F. MORGANO

ON DECEMBER 12, SEVERAL YESHIVOT GATHERED AT TWO LOCATIONS TO PARTICIPATE IN THE YACHAD 2022 PROGRAM. THE PURPOSE OF THE PROGRAM WAS TO FOSTER UNITY, COMMUNITY, AND ONENESS THROUGHOUT THE VARIOUS YESHIVOT IN THE NEW YORK AND NEW JERSEY AREAS.

Seventh grade boys and girls from nine different schools from New Jersey, Brooklyn, Staten Island, Queens, and Long Island all attended the program. Magen David Yeshivah Elementary School hosted the girls, while the boys were hosted by Yeshivah of Flatbush at the Sephardic Community Center on Ocean Parkway.

The boys had four different schools participate in their program; Hillel, Barkai, Yeshivah of Flatbush, and Magen David. They listened to a speech about Hanukkah by Rabbi Tawil of Yeshivah of Flatbush, and Rabbi Knapp of Hillel gave a Dvar Torah. The boys were inspired to understand and embrace ahdut, unity. Next, they played an exciting game of Yachad Pyramid with questions about climate change, American history, and other topics led by Rabbi Wielgus of MDY. A game of basketball followed, and then everyone enjoyed a delicious lunch. Zack Dweck commented, “It was so cool to get together with students from other schools.” Rabbi David Sultan said, “It was nice to see how excited the boys were to see their friends and cousins from the other schools.”

The girls had a huge soiree in the gym at MDY. As each school entered the auditorium, they were greeted with high-energy cheering and warm hugs. It looked as if long-separated families were reuniting for the first time in many years. The principal of MDY, Rabbi Ezra Cohen-Saban, spoke to the girls about togetherness and caring for one another. Lizzy Mizrahi of MDY conducted a spelling bee with words based on the concept of yachad. Of course, the contest came down to long time rivals YOF and MDY, with Flatbush pulling out the final victory this time.

After a short speech about donating tzedaka to help underprivileged brides in Israel on their wedding day, by Mrs. Greenstein of Lev Rivka, the girls participated in a talent show. Another high-energy experience with dancing, singing, cheering, and just general mirth.

Mrs. Levy, a long-standing and respected 8th grade Hebrew teacher at MDY, commented, “It was nice to see the girls from the different schools so excited to be together. It was very special.”

“I loved hanging out with and meeting students from the other schools,” commented one 7th grader, who continued, “we were laughing the whole day! I hope we do it again soon.”

The program was sponsored by the Harari family in honor of their daughter, Randy. A Scroll of Honor noticed the efforts of three students: Rhonda Harari, Erin Shemia, and Gail Chabbott

Special acknowledgment to Ora Delbery, the dance teacher at MDY. She has been teaching Israeli dance to girls of all grade levels for many years. Her efforts in preparing and administering the dance program did not go unnoticed. Her dedication to the girls is quite humbling.

The goal of the program was to foster unity in the community and everyday life—mission accomplished! Now let’s grow the flames of unity.

Frank Morgano is a 6th & 8th grade ELA teacher and staff reporter for Magen David. He has been a teacher for over 23 years and enjoys reading, playing guitar, hockey and Korean sword fighting.

BRIAN MARCUS

THE SLEEPLESS NIGHT BEFORE MY ROAD TEST HAD MY STOMACH ALL TWISTED IN KNOTS. FAILING WOULD MEAN I’D HAVE TO WAIT ANOTHER WHOLE MONTH BEFORE I’D BE ELIGIBLE TO TAKE THE TEST AGAIN AND JUST THE MERE THOUGHT MADE ME WINCE.

The dream of being a licensed driver was on the line and it was more important to me at the time than breathing itself. At 16, few things seemed to be more of a monumental achievement than to be able to get behind the wheel solo.

I failed that first test. The jitters got the best of me and I made some costly mistakes. My only choice was to regroup, dig deep inside myself for some youthful confidence, and pray. I scheduled my retest and the first date available was a month away, on a Friday the 13th. With the odds stacked against me and the heebie jeebie witchery of the date playing tricks on my brain, I patiently waited and forged ahead with the highest of hopes.

The voodoo gods shined their light on me on that Friday the 13th and I passed. A happier kid has never existed. I would soon offer my mom to run every errand she could think of, or ask her to make some up just to get behind the wheel. Driving was such a euphoric high that even a trip to the grocery store was a highlight of my week. As I clocked more miles under my belt, it was becoming evident that it was time for the next step—owning my own car.

A few years later I was out of school and working so I could afford to finance a new car. That’s when I bought my first convertible. A 5.0 liter Mustang GT was my choice, apple red with a white top and white leather seats. What a powerhouse. What a vision. The thrill of motoring around with the top down and the radio screaming out Bruce tunes was one of life’s finest pleasures. It mattered not where I was going, as long as I was going in style with the engine purring and my tires hugging the roads’ curves. That automobile was as much a part of me as my right arm. I originally bought it to pick up girls but I met Sandra a month later, so in that respect you could say it worked like a charm.

As the years passed, the models changed. Then came the advent of leasing and ownership became simplified. You were able to trade up every three years or so for something new. My personal choices have always been convertibles, and exclusively European. I developed an emotional attachment to each car to the point that when the lease was up, as ecstatic as I was to trade up, I always scratched my head as to why the honeymoon seemed to outlast the lease maturity date.

Maybe it’s because I’m a guy, but cars have always been a vital part of my existence. They’ve become a part of our identity. An extension of the self. They represent a status and can express one’s personal taste and success. As the odometer spins it measures your pride and contentment as much as it measures miles. In a way you can say it defines who you are, or at the very least who you want to be—a sort of self-esteem machine. They can make you look cool and even trick you into believing that you’re more powerful than you are thanks to the popping pistons and revving motor. Caring for one brings a happiness and it rewards you with the bliss of the open road. Driving is one of the few times you can feel in control of where you’re going and how you’ll get there, all the while arriving in style.

