BY CORIE ADJMI

“WITH HUMOR, INSIGHT, AND GRACE, CORIE ADJMI EXAMINES THE PLIGHT OF A SPIT-FIRE TEENAGER WHO STRUGGLES TO FIND WHERE SHE FITS IN THE WORLD. AS CASEY COHEN JOURNEYS FROM WILD TEEN TO MARRIED WOMAN, SHE WILL WIN EVERY READER’S HEART WITH HER WITTY COMMENTARY, DOWN-TO-EARTH ATTITUDE, AND COURAGEOUS SPUNK. AN UNQUESTIONABLE JOYRIDE FROM START TO FINISH. THIS BOOK IS A MUST-READ!” THESE WORDS WERE WRITTEN ABOUT A BRAND NEW BOOK TITLED THE MARRIAGE BOX.

This entertaining book tells the story of Casey Cohen, a sixteen-year-old Middle Eastern Jew, in New Orleans in the 1970s. When she starts hanging out with the wrong crowd and gets in trouble, her parents turn her whole world upside down by deciding to return to their roots, the Orthodox Syrian Jewish community in Brooklyn.

In this new and foreign world, families gather weekly for Shabbat dinner; parties are extravagant events at the Museum of Natural History; and the Marriage Box is a real place, a pool deck designated for teenage girls to put themselves on display for potential husbands. Casey is at first shocked by this unfamiliar culture, but after she meets Michael, she’s enticed by it. Looking for love and a place to belong, she marries him at eighteen, believing she can adjust to Syrian ways. But she begins to question her decision when she discovers that Michael doesn’t want her to go to college; he wants her to have a baby instead.

Can Casey integrate these two opposing worlds, or will she have to leave one behind in order to find her way?
It’s a coming of age story from an award-winning author brimming with Jewish family drama to fascinate and make readers laugh out loud. Audiences interested in a fresh behind-the-scenes look at Orthodox Jewish culture won’t be able to put this book down!

Readers will find relevant elements given society’s interest in Jewish culture, as well as timely themes close to Corie Adjmi’s heart, like female empowerment, identity, and the Syrian Jewish community.

“The Marriage Box Is a work of fiction but it’s based on my real life,” said Corie. “I grew up in New Orleans and moved to the Syrian community in Brooklyn when I was sixteen. To say I experienced culture shock is an understatement. Moving to New York was difficult and I had a lot to learn. Writing has been a way for me to process many events in my life and THE MARRIAGE BOX is part of that journey. Using satire, humor and good old-fashioned storytelling, I’ve created a narrative that makes me laugh. And I hope it will make readers laugh too.” The Marriage Box will be on sale May 2nd.

WHEN WE WERE YOUNGER, WE DIDN’T PUT TOO MUCH THOUGHT INTO SPEAKING. WE JUST HAD THOUGHTS — AND THEN WORDS. TODAY, IT’S DIFFERENT. TECHNOLOGY HAS CREATED A GENERATION OF PEOPLE WHO ONLY KNOW HOW TO PUT THEIR THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS INTO TEXT AND EMAIL — NOT INTO SPEECH. WE’VE GOT A BIG PROBLEM. WE HAVE TO RETRAIN PEOPLE INTO SPEECH-FIRST BEINGS. LIKE MUSCLES THAT NEED TO BE STRENGTHENED, OUR SPEAKING SKILLS DO, TOO. AND LIKE MUSCLES, IF YOU DON’T KEEP YOUR TALKING SKILLS STRONG, THEY’LL WEAKEN TO THE POINT OF BEING INEFFECTIVE.

Radio Host and professional speaker Judi Franco has introduced a new and innovative program that goes beyond public speaking. It’s called Talk Theory: The theory being that “word wellness” is a thing.

Over the years, Judi Franco has coached students, business people and professionals, as well as people in the non-working world to communicate well and use words effectively — even with anxiety. Let her customize a coaching session for you.

To find out if Talk Theory coaching is right for you, ask yourself these questions: Are you or are your adult children ever hesitant to speak directly to people? Do you prefer text and email to direct conversations? Do you want to sound more fluid in conversation? Do you dread phone calls? Is it hard to look people in the eyes while speaking to them? Do you find yourself at a loss for words? Would you like to make your conversation more lively and interesting? Do you have a speech coming up and need help with writing and/or execution? Do you have an important meeting, presentation or job interview coming up? Do you want to sound more professional in your career? Is an uncomfortable conversation you need to have with someone looming over you? If you said “yes” to any of these questions, you need Talk Theory Coaching.

