A COMPREHENSIVE COLLECTION OF THE FINEST BOOKS

THE MDY PTA’S FALL BOOK FAIR WAS THE HIGHLIGHT OF THE SEASON! IN PARTNERSHIP ONCE AGAIN WITH KELLY’S COLLECTIONS, THERE WAS AN UNPARALLELED SELECTION OF BOOKS THAT EXCITED EACH AND EVERY ONE OF OUR YOUNG MDY READERS. KELLY’S KNOWLEDGE AND EXPERTISE ON BOARD BOOKS, PICTURE BOOKS, EARLY READERS, AND CHAPTER BOOKS ALLOWED US TO CURATE AN APPROPRIATE AND COMPREHENSIVE SELECTION OF THE FINEST BOOKS AVAILABLE!

Catering to every age, grade level, and every interest—there was definitely something for everyone. It was an excellent opportunity for students to select books that meet the requirements of our school’s independent reading requirement.

Eighth grader Joseph Zeitouni purchased two books, one comic book and another about WW II. He said, “I picked these books because one was recommended, and the other looked cool.”

Howie Hoffman left with four selections, “These will keep me busy for the next few weeks,” he said with a smile.

Albert Douek added, “There were many interesting and fun books at the book fair; sometimes, I buy more books than I can read!”

It is always such a beautiful sight to see kids of all ages light up as they proudly show us which books they chose. We want to thank all of the moms who came out that week to help set up, sell, display, and help our students shop. Book Fair allows us to grow our littlest readers into true book lovers, fostering a passion for reading throughout their lives. Everyone is looking forward to next year!

LAURA SHAMMAH MS, RDN

WHILE I AM GUILTY OF SPENDING A LITTLE TOO MUCH TIME ON MY NIGHTLY CREAM ROUTINE, THERE IS A MORE NATURAL APPROACH TO ATTAINING YOUTHFUL SKIN. YOU CAN EAT YOUR WAY TO MORE GLOWING SKIN. FOODS RICH IN VITAMINS AND MINERALS CAN HELP REVERSE THE SIGNS OF AGING.

The best foods for your skin are those that contain ellagic acid, biotin, and vitamins C and E, which are natural collagen boosters. Collagen is the most abundant protein in the skin. It’s what gives skin its fullness and plumpness. As we age, our collagen stores deplete, but eating foods rich in these skin-loving nutrients support collagen synthesis. Foods rich in vitamin C will help reduce the signs of skin aging and improves the skin’s texture, firmness, and may help prevent fine lines.

Ellagic acid is also a vital anti-aging nutrient, improving skin elasticity. Biotin, a B vitamin, is another important collagen booster and acne fighter. Biotin helps produce fatty acids that nourish the skin to maintain a clear complexion. Here are some foods that are rich in these nutrients and antioxidants. Eat them often to help keep wrinkles and fine lines at bay.

Tomatoes
Tomatoes contain vitamin C, which helps build collagen and, in turn, makes your skin look firmer and plumper. They also have lycopene, which protects your skin from UV damage and improves your vascular system.

Berries
Blueberries and raspberries contain flavonoids, polyphenols, vitamins, probiotics, and tons of antioxidants. They can promote cell regeneration for new skin.

Green Tea
Green tea has lots of antioxidant power. In multiple studies it was shown to help cells grow properly and maintain a healthy life cycle.

Yogurt & Kefir
Yogurt and kefir contain billions of probiotics which can fight redness. Studies have shown that probiotics reduce inflammation and oxidative stress. Problems like acne, psoriasis, atopic dermatitis, and rosacea may all improve if you add yogurt or kefir to your diet.

Fish
Fish, especially salmon which is full of omega-3 fatty acids help dry skin.

Nuts
Nuts have skin-smoothing benefits because of their Vitamin E and omega-3 content. They can help acne, psoriasis, and eczema.

Honey
Honey is anti-viral, and an antioxidant. It doesn’t cause inflammation in your body and skin the way regular sugar does. It’s so good for your skin, that you can even try using it as a face mask.

Avocado
Avocado helps with acne and wrinkles. The beta carotene, protein, lecithin, fatty acids, and vitamins A, D, and E found in avocado oil help moisturize and protect your skin from damaging UV rays, and also increase collagen metabolism.

Eggs
Protein is the fabric of collagen, and eggs are a top source of high-quality protein. But don’t just eat egg whites, as the yolks contain other skin-boosting nutrients—including biotin, which has been shown to help promote healthy skin.

Pomegranate seeds
Pomegranate seeds contain the potent antioxidant anthocyanins, as well as ellagic acid, which increase collagen production.

Carrots
Carrots are an amazing source of beta carotene, a carotenoid that offers an abundance of health benefits, including those related to skin and hair.

Flaxseeds
Sprinkle flaxseeds over your oatmeal, smoothies, and salads. They’re a great source of an omega-3 fatty acid called ALA, which protects your skin from the sun’s powerful rays and may help reduce sun-related skin damage.

Bone broth
What do you get when you combine chicken bones with water and veggie scraps? Answer: bone broth.

The longer you allow the broth to simmer, the more collagen is released from the bones, which gives the broth a thicker texture. Bone broth is filled with collagen, amino acids, and minerals that promote healthy, younger-looking skin.

If you truly want fabulous skin—skin that glows, is vibrant and younger looking—make sure you drink plenty of water and get a variety of color from fruits and vegetables.

