The Last Chief Rabbi of Aleppo, Hacham Yom Tob Yedid, Who Led His People With Courage & Strength

Who was Hacham Yom Tob Yedid? Most people respond to this question with awe, tinged with warmth or fear or both. They talk about his single-minded devotion to Torah, his unbelievable hatmadah, his kedushah, his roar.

His roar? “Like a lion. If a person acted disrespectfully in shul or to a talmid hacham, Hacham Yom Tob called him out. He was not afraid of anyone. Back in Halab, he even put people in herem,” recalled his talmidim fondly.

Fondly?

Yes, fondly.

For it was that uncompromising loyalty to Hashem that kept them strong. While living under a totalitarian government, bereft of mentors and peers of his caliber, with a skeletal collection of sefarim, Hacham Yom Tob became a talmid hacham, trained the next generation of hachamim, and kept his people loyal to Hashem so that, when they finally arrived in the free world—decades after most other Jews—they helped rejuvenate the communities that they entered.

“He was like a hacham of the previous generations,” was another refrain.

He was a dayan, hazzan, sho’het, mo’hel, sofer, and trained others as well. He taught every man and boy in the community, and knew each one by name. He spent every moment either serving his kehillah, or learning Torah, to the point where he did not attend the weddings of his own grandchildren for more than 10 minutes.

And, above all else, he “roared” for the sake of Heaven. In his lifetime, Hacham Yom Tob did not have to “roar” often. He achieved a level where people were afraid of him before he roared.

And now he looks down, from his exalted place, and sees the children and grandchildren of his talmidim learning in yeshivot. He sees all the Torah being learned in Shaare Zion, all the talmideh hachamim coming out of his community, and The Last Lion “roars” with victory and happiness.

In a saga that spans more than a century, For the Sake of Heaven, a brand new biography published by ArtScroll/Mesorah Publications, takes us on an epic journey from Halab of old, to tree-lined Brooklyn streets. With its fascinating twists and turns, this biography about Hacham Yom Tob Yedid, written by Devora Gliksman, author of the bestselling Nouri, reads almost like a novel, leaving us awed as we see so clearly the impact of one who devotes his life to teaching and studying Torah.

Read this book to be inspired by this incredible story of heroism, courage and the power granted to one who is totally devoted to Torah. The book is available at your local Hebrew bookstore, at artscroll.com, or by calling 1.800.Mesorah.

RABBIS, COMMUNITY LEADERS AND OVER 700 PEOPLE ENJOYED A BEAUTIFUL AND INSPIRING EVENING IN HONOR OF COMMUNITY IDF VETERANS AND THE STATE OF ISRAEL. ON MAY 4TH, DSN HOSTED ITS LARGEST INDOOR COMMUNITY EVENT TO A SOLD-OUT CAPACITY—MAKING IT A RECORD BREAKING EVENING.

Guests arriving to DSN were greeted by large Israeli banners hung in the entranceway. Walking on an Israel-blue carpet, each child was handed an Israeli flag to wave. Once in the DSN gymnasium, it was thrilling to behold hundreds of seats covering the expanse, plus a huge stage with a professional lighting setup for a true concert performance. Excitement was in the air as the room filled up. Then at 8 P.M. sharp, a spectacular light show signaled the beginning of the show.

Norman Jemal was the Master of Ceremony, the perfect fit with humor, anecdotes, and brevity. He began by thanking DSN’s numerous sponsors for the evening and introduced Rabbi David Tawil of the Larchwood Synagogue. The Rabbi told the crowd that it was “a night of celebration, a night of joy, a night of happiness.” He thanked DSN “for putting such a wonderful night together, something our community needs to do and has been waiting to do for so long. Chazak U’baruch!” He encouraged everyone to be proud of their Jewish identity. “As we celebrate, as we sing, as we enjoy in happiness this great miracle, this most awesome of miracles that Hashem has provided, make sure that you recognize you are a Jew wherever you are.”

Then the Larchwood Boys Choir was introduced. The group was organized and led by Mr. Abie Betesh and consisted of Eli Braha, Isaac Braha, Robert Dweck, Bruce Epstein, Joseph Jemal, Isaac Khodari, Joseph Simhon, Maurice Zalta and Joseph Zekaria. This impressive choir gave a special performance, singing Israeli songs, beautifully and melodically.

Next, 10 community members who had served in the Israeli Defense Forces, including the Six-Day War of 1967, were called up to the stage. They were thanked and honored, while pictures of them in the IDF were shown on the gymnasium screen. After a long applause for the veterans, a somber moment of silence was taken for the fallen soldiers and those killed in terrorist attacks.

Community member Tally Grazi, whose parents were among the IDF honorees, shared the sentiment she felt. “It was the most wonderful evening. Honoring the present and former soldiers of the IDF brought us to tears. My parents had never been publicly acknowledged or thanked for their service. Now, at their ripe and blessed ages of 80, that is no longer the case. My dad turned 81 on this very Yom Ha’atzmaut and DSN just gave him the best gift of all.”

Finally, the main attraction came to the stage, Gad Elbaz and his band. Gad’s performance was an epic, magical and emotional way to celebrate Israel. The lighting and sound effects were sensational. Audience members were waving their flags, singing along, and smiling from ear to ear. When he sang his most famous songs, such as “Hashem Melech,” the noise from the gymnasium was unprecedented.

Stephanie Kaplan brought her family to the event. She was elated. “We enjoyed celebrating Israel’s independence and were so impressed DSN secured the talent of Gad Elbaz for entertainment. This yearly celebration now has a home at DSN.”