Talk Theory has the “hacks” to help you, the wrong and right words to choose — and trade secrets, too. Learn words that are often mispronounced, which ones make you sound smarter than you are, (and which do the opposite!) And, you’ll learn how general tone, pacing, cadence, and modulation affect how you communicate.

Like public speaking courses, Talk Theory Coaching addresses the anxiety of speaking to crowds, and prepares you for speeches. (They even have a speech writing service.)But unlike public speaking class, conversational skills are addressed, too, like those for social situations, business interactions, phone calls, customer service, interviews, difficult personal conversations and more.

Words matter. And using them well is essential. Let Judi Franco help you understand the mistakes you’re making in your verbal communication skills and how to fix them. She pinpoints and strengthens weaknesses you didn’t even know you had! (Oh, and learn the real secret to dealing with anxiety.)

Contact Talk Theory coaching for a free consult and tell Judi what your issues are. It’ll be a quick assessment — kind of a talk “check up.”She’ll customize an in-person or virtual coaching session for you, either one-on-one or with a group, where you’ll pinpoint and strengthen weaknesses you didn’t even know you had!

We’re all concerned with wellness today — physical, financial, spiritual and emotional. Considering that we humans are the only species who have the gift of communicating through talk, shouldn’t your word wellness be a priority too? Be the strong, confident speaker you want and need to be with Judi Franco’s Talk Theory. Email Talk Theory Coaching at judi@thetalktheory.com, text or call 848-844-5989.

FRANK MORGANO

ON WEDNESDAY, FEBRUARY 22, MAGEN DAVID YESHIVAH HAD THE PRIVILEGE OF WELCOMING WORLD-RENOWNED RECORDING ARTIST YAAKOV SHWEKEY TO ITS STAGE IN THE AUDITORIUM. SHWEKEY PERFORMED TO A CROWD OF APPROXIMATELY 1,000 ENTHUSIASTIC STUDENTS, PARENTS, STAFF MEMBERS, AND FANS.

The audience clapped and sang along to such well-known hits as Aish, Baruch Hashem It’s Shabbos, and I Can Be. The crowd was energized and engaged throughout the entire 90 minute performance, dancing in their seats and waving light-up glow sticks and sparkling batons. The band played behind him on a stage that was bathed in colorful lights.

Assistant Principal Rabbi Abe Cohen and 8th grader Jack Franco danced in the aisle as the band played on. MDY’s Elementary School Principal Rabbi Ezra Cohen-Saban, joined the band on stage and accompanied Shwekey on a rendition of Vehee Sheh’amdah and Im Eshkachech. Seventh grader Alan Cohen, a nephew of Yaakov Shwekey, was invited on stage and was treated to a personal performance of Cry No More Yerushalayim in honor of his recent bar mitzvah. Camille Sakkal remarked, “I really enjoyed this memorable, heartwarming night with friends and family.”

Shwekey has built a long and illustrious career spanning three decades. His first album, Shomati, was released in 2001 and immediately enjoyed international success. Four songs from the album charted in Israel and quickly became well-known hits, including Shomati and Shehechiyonu. In 2022 he collaborated with other Jewish recording artists on a new album titled Elevate, the 25th recorded album that features his voice. He has performed in many locations all over the world to countless adoring fans, including a fundraiser for former president Trump. He has been praised for his ability to work well with other musicians, spreading a positive message of joy.

We would like to thank our sponsors for the event, Oved and Oved Attorneys and Mr. Eli Cohen. We would also like to thank our PTA and its presidents, Lorraine Sherr, Linda Sutton, and Gloria Chabbott, for putting the concert together. Lastly, the night wouldn’t have been complete without all of the volunteers managing the concessions and admission. Thank you to everyone for creating a night that we will never forget.

Frank Morgano is a 6th & 8th grade ELA teacher and staff reporter for Magen David. He has been a teacher for over 23 years and enjoys reading, playing guitar, hockey and Korean sword fighting.

ON MARCH 13TH, OVER 70 COMMUNITY YOUNG ADULTS STUDYING IN ISRAEL JOINED THE SCA “BRIDGE THE GAP” PROGRAM. THIS PROGRAM IS THE BRAINCHILD OF SCA PRESIDENT JEFFREY BEYDA, A TRUE VISIONARY WHO IS ALWAYS FINDING INNOVATIVE WAYS TO INSPIRE AND EMPOWER THE NEXT GENERATION.