Everything you eat becomes a part of your inner and outer self. The healthier the foods are that you consume, the better your skin will look and feel.

Laura Shammah MS, RDN has a masters degree in health and nutrition and is a registered dietitian. She has been operating her own private practice in both New York and NJ for over 20 years. She is happily married and has four children.

MARY ANN COHEN

HOLIDAYS CAN BE A TIME OF STRESS OR A TIME OF JOY. SOMETIMES THEY CAN EVEN BE BOTH! HERE ARE EIGHT COPING TIPS TO HELP YOU NEGOTIATE THE HOLIDAYS WITH PEACE OF MIND AND PEACE OF BODY.

If you fail to plan, you’ll plan to fail!
Create a “Holiday Coping Plan.” Take some time to evaluate where and when you anticipate having troublesome times during the holidays. Plan some alternatives— going for a walk, writing in a journal, even leaving early. And factor in your own self-care by getting enough sleep, moderating alcohol, and saying “no” when you’ve had enough.

Create a buddy system
You are not the only one who struggles with eating during the holidays. Find a friend in the community with whom you can be in touch to share your food experiences and struggles. Sharing a problem with your buddy support system will help to dilute it!

Stay Focused On The Holiday’s
spiritual meaning
We all get caught up in our appearance, making social connections, our weight and eating. Let’s keep the focus on the spiritual meaning of the holiday while making it a time of growth for our souls. Create an attitude of gratitude. What do you have to be grateful for this year?

Eat Intuitively and Mindfully
Focus on enjoying the food in front of you. Eat slowly and savor! Really taste the food. Don’t undereat in anticipation of having a large meal. Don’t arrive at the table overly hungry. Breathe! Enjoy!

Avoid Perfectionism
Remember that “comparison is the thief of joy.” This means that when we compare ourselves to others, we usually feel like we don’t measure up. “I feel bad that Deena is thinner than I am. That must mean I’m not pretty,” is a typical thought for those with eating and body image struggles. These self-accusations can sabotage our feelings of well-being. Let’s remember that, although Deena may be thinner than you, it doesn’t mean she is happier or smarter. Embrace your own unique self!

Be Flexible
Holidays need to be a time to accept flexibility and variety. We can’t control all the moving parts that come with holidays and mingling with lots of family and friends, some of whom we may find difficult! Enjoy what you can and leave the rest behind.

Have Perspective
Hanukkah has a beginning, a middle, and an end! It will not last forever. Meals also have a beginning, a middle, and an end. When you realize that, you gain the perspective that “This too shall pass.” Whatever discomfort you may have at big holiday meals, will pass!

H.A.L.T.
Don’t let yourself get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired!

Cultivate self-compassion!
Developing self-compassion is the single, most important ingredient in getting through the holidays. Do the best you can. Learn from what went right and from what went wrong. Forgive yourself and move on.

Project. The therapists of The Mindful Eating Project can help you get control of your eating back inside yourself.

If you would like some additional support, please reach out to our confidential program, The Mindful Eating Project. The therapists of The Mindful Eating Project can help you get control of your eating back inside yourself.

We will work with you to:
• Custom tailor an individual approach for your unique needs.
• Help you get the control of your eating.
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• Regain body confidence.
• Unlock what may be keeping you stuck in your eating problems.

Mary Anne Cohen, LCSW, BCD is Director of The New York Center for Eating Disorders since 1982. She is also author of French Toast for Breakfast: Declaring Peace with Emotional Eating and Lasagna for Lunch: Declaring Peace with Emotional Eating. Mary Anne has hosted her own radio show on eating disorders, appears frequently on national television, and is the professional book reviewer.

IN MEMORY OF ELLIOT TORKIEH A”H

Marvin A. Azrak

ASSISTANT COACH MORRIS ZARIF WALKED INTO THE MAGEN DAVID FIFTH-FLOOR GYMNASIUM FOR THE HUNDREDTH TIME AND GLANCED AT THE ENDLESS ARRAY OF CHAMPIONSHIP BANNERS HANGING PROUDLY ABOVE HIM. NO MATTER HOW MANY WINS THE VARSITY WARRIORS BASKETBALL ASSISTANT COACH EARNS, THE TWO TITLES HE WON AS A PLAYER WILL ALWAYS STAND OUT.

On Sunday, October 23rd, MDY hosted its 20th Annual Preseason Tournament, consisting of 12 teams vying for early glory. This year’s festivities took a more meaningful role, as the school decided to rename it in memory of former student Elliot Torkieh A”H. “I miss Elliot A”H dearly,” Morris said.

At 16, Torkieh suffered a C6 spinal cord injury, which left him paralyzed from the waist down. Nevertheless, his persistent fortitude and optimistic outlook saw the undeterred champion enter a grueling physical therapy process, where he ultimately emerged walking pain-free. Sadly, Elliot passed in June 2021, but his legacy will live on forever.

With a relentless attitude on and off the court, Torkieh embodied what it means to have the heart of a Warrior. “He was a fighter, but more than that, he had an infectious smile and was always sweet at heart,” Morris continued. “He inspired us to never back down from a challenge; and carried the Warrior mentality in everything he did. We won the preseason and Yeshivah League Championships in my senior year (2018) for him.”

As Zarif turned his attention back to the main floor and the present day, another obstacle was in front of him. Today’s Warriors had to navigate their way to a fifth straight tournament title successfully, and it, of course, wasn’t going to be easy with the reigning yeshivah league champion Ramaz Rams as their opening opponent. However, with an opportunity to showcase the “Torkieh way,” he was ready.