But the last few months have made me question my intimate relationship with these vehicles. My son David borrowed my car to pick up some take-out food one night and smashed it to pieces. Thank G-d a million times he was unharmed, but the car most certainly was not. The insurance company deemed it a total loss and my flawless sexy German precision engineered convertible was no more.

I’ve been tooling around in that car for a couple of months now and I have to admit I have completely realigned my thought process. Don’t get me wrong, German engineering it is not. I spent the first 10 minutes looking for the heated seat and heated steering wheel buttons only to realize that they probably weren’t even invented when this car was made. Void of the back-up camera and navigation screen, it dawned on me that my first cars didn’t have any of those features but I loved them nonetheless. As I drive the old clunker I’m realizing that it’s taking me to the same places that a brand new model would. Ironically the cars most luxurious feature is how it humbles me. I’m not getting dirty snarls from road raged drivers who would otherwise assume I’m a snob or getting challenged to races from testosterone fueled kids in sports cars. This car simply has 4 wheels, an engine, and a purpose to get you where you’re going. I don’t mind and have even grown to enjoy driving it. It took me a full circle to grow up.

I plan on biting the bullet and placing an order soon on a new ultimate driving machine. Perhaps when the sticker shock of the new supply chain affected prices seeps in. But for now I’m surprisingly not rushing it and I’m ok that the old car is my current ride. Somehow it “put the brakes” on how I should view things made of metal, plastic, and rubber. I learned that a car does not define me. It’s the guy in the drivers seat that does.

Brian Marcus is a community member who loves to write.

RABBI EZRA MAX

BEGIN 2023 WITH THE FOLLOWING REFLECTION QUESTIONS TO LEVERAGE YOUR STRENGTHS. WHAT WERE YOUR WINS AND SUCCESSES IN THE PAST 12 MONTHS? HOW MIGHT YOU LEVERAGE THESE WINS TO CREATE EXCEPTIONAL OUTCOMES FOR 2023?

In the 18 Committed Leaders Group, we looked at some of the most significant gains, lessons and progressions over the past year to build upon this to create a really powerful 2023.

In his book, Good to Great, Jim Collins says, “If you have more than three priorities, you have none.” You must define your top two or three priorities to create a powerful year.

What are your top three priorities for 2023?
Are they family, business, health, spirituality, emotional intelligence, or something else? Make sure you write them out and share them with someone who will hold you accountable!

These are some simple, obvious steps that successful people take to ensure they are continuously successful. In, Be Your Future Self Now, Dr. Benjamin Hardy, focuses on how to create your future self in the present. One of the most fascinating principles is that your future self will be different from your current self and how you can get there faster. Most people build their future self leaning on their past instead of being more innovative and having their future self pull them forward. You might be wondering, how can my future self pull me forward if it doesn’t exist yet? The answer is that when you choose who your future self will be, you create the energy and the drive and you are pulled toward it.

Have you ever set a goal? Does setting this goal make it easier or harder to achieve? Obviously, it’s easier to achieve a goal because you are aiming for it. Otherwise, you’re just drifting mindlessly.

How many people do we know who are drifting through life mindlessly with no end in sight? When something happens, they say, “This is not the life I want. I’m not happy.” Have you ever met an unhappy person? You certainly have. Well, if they don’t have a goal, and they’re not actively pursuing it, why assume life will get better. Perhaps you can help them set a goal.

We don’t always get everything we want and this doesn’t mean failure. We certainly get closer to our goals by having them versus not.
What do you want to achieve?
Who is it that you want to become?
What is it that you want to do?
What does your future self look like?
Who do you want to be doing it with?
By answering these questions and framing them in the context of your top two or three priorities for 2023, this exercise will improve your destiny. Answering these simple questions will automatically enhance your life.

If you want to increase your chances of success. Make a plan to bring it into reality. Keep this plan where you can see it daily. Have an accountability partner and monitor your progress toward your desired future self regularly, at least once a month. You can’t go wrong with this strategy because even if you don’t achieve the exact goals that you’re setting, you will definitely be closer to them. You will have learned and gained tremendously.

Here’s a tip that Dr. Hardy recommends. Write yourself a letter as if it’s January 1, 2024, one year away. Write this letter celebrating the wins and accomplishments of the past 12 months, as if they have already happened. Describe what your day looks like, what your week looks like and what your life looks like. Detail what you have achieved, learned and accomplished. Describe who you have become. You can look at the letter frequently or put it away. A year from now, open it, read it and measure how far you’ve come or how close you’ve gotten to achieving what you set out to do.

We know that the direction and choices a person truly desires will be supported with divine intervention. Which way do you want to go?

Wishing you success in becoming your best future self.

Rabbi Ezra Max, PCC, MHMP, Xchange Guide & Creator of “The Max Method” assists businesses and professionals deal with stress and achieve success. Rabbi Max has witnessed 20 years of results helping executives, parents and teens overcome struggles, improve communication and thrive. He lives in New York with his wife and five children.

F. MORGANO

In the words of Principal Rabbi Cohen-Saban, “Hesed is not simply giving tzedaka. It’s something that is part of our daily lives. It’s who we are. It is noticeable in our every action.”
The students and teachers took a break from their regular curricula to spend the entire day participating in acts of hesed throughout the community. The day was arranged in conjunction with Elissa Menaged from SBH as she planned and mapped out all the stops the students visited. In eight different locations throughout the community, our students volunteered their time and participated in several activities and social events.
After a brief and inspiring introduction by Charles Anteby, CAO of SBH, the day started with all of the 8th graders working in an assembly line in the gym preparing meals for the SBH food pantry. The 118 eighth graders prepared mini-hot dogs, knishes, yebrak, and breaded chicken fingers that would later be distributed to needy families throughout the community. Volunteers from SBH were on site to help the students produce enough meals to fill 100 aluminum tins and 40 containers of yebrak. The students were then divided into four groups and headed out for different locations and experiences.

