higher your income. It’s empowering to know that you don’t have to wait for your boss to give you a raise. You’re in complete control of your success.

David Hoory

GET A LITTLE HELP ALONG THE WAY
We understand that it takes time to learn our business and to build a client base that can sustain your lifestyle and family. That’s why we offer a Training Allowance Subsidy (TAS) Plan that can provide an additional source of income during your first two years as a full-time insurance and financial professional at New York Life.

THIS IS A CAREER FOR THE LONG-TERM
Insurance and financial services are at the heart of our business, and it’s the people who sell our products, and help their communities, that are the key to our ongoing success. We understand the importance of a vibrant sales force and we’re committed to its growth. Plus, as an insurance and financial professional at New York Life, you’ll benefit from the stability and reputation of working with a recognized and respected leader in the industry. We’ve been serving the insurance and financial needs of Americans for more than 175 years. It’s a history of achievement that you can be proud to be a part of.

Together let’s explore promising sales career opportunities for you at New York Life. Help secure your community’s financial future as well as your own. It’s time to be in business for yourself, but not by yourself. Contact me today to learn more. Make the most of this New Year with a new career.

New York Life is an Equal Opportunity Employer –
M/F/Veteran/Disability/Sexual Orientation/Gender Identity

David Hoory, CLF®, LUTCF®
Managing Partner
Brooklyn General Office
New York Life Insurance Company
390 Berry St. 4th Floor
Brooklyn, NY 11249
(718) 486-4601
dhoory@ft.newyorklife.com

SAKA DENTAL SPA’S GRAND OPENING IN THE HEART OF LONG BRANCH

ON JULY 15TH, AFTER OVER A YEAR OF PLANNING, REVISING, AND BUILDING, THE COMMUNITY CELEBRATED THE BEAUTIFUL GRAND OPENING OF A NEW STATE-OF-THE-ART DENTAL PRACTICE, SAKA DENTAL SPA, LOCATED AT THE CHABAD OF THE SHORE, IN LONG BRANCH, NJ.

On this beautiful Friday morning, major pillars of the community, including Mayor John Pallone, Chief Rabbi Saul Kassin, Rabbi Label Shapiro, Harry Adjmi, Mark Massry, Gayle Krost, and Sammy Saka joined Dr. Saka in the ribbon cutting ceremony.

Dr. Sammy Saka is the creator and operator of Saka Dental Spa. His intent was not just to open a dental practice, rather he wanted to create an environment where patients look forward to sitting in the dental chair, rather than fearing it.

Dr. Saka is a Hillel Yeshiva High School graduate. He received his undergraduate degree in chemistry from Monmouth University and earned his Doctor of Dental Medicine degree from Rutgers School of Dental Medicine. Following dental school, he completed his one-year residency at Montefiore Medical Center in the Bronx.

After working for several years in Matawan, Dr. Saka decided it was time to represent his community and open his own practice a mile from his childhood home. With the establishment of Saka Dental Spa, Dr. Saka has created a luxury dental office in the heart of Long Branch with the intention of giving back to the people who have given so much.

Dr. Saka explained, “the community has given so much to me and represents something so close to all of us. To create an office in the heart of it all and to be given the opportunity to serve everyone is my life’s goal and passion.”

Saka Dental Spa is now open and seeing new patients. Make an appointment today. Call 732-800-9178, or visit their website at sakadentalspa.com.

DSN’S YOUNG ADULT MISSION TO ISRAEL WAS A RESOUNDING SUCCESS

DSN WENT INTERNATIONAL WITH A TEN-DAY HESED MISSION TO ISRAEL FOR YOUNG ADULTS. IT WAS A PHYSICAL, SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL JOURNEY OF A LIFETIME.

DSN partnered with Camp Gesher, a day camp in Israel for the children of the Neve Michael Children’s Village in Pardes Hana. The village hosts at-risk children who have been removed from dysfunctional families due to various types of abuse or neglect. DSN’s young adults traveled across the globe to be camp counselors for the children.

Rabbi Chaim Levy, the founder of Camp Gesher, worked with DSN’s staff and a committee of young adults: Sonia Dweck, David Cohen, Henry Barnathan, Jill Mamiye and Joe Gindi to prepare for this historic trip.