There was a palpable buzz in the air as the 2022-23 Warriors took the court for the first time. Aside from the excitement of a new season, coach Ike “Spike” Dweck was back in the fold after a couple of years away due to health issues. “It’s great to be back and have the chance to do something I love,” he said. The longtime Warriors coach watched from afar as his apprentices Zarif and Benny Mann ran the show. “They did a tremendous job. It was great to see how far the team went last season, and I hope we can get over the hump this year.”

On paper, the 2021-22 team wasn’t laced with talent up and down the roster, yet they clawed their way to a 9-5 regular season record and a quarterfinal berth in league play. In addition to holding court by winning last year’s pandemic-truncated preseason tournament, Magen David placed fifth in the prestigious Red Sarachek Tournament at Yeshiva University and won the Satran Tournament at HAFTR. “Coaching without him last year was an adjustment, but it’s great to have him back. He has the best set of basketball eyes in the community.” Zarif said, “I’m excited for what’s to come.”

The start was promising, as the Warriors withstood a furious Ramaz rally and outslugged the Rams 73-62, led by Asher Melamed’s 22 points and 12 rebounds. The star center struggled for most of the contest but awoke in the fourth quarter, finding his footing at the free-throw line, in the paint, and on the glass.

Also chipping in was the sedulous Mark Sardar, who dropped 15 points and galvanized the crowd by showcasing his exceptional agility, athleticism, and efficiency on both sides of the ball.

Still needing a closer down the stretch despite their two all-stars playing well, sharpshooter Jesse Cohen canned a trio of big threes, finished with 12 points, and created the separation his team needed to secure the victory.

In game two, MDY routed HANC 72-26, where they held the Hurricanes to zero points in the third quarter and nabbed the third seed entering the playoffs. Two days later, the Warriors pummeled YDE 59 to 28 in the quarterfinals but fell on Thursday to the eventual champion DRS, Wildcats 47 to 44, thus ending their drive for five.

Although it was preseason, the despair of seeing DRS hoist the trophy on their home court after defeating Northshore 34 to 22 in Sunday’s final wasn’t a pleasant sight to Warriors fans. It was a stark reminder of how difficult winning a championship is, no matter how many times you’ve done it. But like Elliot, the team isn’t giving in to adversity so quickly. “These guys are workaholics and are always reaching for more,” Zarif said. “Preseason bettered us for the real thing. We can’t wait for the season to start.”

Marvin A. Azrak is a sportswriter.

RABBI EZRA MAX

EVERYONE WE KNOW STRUGGLES. IT’S PART OF LIFE BECAUSE BEING HUMAN INCLUDES IMPERFECTIONS AND STRUGGLES. IT ALSO MEANS THAT YOU HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY AND POTENTIAL TO MAKE IMPROVEMENTS.

Think about Jewish history and how much death, destruction and trauma we have experienced. Then look around and realize how incredibly blessed your life is and the thriving heritage and community you are a part of. Remember, everything that happens to you, even a seemingly bad event, is a gift created just for you.

Imagine replacing your old identity, past failures, mistakes and shame with exponentially better results in your health, family, relationships, spirituality, finances, etc.

Every single situation is an opportunity to learn and grow. We call this Xpotential: Your ability to create exponentially more significant results in your life.

On Hanukkah, you light the menorah and remember the miracles of Hanukkah. A single little jar of oil that could only burn for one night lasted for the entire eight days. This is not only a miracle from 1000s of years ago, it’s a reminder that you only need to make histadlut (a little bit of effort) because results are actually miraculous events orchestrated by the Almighty because he loves you. You have so much to be grateful for.

There are tremendous blessings in your life every single day, many of which, if we don’t take time to focus on, we might take for granted and not even notice.

Sam consulted with me wanting to achieve the next level in life, but he was scared to let go of his comforts (dysfunction). He couldn’t stop his Twitter scrolling and nightly shows because he was worried that he would explode from stress. Unfortunately, his coping behaviors were holding him back. Sam fed his fear of growth while starving himself of success. He was sinking into the depths of social media and Hollywood instead of raising himself, growing and living his Xpotential.

Everyone has a little Sam inside of them. Do you want to be like Sam or move beyond your fears and limitations?

Good news: Sam realized that all the things he blamed for being in the way of his next-level success were his fears. He is determined to minimize distractions and maximize his personal growth. He is replacing the old way of coping (losing) with a vision and focus on exponential growth. We created a plan that feeds his mind, nourishes his soul and develops his skill. There will be no more staying small and hiding from himself.

Sam will be sitting by the menorah this Hanukkah committed to a beautiful future vision of himself. The new Sam is not afraid. He embraces his strengths, talents and abilities while leaning into his Xpotential—and so can you.

As you light the menorah, take a few minutes to think about the miracles and blessings in your life, and feel the Almighty’s love for you. Sit with this feeling and perhaps share it with your family and friends.

You are potential. You are a soul directly connected with the Divine. The physical world and daily stressors can distract us from the meaningful, purposeful soul-level work we are here to do.

The most significant limitation most people struggle with is themselves. Are you your own worst enemy? Do you fight in your head all the time? This is likely holding you back from achieving your Xpotential.

Here are some questions to ask:
• What is your Xpotential?
• Who might you become if you achieve your
Xpotential?
• How will you be inspired by Hanukkah?
• Who will help you achieve your Xpotential?