The first group stopped at the Otsar home for special needs adults. The students socialized, danced, made creative art projects, and conducted a Hanukkah-themed grab bag. One parent observed that the Otsar personnel were so impressed with our students and how they interacted with the residents. One staff member commented, “MDY was the best school visit of the year.” The students brought a surge of positive energy and smiles to the faces of every participant.

Mrs. Dembitzer, 8th grade math teacher remarked, “The staff at Otsar complimented our students’ amazing effect on the residents they interacted with.” The same group spent the afternoon at Bobbie’s Place, a higher-end thrift store for gently or never-used clothing. They sorted, racked, and displayed the clothing for potential sale to new customers. “I thought it was great to make someone else’s day just by smiling,” student Joey Ftiha commented.
Another group of volunteer MDY warriors rushed to the assistance of Chai Lifeline. The students spent the morning sorting and packing donated toys into age appropriate boxes. Each student was then assigned to shop for Hanukkah toys for a “child” in need. The students gathered the toys on the list and prepared them for the holiday. Jack Franco said, “It was fun. We enjoyed helping the less fortunate at holiday time.”

Another group of volunteer MDY warriors rushed to the assistance of Chai Lifeline. The students spent the morning sorting and packing donated toys into age appropriate boxes. Each student was then assigned to shop for Hanukkah toys for a “child” in need. The students gathered the toys on the list and prepared them for the holiday. Jack Franco said, “It was fun. We enjoyed helping the less fortunate at holiday time.”
The group then met up with several residents of Harmony at SBH on Kings Highway in the afternoon. The students, parent volunteers, and residents socialized, danced, and made mini-pizzas for an afternoon snack. Bonnie Dweck, 8th grader, added, “It was great to meet Siona. She is passionate about her hobbies and loves cooking. She was so bubbly and fun to talk to.” It was an afternoon full of laughter and smiles for all.
A third group of volunteers from MDY headed to the SBH food pantry. There, they sorted and packed boxes of food that would later be delivered to needy families throughout Brooklyn.
This group’s second stop was the Ohel residence for special needs adults. The students danced, socialized, and made holiday-themed art projects in a large lounge with the residents. The impact the students had was palpable. Reece Salama, 8th grader, commented, “This day inspired me to do more hesed. The second I met Pam and David, smiles lit up their faces.”
The students of yet another group visited the residents of Ahi Ezer, an assisted living facility for the elderly and for people with disabilities. They conversed with the residents and spread positive energy and good vibes. For their second experience, this intrepid group of hesed-spreading apprentices headed to Imagine Academy. There they met the residents in small groups in their private rooms. Eighth grader David Tawil said, “It made me feel happy to contribute and spread kindness.” MDY 8th grade science teacher and staff photographer Mr. T.W. noted, “I don’t think I have ever photographed this many smiles in this short a period in my life.”

The day was dedicated to the memory of esteemed community member Joe Sutton A”H. Mr. Sutton was a man who made hesed part of his daily life. One parent who knew him well commented, “Helping others was like breathing to him; it was part of his nature.” The day ended with a few kind and inspiring words from Isaac Hazan, grandson of Mr. Sutton.
“A wise rabbi once said that anonymity is the highest form of charity. That sentiment captures Joe Sutton perfectly. We can go on for pages and days discussing the various people he helped, advised, impacted, and influenced, either emotionally, physically, financially, or any other way imaginable. However, because of his humility, he would bristle at the recognition and accolades.”
That is the message the students learned from participating in Hesed Day—to give freely and generously by spending time giving to others and allowing hesed to be a part of their nature.

Frank Morgano is a 6th & 8th grade ELA teacher and staff reporter for Magen David. He has been a teacher for over 23 years and enjoys reading, playing guitar, hockey and Korean sword fighting.

TEENAGERS NORMA J. COHEN AND MARLENE EPSTEIN CAME TO DSN WITH IDEAS FOR OFFERING INSPIRATIONAL HESED OPPORTUNITIES ON THE JERSEY SHORE. THEY WANTED DSN INVOLVED BECAUSE THEY SAW THE ORGANIZATION AS BEING ORGANIZED, EFFICIENT AND STELLAR EXECUTIONERS.

Norma reflected, “Throughout my high school years, hesed has been imbedded into my everyday life. My younger sisters were intrigued by all that I was doing and were always enthusiastic about tagging along. This opened my eyes to the overwhelming need for the youth in Deal to get involved and give back as well. My uncle, Eric Epstein, and DSN President, Lee Zekaria, helped make this happen at DSN. We formed a committee and came together to plan. DSN has been incredible and instrumental. With the help of DSN’s Frieda Shamah, we have run many successful events ranging from targeting 3rd graders through high schoolers and now even adults.”

In November, the committee put together two fantastic “Hesed 365” events. One was a night of inspiration for 50 high school girls with guest speakers: Mrs. Mozelle Safdieh, Mrs. Rosy Shamah and Mrs. Danielle Sitt. The theme of the night was happiness and gratitude and how it can be applied to one’s everyday life. During the evening, the girls made care packages for hospital patients by packaging lotion, toothpaste, toothbrushes, cards, and other necessities. One hundred care packages were delivered to Monmouth Medical Hospital.

The most recent event was a Hanukkah donut/sufganiyot themed Babka making class with Naomi Elberg. All babkas were delivered to seniors in the community. At the same event, fifty 6th grade girls collected toy donations for children, which were delivered to Monmouth Medical Hospital for Hanukkah.

Frieda Shamah noted, “These were such lovely events, envisioned by our hesed committee. Helping those in need is one of the greatest mitzvot and I am fortunate to work with young people who have such beautiful ideas. There is no other community like ours!”