The goals of the event were to bring our youth together — from the variety of seminaries and yeshivot in Israel — to reconnect, bond and to discuss issues that are important to them going into the next stage of adulthood. SCA board member Rabbi Joey Soffer said, “The SCA hit another grand slam, gathering our gap year Israel students together to discuss building on the growth they achieved this year, and ways to continue to build and give back to our community when they return. The future of our community looks bright as these young adults showed a deep desire to get involved.”

The day began with prayers and breakfast at the Inbal Hotel, followed by three remarkable sessions that were appreciated by all. SCA Young Adult Program Director Aaron Shasha held a workshop addressing students’ concerns about adjusting to life back at home after a year in Israel. Eli Esses, who is studying in Ortayta, said “we were given the opportunity to reflect on how much we’ve all grown this year, and strategize ways to maintain and augment the growth we’ve experienced once we get back home.”

Next, “For the Sake of Argument,” led an engaging discussion on tools and skills to use when talking to those you disagree with. Students were left with a new perspective on tough conversations they may encounter in college or beyond. Finally, Avi Posen from Jewish Unpacked, spoke about how to reconcile with difficult topics in Israel’s past. Of that final session, Eli Esses continued, “we learned about the complexity of the situations at hand, while still strengthening our Zionist pride.” Ruthy Derzie, who is studying in Midreshet Moriah, added “Knowing about these events gives you the ability to speak about them if you ever need to defend Israel back home.”

After a delicious lunch and a break for minha, the real fun began! Participants rode into the dessert where Rabbi David Zeit spoke about the relevance of their location in the Tanach. The students broke up into teams and played an exciting game of laser tag in the desert. There, they had to strategize and use their team building and leadership skills to secure a victory! It was a special opportunity for the young adults to connect and bond. Lynn Franco, who is attending Midreshet Torah Chessed, said “We had an amazing opportunity to have all the community members studying in Israel for the year in one room. It was a jam packed, fun and informative day! It was so nice to be with everyone and such a special experience.”

The Bridge the Gap program ended with a BBQ celebration in the desert! A sunset evening hike brought the young men and women to a surprise final destination where they prayed arbit, enjoyed incredible food and a lively party.

Aaron Shasha, who spearheaded this amazing event said, “The SCA’s Bridge the Gap program is an essential program for our community’s young adults. Listening to their questions and thoughts about life post Eres Yisrael, it’s clear that they have grown tremendously over the year and have a strong conviction to maintain that growth. It was an honor to spend the day with them and we are thrilled for the potential programs that will be created as a result of the day’s reflections. In my visits throughout the different yeshivot and seminaries, school personnel relayed to us how they have never seen any community receive such a special program and they have no doubt that this program is a helpful tool to fortify their growth and prepare them for the next chapter of their lives.”

Thank you to Issac Chabot, Sruli Jacobson, Betty Hidary, Aaron Shasha, Rabbi Joey Soffer, Sarah Weitzman and Rabbi David Zeit for ensuring the success of this unique program. SCA Bridge the Gap 2023 was generously sponsored by Ronny & Toby Hersh in honor of the Israel Gap Year students.

WITH AN INFLUX OF NEW FAMILIES TO THE JERSEY SHORE, DSN PUT TOGETHER A SPECIAL GET-TOGETHER EVENT THAT WAS EXCITING AND FUN FOR ALL 200 GUESTS.

On the evening of Saturday, March 4th, adults came together to celebrate at a special event “Morocco On Park Ave.” In honoring DSN’s core value of bringing the community together, this was surely one of the most successful nights of the year. It was resplendent in creativity, style and spirit — and perfect weather crowned the night.

With a special events committee planning the evening, the charming home of Morris and Stephanie Levy was selected as the host location. The Levys helped make the evening unforgettable. The aesthetics of their beautiful home was an extension of the event’s vision, allowing for a memorable Moroccan evening.

The theme of the event was an exciting and unique choice that helped set the tone for the evening. Attendees were encouraged to dress in Moroccan-inspired clothing, and the waitstaff wore traditional garb with kaftans, further immersing guests in the theme. The decorations, food, and entertainment were also carefully curated to create an authentic and memorable Moroccan experience.