One week before the trip, the young adults attended a barbeque orientation, hosted by Jill Mamiye. Rabbi Levy, who had traveled to Deal from Israel, spoke to them about the significant responsibilities of their upcoming trip, and at the same time assured them that they would have loads of fun. Eric Sigoura, DSN’s Director of Security, explained that he would be traveling with the group to ensure their safety and security.

Upon arrival at camp, each young adult was paired up with two campers. Then the fun started! Camp activities during the week included visiting Yarn Park Tel Aviv, Skytown Climbing, a water hike in Ein Chardalit, Superland Amusement Park in Rishon L’zion and Carnival Day, where all the counselors set up and volunteered at stations including foam blasting, face painting and bouncy slides. A beautiful Shabbat weekend in the heart of Jerusalem was arranged by DSN with catered meals.

Lydia Haddad, one of the young adults, decided to write down her feelings about the trip. Here’s what she wrote. “Growing up, I’ve always done some small acts of hesed. Whether it would be delivering food to people in need, taking a special child for ice cream, helping around my house or matching couples together, I never felt the feeling I did when taking care of my campers on the DSN Camp Gesher trip. Going into the trip, I really had no idea what to expect. Yes, I do have younger siblings, but I was never of age to take care of them. I knew that by accepting to volunteer on the trip, I was going to be taking care of kids and that made me quite nervous. But I also knew that whenever I put my mind, heart, and soul into something, I was always able to accomplished it. Before the trip, we were asked to choose the age group we wanted. I had the choice of taking care of kids from ages seven to nine or ages ten to twelve. I was placed with two beautiful 7 year old, female campers. On the first day, we walked into the camp to meet our campers. We played a little game where the campers had to look for us. They knew what color eyes we had, what hair color, what shoe size, and how tall we were. My campers, being the smart little girls they were, found me in just minutes. Meeting them and watching them run into my arms was a feeling I cannot even describe. After just one day, we exchanged phone numbers and sat together on the bus. I helped them overcome their moments of fear during activities, we taught each other Hebrew and English, I learned about their lives, we laughed together, cried together, ate together, danced together and so much more. When dropping them off at camp at the end of day one, I already couldn’t wait to go back the next day to see them run into my arms again. Being an adolescent, it is very hard to wake up early. But once my alarm went off, I was up and out of bed ready to make a change in my campers’ lives. As days went on, we became closer and closer. We learned more about each other and created amazing memories together. In a blink of an eye, I realized I never wanted to leave them. I went from being nervous about taking care of kids, to wishing that the trip would last forever. Not only did I never want to leave my campers, but I also didn’t want to leave all of the new friends I made, including Rabbi Levy. The reason we all felt so connected was because of the mindset Rabbi Levy taught us from day one. He was open, honest, caring and made us feel like we were home. That being said, since I returned home, I have not missed a day speaking and FaceTiming with my beautiful campers. This trip made me realize the important things in life. Not only did we do hesed, but we all learned about ourselves in ways we’d never thought. If I could go back in time and do it all over again, I would. But of course, that is not an option so—until next year!

After the trip, the bonds between all the young adults continued to grow and flourish. Lydia Haddad hosted a mazza at her house only three days after the trip! The group learned about themselves and grew in unexpected, beautiful ways. Another participant, Lydia Cohen, explained, “This trip was truly a life changing experience. I am grateful to DSN and Gesher for giving us the opportunity to learn, grow and help find the right balance in our lives!”

By the time it was all over, Rabbi Levy was ecstatic with the results. “There is nothing more fulfilling than seeing the young adults of today take ownership of something and make a difference. That’s what happened on this trip. Forty-two young adults became one unit—an army of hesed.”

Sammy Sitt, DSN’s Executive Director, summarized. “It was truly an honor for DSN to arrange this most special trip. We provided our young adults with an exhilarating experience where they not only helped others who are less fortunate, but they learned about the potential of their own capabilities. We are very proud of each of them. With Hashem’s help, we continue to see that there are no boundaries to what DSN can do to make our community the best in the world!”

LEGENDS VOL. 2: A BEAUTIFUL TRIBUTE TO OUR COMMUNITY

Sarah Sarway Dabbah

ON FRIDAY, AUGUST 12, SBH CELEBRATED THE LAUNCH OF LEGENDS VOL. 2 AT THE BEAUTIFUL HOME OF ESTER AND JOEY JEROME. LEGENDS VOL. 2 IS THE SECOND IN A SERIES OF PHOTOGRAPHIC COLLECTIONS BY SUSAN MENASHE, THE TALENTED PHOTOGRAPHER WHO HAS BEEN CAPTURING THE FACES OF OUR COMMUNITY FOR DECADES.