Other events this year included a high school challah bake, a large-scale mother/daughter event with inspirational speaker Charlene Aminoff, and senior-gifting where girls made and delivered calsones for the holidays. Marlene Epstein, shared, “I love seeing the young girls in our community come together to do hesed and have a good time. This is top priority.”

Eric Epstein is thrilled to see the success. “It’s amazing what these teenage leaders have accomplished. By giving their time to people and causes that need them most, this Hesed 365 program has given our teens a sense of purpose, allowing them to get out of their comfort zones and interact with different people and make new connections. Our community is so fortunate in so many ways and giving back and exposing our youth to those who are less fortunate or have different life circumstances is one of the best things we can do.”

DSN’s Executive Director Sammy Sitt sees the big picture. “We all know that hesed is a core value of our community. We are honored to add hesed programming to our growing list of departments, especially when it means that we are inspiring our teenagers. May Hashem continue to bless DSN to do more and more for our amazing community!”

2 SECRETS TO CONFIDENTLY RETIRE IN A MARKET CRASH

Ari Baum, CFP®

IN 2022, $3 TRILLION IN RETIREMENT SAVINGS DISAPPEARED ON PAPER. YOUR MIND SPIRALS WITH
“WHAT IFS” WHEN YOU WAKE UP FROM A DEEP SLEEP AT 2 A.M. THE NEWS KEEPS REPORTING BIG AND SUDDEN MARKET DROPS. YOU CAN’T HELP BUT START WORRYING ABOUT HOW THIS WILL AFFECT YOUR RETIREMENT PLANS.

Bear markets are frightening, and you no longer have time to wait them out. You’re not sure if you need to keep working a few more years—even though you might have had your heart set on a specific date. Has your world just fallen out from under you?

Although times are scary, know that bear markets too shall pass. You’re not the first to consider retirement in a declining market with potential losses. History shows there are successful ways to retire, even when the market outlook is bad. You can tap into this knowledge to help you make decisions.

Retirement Secret #1
Buckets aren’t just for retirement dreams. When stocks rise in the midst of a “bull market,” it’s easy to take on more risk since you’re experiencing the reward side of the risk/return coin. But when the market drops 20% or more and you’re facing the risk side, that’s often very uncomfortable.

Ideally in retirement you’d like to be able to wake up every day without worrying about your money! If you have too much of your money in stocks, you’ll be anxious and unsettled about your future every time you hear about a market drop. Instead, balance your stocks and bonds with cash to balance your risk (and sleep well during retirement).

Throughout retirement, you’ve got three periods of time with their own “bucket” of money.

Bucket #1. Within the next year
In the first period—the next year—you need cash for expenses. Figure out what your costs will be in the next twelve months, and make sure that you have enough cash for them.

That way, if the market suddenly takes a steep hit, you don’t have to worry. You already have money that won’t lose its value no matter what’s happening in the stock market. But cash loses ground to inflation, which is why you only want one bucket of cash.

Bucket #2. The next 5-7 years
The next period of time is within the next five to seven years, and this bucket is best with bonds (which provide fixed income). You’ll have some income thanks to the interest payment or coupon on the bond.

This bucket also doesn’t fluctuate with the stock market. When you start running low on cash, you can sell some of your bonds.

Bucket #3. The long run
Cash and bonds don’t keep up with inflation over the long term. So, you need stocks (equities) in the third bucket, which will allow your money to compound over the years. As the cash and bond buckets run low, you replenish them by selling stocks—but only when the stock market is performing well.

Retirement Secret #2

The 6 P’s
As the saying goes, proper prior planning prevents poor performance!

With a financial plan that’s stress-tested through multiple return scenarios (known as Monte Carlo analysis), the numbers will demonstrate if you need to make changes. Whether you need to work longer, take a part-time job in retirement, reduce your bucket list—or none of the above.

Stock market declines are scary and often investors fear the worst. But that doesn’t mean that your fear is necessarily well-founded. On the other hand, you may find that working an additional year or two could make a huge difference to your retirement. Discovering this ahead of time gives you the ability to choose.

You might decide that you’re willing to defer your retirement dream for a bit longer. Or you may want to give up a few lifestyle items or downsize in order to retire when you want. When you can see the likely effects of different decisions on your retirement years, you hold the power in your hands. A financial professional has the software to run these complex scenario analyses, but you’re the only one who can supply the details of your financial goals and dreams.

No More Nightmares: Be Ready to Retire On Your Timeline, Not the Market’s

You’ve worked hard to secure your retirement. But when markets drop, it’s tempting to stay close to shore and avoid rough waters. You may have a retirement date in mind (you might even be counting down the days!), but when it looks like the market is heading for a downturn, you start to question when you can actually retire. If you’re unable to change your retirement date, you may begin to wonder if you’ll need to take on a job in order to survive. You worry that you’ll never be able to retire your alarm clock. Or whether you can enjoy everything that you’ve planned all these years.

When you see your portfolio dropping by thousands of dollars in a month or even a week, you may be tempted to think of your retirement dreams as frivolous. Fortunately, a stock market downturn doesn’t have to spell disaster for your retirement dreams—as long as you’re planning ahead. You can balance the cash and bonds in your investments so that you don’t have to sell any of your stocks when they’re at a loss. In fact, there are ways to capitalize on a market drop. That’s when stocks are on sale and, if you’ve planned for it, you might be able to scoop up some bargains.

It’s critical that you start planning right now. Markets are cyclical and putting a plan in place right away allows you to be prepared when the next bear market hits.

The content is developed from sources believed to be providing accurate information. Consult your financial professional before making any investment decision. Investing involves risk including the potential loss of principal. No investment strategy can guarantee a profit or protect against loss. Past performance does not guarantee future results.