DSN’s Youth Director Frieda Shamah exclaimed, “It was an unbelievable night for the community as DSN brought amazing energy to Deal! We seized the night and made it extraordinary!” The excitement in the room was palpable. These are the moments when one looks around and realizes happiness is this moment in time, this night at DSN.

All of DSN’s greatest events tend to start with a small idea. This one was no different. One month earlier, on April 5, DSN held its annual extended board meeting, encompassing staff, board members and community members looking to become more involved. Inspired by the meeting, community members Honey Dayan and Jacqueline Musry expressed their vision of offering a Yom Ha’atzmaut celebration for the entire community. Over the next few weeks, they collaborated with DSN’s staff on every detail. Their vision was fulfilled to perfection.

Honey was overwhelmed with emotion. “It was an event for the entire community to celebrate the miracle that is the State of Israel. DSN’s amazing team brought this event to life in just 4 weeks. I am completely blown away by DSN.” Jacqueline was blunt about working with DSN. “I’m not sure this would have happened if it wasn’t for the incredible DSN team. Thank you so much for working with us and making this night so special!”

As next year marks the 75th anniversary of Israel, Honey is already thinking ahead. She’s excited. “I can’t wait to see what we can do together with a whole year of planning. See you then!”

CHANI KAHAN

“AS I WALKED THE HALLS OF BHI, THE SOUND OF CHILDREN LEARNING, SMILING AND CONNECTING WAS EXHILERATING,” MS. ADINA FENDEL SAID. “CREATING A SAFE, HAPPY ENVIRONMENT FOR KIDS TO LEARN IN IS OF UTMOST IMPORTANCE TO ME, AND I WAS SO HAPPY TO SEE THIS PERMEATING THE HALLS OF BHI. I AM TRULY LOOKING FORWARD TO BEING A PART OF THIS AMAZING TEAM.”

Ms. Fendel is the renowned “Morah Fendel” who spent 18 years teaching in YCQ. Simultaneously, she is the women’s director of Emet Outreach—both of these positions have made her intimately familiar and connected with the Queens community.

Next year she will be joining Be’er Hagolah as the Judaic Studies Educational Coordinator for Elementary School.

Rabbi Mordechai German, Dean of BHI, said, “We are thrilled to bring on Morah Fendel as the Elementary School Judaic Studies Educational Coordinator. She joins BHI at an exciting time as we continue to realize our vision of building a BHI that helps ensure a bright future for all our students.”

ACADEMIC SUCCESS COMES FROM WARMTH
“We live in a confusing world,” said Ms. Fendel. “Our children are searching for structure and love.” Her goal as a teacher has always been to build children with success.

“Children should feel cool for succeeding, not acting out,” she added. “They need a structured classroom filled with love and positive reinforcement. They should feel happy to go to school, that is a safe place for them.” And this is exactly what Be’er Hagolah parents want.

“My kids have gone from having to go to school to wanting to go to school. They’re waiting for it,” said BHI parent Victoria Kol. If any of her kids have a problem, their rabbi is on call to solve it.

“In the beginning, I was very concerned because I thought that in public school, the academic level is higher. But I was wrong – they really care about the academic status. Be’er Hagolah students are ready to graduate and go to college,” Victoria says.

She continued, “I think when kids learn how to respect parents and respect the rabbis, it affects their whole life. They just think twice before they do something. It’s a very loving and caring environment. It’s just a second family.”

A SOLID EDUCATION IN A SAFE ENVIRONMENT
“What makes Be’er Hagolah attractive to parents is that they know their children are getting a solid education in a safe environment,” said Rabbi Mordechai German, Dean of Be’er Hagolah.

“They learn and are safe,” said Zina Khaimov, a BHI parent.

“They’re around their own people, and they feel love from the rebbeim and teachers. My son in high school has his favorite rabbis that he could just go over and talk to—you don’t get that in public school,” she concluded.

READY TO TAKE ON THE WORLD
Most BHI parents want their children to be educated, attend college, and embark on professional careers. Their children get that in BHI – but they also get much more.

“It’s not just that they’re ready for college. It’s that they’re ready to take on the world, whether it’s college, whether it’s going into business—whatever they want to do, they’re ready for it,” stated Michael Nisanov, a BHI father.

That’s exactly what Rabbi German is aiming for. “A graduate of Be’er Hagolah will not only be college-ready, but also life-ready,” said Rabbi German.

He believes that a strong education must include a focus on the social and emotional growth of the child. And every day, his staff builds an incredible support system to give over personal and life skills to each student.

“In the morning, sometimes I bring my son here, and I see Rabbi German standing in front of the school greeting the children,” said Erit Semah, another BHI parent, adding, “They really care about giving them values—family values—and teaching them middot tovot.”

INSPIRING STUDENTS TO GO FURTHER
“Be’er Hagolah actually offers the great combination of religious and secular education. Coming from a communist country, I could never imagine that my kids could be obtaining an education which is much superior to any secular education. They’re really inspiring students to further advance education in different areas,” said BHI parent Daniel Lerner.

Just about every BHI student goes on to college, and many become professionals in the career of their choice.

Graduates are going to nurse school, PA school, occupational therapy, speech therapy, becoming dentists and lawyers. This is the pride of BHI.

Chani Kahan is a copywriter who helps nonprofits to reach the heart of their target market with memorable copy. Before starting her freelance business, Chani worked as the Associate Editor of The Circle children’s magazine. After a successful career planning creative content and working with writers, Chani now researches and writes campaign-focused copy for nonprofits.