This book was generously dedicated by the Jerome family, in memory of Ruth and Lou Jerome A”H and in honor of Paulette and Morris Bailey, as well as by the Shamie family in memory of Louis Shamie A”H and in honor of Lorraine Shamie.

The book is filled with portraits of our community’s elders, posing alone, with their spouses, cousins, siblings and even grandchildren. Each page features a gorgeous portrait that captures a piece of the subject’s personality, along with a beautiful quote or fun fact. The back of the book includes lengthy and interesting bios about each of the LEGENDS, with details ranging from the names of their family members to their most notable childhood memories growing up in the community. The book truly is a special piece of art that belongs in every community home.

The launch was held on a beautiful sunny morning by the sea. Attendees were able to purchase a book and have it signed by Susan on-site. The gallery wall featured all of the portraits from the book. A very special part of the day was when the LEGENDS themselves saw their portraits hanging up on the wall. Many (happy) tears were shed as family members took pictures with the photos of their loved ones who are no longer with us. It truly was special to see. Following opening remarks by SBH’s own Charles Anteby and SBH President David Beyda, we had an opportunity to hear from Joey Shamie and Susan Menashe about the process behind the book. Proceeds from the book benefit SBH and will be used to help those in need.

Sarah Dabbah is the Director of Marketing at SBH.

IS A RECESSION COMING?

ARI BAUM CFP®

WE KNOW RECESSIONS ARE INEVITABLE. WHEN THEY HAPPEN, THE SCARY NEWS IS BLASTING ON CABLE 24/7. YOUR FRIENDS, NEIGHBORS, AND COLLEAGUES MIGHT PANIC ONCE THEY SEE THEIR PORTFOLIOS DROPPING, AND TO MAKE MATTERS WORSE—IT’S UNLIKELY THAT THE NEXT RECESSION WILL LOOK LIKE THE LAST ONE—SO HOW DO YOU KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT?

To the savvy (and well-prepared) investor, a recession can be a financial gift. They allow prices to pull back and bubbles to deflate. Smart investors have the chance to buy on sale, taking advantage of bargains when others panic, selling because they weren’t prepared.

The market bottom of the last pre-pandemic recession was March 9, 2009, but no one knew that at the time. For all investors knew, the market had farther to fall. We only know that was the bottom in hindsight.

It’s not likely to be high-flying dot-com stocks or the financial sector that take the economy down next time. What will it be? No one knows for sure, but whatever it is, it’s coming.

The good news in all the uncertainty is something wealthy individuals have long known: there are juicy opportunities hiding in the dips. Easy to say, but what about when the next recession arrives?

The trick is to keep your head level and stay alert. When you have the right tools, it’s possible to seize opportunities to make money and avoid the ugly mistakes that average investors tend to make during hard times.

Escape Lever #1: How exposed are you?
If you’re early in your working career and all of your investments are designated for retirement, you’re able to ride out the inevitable recession with a portfolio that’s entirely invested for growth. You just have to avoid panicking and selling out.

In this case, you’re a couple of decades away from needing the money. Staying invested through a nasty experience like the Great Recession, can potentially lead to a much larger portfolio later when markets recover.

On the other hand, if you’re closer to retirement, you can’t afford for your entire portfolio to drop right when you need to start withdrawing money. That means having some money in other assets like cash and bonds.

Escape Lever #2: Flex your flexibility
When it comes to buying cars, clothes, and even vacations, what are the three magic words all purchasers love to hear? “It’s on sale.” Yet too many investors start pushing the panic button and selling when the stock market goes on sale.

Stock dips (and yes, crashes) are the time to scoop up some potential bargains. To paraphrase Warren Buffett, be greedy when others are fearful and fearful when others are greedy.

Just make sure that you’ve still got your cushions against the freefall of the market. Don’t deplete your protection against stock market dips. Keep your hedges intact and your income flowing.

Ugly Mistake #1: Investing with your heart and not your head
Contrary to popular belief, acting like an ostrich and sticking your head in the sand may not be a bad way to deal with a recession! It helps to ignore the financial news because it’s going to be full of gloom and doom in a recession.