Ari Baum, CFP® is the founder and CEO of Endurance Wealth Partners, with over 25 years of experience in the Financial Services industry. He brings his in-depth experience to Conceive. Believe. Achieve. for his clients.
Securities and Advisory services offered through Prospera Financial Services Inc. Member FINRA/SIPC. Brokerage and Advisory accounts carried by Wells Fargo Clearing Services, LLC

FOR MOST CHILDREN, HANUKKAH AND ALL THE FESTIVITES THAT COME ALONG WITH THE HOLIDAY ARE MAGICAL. HOWEVER, FOR CHILDREN WITH SPECIAL NEEDS, THE FESTIVAL OF LIGHTS CAN BE CHALLENGING. IT CAN EVEN BE RATHER STRESSFUL DUE TO THE CHANGE IN ROUTINE AND THE OVERWHELMING SOUNDS, SMELLS AND SIGHTS. FOR PARENTS, IT CAN BECOME A BALANCING ACT, TRYING TO KEEP THE CHILD WITH SPECIAL NEEDS HAPPY WHILE KEEPING THE HOLIDAY SPECIAL FOR HIS/HER SIBLINGS. THAT’S WHERE CARE STEPS IN. CARE CONSIDERS THE NEEDS OF THE ENTIRE FAMILY AND ENSURES THAT HANUKKAH WILL BE THE HIGHLIGHT OF THE YEAR FOR EACH AND EVERY MEMBER.

The energy was palpable and the atmosphere was exhilarating at our Annual Hanukkah event, as over 400 children passed through the doors of Toys2Discover. They weren’t just handed a toy; instead they received a gift certificate to choose any toy their heart desired! The children’s faces radiated with happiness as they stood in front of shelves of the newest games and toys and were able to choose whatever they wished for.

The highlight of the evening was the sense of pride each sibling displayed as they said thank you to the child with special needs for having them in their family and told them how much they’re loved. NYPD Clergy Liaison David Heskiel and CARE boardmember, NYPD Clergy Liaison Yehuda Eckstein and NYPD Inspector Richie Taylor were in attendance to show their support.

Another event took place at Yeshivah of Flatbush, where hundreds of children with special needs enjoyed an unforgettable, magical day. It was a breathtaking moment when the children walked through the doors with smiles sprawled across their faces, as they were greeted by balloon artists, stilt walkers, clowns and cheerful music. The thrill of children standing at a Toy Wonderland and being handed an Xbox they never dreamed of calling their own, or a keyboard so badly wished for, was truly a sight to be cherished. The high point of the event was when non-verbal children were handed iPads which they can use as communication devices. The impact was truly heartwarming as many wishes came true. This magical day simply would not have been possible without Rabbi Besser and the dedicated students of the Yeshiva of Flatbush’s MCF group, headed by Bobby Fallack and Max Elmann. The show stopping gifts were generously donated by the incredible hearts and passionate support of Richie Nektalov and his generous friends.

Shaare Torah PTA ensured that CARE families that were unable to attend the two events were not forgotten! With toys graciously donated by Shaare parents through the annual toy drive, they hand delivered brand new gift-wrapped toys to the CARE families.

Jumping for joy CARE children said: “It’s the best Hanukkah of my life!” Thank you to all who opened their hearts and allowed CARE to create a flicker of hope and radiate a shining light during this Hanukkah season.

A COMPREHENSIVE COLLECTION OF THE FINEST BOOKS

THE MDY PTA’S FALL BOOK FAIR WAS THE HIGHLIGHT OF THE SEASON! IN PARTNERSHIP ONCE AGAIN WITH KELLY’S COLLECTIONS, THERE WAS AN UNPARALLELED SELECTION OF BOOKS THAT EXCITED EACH AND EVERY ONE OF OUR YOUNG MDY READERS. KELLY’S KNOWLEDGE AND EXPERTISE ON BOARD BOOKS, PICTURE BOOKS, EARLY READERS, AND CHAPTER BOOKS ALLOWED US TO CURATE AN APPROPRIATE AND COMPREHENSIVE SELECTION OF THE FINEST BOOKS AVAILABLE!

Catering to every age, grade level, and every interest—there was definitely something for everyone. It was an excellent opportunity for students to select books that meet the requirements of our school’s independent reading requirement.

Eighth grader Joseph Zeitouni purchased two books, one comic book and another about WW II. He said, “I picked these books because one was recommended, and the other looked cool.”

Howie Hoffman left with four selections, “These will keep me busy for the next few weeks,” he said with a smile.

Albert Douek added, “There were many interesting and fun books at the book fair; sometimes, I buy more books than I can read!”

It is always such a beautiful sight to see kids of all ages light up as they proudly show us which books they chose. We want to thank all of the moms who came out that week to help set up, sell, display, and help our students shop. Book Fair allows us to grow our littlest readers into true book lovers, fostering a passion for reading throughout their lives. Everyone is looking forward to next year!

LAURA SHAMMAH MS, RDN

WHILE I AM GUILTY OF SPENDING A LITTLE TOO MUCH TIME ON MY NIGHTLY CREAM ROUTINE, THERE IS A MORE NATURAL APPROACH TO ATTAINING YOUTHFUL SKIN. YOU CAN EAT YOUR WAY TO MORE GLOWING SKIN. FOODS RICH IN VITAMINS AND MINERALS CAN HELP REVERSE THE SIGNS OF AGING.

The best foods for your skin are those that contain ellagic acid, biotin, and vitamins C and E, which are natural collagen boosters. Collagen is the most abundant protein in the skin. It’s what gives skin its fullness and plumpness. As we age, our collagen stores deplete, but eating foods rich in these skin-loving nutrients support collagen synthesis. Foods rich in vitamin C will help reduce the signs of skin aging and improves the skin’s texture, firmness, and may help prevent fine lines.