A SELF-MOTIVATED WOMAN WITH A SUPPORTIVE HUSBAND

SARINA FOFFÉ

FRANCINE DWECK’S VOLUNTEER JOURNEY BEGAN IN 1972 AS A BROWNIE LEADER WHEN HER DAUGHTER VALERIE JOINED THE BROWNIES, AT SEVEN YEARS OLD. AFTER THAT, THEY BOTH MOVED ON TO THE GIRL SCOUTS. “I LOVED DOING PROJECTS WITH THE GIRLS THAT HELPED THEM TO GET THEIR BADGES,” SAID FRANCINE, WHO ROSE IN THE SCOUT RANKS TO BECOME COOKIE CHAIR FOR BROOKLYN’S SOUTHERN DISTRICT.

“I remember, I was very young, maybe 7 years old, and our garage was full of boxes of cookies,” said Francine’s son Morris A. Dweck. “I sold Girl Scout cookies door to door.”

Francine joined the PTA at PS 236, and then at Roy H, Mann Junior High, following her daughter through grade school. In 1979, Valerie was a freshman at Sephardic High School when Francine became president of the first PTA. By the time Valerie finished high school, Francine joined the Sephardic Community Center family as part of the Adult Education Committee.

In a very few years at the Center, with Francine’s leadership qualities and ideas, she formed the Special Events Program; and with a great bunch of women, ran many beautiful events. In 1985, with an audience of hundreds of women, she chaired the Generations Fashion Show; and then the Beautiful Table. In 1986, she chaired the Boutique Showcase with over 50 venders, an event she managed for a decade. The list of events she planned for at the Center grew and included Book Fairs, Gourmet Expos, Back to Bradley Beach, and The Generations and Celebrations shows. Each had between 300 and 400 participants, and audiences of several thousands of our community’s members.

“I am a people person,” Francine said. “I love talking to people and I was able to recruit volunteers to help with events. Many of my volunteers grew to be chairwomen of different departments at the Center. It was very gratifying to be part of their learning experience.”

Francine became part of the Center’s Board of Directors in 1986, while continuing to run many special events, overseeing all details to make each event successful, she became concerned about the needs of special children. She organized “Just for Me” in 1998, a program for children with learning disabilities, hiring special education teachers for the program.

Francine was also interested in travel and wrote about the trips she took with her family and husband Albert, who was president of Congregation Kol Israel. The first trip she wrote about was a Passover trip the family took together in 2000. IMAGE readers have enjoyed Francine’s articles about their travels.

Other charities Francine worked on included SAFE, managing fundraisers to help them get started, at Stanley and Cookie Chera’s house. She won several awards at the Center and mentored young girls after taking classes in leadership. In 2001, she chaired the social events of the Maccabee Games at the JCC of Deal, New Jersey.

Francine says her motivation started with the Brownies and was encouraged by her husband Albert. She says the most important thing she learned throughout the years was to accept people for who they are. Everyone has a different personality and we need to accept people for what they represent.

“When you are part of a volunteer core never say ‘I’, everything is ‘we’; it shows you are working as a team and respect each other’s contributions. If someone asks a question, tell them you’ll find out the answer and get back to them.

“I loved working with the professionals. Their outlooks on life were different; and I learned to respect people who came from different backgrounds. Their lessons were invaluable and a great part of who I am today.”

Francine Dweck had modest beginnings, living in an apartment house on Ocean Parkway with her siblings and parents, Harold and Violet Sutton. She went to PS 215, Boody JHS and Lincoln High School. Her parents gave her respectable character traits such as honest work habits, a taste for learning and how to be responsible and give to her community.

All three Dweck children learned from their parents. Today, Morris works closely with Rabbi Eli Mansour, helping build a new synagogue; he created Torah.org, and is a founder of YDE and Community Security Alliance. Valerie is an Assistant Teacher at Reach for the Stars, and Harold works closely with Sephardic Bikur Holim. And of course, Francine’s husband Albert continues to work for this community in many capacities.

The experience of working with people, organizing and planning inspired Francine to do more and be of service to the community she loves dearly. She is truly an inspiration to others.

A journalist, genealogist and historian, Sarina Roffé is the author of Branching Out from Sepharad (Sephardic Heritage Project, 2017), Sarina holds a BA in Journalism, MA in Jewish Studies and an MBA.

ARI BAUM, CFP®

WHAT’S THE HARDEST LESSON YOU’VE EVER HAD TO LEARN ABOUT MONEY? WHAT’S THE MOST POWERFUL ONE? FOR MANY FOLKS, THESE LESSONS COME FROM HARD-EARNED EXPERIENCE. THEY AREN’T TAUGHT IN A CLASSROOM. INSTEAD, MANY FOLKS GO TO THE SCHOOL OF HARD KNOCKS. IT’S THE LEARN-AS-YOU-GO WAY TO UNDERSTANDING PERSONAL FINANCE. AND THOSE LESSONS WE PICK UP CAN SHAPE HOW WE THINK ABOUT AND HANDLE MONEY. THEY CAN STICK WITH US FOR LIFE.

So, what are the money lessons that you are never too young to know? Are there any that you still have to learn or better at? Let’s find out. These essential finance lessons aren’t typically taught in school, but they’re still incredibly valuable to know as early as possible. And they can take some people a lifetime to learn.

LIFE’S BIG MONEY LESSONS
What Do You Know & What Do You Need To Learn?