This Hanukkah, as you sit by the menorah watching the candles burning brightly, I invite you to commit to becoming the best version of yourself. Lean into your strengths and get better at being uniquely you.

Break through the barriers that are holding you back and make a kiddush Hashem (sanctify G-ds Name) as you live your Xpotential life.
Happy Hanukkah!

Rabbi Ezra Max, PCC, MHMP, Xchange Guide & Creator of “The Max Method” assists businesses and professionals deal with stress and achieve success. Rabbi Max has witnessed 20 years of results helping executives, parents and teens overcome struggles, improve communication and thrive. He lives in New York with his wife and five children.

ON OCTOBER 21ST, THE YOF ELEMENTARY SCHOOL TOOK PART IN A DISTINCTIVE OPPORTUNITY TO PERFORM A REENACTMENT OF THE MITZVAH OF HAKHEL, WHEN ALL OF BNEI ISRAEL GATHERED IN THE BEIT MIKDASH. THE EVENT OCCURRED ONCE EVERY SEVEN YEARS AFTER A SH’MITA YEAR, ON THE FIRST DAY OF CHOL HA’MOED SUKKOT.

YOF was proud to offer this mitzvah to our students and faculty right in front of the school on East 10th Street. “Hakhel is a unique mitzvah not just in reference to the infrequent nature of its performance, but because it is the only mitzvah that requires all of Am Yisrael, fathers, mothers and children, to come together to hear the shofar and words of Torah read out loud by the King of Israel,” explained YOF Elementary Head of School Rabbi Yahel Tsaidi.

All parents, faculty and students—from early childhood through middle school—were invited to take part in the festivities. Middle school leaders worked to recreate the Biblical scene of Hakhel by erecting a stage that had a symbol of the Beit Hamikdash. Rabbi Tsaidi, Middle School Principal Rabbi Dr. David Hertzberg, Middle School Principal and Director of Academic Development Rabbi Alan Berkowitz, Middle School Co-Principal Rabbi Ronn Yaish and Mashgiach Ruchani Rabbi Ikey Tawil led prayers and songs. Both Rabbi Yaish, who represented the King of Israel, and Rabbi Tawil, who represented the Kohen Gadol (High Priest), wore priestly vestments similar to those worn in Biblical times.

The children looked on in awe as the kohanim (specific students), king and Kohen Gadol took the stage to read from the Torah. Then they heard the blasts of the shofar, led by Middle School Judaic Studies Chairman Rabbi Abraham Benhamu. Leaders read the verses from the beginning of Devarim, the Ten Commandments, Sh’ma Yisrael, and passages about being obedient to Hashem no matter what the scenario. Noting the diversity of all YOF students, passages were read in three different styles of reading: Teymani, Sepharadi, and Ashkenazi.

Students made blessings on special snacks that were handed out to the crowd. Several rounds of spirited dancing and celebrating ensued once the Torah reading had been completed. Many of the youngest students swayed to the songs while holding lollipops, while lower and middle school students gathered in circles to dance along and sing aloud to the tunes of “Tov Le’hodot La’Hashem,” “Ya’ale Ve’Yabo,” “Tati My King” and “David Melekh Yisrael.”

A highlight of the event was the students getting to see the sefer Torah taken out in front of everyone. “Performing the mitzvah of Hakhel was a learning experience for the entire school. It was an event that the students will remember and reference for the rest of their lives,” shared Rabbi Tawil.

“Hakhel is described in the Torah as a very emotional reading of the text that would often elicit crying and happiness, deep reflection and commitment to observance moving forward. Seeing our student body, from toddlers through 8th graders, along with our faculty and parents, truly elicited more emotions than I anticipated. I was moved and inspired in a way that could only be achieved through the uplifting nature of achdut (harmony), the depth of togetherness, and placing Torah at the center of all of our lives,” added Rabbi Tsaidi.

Freddy Zalta

THE EXCITEMENT WAS PALPABLE ON SUNDAY OCTOBER 30TH, 2022, AS THE KOL ISRAEL COMMUNITY ENTERED THE TENT TO CELEBRATE A HUGE MILESTONE FOR THEIR CONGREGATION. KOL ISRAEL, LOCATED ON BEDFORD AVENUE AND AVENUE K, HELD A GROUNDBREAKING CEREMONY TO COMMEMORATE THE BUILDING OF THEIR EXTENSION. THE WEATHER WAS PERFECT AND THE COMMUNITY SHOWED UP TO SUPPORT THEIR SHUL.

Along with the rabbis from Kol Israel, Rabbi Ikey Tawil, Rabbi Nathan Zaboulani, and Rabbi Charles Safdieh; the ceremony was also blessed with the attendance of Chief Rabbi Saul Kassin, Rabbis Raymond Harari, Naftali Besser, Moses Haber, Richard Tobias, Joey Beyda, Yahel Tsaidi, Jack Savdie, Abraham Hayyoun and Joey Haber.

Eliyahu Zion, the hazan of the shul, opened the ceremony with beautiful renditions of Hatikvah and the national anthem.

President Steven Haim was the first speaker. He spoke about the “largest project the shul had undertaken in 35 years.” He went on to explain how the expansion would be able to, “accommodate our expanding youth programs as well as give our members a much-needed new midrash that will contain 120 fixed seats, a kitchen and a beautifully well-lit breakfast area. Most importantly, this expansion building will contain a 2,000 square-foot ballroom on the main level, with a multifunctional social space that will seat up to 300 people.