Many investors turn paper losses into real ones by making the mistake of panicking and selling at the wrong time—after prices have already started dropping. When recessions arrive, it’s easy to be paralyzed by fear and stop investing completely. This happens even to smart people!

Wealthy investors know that it’s too easy to get caught up in the fear around a recession, and so they hire professionals who have been through recessions to help prevent them from leaping off the ledge. They also diversify their portfolios when necessary, so that they can sleep at night knowing that a stock market drop won’t wipe out the value of their portfolio.

It’s very easy to get greedy when prices are rising and fearful when prices are falling. But smart investors find ways to stay out of the fray so they can focus on building wealth for themselves.

Ugly Mistake #2: Going it alone
When recessions arrive, things can get really ugly very quickly. It’s hard to tell exactly when the recession has arrived, since the economic data takes a while. Market drops don’t always predict a recession, either. Is a one-day market drop just the start of a massive plummet to the bottom—or is it just a blip?

Doing it yourself looks fine when prices are on the upswing, because a rising tide lifts all boats, but when the seas get rough, and your portfolio may be threatening to overturn during the onslaught, experienced deckhands can help keep you afloat.

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HOW TO KEEP YOUR JOB AFTER COVID

BARRY COHEN

SO, YOU’VE BEEN HIRED—NOW WHAT? STUDIES HAVE BEEN DONE ABOUT NEW EMPLOYEES WHO PERFORM EXCEPTIONALLY WELL ON THE JOB. THE STUDIES SHOWED THAT PEOPLE WHO MAINTAIN THEIR JOBS AND GET SALARY INCREASES AREN’T JUST ORDINARY PEOPLE—THEY ARE EXTRAORDINARY PEOPLE.

How you perform on the job and your overall attitude, rather than your skill level, usually have an impact on whether you get promoted or get let go.

Understand that your hiring was not a mistake and that your qualifications are valued and in demand by your company. However, if you’ve been working from home for a significant amount of time, there might be a reluctance on your part to return to your office in light of COVID. Realize that your employer might ask you to return to the office to continue your duties for the organization to go on and prosper. This is the time for you to negotiate a favorable outcome that satisfies both of you. If you dig your heels in the sand and refuse to return, you may be signing your own termination and appear to be a disgruntled employee which no one wants.

You can offer to work virtually from home several days per week, checking in daily. Offer to “meet” with customers or your employer by Zoom to maintain your relationship. Give yourself a quota and establish a goal that you want to achieve each week, with your employer. If you insist on not returning to the office, you can be charged with job abandonment and terminated at will.

It is important that you show your willingness and respect in meeting your employer’s agenda. Make sure you have your COVID vaccine and booster shots up to date with proof. If getting the shots is against your personal agenda, stress the fact that you would happily work from home at the employer’s schedule and seek a compromise which satisfies your employer and you.

Following are skills that you can put into practice each day when you start a job.

Learn All You Can About The Company. Investigate the company who hired you. How long have they been in business? Who founded the company and why? What is their vision? What are their short and long term goals? Having such information is helpful if you ever have to use it in front of company executives. If shows you have an interest in the company.

Be Friendly. Try to meet someone new each day. Getting to know new people helps you understand the job titles and responsibilities of your coworkers just in case you might need them at a later date. Remember, it’s not who you know, but who knows you. In addition, develop the habit of speaking to coworkers before they speak to you. This builds a friendly image.

Arrive Early. Just being on time isn’t good enough. If you want to be recognized as an outstanding worker, show up 15 minutes early each day, if possible. This will give you preparation time and will give your boss the impression that you are an outstanding worker. Bill Parcells, the Hall-of-Fame coach said, “Showing up 15 minutes before you have to is being on time.”

Don’t Take Time Off, Unless You Absolutely Must. Employers are looking for people they can rely on. If you are perceived as loyal and dependable, you will be singled out for special projects. Then, when and if you need time off for special emergencies, management will likely be willing to accommodate you.

Have A Positive Attitude. It’s important to have a positive attitude. If someone asks you how you feel, always reply “I feel great!” or “I’m outstanding!” A person with a positive attitude can do almost anything. If you are in a “funk,” “fake it until you make it.”

Learn About Other Jobs. Learn about other department’s, and the duties of other employees. Find out about pay scales and necessary qualifications. This will give you a better opportunity to find out if there’s another job you might want in the future and what you need to do to get it.