1. Accountability Is Key
   Financial accountability means responsibility, honesty, and recognizing how your choices affect your financial outcomes. It requires planning, routine check-ins, knowing the consequences, and a commitment to try again when things don’t go your way.

2. Pay Yourself First
   Invest in your savings, retirement, and insurance before spending on anything else. Make them mandatory expenses. If you do, you can re-order your other spending around these financial priorities.
   Ask Yourself: What do my financial safety nets look like? Am I on track to retire when I want to—or keep enjoying my retirement the way I want to?
   Example: “I’m going to automate monthly deposits into my savings, retirement, and health savings accounts. And I’m going to check in on those deposits quarterly to see if I should make any adjustments.”

3. Money Isn’t The Only Thing
   Wealth gives us options, but money alone won’t fulfill us. Time, relationships, and our well-being can matter far more than money when it comes to our long-term happiness.
   Ask Yourself: When and why do I prioritize money over my relationships or health? How can I change that?
   Example: “To get a better work-life balance, I will not check work emails after a certain time every day, and I’ll commit to getting a certain number of hours of sleep every night.”

4. Understanding Your Money Mindset Is Critical
   A money mindset is the beliefs and attitudes about money that unconsciously shape financial behaviors. Knowing your money mindset can be the first step to improving it and making better financial choices.
   Ask Yourself: When I think about my financial future, do I feel more anxious or optimistic? When I run into a financial issue, do I procrastinate or focus on solutions?
   Example: “When I start feeling stressed about a financial decision or issue, I’ll take a step back and wait until I’m more relaxed to address it.”

5. Don’t Be Intimidated By Your Money
   You do not need to be a personal finance pro to make smart choices for your future. A solid strategy, commitment, and a willingness to learn can go a long way towards financial success.
   Ask Yourself: What aspects of personal finance confuse or overwhelm me? What could I learn more about—taxes, retirement, interest rates, or inflation?
   Example: “I’d like to get a better handle on tax planning or retirement planning, so I’m going to take a class or talk with a professional.”

We have to practice life’s important financial lessons to make them work for us.

FINANCIAL LESSON:
How Money Lessons Help Us Make Sense of Life
Were any of these lessons new for you? Have you heard them all before? Familiar or foreign, learning these lessons about money isn’t like memorizing a simple fact. It’s not a one-and-done deal. It’s more like honing a life skill.

We have to practice life’s important financial lessons to make them actually work for us. And the lessons we need the most can change at any point in life.

In fact, even those of us who are pretty savvy with money still need to reconnect with the key lessons of finance from time to time, because new situations and challenges that test us can pop up at any time.

After all, in life and finance, things can change quickly. That can mean we end up facing new complex financial choices that we never expected. If or when that happens, you don’t have to learn your next important financial lesson the hard way. And you don’t have to jump into any decision blindly or stand at the crossroads alone.

Investing involves risk including the potential loss of principal. No investment strategy can guarantee a profit or protect against loss in periods of declining values. Past performance does not guarantee future results. This material is for information purposes only and is not intended as an offer or solicitation with respect to the purchase or sale of any security. The content is developed from sources believed to be providing accurate information; no warranty, expressed or implied, is made regarding accuracy, adequacy, completeness, legality, reliability, or usefulness of any information. Consult your financial professional before making any investment decision. This information is not intended to be a substitute for specific individualized tax advice. We suggest that you discuss your specific tax issues with a qualified tax professional.

Ari Baum, CFP® is the founder and CEO of Endurance Wealth Partners, with over a quarter of a century of experience in the Financial Services industry. He brings his in-depth experience to Conceive. Believe. Achieve. for his clients.

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THIS INSPIRING, LIVE-STREAMED PROGRAM, A CAREER JOURNEY: ANYTHING BUT STRAIGHT AND NARROW, FEATURED MOTHER-DAUGHTER DUO, CYNTHIA (CINDY) ADES AND PAULINE ADES HAYES. IT WAS WONDERFUL TO SEE CINDY’S AND PAULINE’S HUSBANDS IN THE AUDIENCE, EXUDING PRIDE OVER THEIR WIVES’ ACCOMPLISHMENTS. THERE WERE MANY FAMILY MEMBERS AND FRIENDS IN THE AUDIENCE AS WELL, CHEERING ON THE PANELISTS!

Alissa Shams, Co-Executive Director of PROPEL, began the program by lighting a candle to recognize Yom Hazikaron, commemorating and honoring all those who gave their lives for the State of Israel.

The program was moderated by PROPEL’s career coach and true superstar, Caroll Dweck Sutton. Caroll began by asking each of the panelists to describe her career journey.

Pauline grew up in Deal and attended Hillel Yeshiva. She said that when she graduated high school, she “somehow convinced her parents to let her go to Binghamton for college.” Pauline majored in accounting and she obtained an internship at Deloitte & Touche. Upon graduation, she secured a full-time position at Deloitte, but, after two years of working there, she realized accounting was not the profession for her. After some self-reflection, Pauline deduced that she really enjoyed mentoring and recruiting. She decided to change her career course! It was not easy, but through networking, Pauline obtained a job as a headhunter, initially focusing on recruiting for accounting and finance positions.

Pauline explained that she took a leap of faith—along with a pay cut—as she pivoted and started down a different career path. After over three years as a headhunter, Pauline ecstatically described that she was fortunate to obtain a position as an in-house recruiter at Capital One. After several years at Capital One, Pauline moved to Google. She is currently a recruiter at Google, where she supports recruiting for senior software engineers. She lives in Englewood with her husband and two children.