President Haim finished by saying, “It gives me great pride and joy to be standing before you today on this very special and happy occasion. Today, we are all sitting on this empty lot which stands for our future—the future of our shul, the future of our children and grandchildren and the future for our community.”

Beautiful and inspiring speeches followed by Former President (current Vice President) Lee Greenberg, Architect Dutch Osbourne, Interior Designer Eli Dweck, and Bobby Salame. Rabbi Nathan Zaboulani closed out the ceremony.

Perhaps the most telling and inspiring words were spoken by Head Rabbi Ikey Tawil, when he stated, “If you invested in Bitcoin when they first started and you check to see the worth today, you will see tremendous value. It’s even more so when an investment is made on expanding a community shul. Looking down the road you will find that you were responsible for tremendous spiritual growth which is something invaluable. It is said that when one turns 120 and ascends to Shamayim, they receive a reward for all the tefilot, learning Torah, Kaddish, that were said in that building. They will be stunned and tell Hashem, ‘that wasn’t me! I had nothing to do with it,’ and then Hashem will say, ‘Yes you did! You helped build the shul!’ What more can one ask for?”

A month since the groundbreaking—the construction has been progressing faster than anticipated. The foundation has been laid and the beams are being positioned. With help from Hashem the annex is scheduled to open in March of 2024.

Freddy Zalta is a biographer for hire.

ON FRIDAY OCTOBER 28TH, MAGEN DAVID YESHIVAH HIGH SCHOOL HAD THE ZECHUT AND HONOR TO HAVE CHIEF RABBI SHLOMO AMAR, THE FORMER SEPHARDIC CHIEF RABBI OF ISRAEL, ADDRESS THE YESHIVAH.

The Rabbi began by greeting the rabbis, teachers, and student body and telling them how happy he was to see the continued Torah growth of the community. He went on to speak about the importance of striving ever higher in terms of spiritual, Torah growth, and to never be satisfied with one’s current level. At the same time in terms of physical, material growth, one should work at being satisfied and appreciative, always remembering that there are those lower than themselves. He quoted from the Alenu prayer, “BaShamayim meema’al, ve’al ha’aretz meetachat….” (In matters of Shamayim, spirituality, one should always look up and strive, in matters of ha’aretz, physicality, one should look down and be satisfied.)

The Rabbi then tied that lesson into the greatness of Chacham Ovadiah Yosef zt’l, whose yahrzeit was that day, the 3rd of Cheshvan. He mentioned how Hacham Ovadiah began his life in extreme poverty, yet always strove to raise himself up higher and higher on the ladder of Torah, mitzvot, and yirat shamayim. Torah itself is what elevates the person, bringing out their true potential and greatness.

Rabbi Amar closed by giving the entire student body, rabbis, and staff a most beautiful, detailed, and heartfelt beracha, which was answered with a resounding Amen!

SARINA ROFFÉ

“LOU JEROME LIKED TO WAKE UP EARLY. HE LIKED TO RISE BEFORE THE SUN AND GET A JUMP ON THE DAY. BUT ULTIMATELY HIS MOTIVATION WAS SINGULAR. HE WOULD HARNESS HIS INNER STRENGTH, HIS UNIQUE TALENTS, AND THE CIRCUMSTANCES HE WAS DEALT IN LIFE, AND HE DID IT ALL FOR THE SAKE OF HIS FAMILY. HE AND HIS DEVOTED WIFE RUTH COULD NOT HAVE KNOWN THE IMPACT THIS SIMPLE APPROACH TO LIFE WOULD HAVE ON THOSE AROUND HIM,” SAID HIS GRANDSON AND NAMESAKE LOUIS J. JEROME.

Kings Highway on East 2nd Street was co-named Lou’s Deli Way on November 13, 2022, in honor of Lou’s Deli, a community icon for nearly half a century. The small business, opened on Memorial Day, 1960 by Lou A”H and Ruth A”H Jerome. Running a deli was in Lou’s blood, as his father also owned a deli called Meyer’s Wurst on Mermaid Avenue in Coney Island.

“Today we stand on that very corner not simply to commemorate Lou but also to awaken and inspire within all of us what he stood for, and what we ourselves can stand for,” said Louis.

The co-naming was the idea of Mayor Eric Adams, and it was unanimously approved by Brooklyn Community Board 15, most of whom fondly remembered their own time at Lou’s Deli.

When it opened, everyone in Ruth’s extended Missry family came to help. They filled ketchup and mustard bottles, set up chairs and tables, helped with meal preparation and anything else that was needed. Together, Ruth and Lou worked side-by-side, almost 24/7, from the early morning lunch preparation, to the late night after dinner clean up. As soon as their children—Abe, Joseph and Esther were old enough, they helped in the family business.

Born in 1925, Lou was delivered above a butcher’s shop in Brooklyn. He answered the call to service for our country during World War II, served voluntarily in the Navy after getting special permission to enlist at the age of 16. Then he established a local deli on Kings Highway that became one of the first local community small businesses, which grew into a significant establishment that served the community for over 40 years. Various families throughout the Brooklyn neighborhood, both Jewish and non-Jewish, fondly remember Lou and Lou’s Deli as the place they went to with their families, especially on Sunday nights. Lou’s Deli is a reminder to all of us where our community humbly came from.