The event featured a range of activities and experiences, including a fully catered dinner by Nicole’s Kitchen, a Candy Treat Truck, desserts, tea bar, and socializing.

The preparations were extensive, with DSN’s Adult Chairperson Sonia Cohen commenting on how much she loved it. “Every year seems to get better than the last! The attention to detail and hard work that went into the planning was evident throughout the night.”

Adult Program Director Caleigh Silvera noted “I was so happy to see everyone enthusiastic, eating, smiling, laughing, and socializing! That equates to success.“

Hostess Stephanie Levy was overjoyed. “It was truly a pleasure to host this event. Life on the Jersey Shore is made vibrant by this great organization. Caleigh and her team were tremendous from beginning to end, with every detail done to perfection. We were so honored to enjoy the night with everyone!”

Overall, the “Morocco On Park Ave” event was a big success for DSN. Everyone enjoyed the festivities, and the attention to detail, hard work, and execution helped create an unforgettable experience. The rave reviews from attendees, such as Zoe Benun, demonstrate how much of a positive impact events like this can have on the community. “It was beautiful seeing people together for a night of fun and excitement while also supporting a good cause.”

DSN’s President Lee Zekaria referred to the evening as “a grand-slam.” He continued, “There is nothing like getting people together for a special night like this in the middle of winter. I’m looking forward to many more, G-d willing!”

A DAY OF MAGIC AND MEMORIES FOR CHILDREN WITH SPECIAL NEEDS AND THEIR FAMILIES

THE CHILDREN OF CARE ARE SOME OF THE BRAVEST AND COOLEST KIDS IN OUR COMMUNITY. VOLUNTEERS, SUPPORTERS AND COMMUNITY MEMBERS, SHOWED CHILDREN WITH SPECIAL NEEDS AND THEIR SIBLINGS INCREDIBLE LOVE AND SUPPORT AT THE CARE PURIM CARNIVAL.

The carnival is one of the most memorable CARE events that provides a fun-filled day where hundreds of families leave their troubles behind and celebrate the holiday with true happiness!

“Being the mom of a special needs daughter, any time there’s an opportunity for her to try something new or attend a CARE event, I’m all in. These interactions positively change a child’s social skills,” said a CARE mom. “Standing and watching my daughter create a snow globe with her little hands while volunteers cheered her on is an amazing thing. It’s a reminder for my husband and I that she isn’t limited by her disability. As a parent, there is no greater blessing than watching your child be treated like a rock star.”

“It’s heartwarming to watch the community come out to support and celebrate the children with special needs in our community,” said Meyer and Victoria Safdieh, founders of CARE. “Not only is it special for the kids and their families but also every volunteer that is part of the day walks away with a new perspective on children with disabilities.”

Parents and their kids laughed while they made silly faces and took family selfies at the photo booth. They munched on fluffy cotton candy while playing carnival games and jumped in bounce houses. Whether it was snow globe making, creating their own canvas bag, receiving a twisted balloon from the clown, or tasting a sizzling slice of pizza there was endless fun and entertainment for the entire family! And just when they thought it was over, each family was handed a beautifully wrapped mishloach manot.

Many parents related that their other children understand that the only reason they’re able to participate in CARE events is because of their sibling with special needs. This creates an appreciation and love toward the special sibling.

The carnival brought so much positive energy and joy to hundreds of CARE families thanks to the CARE staff, dedicated volunteers and supporters. Many new friendships formed as the carnival created a warm and welcoming space for families to connect with others who understand the unique challenges they face.

CARE’s dedication to creating memorable events for families of children with special needs is truly inspiring and its impact on our community is immeasurable.

THE CARE DIFFERENCE
The CARE Purim Carnival stands as yet another example of CARE’s exceptional ability to create tremendously successful events for the special needs families in our community.

What is it that draws hundreds of parents to CARE? What makes CARE so unique? What differentiates it from other community organizations that cater in specific ways to children with special needs? What is the CARE difference? To understand the answer is to learn about the need.

Driven by parents who understand the challenges and impacts of a special child, CARE supports and provides programs for special children as well as guidance and support to the entire family as they navigate life with a special needs child. CARE for Special Children empowers parents as they cope with their struggle, and CARE advisors are by their side along their journey, so they never feel alone. Connecting them with vital services, therapies, schools and specialists, CARE has become a lifeline to the special needs community.