Observe People Who Are Successful At The Job You Want & Copy Their Behavior. Ask the person who has the job you want to teach you what you need to know about what he/she does (without becoming threatening or offensive). Prepare yourself, so when that person is sick or on vacation, you can volunteer to do his work while he is away.

Arrive at work on time and looking energetic

Always Do A Little More Than What Is Asked Of You. Try to do work before you are asked. Approach your direct supervisor asking if there is anything you can help him/her with. This is effective, especially if you have down time. You will be perceived as an excellent worker. Also, when you finish a task, ask if there’s anything else you can do. Time passes faster when you are busy.

Learn All About Your Supervisor. Have conversations with your boss. Ask questions, him/her how he got started in this line of work, and what his first position in the company was. Be likeable.

Be Motivated & Energetic. Get rest at home, so you have lots of energy at work and you’re not dragging yourself around. Highly motivated and energized people are always prime candidates for promotions.

Volunteer For Overtime When Given The Opportunity. Volunteering for overtime not only means more money for you, but it also helps the organization. Stay away from coworkers who are negative. Volunteering shows that you are willing to go the extra mile.

Respect Yourself & Others. Set some rules and guidelines that you plan to live by and follow those rules. Treat yourself well and others will treat you well. If you are abusive and use foul language when others are around, they will feel comfortable to use abusive language around you as well.

Learn How To Ask For Help. If you aren’t completely sure about an assignment you are given, don’t be afraid to ask for assistance. It takes courage to admit you don’t know something, rather than going ahead and risking damaging or delaying the assignment.

Ask People To Teach You New Jobs. Learn other jobs, but only on your own time. Learn as much as you can—this is called cross training. Today, organizations want individuals who can function at more than one position, and the individuals are much more likely to get promotions.

Never Give Up Or Quit. Never, ever quit—even if you’re having difficulties at work, either with the work itself or with your coworkers. Never bring troubles from home with you to the office. If things aren’t going well at work, find a solution. A winner never quits and a quitter never wins. (Unless, of course, they’re quitting smoking.)

Do Not Listen To Or Repeat Office Gossip. Stay away from people who engage in gossip. You can’t throw mud at someone without getting some on yourself.

Be Honest. If you can’t do something, admit it. Never take anything from the job without permission (this can lead to dismissal). If you get an hour for lunch, just take the hour or less—never more.

Be Happy. Even if things aren’t great at work, be happy. Things don’t make you happy—since happiness is a state of mind. It’s important to appear happy, because people are generally attracted to happy people and those with a good sense of humor.

Smile. When you smile, you look happy and approachable. It takes 7 muscles in your face to smile—and 36 to frown, so there’s no reason not to smile.

Be Trustworthy. When your manager trusts you, it means he/she has confidence in you and can confide in you. One of the first traits a manager looks for in a new hire is trustworthiness. If you violate a person’s trust, it is difficult to earn it back—like trying to piece together a broken crystal vase.

Never Borrow From Others On The Job. Never borrow anything—especially money—from a coworker. You’ll get a negative reputation.

Always dress for success

Take Care Of Your Personal Appearance & Hygiene. Always show up clean and neat. Even if your clothing is not the latest style, you must always look presentable. Never go to work without bathing or with stained clothing.

Find Ways To Improve The Job. Keep in mind that there is always a better way to complete a job that might save time and money. Find that way.

Give Input When Asked. If asked for your opinion, offer good, polite and constructive criticism. Don’t give advice when it’s not requested.

Do Not Speak Badly About Anyone. Never put anyone down on the job. This is a form of harassment. It’s fine to praise someone, however.

Never Drink Alcohol Or Take Drugs On The Job. It is never ok to drink or do illegal drugs when you’re working. Even if your employer asks to lunch and tells you it’s fine to order an alcoholic drink, order a Perrier, instead. You want all of your wits about you.

Learn How To Listen. Developing listening skills is very important no matter what you do for a living. All successful people know how to listen and laser in on what is being said. They say that President Clinton made each person he met feel important by looking them in the eye and concentrating on what they were saying to him. Learn how to block out everything around you when it comes to listening—especially when you’re receiving important instructions.

Barry Cohen is ranked by Google among “The Top 5 Career Counselors in New York City” and is credited for having successfully transitioned more than 10,000 job hunters into new and more rewarding positions.