“I am delighted to celebrate the life of WW II veteran and generous community leader Lou Jerome,” said Councilman Ari Kagan. “I was happy to sponsor the street co-naming in his honor, together with my colleague Kalman Yeger. Lou was a man whose life acted as a bridge across four generations of growth for the vibrant Sephardic community of Brooklyn.”

“Lou and Ruth Jerome were pioneers in our community, building a business, a loving family and a lifelong devotion to hesed,” said Councilman Yeger. “They left a legacy of children and grandchildren continuing in their pathway with great devotion to serving our community. It befits their memory that the street they walked every day for so many years now bears an everlasting enshrinement of what Lou and Ruth meant to our community.”

“It’s phenomenal to honor someone who was one of the first to open a small business on Kings Highway,” said Theresa Scavo, Chairperson of Community Board 15. “I grew up here, and I remember, on Sundays my family went to get pastrami and corned beef sandwiches from Lou’s. Everyone was so cordial and friendly. I am glad we have the opportunity to honor someone like this in our community. We need more family-oriented people.”

“Every time I was there, we sat at a table in the back to the left—I think of it as the family table,” said one of Lou and Ruth’s nieces.

“Sunday night was routinely Lou’s Deli night,” said community member David Hidary. “The whole community went there to eat. Every Sunday evening I would go to pick up our dinner order. The food was delicious, and while we waited we socialized with other community members who were waiting for their orders.”

The Jerome’s were extremely generous. Often when people needed a job, Lou would hire them. Many of his nieces and nephews worked in the deli over the years, either behind to counter, as busboys, or as wait staff.

“I worked there in the spring of 1963 in the evening and Sundays for $1 an hour, the going rate. It was a formative experience, and the food was great,” said a nephew.

Joey Jerome, Lou and Ruth’s son, said that while they were not wealthy people, they took care of people, providing food, jobs, and a surrogate home away from home for many individuals and families.

Lou and Ruth provided an example to emulate. “By living up to our best selves we naturally awaken the same traits we see in the lives we commemorate,” said Louis. “We remember by action. And by so doing we resurrect within us that very source that inspired us to begin with. It is not just the story of Ruth and Lou’s lives but also of our community. The Syrian Sephardic community was still laying their roots down in Brooklyn. Along with many of that generation, Grandma and Grandpa’s life’s work helped blaze a path.”

“The naming of King’s Highway between E 2nd and E 3rd Streets, “Lou’s Deli Way” is a testament to my father and mother, who lived the American dream,” said Joseph Jerome. “Through their life’s journey at Lou’s Deli, they showed an entire community how a family could come together, work hard and survive in most any situation. Our family would like to thank the Mayor, the Community Board and City Council members who made this possible.”

“It was so nice to see the impact Lou’s Deli had on the community at large,” said Abe Jerome. “Everyone who lived in our area was a customer of Lou’s and all have fond memories of their favorite menu item. One of my friends said she has never gotten to the corner and not thought about the Deli and a hot dog with mustard and sauerkraut! Eighteen years after they closed, people still want another steak sandwich or egg roll. The sign is forever a reminder of a store that brought so many diverse groups together in a pleasant and welcoming environment.”

A genealogist and historian, Sarina Roffé is the author of Branching Out from Sepharad (Sephardic Heritage Project, 2017), Sarina holds a BA in Journalism, and MA in Jewish Studies and an MBA.

THREE HUNDRED MEMBERS OF THE BROOKLYN SEPHARDIC COMMUNITY GATHERED TO HONOR THE MEMORY OF GADOL HADOR HACHAM OVADIA YOSEF WITH A NIGHT OF LEARNING AND INSPIRATION, ON THE 9TH ANNIVERSARY OF HIS PASSING.

T he night began with everyone participating in a group learning experience. They had gathered together to read, learn, and complete one entire book of Hacham Ovadia’s halachic works. With everyone’s participation they accomplished their goal. Reading the entire book of Hazon Ovadia Halakhot Shabbat Volume 1 in one night was a wonderful achievement.

Rabbi Yochai Cohen had recently finished a 9 year study of all six books of Hazon Ovadia Halakhot Shabbat. Once group learning had ended, he did a suyum. The attendees moved into the main dining room where a lavish dinner was served. Rabbi Eli Mansour, Rabbi Ouri Lati, Rabbi Yaakov Mizrahi, and Rabbi Yochai Cohen spoke about Hacham Ovadia’s legacy and his love for the Sephardic community of Brooklyn. Then they shared some of their personal experiences with Hacham Ovadia. After the speeches a traditional Hilula ensued with Sephardic pizmonim and other traditional songs, to the delight of the crowd.

The evening would not have been possible without the help of the World Zionist Movement Department of Hebrew and Culture and the many donors who helped fund the event. May the zechut of learning, and the memory of Hacham Ovadia be a blessing to our entire community.

ANSWER: THE MITZVAH MAN

We received a call at 4 P.M. on a Friday afternoon from a panicked woman. It was just 45 minutes before Shabbat would begin.
She said, “I know it’s last minute, but my mom lives in Lower Manhattan and I live in Brooklyn, and she has no food for Shabbat.”

She went on to say that her mother usually had meals delivered to her apartment on Fridays. Yet, it was already 4:00 and no food had arrived. This woman was very concerned that her mother wouldn’t have any challah, grape juice, or delicious Shabbat food.