Cindy initially worked in the retail industry, but she stopped working when she was married and had children. She was a stay-at-home mother until her youngest child, Pauline, started kindergarten. At that time, Cindy felt it was financially prudent to have a part-time job to help pay for the extras her children needed (such as dance and baseball lessons). As her children grew, Cindy’s part-time position developed into a full-time position in a corporate retail organization, Ritmo Latino, where she held various purchasing responsibilities.

After 14 years of working as a purchasing agent/director, Cindy pivoted into a new role that was offered to her at the time within the same organization. She was offered an opportunity to become a human resources director where she was able to expand her knowledge and experience working on employee benefits, recruiting and hiring, employee relations and payroll. Cindy took a chance with her motto being, “I have nothing to lose!” After three years in that position, she decided she needed a change and focused on obtaining a position doing what she really enjoyed—recruiting and hiring. She feels grateful that others took a chance on her at a large construction engineering company and gave her an opportunity ten years ago by hiring her.

Today, Cindy has extensive experience in human resources, which includes talent acquisition for large global construction and engineering firms. She is truly passionate about the industry and is always looking to learn more, so she can better assist and understand the needs of the business. Her accomplishments include: running recruitment for the entire construction management organization within AECOM, and leading national recruitment for Skanska, including the ramp up of their largest project in history for LaGuardia Airport.

The audience applauded and cheered when Cindy shared that she is in the process of completing her bachelor’s degree! She explained that she was in college when she got engaged to her husband and had put her education on hold.

Caroll asked the panelists about being able to maintain a work-life balance as a woman and mother in the workforce. The panelists stressed that being organized and proactive in terms of meal planning and activities is extremely important. Additionally, Caroll questioned Pauline about how she felt about having a working mother when it was not so traditional for mothers to work in the community. Pauline responded honestly that it took some getting used to, as most of her friends’ moms were home when they got off the school bus. However, Pauline said that her mother was probably more attentive and available than those other moms. Cindy was determined to spend quality time with her family!

In terms of fear of changing a position, Pauline noted that you need to evaluate your general happiness in a position. Cindy shared that you always want to be able to learn and grow at your job.

Imparting very valuable information, Cindy and Pauline shared their five top interviewing tips. (See above.) They also shared key resume tips and general advice. The panelists stressed that it is important to be energetic when interviewing for a position—showing that you are motivated is key. It is also essential to prepare before an interview, researching both the company and position you are applying for.

Additionally, the panelists stressed that you should never stop learning and obtaining new skills. Cindy emphatically mentioned that she was fueled by people who doubted that she could achieve something in the workplace—she made it her goal to prove those people wrong by learning and being diligent!

If you missed this inspirational program, you can still watch it on PROPEL’s Instagram @PropelNetwork!

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REACH OUT TO PROPEL
If you are interested in a career or career advice. We can help you take the steps to fulfill your professional goals and dreams.

If you are interested in joining PROPEL’s cohort of mentors in PROPEL’s “Weaving a Network: Women Helping Women” program or being paired with a mentor.

SEFA, SEPHARDIC EDUCATION FOR ALL, IS A GRASSROOTS MOVEMENT UNIFYING COMMUNITY RABBIS, INSTITUTIONS, TOP LAWYERS, TAX PROFESSIONALS, AND LAY-LEADERS, ALL JOINING TOGETHER TO ACHIEVE OUR COMMON GOAL—A COMMUNITY-WIDE MEMBERSHIP THAT WILL ELIMINATE TUITION.

The program is designed to spread the cost of Torah education across the community to relieve the enormous burden on parents. Contribute $3,000 per year, per person in the family, regardless of age. (Exact amount based on community participation.) If you have four unmarried children—you and your spouse equal six people. The total would be $18,000 for everyone, which is less than the full tuition for one child. We need 60,000 members signed up to launch.

This is a fundamental change in the way our schools are funded. It will be beneficial for the parents, yeshivot, and students. Not just for today; but for future generations as well.

We need the support of everyone in the community to make this happen. It is in our own best interest to lift this burden.

So why should you sign up for SEFA even if you do not have kids in school?

If you are a young adult or a newlywed couple, paying for the membership will seem daunting but still in your best interest. When you are ready to start a family, you will be confronted with serious question:

How can I pay the $25,000 per child for their education?
How are we going to do this?
How does everyone else afford to pay for this?

This moment has happened to every parent in the community at some point, and it will continue to happen—unless we do something about it!

With SEFA, you could be the first generation that won’t experience the tuition nightmare. Now, if you’re already a parent with children in school, this is definitely for you!

We all want to give our children a yeshiva education at the highest level. We don’t want anyone to consider public school because of the high cost of tuition. We don’t have to let tuition make decisions for us anymore. By joining SEFA, we can increase each other’s quality of life by leaving the tuition crisis behind.

But how about those who are already finished paying tuition for their children?

This problem is increasing yearly. Every year tuition is up by 4%. You have already suffered the pains of paying tuition in the past.

What about your children and grandchildren? This is a problem that will not solve itself. And we have the power to solve this now for all future generations.

Even if no hero stepped forward and bailed you out when it was your turn, now you have the chance to be the hero and help save others. We can feel secure knowing that our children and grandchildren will get the yeshiva education they deserve.

So what should you do next?

Now that you have all this information, the next thing to do is go to getsefa.org, sign up, and spread the word by sharing this with your friends and family members.