Ellagic acid is also a vital anti-aging nutrient, improving skin elasticity. Biotin, a B vitamin, is another important collagen booster and acne fighter. Biotin helps produce fatty acids that nourish the skin to maintain a clear complexion. Here are some foods that are rich in these nutrients and antioxidants. Eat them often to help keep wrinkles and fine lines at bay.

Tomatoes
Tomatoes contain vitamin C, which helps build collagen and, in turn, makes your skin look firmer and plumper. They also have lycopene, which protects your skin from UV damage and improves your vascular system.

Berries
Blueberries and raspberries contain flavonoids, polyphenols, vitamins, probiotics, and tons of antioxidants. They can promote cell regeneration for new skin.

Green Tea
Green tea has lots of antioxidant power. In multiple studies it was shown to help cells grow properly and maintain a healthy life cycle.

Yogurt & Kefir
Yogurt and kefir contain billions of probiotics which can fight redness. Studies have shown that probiotics reduce inflammation and oxidative stress. Problems like acne, psoriasis, atopic dermatitis, and rosacea may all improve if you add yogurt or kefir to your diet.

Fish
Fish, especially salmon which is full of omega-3 fatty acids help dry skin.

Nuts
Nuts have skin-smoothing benefits because of their Vitamin E and omega-3 content. They can help acne, psoriasis, and eczema.

Honey
Honey is anti-viral, and an antioxidant. It doesn’t cause inflammation in your body and skin the way regular sugar does. It’s so good for your skin, that you can even try using it as a face mask.

Avocado
Avocado helps with acne and wrinkles. The beta carotene, protein, lecithin, fatty acids, and vitamins A, D, and E found in avocado oil help moisturize and protect your skin from damaging UV rays, and also increase collagen metabolism.

Eggs
Protein is the fabric of collagen, and eggs are a top source of high-quality protein. But don’t just eat egg whites, as the yolks contain other skin-boosting nutrients—including biotin, which has been shown to help promote healthy skin.

Pomegranate seeds
Pomegranate seeds contain the potent antioxidant anthocyanins, as well as ellagic acid, which increase collagen production.

Carrots
Carrots are an amazing source of beta carotene, a carotenoid that offers an abundance of health benefits, including those related to skin and hair.

Flaxseeds
Sprinkle flaxseeds over your oatmeal, smoothies, and salads. They’re a great source of an omega-3 fatty acid called ALA, which protects your skin from the sun’s powerful rays and may help reduce sun-related skin damage.

Bone broth
What do you get when you combine chicken bones with water and veggie scraps? Answer: bone broth.

The longer you allow the broth to simmer, the more collagen is released from the bones, which gives the broth a thicker texture. Bone broth is filled with collagen, amino acids, and minerals that promote healthy, younger-looking skin.

If you truly want fabulous skin—skin that glows, is vibrant and younger looking—make sure you drink plenty of water and get a variety of color from fruits and vegetables.

Everything you eat becomes a part of your inner and outer self. The healthier the foods are that you consume, the better your skin will look and feel.

Laura Shammah MS, RDN has a masters degree in health and nutrition and is a registered dietitian. She has been operating her own private practice in both New York and NJ for over 20 years. She is happily married and has four children.

MARY ANN COHEN

HOLIDAYS CAN BE A TIME OF STRESS OR A TIME OF JOY. SOMETIMES THEY CAN EVEN BE BOTH! HERE ARE EIGHT COPING TIPS TO HELP YOU NEGOTIATE THE HOLIDAYS WITH PEACE OF MIND AND PEACE OF BODY.

If you fail to plan, you’ll plan to fail!
Create a “Holiday Coping Plan.” Take some time to evaluate where and when you anticipate having troublesome times during the holidays. Plan some alternatives— going for a walk, writing in a journal, even leaving early. And factor in your own self-care by getting enough sleep, moderating alcohol, and saying “no” when you’ve had enough.

Create a buddy system
You are not the only one who struggles with eating during the holidays. Find a friend in the community with whom you can be in touch to share your food experiences and struggles. Sharing a problem with your buddy support system will help to dilute it!

Stay Focused On The Holiday’s
spiritual meaning
We all get caught up in our appearance, making social connections, our weight and eating. Let’s keep the focus on the spiritual meaning of the holiday while making it a time of growth for our souls. Create an attitude of gratitude. What do you have to be grateful for this year?

Eat Intuitively and Mindfully
Focus on enjoying the food in front of you. Eat slowly and savor! Really taste the food. Don’t undereat in anticipation of having a large meal. Don’t arrive at the table overly hungry. Breathe! Enjoy!

Avoid Perfectionism
Remember that “comparison is the thief of joy.” This means that when we compare ourselves to others, we usually feel like we don’t measure up. “I feel bad that Deena is thinner than I am. That must mean I’m not pretty,” is a typical thought for those with eating and body image struggles. These self-accusations can sabotage our feelings of well-being. Let’s remember that, although Deena may be thinner than you, it doesn’t mean she is happier or smarter. Embrace your own unique self!

Be Flexible
Holidays need to be a time to accept flexibility and variety. We can’t control all the moving parts that come with holidays and mingling with lots of family and friends, some of whom we may find difficult! Enjoy what you can and leave the rest behind.

Have Perspective
Hanukkah has a beginning, a middle, and an end! It will not last forever. Meals also have a beginning, a middle, and an end. When you realize that, you gain the perspective that “This too shall pass.” Whatever discomfort you may have at big holiday meals, will pass!

H.A.L.T.
Don’t let yourself get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired!

Cultivate self-compassion!
Developing self-compassion is the single, most important ingredient in getting through the holidays. Do the best you can. Learn from what went right and from what went wrong. Forgive yourself and move on.

Project. The therapists of The Mindful Eating Project can help you get control of your eating back inside yourself.

If you would like some additional support, please reach out to our confidential program, The Mindful Eating Project. The therapists of The Mindful Eating Project can help you get control of your eating back inside yourself.