MEN & EATING DISORDERS

MARY ANNE COHEN

DAVID CALLED FOR HELP IN SOME DISTRESS, “I THINK I HAVE AN EATING DISORDER AND WOULD LIKE TO MAKE AN APPOINTMENT. I BET I’M THE FIRST MAN WHO’S EVER CALLED FOR AN EATING PROBLEM. “ACTUALLY,” I RESPONDED, “MANY MEN HAVE EATING PROBLEMS. THEY’RE JUST NOT AS BRAVE AS YOU TO PICK UP THE PHONE AND GET SOME HELP!”

David is expressing a common misconception—that eating disorders are problems of girls and women, not boys and men. In truth, more women than men do have anorexia, bulimia, and binge eating disorders, but men are not exempt from these struggles. Between 10% and 15% of people with eating disorders are estimated to be men, but this figure may be low since many men often suffer in silence and feel too ashamed to come for help. Men may also be under-represented in the statistics of eating disorders because they can hide their eating problems better than women. Our society is more tolerant and forgiving of extra pounds on men, while women are held to a stricter standard. Also, men who are obsessed with working out and building muscle may be admired as strong, masculine guys, and this may camouflage that they are suffering anxiety about their body image.

During his therapy consultation, David, a 21 year old man, spoke of his girlfriend who had recently left him for another guy. He was depressed, felt quite rejected, and decided that if he were thinner and more handsome, she would have stayed with him. David embarked on a strict dieting regime to make himself feel more attractive. But his undereating backfired, and he found himself bingeing and then making himself throw up. David revealed that he had always felt clumsy as a boy, was the last to be picked for team sports, and felt inadequate compared to his older brother whom he considered more masculine than himself. David’s story highlights some particular dynamics of male eating disorders: low self-esteem and worries about one’s masculinity, unfavorably comparing oneself to other men, and feeling inadequate in traditional male pursuits, such as sports.

Our media is replete with images depicting what a real man should look like. Where advertising once exclusively focused on skinny female models, now “buff” male models with “buns of steel” and “six-pack abs” are featured on billboards and magazines everywhere. Sports figures and handsome actors dominate the male imagination. Now, men compare themselves with the muscular often steroid-enhanced bodies of unattainably perfect male bodies and athletes and struggle with similar insecurities as women.

Men are so driven to look muscular with bulging chests and slender waists that liposuction to remove “love handles” is popular. Some men even seek saline implants to enhance their chests’ pectoral muscles and also have six saline packets surgically inserted to define the “six-pack” ripped abdomen muscles. Herb supplements to help men get “cut” and steroid drug use is more frequent to “bulk up.” In other words, male body image dissatisfaction has become rampant.

A new diagnostic category exists called “male body dysmorphia.” It means that even a man who is well built may suffer from feelings of being puny and too small. No matter how much he works out, his feelings of body inadequacy still persist. This psychological distortion is the opposite of anorexia, in which the girl feels too fat despite being quite thin. The male with body dysmorphia views himself as inferior despite being muscular while the anorexic girl feels too large despite being emaciated.

A new diagnostic category exists called “male body dysmorphia.” It means that even a man who is well built may suffer from feelings of being puny and too small. No matter how much he works out, his feelings of body inadequacy still persist. This psychological distortion is the opposite of anorexia, in which the girl feels too fat despite being quite thin. The male with body dysmorphia views himself as inferior despite being muscular while the anorexic girl feels too large despite being emaciated.

RISK FACTORS FOR MALES DEVELOPING EATING DISORDERS INCLUDE:
• They were fat or overweight as children.
• They participate in a sport that requires them to be thin, for example runners, jockeys, body builders.
• They have a job or profession that requires thinness , for example athletes, male models, actors.
• Some men with eating disorders have a history of physical or sexual abuse.

Matt was a successful business man with a family of five young children. Although he had been athletic as a younger man, the demands of his business, traveling for work, and supporting his family eroded his opportunity to exercise. Matt described coming home from work and raiding the refrigerator before and after dinner. No matter how much food his wife, Dina, prepared, it was not enough. Matt wasn’t content unless he was stuffing himself throughout the evening. He was gaining weight, and his wife urged him to get help because of her anxiety about his health.