No payment is necessary to sign up. Don’t wait to sign up. The sooner you sign up, the sooner this will be a reality.

Let’s keep the legacy alive by keeping and supporting the community together. We can be the generation that fixes the tuition crisis forever.

Join us as we eliminate tuition! Visit Getsefa.org.

ALLISON MCGILL

WHETHER YOU ROOT FOR THE METS, YANKEES, GIANTS OR JETS, NEW YORKERS ARE RENOWNED FOR OUR FIERCE ENTHUSIASM FOR SPORTS. WHILE IT IS UNDENIABLE THAT SPORTING EVENTS CAN BE A CELEBRATION OF SORTS, BRINGING LOVED ONES AND FRIENDS TOGETHER FOR A SHARED EXPERIENCE FULL OF EXCITEMENT AND ENJOYMENT, THERE IS ANOTHER COMPONENT ENTANGLED IN THE WORLD OF SPORTS: SPORTS BETTING.

Sports betting has been a popular pastime for generations, and with New York State’s legalization of online sports betting this past January, the state has already seen billions of dollars in tax revenue and, more notably has seen a large increase in individuals seeking help for problem gambling behaviors.

Since January 2021, OASAS (Office of Addiction Services and Supports) has reported a 46% increase in calls to its gambling helpline. Michelle Hadden, assistant executive director of programs with the New York Council on Problem Gambling, stated in a recent New York Times article that, “Many of the bettors who signed up in recent weeks were new to gambling, including young people who are not educated, not prepared and easily swayed by the advertising.”

So, what is gambling vs. problem gambling? Gambling is defined by OASAS as, “the act of risking something of value on a game of chance for the desired result.” Problem Gambling is defined by the National Council on Problem gambling as, “gambling behavior patterns that compromise, disrupt, or damage personal, family or vocational pursuits.” Known as the hidden addiction, problem gambling is often undetectable to others until extensive consequences begin to surface, consequences that can amount to more than monetary losses.

Although online sports betting may be the newest facet in the sphere of gambling, gambling is not limited to that. Gambling includes casino table games and slot machines, lottery, scratch-off tickets, sports betting, bingo, raffles, office pools, card games, and online gaming.

How can you tell when gambling is becoming a problem for you or your loved one? Here are warning signs to watch for as outlined by New York Council on Problem Gambling:
• Using gambling to cope with certain stressors or boredom
• Disrupted sleep, work, or other forms of daily life caused by gambling
• Arguments, frustrations, or self-destructive thoughts causing one to gamble
• Borrowing, stealing, or collecting insurmountable debt to maintain gambling habit
• Unfulfilled promises that one will stop gambling
• Time lost with family/friends due to time spent gambling

With online sports betting becoming increasingly prevalent within the adolescent population, certain signs, and behaviors to watch for in that age group as outlined by New York Council on Problem Gambling are:
• Absences from school/classes—can be tied to a decline in grades or ability to complete assignments
• Changes in their personality/behavior
• Bragging about winning at gambling
• Unusual interest in newspapers, magazines, periodicals, sports scores
• Unaccountable explanation for new items of value in possession
• Borrowing or stealing money
• Withdrawing from family and friends
• Exaggerated use of word “bet” in vocabulary and/or use of gambling language in conversations

Problem gambling is an emotional issue that contributes to severe financial strife and has the power to adversely affect the lives of gamblers and their loved ones. If you believe you or a loved one is dealing with a gambling addiction, it is critical to bear in mind that there are many resources that can provide guidance and support for you and your loved ones while navigating these challenging moments.

The SAFE Foundation offers an extensive problem gambling program for gamblers and their loved ones with weekly individual and group therapy as well as Sunday night Gamblers Anonymous meetings on our premises.

If you or someone you know needs help, call 1-718-GET-SAFE, 24/7 for assistance.

Allison McGill is originally from Rochester, New York and has lived in Brooklyn for the past 12 years. She has recently received her CASAC-T from Lehman College and is passionate about the work surrounding recovery and family work.

REGINE MONAVAR TESSONE RECALLS RUNNING THROUGH THE MEHRABAD AIRPORT WITH HER PARENTS AND THREE BROTHERS, ON FEBRUARY 1, 1979, TO BOARD THE LAST FLIGHT OUT OF TEHRAN ON THE EVE OF THE ISLAMIC REVOLUTION. THE PILOT ANNOUNCED AS THEY ENTERED THE AIRCRAFT, “YOU ARE THE LUCKY ONES! THE AIRPORT IS NOW CLOSED AND THE AYATOLLAH KHOMEINI HAS ARRIVED.”

In this intimate memoir, Monavar (a Farsi name meaning light) recreates the life of her Persian Jewish family before they fled Iran and her own adventures in their new home in America. Always buoyant, she describes reuniting with her mother’s family in Brooklyn, visiting Israel and serving as a volunteer, falling in love with a non-Persian Jew, and becoming a successful fashion designer. Her story reflects her nostalgia for the homeland of her youth and her embrace of the opportunities of her adopted homeland in the United States as a successful Iranian-Jewish immigrant.

Daniel Tsadik, author of Between Foreigners and Shi’is: Nineteenth-Century Iran and Its Jewish Minority, said, “Monavar’s Journey is a beautifully written moving memoir that sheds light on Iranian Jews’ lives during the Pahlavi era and the Revolution: lifestyle, food, religion, education, Muslim-Jewish relations, and so much more. It impressively offers an account of immigration, adjustment, and daily life in their new home.”