We will work with you to:
• Custom tailor an individual approach for your unique needs.
• Help you get the control of your eating.
• Develop and maintain healthy eating patterns.
• Regain body confidence.
• Unlock what may be keeping you stuck in your eating problems.

Mary Anne Cohen, LCSW, BCD is Director of The New York Center for Eating Disorders since 1982. She is also author of French Toast for Breakfast: Declaring Peace with Emotional Eating and Lasagna for Lunch: Declaring Peace with Emotional Eating. Mary Anne has hosted her own radio show on eating disorders, appears frequently on national television, and is the professional book reviewer.

IN MEMORY OF ELLIOT TORKIEH A”H

Marvin A. Azrak

ASSISTANT COACH MORRIS ZARIF WALKED INTO THE MAGEN DAVID FIFTH-FLOOR GYMNASIUM FOR THE HUNDREDTH TIME AND GLANCED AT THE ENDLESS ARRAY OF CHAMPIONSHIP BANNERS HANGING PROUDLY ABOVE HIM. NO MATTER HOW MANY WINS THE VARSITY WARRIORS BASKETBALL ASSISTANT COACH EARNS, THE TWO TITLES HE WON AS A PLAYER WILL ALWAYS STAND OUT.

On Sunday, October 23rd, MDY hosted its 20th Annual Preseason Tournament, consisting of 12 teams vying for early glory. This year’s festivities took a more meaningful role, as the school decided to rename it in memory of former student Elliot Torkieh A”H. “I miss Elliot A”H dearly,” Morris said.

At 16, Torkieh suffered a C6 spinal cord injury, which left him paralyzed from the waist down. Nevertheless, his persistent fortitude and optimistic outlook saw the undeterred champion enter a grueling physical therapy process, where he ultimately emerged walking pain-free. Sadly, Elliot passed in June 2021, but his legacy will live on forever.

With a relentless attitude on and off the court, Torkieh embodied what it means to have the heart of a Warrior. “He was a fighter, but more than that, he had an infectious smile and was always sweet at heart,” Morris continued. “He inspired us to never back down from a challenge; and carried the Warrior mentality in everything he did. We won the preseason and Yeshivah League Championships in my senior year (2018) for him.”

As Zarif turned his attention back to the main floor and the present day, another obstacle was in front of him. Today’s Warriors had to navigate their way to a fifth straight tournament title successfully, and it, of course, wasn’t going to be easy with the reigning yeshivah league champion Ramaz Rams as their opening opponent. However, with an opportunity to showcase the “Torkieh way,” he was ready.

There was a palpable buzz in the air as the 2022-23 Warriors took the court for the first time. Aside from the excitement of a new season, coach Ike “Spike” Dweck was back in the fold after a couple of years away due to health issues. “It’s great to be back and have the chance to do something I love,” he said. The longtime Warriors coach watched from afar as his apprentices Zarif and Benny Mann ran the show. “They did a tremendous job. It was great to see how far the team went last season, and I hope we can get over the hump this year.”

On paper, the 2021-22 team wasn’t laced with talent up and down the roster, yet they clawed their way to a 9-5 regular season record and a quarterfinal berth in league play. In addition to holding court by winning last year’s pandemic-truncated preseason tournament, Magen David placed fifth in the prestigious Red Sarachek Tournament at Yeshiva University and won the Satran Tournament at HAFTR. “Coaching without him last year was an adjustment, but it’s great to have him back. He has the best set of basketball eyes in the community.” Zarif said, “I’m excited for what’s to come.”

The start was promising, as the Warriors withstood a furious Ramaz rally and outslugged the Rams 73-62, led by Asher Melamed’s 22 points and 12 rebounds. The star center struggled for most of the contest but awoke in the fourth quarter, finding his footing at the free-throw line, in the paint, and on the glass.

Also chipping in was the sedulous Mark Sardar, who dropped 15 points and galvanized the crowd by showcasing his exceptional agility, athleticism, and efficiency on both sides of the ball.

Still needing a closer down the stretch despite their two all-stars playing well, sharpshooter Jesse Cohen canned a trio of big threes, finished with 12 points, and created the separation his team needed to secure the victory.

In game two, MDY routed HANC 72-26, where they held the Hurricanes to zero points in the third quarter and nabbed the third seed entering the playoffs. Two days later, the Warriors pummeled YDE 59 to 28 in the quarterfinals but fell on Thursday to the eventual champion DRS, Wildcats 47 to 44, thus ending their drive for five.

Although it was preseason, the despair of seeing DRS hoist the trophy on their home court after defeating Northshore 34 to 22 in Sunday’s final wasn’t a pleasant sight to Warriors fans. It was a stark reminder of how difficult winning a championship is, no matter how many times you’ve done it. But like Elliot, the team isn’t giving in to adversity so quickly. “These guys are workaholics and are always reaching for more,” Zarif said. “Preseason bettered us for the real thing. We can’t wait for the season to start.”

Marvin A. Azrak is a sportswriter.

RABBI EZRA MAX

EVERYONE WE KNOW STRUGGLES. IT’S PART OF LIFE BECAUSE BEING HUMAN INCLUDES IMPERFECTIONS AND STRUGGLES. IT ALSO MEANS THAT YOU HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY AND POTENTIAL TO MAKE IMPROVEMENTS.

Think about Jewish history and how much death, destruction and trauma we have experienced. Then look around and realize how incredibly blessed your life is and the thriving heritage and community you are a part of. Remember, everything that happens to you, even a seemingly bad event, is a gift created just for you.

Imagine replacing your old identity, past failures, mistakes and shame with exponentially better results in your health, family, relationships, spirituality, finances, etc.

Every single situation is an opportunity to learn and grow. We call this Xpotential: Your ability to create exponentially more significant results in your life.