The Mitzvah Man was on the case! A message was sent out to Manhattan volunteers saying, “There’s a woman living in downtown Manhattan who doesn’t have food for Shabbat. I know it’s last minute, and Shabbat is soon.”

Immediately calls started coming in from volunteers. One said they’re sending food over in an Uber. Another volunteer said that she lives in Midtown, so she’s going to take a car service there to drop off a meal, but by the time she would get there it would be so close to Shabbat that she would just walk home. Such a tremendous hesed! A third volunteer said she would send a car service with some food. Not only that, she planned to take her family to visit the woman the following day on Shabbat afternoon—simply to keep her company.

Within 45 minutes, this mother had full Shabbat meals and special company.

Who else could you call last minute in Manhattan?

Every day the Mitzvah Man and his team receive calls requesting all kinds of help. On another occasion, he received a call from a woman who was on her way to the airport to pick up her 16 year old son with special needs. She had an hour to get there, when she got a flat tire. She frantically called the Mitzvah Man, not knowing who else to call. She explained that her son would be nervous when he got off the plane and wouldn’t know where to go or who to go to. To make matters more worrisome, she wasn’t able to reach him on his phone.

“Do you have someone who could pick him up?” she asked. The Mitzvah Man was on the case! Immediately, word was sent out, and a young man offered to pick the son up. The volunteer met him at the airport and helped him call his mother. His mother explained everything to him, and told him to trust the Mitzvah Man volunteer. The son was able to calmly go with the volunteer, who brought him home to a very grateful mother.

LIVE TO GIVE

SARINA ROFFÉ

AJ GINDI’S PATH TO LEADERSHIP AND VOLUNTEERISM WAS LAID IN STONE FROM THE TIME HE WAS A CHILD. HIS PARENTS, IRVING A”H AND TOOTSI GINDI, ALWAYS PROVIDED THE EXAMPLE OF DOING FOR OTHERS.

Irving “lived to give,” according to AJ, which stands for Aaron Jay. “My father always said life is not about you, it’s about what you can do for others.”

While most people associate AJ with Renewal, the organization dedicated to facilitating kidney transplants in the community and around the world, AJ’s path to helping others began in 1983, when he was a newly married, young man, who had just moved to the Deal, New Jersey area.

Ralph Hazan, then president of Congregation Magen Abraham on Monmouth Road, asked AJ to be on the shul’s committee. Having just moved to the area, AJ was surprised and hesitant. So Ralph asked him to handle only three tasks and he would be done. They needed a home for the rabbi closer to the synagogue, approval to put in a sidewalk, and funds to build a nice new Hechal. A year later those items were accomplished, and AJ was appointed president, a job he kept for two decades. Together with Rabbi Semah and Charlie Gammal, they built a beautiful synagogue in West Long Branch. Today the synagogue building is thriving through the leadership of Lee Cohen, and AJ is proud that he had the opportunity to help.

Soon after, he became involved in the New Jersey committee for Sephardic Bikur Holim. AJ was invited to a meeting with Rabbi Michael Haber by the then president, David Bibi. Suddenly David Bibi announced that AJ was the new president of SBH NJ division, a term he had for six years from 2002 to 2008. He continued as a board member until 2018.

In 2013 something dramatic happened that changed AJ forever. Seven-year-old Stella Laniado needed a bone marrow transplant and unfortunately passed away. Tragically, the Laniado’s lost their youngest child. Those who visit their ancestors at the cemetery each year, pass Stella’s grave, filled with fresh flowers and toys, as such a young life was lost.

As an outcome, the Stella Laniado Foundation was formed and each summer, swabs are taken at the fundraising events for a bone marrow registry. One day, AJ had a swab taken and a few years later, he was notified that he was a match! Unfortunately, the recipient fell ill and the bone marrow donation did not happen.

Several months later, AJ was called as a match for a kidney transplant by Renewal, an organization that began in 2006. Without hesitation he graciously agreed to give his kidney. AJ had forgotten he had also expressed interest in kidney donations when Joey Barnathan needed a kidney years before.

“A person only needs 25% of one kidney to live a healthy life, so if I am healthy and have two, why not help save a life. When you give a kidney, you get the best physical ever. There are a multitude of tests and a psychological exam. They try to talk you out of it, because they want to be sure you are giving for the right reason, and that you know what you are getting into,” said AJ, the father of six.

“The psychologist asked me ‘How much are you getting paid?’ I said I’m not getting paid. There is a man whose life is on the line and I am helping him survive. The psychologist said ‘If you donate your kidney, you put your kids in danger.’ I asked how they were involved. She said, ‘If your kids need a kidney one day, you won’t be able to give it to them.’ I told her that I believe that Hashem will protect my children from ever needing one. Then she asked about my wife. And this went on.”

He continued, “My wife Joy stepped in and said, ‘I want him to do it.’ Their job is to try and test you and convince you not to do it. They want to break you and make sure you really want to do it.”

On the day of the surgery, AJ went to the hospital. He had not met, nor did he know who the recipient was. Recipients are warned that the donor can choose to back out even up to the last second before the surgery without any obligation.

AJ saw a man who looked like a rabbi come in and asked the rabbi if he came to give him a blessing. The man was from Renewal, who came to spend the day with him.

“Giving my kidney to save a life was a great feeling and has very little if any effect on the donor. I am fortunate to live my life the way I always did with no limits,” said AJ.