Ronnie Perelis, Associate Professor of Sephardic Studies at the Bernard Revel Graduate School of Jewish Studies of Yeshiva University, and author of Narratives From The Sephardic Atlantic: Blood & Faith, said, “This book is a testament to one family’s heroism and the wisdom of parents, but beyond the intimate value of the memoir, I believe it will add depth and nuance to our understanding of the experience of Persian Jewry. The story, however, is also universal. It is about love, family, and the all too familiar story of exile and immigration. The cosmopolitan gyrations between the Middle East and Europe and America with its swirl of languages make it a delightful read.”

Author Regine Monavar Tessone graduated from the Fashion Institute of Technology, and founded Aqua Modesta, a unique line of modest women’s swimwear and sportswear that attained worldwide success. Her initial professional goals achieved, she wrote this memoir to fulfill a lifelong dream: to share the story of her family’s incredible escape on the last flight out of Tehran.

MARY ANNE COHEN

WHICH CAME FIRST—THE CHICKEN OR THE EGG? DOES BEING DEPRESSED LEAD TO DEVELOPING AN EATING DISORDER OR DOES HAVING AN EATING DISORDER LEAD TO DEPRESSION? THE TRUTH IS THERE IS SUCH A COMPLEX EMOTIONAL AND BIOCHEMICAL INTERPLAY BETWEEN DEPRESSION AND EATING DISORDERS THAT WE ARE NOT SURE WHICH COMES FIRST.

What we do know is both depression and eating disorders feed on each other causing great suffering for the person who is trying to cope. Fortunately, many strategies exist to help someone get better.

SOME FACTS ABOUT DEPRESSION:
• According to a recent Department of Health survey, one in eight New Yorkers suffer from symptoms of depression.

• The report also says that major depressive disorder is the single greatest source of disability in New York City. At any given time over half a million adult New Yorkers are estimated to have depression, yet less than 40% report receiving help.

• The Department of Health and Human Services now recommends that pregnant and postpartum women be routinely screened for depression. In the city, 12,000 new moms per year are affected by maternal depression. Maimonides Hospital announced that new mothers will now routinely be screened for postpartum depression.

• About 15% of the US population will experience major depression in their lifetime.

• Depression is twice as common in women as in men, in part due to hormones.

• Up to 40% of the risk for depression is inherited.

When you add an eating disorder, like binge eating disorder, anorexia, bulimia, or body image unhappiness on top of depression, people often feel helpless and hopeless that they will ever get back on track with healthy eating or a healthy sense of well-being. Keep in mind that helplessness and despair are actually symptoms of depression and will get better with treatment.

THE CONNECTION BETWEEN EATING DISORDERS AND DEPRESSION?:

• Eating disorder behaviors help people feel better temporarily. Overeating is a soothing activity, purging provides a cathartic relief, starving is an attempt to feel strong and in control.

• Bingeing, purging, starving, or obsessing about weight helps people distract themselves from emotional pain.

• Both depression and eating disorders often involve shame and secrecy. People with these disorders often feel a stigma about admitting their problems.

• Psychotherapy and sometimes medication can help people resolve their eating disorder and depression.

WHAT DOES DEPRESSION FEEL LIKE?
When we think of depression, we picture a person who is tearful or doesn’t want to get out of bed in the morning. But, in fact, depression can take many different and unexpected forms: some people get agitated, some people get irritable and argumentative, others feel like they are moving in slow motion—as if their arms and legs are heavy—others feel body aches and pains, such as headaches or stomach aches. Depression can cause people to have contradictory and confusing symptoms: some binge and gain weight while others do not want to eat and lose weight; some have insomnia while others sleep too much. Sometimes the person just feels sad—constantly.

WHAT STEPS SHOULD I TAKE?
• Acknowledging that you are depressed and that you are struggling with overeating, under eating, or purging is the first step. Do not be ashamed—we humans are biochemical and emotional people and sometimes we need help.

• Speak with your medical doctor. Blood tests can rule out hormone abnormalities, diabetes, thyroid issues, or premenstrual distress.

• Have a consultation with a psychotherapist to evaluate the emotional stresses you may be facing and a discussion of strategies to improve your eating behaviors as well as techniques to improve the stress in your life.

• The therapist may recommend a consultation with a psychiatrist to evaluate if anti-depressant medication can help jump start your recovery.

THERE IS NO VIRTUE IN SUFFERING IN SILENCE. HELP IS AVAILABLE. REACH OUT.

Reach out to MEND (Mindful Eating New Direction) to get the help you need. MEND is a new community initiative to help people like you. You are not alone!

We will work with you to:
• Custom tailor an individual approach for your unique needs.
• Help you get control of your eating back inside yourself.
• Develop and maintain healthy eating patterns.
• Regain body confidence.
• Unlock what may be keeping you stuck in your eating problems.

Schedule an initial assessment with MEND, and we’ll help you determine if you can benefit from treatment. To start a confidential conversation about your eating, please contact us. Your contact with us is absolutely confidential.
Please feel free to call 718 336-MEND.

MEND is a division of The SAFE Foundation.

Mary Anne Cohen, LCSW, BCD has been Director of The New York Center for Eating Disorders since 1982. She is also author of French Toast for Breakfast: Declaring Peace with Emotional Eating and Lasagna for Lunch: Declaring Peace with Emotional Eating. Mary Anne has hosted her own radio show on eating disorders, appears frequently on national television, and is a professional book reviewer.