On Hanukkah, you light the menorah and remember the miracles of Hanukkah. A single little jar of oil that could only burn for one night lasted for the entire eight days. This is not only a miracle from 1000s of years ago, it’s a reminder that you only need to make histadlut (a little bit of effort) because results are actually miraculous events orchestrated by the Almighty because he loves you. You have so much to be grateful for.

There are tremendous blessings in your life every single day, many of which, if we don’t take time to focus on, we might take for granted and not even notice.

Sam consulted with me wanting to achieve the next level in life, but he was scared to let go of his comforts (dysfunction). He couldn’t stop his Twitter scrolling and nightly shows because he was worried that he would explode from stress. Unfortunately, his coping behaviors were holding him back. Sam fed his fear of growth while starving himself of success. He was sinking into the depths of social media and Hollywood instead of raising himself, growing and living his Xpotential.

Everyone has a little Sam inside of them. Do you want to be like Sam or move beyond your fears and limitations?

Good news: Sam realized that all the things he blamed for being in the way of his next-level success were his fears. He is determined to minimize distractions and maximize his personal growth. He is replacing the old way of coping (losing) with a vision and focus on exponential growth. We created a plan that feeds his mind, nourishes his soul and develops his skill. There will be no more staying small and hiding from himself.

Sam will be sitting by the menorah this Hanukkah committed to a beautiful future vision of himself. The new Sam is not afraid. He embraces his strengths, talents and abilities while leaning into his Xpotential—and so can you.

As you light the menorah, take a few minutes to think about the miracles and blessings in your life, and feel the Almighty’s love for you. Sit with this feeling and perhaps share it with your family and friends.

You are potential. You are a soul directly connected with the Divine. The physical world and daily stressors can distract us from the meaningful, purposeful soul-level work we are here to do.

The most significant limitation most people struggle with is themselves. Are you your own worst enemy? Do you fight in your head all the time? This is likely holding you back from achieving your Xpotential.

Here are some questions to ask:
• What is your Xpotential?
• Who might you become if you achieve your
Xpotential?
• How will you be inspired by Hanukkah?
• Who will help you achieve your Xpotential?

This Hanukkah, as you sit by the menorah watching the candles burning brightly, I invite you to commit to becoming the best version of yourself. Lean into your strengths and get better at being uniquely you.

Break through the barriers that are holding you back and make a kiddush Hashem (sanctify G-ds Name) as you live your Xpotential life.
Happy Hanukkah!

Rabbi Ezra Max, PCC, MHMP, Xchange Guide & Creator of “The Max Method” assists businesses and professionals deal with stress and achieve success. Rabbi Max has witnessed 20 years of results helping executives, parents and teens overcome struggles, improve communication and thrive. He lives in New York with his wife and five children.

ON OCTOBER 21ST, THE YOF ELEMENTARY SCHOOL TOOK PART IN A DISTINCTIVE OPPORTUNITY TO PERFORM A REENACTMENT OF THE MITZVAH OF HAKHEL, WHEN ALL OF BNEI ISRAEL GATHERED IN THE BEIT MIKDASH. THE EVENT OCCURRED ONCE EVERY SEVEN YEARS AFTER A SH’MITA YEAR, ON THE FIRST DAY OF CHOL HA’MOED SUKKOT.

YOF was proud to offer this mitzvah to our students and faculty right in front of the school on East 10th Street. “Hakhel is a unique mitzvah not just in reference to the infrequent nature of its performance, but because it is the only mitzvah that requires all of Am Yisrael, fathers, mothers and children, to come together to hear the shofar and words of Torah read out loud by the King of Israel,” explained YOF Elementary Head of School Rabbi Yahel Tsaidi.

All parents, faculty and students—from early childhood through middle school—were invited to take part in the festivities. Middle school leaders worked to recreate the Biblical scene of Hakhel by erecting a stage that had a symbol of the Beit Hamikdash. Rabbi Tsaidi, Middle School Principal Rabbi Dr. David Hertzberg, Middle School Principal and Director of Academic Development Rabbi Alan Berkowitz, Middle School Co-Principal Rabbi Ronn Yaish and Mashgiach Ruchani Rabbi Ikey Tawil led prayers and songs. Both Rabbi Yaish, who represented the King of Israel, and Rabbi Tawil, who represented the Kohen Gadol (High Priest), wore priestly vestments similar to those worn in Biblical times.

The children looked on in awe as the kohanim (specific students), king and Kohen Gadol took the stage to read from the Torah. Then they heard the blasts of the shofar, led by Middle School Judaic Studies Chairman Rabbi Abraham Benhamu. Leaders read the verses from the beginning of Devarim, the Ten Commandments, Sh’ma Yisrael, and passages about being obedient to Hashem no matter what the scenario. Noting the diversity of all YOF students, passages were read in three different styles of reading: Teymani, Sepharadi, and Ashkenazi.

Students made blessings on special snacks that were handed out to the crowd. Several rounds of spirited dancing and celebrating ensued once the Torah reading had been completed. Many of the youngest students swayed to the songs while holding lollipops, while lower and middle school students gathered in circles to dance along and sing aloud to the tunes of “Tov Le’hodot La’Hashem,” “Ya’ale Ve’Yabo,” “Tati My King” and “David Melekh Yisrael.”

A highlight of the event was the students getting to see the sefer Torah taken out in front of everyone. “Performing the mitzvah of Hakhel was a learning experience for the entire school. It was an event that the students will remember and reference for the rest of their lives,” shared Rabbi Tawil.

“Hakhel is described in the Torah as a very emotional reading of the text that would often elicit crying and happiness, deep reflection and commitment to observance moving forward. Seeing our student body, from toddlers through 8th graders, along with our faculty and parents, truly elicited more emotions than I anticipated. I was moved and inspired in a way that could only be achieved through the uplifting nature of achdut (harmony), the depth of togetherness, and placing Torah at the center of all of our lives,” added Rabbi Tsaidi.