When he went home a couple of days after the transplant, his friend Ralph Hanan visited, got inspired, and said he wanted to do it as well—and sure enough a few months later he did. Today, over 40 of AJ’s friends and relatives have donated their kidneys in order to save lives.

In 2014, Renewal asked him to join their team to promote kidney transplants. In 2013 the organization facilitated and found matches for 40 successful transplants. In 2014 that number went to 48, then 65 then 78 and then over 100. And the number keeps growing each year. Kidney donors receive tremendous rewards for their acts of kindness and giving the gift of life.

“At one time it was taboo to even speak about kidney donations and now it is very accepted,” said AJ.

In March 2014, AJ was contacted by Renewal founder Mendy Reiner, the president Sendy Orenstein, and transplant coordinator Menachem Friedman, who asked AJ to join the Renewal team as a community advocate.

At the time, Renewal was limited to helping people in the New York, New Jersey area. But this became difficult at times for the donor or recipient, who had to remain near the hospital for extended periods of time.

To make the transplant process less stressful and relieve some of the anxiety, Renewal established relationships out of New York with hospitals in Los Angeles, Tampa, Minnesota and Atlanta, all areas where there was enough activity for these relationships to thrive.

Each year, AJ speaks at the Safra Synagogue in Aventura, which has a large number of South American attendees, most of whom never knew kidney transplants were an option. Rabbi Yosef Galimidi from Safra Synagogue is a liaison to potential donors and recipients from South America. Renewal has facilitated quite a few international transplants, including from Panama, Argentina, Brazil and Mexico.

“Renewal is a community advocacy organization; it’s not just Sephardic. If you are in need of a kidney, we will help,” said AJ.

The organization has about 4,000 swabs in its database with almost half of those as very active. There is currently a waiting list of 350 patients who they are assisting. The average wait in the United States is seven to nine years and most of those people will get the kidney from a deceased donor. Patients will live three times longer with a live donor than a cadaver kidney.

Long gone are the times when people desperately in need of a transplant needed to go overseas to procure one. Renewal is saving lives every day by matching donors to recipients.

Renewal has streamlined the process by working together with transplant centers to make the experience more efficient. Please note that Renewal believes in a zero-pressure approach. This means that nobody will guilt you into this and that you are free to back out at any time. To inquire further about becoming a kidney donor please email info@renewal.org or call 718-431-9831 ext. 209. All information provided will be kept strictly confidential.

AJ is there to help you along, a living example of a kidney donor.

A genealogist and historian, Sarina Roffé is the author of Branching Out from Sepharad (Sephardic Heritage Project, 2017), Sarina holds a BA in Journalism, and MA in Jewish Studies and an MBA.

IF ANYONE WAS WONDERING WHERE CHILDREN AND PARENTS WERE ON SUNDAYS THIS FALL, YOU COULD FIND THEM AT DSN’S OUTDOOR SPORTS FIELDS, WHERE OVER 500 PLAYERS PLUS HUNDREDS OF SPECTATORS CAME TOGETHER FOR COMPETITIVE FUN AND EXCITEMENT.

DSN’s Executive Director Sammy Sitt believes the real winners are every family on the Jersey Shore. “Since DSN’s founding over 15 years ago, our Girls Soccer and Boys Flag Football Leagues have been an integral part of life in our Deal community. The leagues are vital for children to learn discipline, teamwork, and sportsmanship. Plus, there is no better feeling for a child than seeing their family gracing the sidelines, cheering and rooting for them. This is how we build community.”

The Football League caters to boys from kindergarten through high school and the Soccer League attracts girls from 1st through 8th grades. The leagues have professional referees and volunteer parent head coaches.

Marc Braha, a football head coach, put his role in perspective. “Coaching is not always about winning. It’s about finding each player’s strengths and weaknesses and maximizing their potential. It’s about instilling confidence in each player to see real progress as a united team.”

Irving Betesh, a parent head coach, had as much fun as the kids. “I am grateful for the opportunity to have been a coach this season. The interaction with the kids and parents was something to look forward to each week. DSN and Sports Director Jon Entel did an outstanding job making things run smoothly. The league gets better and better every year!”

Entel has been directing both the football and soccer leagues for six years. He sees the difference time has made. “Each year the competition gets better, the coaching progresses and the overall quality of the league improves.“ His colleague, DSN’s Girls Sports Coordinator Danielle Shemueli is the Jersey Shore’s biggest advocate for girls sports. She takes immense pride in the soccer program which continues to expand.

Parents were elated, including Joseph Silvera, father of a 1st grade soccer player. “These young girls are only beginning to learn soccer skills along with the life skills that go with it. I see my daughter’s team hustling, playing with their hearts, and feeling confident when the parents cheer them on. My daughter lost in the semi-finals this year and learned the hard lesson that winning isn’t everything, but we were still so proud of her. I am grateful to DSN for making learning so enjoyable for her.” Another parent, Karen Kameo, loved the league. “My daughter had the most wonderful experience. The practices helped her learn the rules as well as how to pass and kick. She scored lots of goals! I also had so much fun watching her.”

Having everyone play at the same time and the same location every Sunday created an amazing community atmosphere. Sammy Sitt continues to stress the big picture. “Yes, certainly DSN has been providing exceptional sports league experiences so that our children can reap the health benefits of being active. But more than that, our leagues bring our community together. Children and families from different schools and different shuls meet on our fields and build friendships. With Hashem’s help, DSN will continue to build and strengthen the best community in the world.”