Mary Anne Cohen, LCSW, BCD has been Director of The New York Center for Eating Disorders since 1982. She is also author of French Toast for Breakfast: Declaring Peace with Emotional Eating and Lasagna for Lunch: Declaring Peace with Emotional Eating. Mary Anne has hosted her own radio show on eating disorders, appears frequently on national television, and is a professional book reviewer.

LAURA SHAMMAH MS, RDN

LOSING WEIGHT IS RARELY EASY, AND IT CAN BE DOWNRIGHT FRUSTRATING, ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU THINK YOU’RE DOING EVERYTHING RIGHT, BUT THE NUMBERS ON THE SCALE REMAIN THE SAME. WEIGHT LOSS PLATEAUS ARE ALSO DISAPPOINTING. IF YOU’VE ADOPTED A HEALTHY DIET AND YOU’RE STILL NOT SEEING THE RESULTS YOU EXPECT, PERHAPS ONE OF THE FOLLOWING FACTORS IS TO BLAME.

REASONS YOU MAY NOT BE LOSING WEIGHT

• Eating just a salad for lunch. We’ve been told that salads are a great meal when you’re trying to lose weight, and they are good for you. However, a salad made of a few vegetables will not fill you up. In just a few hours you’ll be looking for a snack. You should add lean protein like tuna or chicken, and fiber rich foods, like beans and quinoa to your salad. These ingredients will keep you full for a much longer time.

• You’re eating too much of a healthy thing. Just because a food is healthy, doesn’t mean you can eat as much of it as you like. Be aware of your portion size.

• You’re eating too many refined carbs. Complex carbohydrates like whole wheat bread, barley and beans are full of fiber and fill you up. Refined carbs, like pretzels and pasta may give you an energy boost at first, but it will lead to a sugar crash, which will make you hungry and lead to additional eating. Switch to complex carbs combined with lean protein.

• You are letting too many hours go by without eating. When you allow too many hours to pass without eating, your blood sugar will drop, making you ravenously hungry. When this happens you are very likely to overeat. It’s best to eat healthy meals and snacks every couple of hours.

• You eat well all week and allow yourself a cheat day. Some diets recommend a cheat day once a week, however there are guidelines as to how much you can eat. When creating your own cheat day, it’s very possible to consume all the calories you didn’t eat during the week, and all of your hard work can be negated in those couple of hours. Be consistent. Plan your weekends and learn how to enjoy yourself without sabotaging your weight loss goals.

• You believe you can eat whatever you want because you exercised. A great snack or meal you can eat after a workout would be a mix of complex carbs and protein. This is a powerful combination that helps boost muscle recovery, reduce soreness and build strength.

Review your goals and your behavior. If you think one of the reasons mentioned is why you are having trouble losing weight, make a change. You’ll be happy with the results.

Laura Shammah MS, RDN has a masters degree in health and nutrition and is a registered dietitian. She has been operating her own private practice in both New York and NJ for over 20 years. She is happily married and has four children.

WE ARE EXCITED TO ANNOUNCE THAT MRS. PAULINA SALEM WILL JOIN OUR EDUCATIONAL STAFF IN THE FALL OF 2022 AS THE NEW PRINCIPAL OF GESHER YEHUDA YESHIVA. MRS. SALEM COMES TO US AFTER 13 YEARS OF SERVICE WITHIN THE NEW YORK SEPHARDIC COMMUNITY.

She began her teaching career at Barkai Yeshiva. For the past 11 years she taught both second and fourth grade at Yeshivah of Flatbush and more recently held the position of Assistant Director of Campus Life and served on various educational committees there as well.

`Mrs. Salem holds a Bachelor of Arts from Barnard College in Political Science, where she also completed an education program and received her initial teaching license. She received her Masters in Special Education from Brooklyn College, and is a graduate of YOU Lead, Prizmah’s signature program for Jewish day school professionals and leaders.

Mrs. Salem is eager to begin working as Principal of Gesher Yehuda. “On my very first visit to Gesher Yehuda, I immediately fell in love with the warmth of the environment, the individualized yet rigorous curriculum, the dedicated staff, and of course the unbelievable children. Gesher Yehuda is an extremely important institution in our community, and I am excited and honored to continue the great work that has been done.”

According to the Chairman of the Board, Mr. Jack Setton, “We look forward to Mrs. Salem joining our yeshiva and are certain that she will enhance and further strengthen our programs. She combines knowledge of our community and years of service with impeccable educational credentials. We are confident that she will promote a rigorous professional environment among our teaching staff and will provide a nurturing and meaningful educational experience for all the children who come through our doors.”

We would also like to thank Mrs. Deborah Katz for her years of services both as the first principal of our high school and then as the esteemed principal of our elementary school. Mrs. Katz has worked tirelessly to make Gesher the premier institution that it is. We thank her and wish her great success in all her endeavors.

About Gesher Yehuda Yeshiva

In 1996, with the purchase of their own educational facility, Gesher Yehuda Yeshiva was established as a community school providing individualize instruction in a small class setting. Six students in its first year blossomed to thirty-six by the third, and reached as many as 80 in the 2000s. In 2008, seeking to extend its individualized methodology beyond the elementary school years, the original founders launched Yeshivah Preparatory High School. Now, more than 25 years after its inception, Gesher Yehuda Yeshiva is well prepared to continue to provide a premier education with state-of-the art resources to the Brooklyn Jewish community.

Gesher Yehuda Yeshiva is located at 49 Avenue T, Brooklyn, NY 11223. For more information please contact: Executive Director, Dr. Eugene Miller at 718-714-7400.