In his therapy, Matt identified that overeating was his way to destress, to shift gears after an intense work day. Overeating was his way to reward himself for his grueling schedule, but it was beginning to take its toll on his appearance and health. Matt initially felt selfish for admitting he needed some private time for himself, given that Dina took care of the house and children all day. But, much to his surprise, Dina supported his efforts to break the binge cycle, encouraging him to join a gym and work out with a trainer. We also explored why Matt always put himself at the bottom of the list of people to be taken care of. We discovered this was related to Matt’s having to support his family of origin from an early age because of his father’s ill health. Ignoring his own needs had become automatic for him. Recognizing this pattern was illuminating in helping Matt change this behavior with his present day family.

Eating disorder therapy for men, as well as for women, involves creating a comprehensive treatment plan based on the unique needs of each person. This includes a blend of psychotherapy for resolving emotional stress plus behavioral strategies to change unwanted eating patterns. Men with eating problems can be helped; sometimes it takes a little extra courage to reach out for that help.

THE MINDFUL EATING PROJECT CAN HELP YOU GET THE CONTROL OF YOUR EATING BACK INSIDE YOURSELF
We will work with you to:
• Custom tailor an individual approach for your unique needs.
• Help you get the control of your eating back inside yourself.
• Develop and maintain healthy eating patterns.
• Regain body confidence.
Unlock what may be keeping you stuck in your eating problems.

Schedule an initial assessment with The Mindful Eating Project, and we’ll help you determine if you can benefit from treatment. To start a conversation about your eating, please contact us. Your contact is absolutely confidential.

Please feel free to call (718) 336-MEND.
The Mindful Eating Project is a division of The Safe Foundation.

Mary Anne Cohen, LCSW, BCD has been Director of The New York Center for Eating Disorders since 1982. She is also author of French Toast for Breakfast: Declaring Peace with Emotional Eating and Lasagna for Lunch: Declaring Peace with Emotional Eating. Mary Anne has hosted her own radio show on eating disorders, appears frequently on national television, and is the professional book reviewer for EDReferral.com, the largest international resource for eating disorders.

A FRUITFUL SUMMER

LAURA SHAMMAH MS, RDN

THERE’S NOTHING LIKE THE SUMMER: WARM WEATHER, LONG DAYS AND FUN ACTIVITIES. BUT ONE OF THE BEST PARTS OF THOSE LONG DAYS IS THE DELICIOUS FRUITS THAT ARE IN SEASON. FRUIT IN THE SUMMER IS REFRESHING SINCE ITS MADE UP OF PLENTY OF WATER AND ON TOP OF THAT, IT’S SUPER SWEET.

To make things even better, many summer fruits contain unique nutritional benefits that make them irresistible. Following are the best.

Watermelon – It ‘s hard to think of summer fruits and not automatically think of watermelon. Watermelons are made of over 90% water, hence their name. That’s why they’re so hydrating and refreshing on a summer day. They also contain lycopene, which is associated with heart health as well as bone health.

Peaches – A fresh, juicy peach on a hot day could be doing a lot more than just satisfying your sweet tooth. Peaches are an excellent sources of both Vitamins C and A. Vitamin C is linked to an improved immune system and vitamin A can enhance your skin by rebuilding healthy skin cells.

Apricots – Although they are usually found in very small sizes, do not underestimate the amazing nutritional qualities of apricots! They contain high amounts of fiber, which helps with your digestive system and fills you up. They also are a great source of Vitamin E, which helps with high blood pressure and other heart-related issues.

Mangos – If the warm weather has you craving a tropical taste, mangos are a great choice for a snack. Their bright yellow color is not a coincidence; mangos are high in beta-carotene, which is essential for your vision. They also provides you with Vitamins C, A, B and E, while keeping you satiated, because of their high amounts of fiber.

Strawberries – Simple and easy to add to all your favorite foods like salads, yogurt and water, strawberries are a great summer fruit as well. Although they are super sweet and taste almost like candy, strawberries are incredibly beneficial for you health. They have been shown to reduce inflammation, have high amounts of fiber and even helps with immunity.

While the hot weather is still here, make sure to enjoy yourself and take advantage of the amazing weather, experiences and especially all of the delicious and healthy fruits.

Laura Shammah MS, RDN has a masters degree in health and nutrition and is a registered dietitian. She has been operating her own private practice in both New York and NJ for over 20 years. She is happily married and has four children.