In addition, CARE organizes special events for parents and families so they can connect with others and feel understood as well as providing in house social workers and housing a therapy clinic to support parents and children. CARE combines compassion with advocacy, bridges love with services and provides hope because every child deserves a beautiful life. CARE has become the center of the special needs world in our community and the one place for them to turn for comprehensive, overall help and support.

THANKS TO THE GENEROSITY OF SHARYN AND EZRA S. ASHKENAZI, PROPEL LAUNCHED A NEW DIVISION DESIGNED TO SUPPORT THE WOMEN ENTREPRENEURS OF THE COMMUNITY. THE DIVISION WAS NAMED IN HONOR OF PROPEL SUPPORTER MRS. CHELLA SAFRA, AND REBECCA HARARY, CO-FOUNDER OF PROPEL.

On February 1st, the new division hosted an impressive event at The Club showcasing remarkable working women who were all professionally successful and relatable to other community women aspiring to launch their own entrepreneurial dreams. The audience was filled, and included in the room were many PROPEL Ambassadors — there to support the next cohort of working women. Among them, Joyce Silverman of Joyce D. Silverman Interiors, Evet Balas of Light Lab, Julie Maleh of Jus by Julie, Joy Bijou of Hydrangeas & Co, Interior Designer Stacy Ayash, Barbara Kroub of Peace of Cake, Shelly Shmool of By Shelly, Nicole Cohen of Sketch Forty Two, Alexis Cohen, designer of custom cakes and desserts, Karen Sabbagh, CBC Counselor, Celia Naomi, an artist, and Celia Beyda of On Reserve Events.

PROPEL’s all women professional team, alongside its Board of Directors led by Dr. Gayle Krost, inaugurated PROPEL Entrepreneurs with an all-star panel that included Batya Cohen, founder of Floorplay, Julie Danziger, co-founder of Embark Travel, Jennifer Nisan, founder of Front Row Live, and Sonia Mosseri, founder of Still Here in New York.

The female talent that evening included our moderators, three of PROPEL’s Board Members, Gitta Kaplan, attorney for Mamiye Brothers, Elaine Parker, Director of Business Development and Marketing Solutions at Promoshop, and Heleyne Mishan Tamir, co-founder and executive at luxury makeup brand, Surratt Beauty, as well as the owner of Bloom Bar Flower Market.

The questions asked drew the audience into the personal stories of how each of these panelists came to originate and grow their businesses.

Julie’s honest, engaging and humorous style kicked off the panel where we learned of her professional story, and how she came to head up Embark Beyond, a luxury travel company which boasts several hundred employees. Julie generously offered an incredible opportunity to a woman interested in becoming a travel advisor and agent, as Embark has its own training program.

Sonia, always artistic and creative, shared her remarkable experiences as she built her fashion jean business and beyond. The audience was touched by the story of how her father came to this country from Egypt with not much, but had a pair of jeans which eventually became old and worn. These jeans became a symbol to Sonia, and eventually along with her husband, Sonia capitalized on this idea and has grown a business which sells to major retail stores, as well as opening their own storefront in downtown Manhattan.

Batya was confident from a young age that she wanted to study to become an architect. While attending Pratt Institute, she acquired the training and gained experience interning for several architectural firms. Batya began her business by consulting on furniture layouts, which quickly scaled to a one-stop-shop for Architectural & Interior Design services. She presented as incredibly professional and confident. She credited her husband with supporting her dream of building her own business, and today she heads up Floorplay, a growing business that employs a team of designers that work alongside Batya.

Jennifer, in describing her professional journey, revealed that she started with acquiring a degree in social work. She explained that she always, however, had a passion for fashion. Her business of sourcing and acquiring luxury goods for clients began when she noticed it was somewhat difficult to obtain designer items, and realized there was a market for consumers to pay her to find these items. Jennifer has grown an incredible business and has expanded her reach into this industry allowing her to be successful in her market.

Each panelist was incredibly honest about balancing home life and work commitments. Many thank-yous were given to husbands and mothers! Strategies in the kitchen to ensure Shabbat dinner and beyond were shared, and stories of being present at family functions while simultaneously attending work-related functions and meetings were acknowledged. The audience was in awe!

PROPEL has begun to receive many calls from burgeoning women entrepreneurs inspired that evening and hoping to build their own brands and businesses.

PROPEL: Call: 646-494-0822 | Email: info@thepropelnetwork.org | Instagram: @PropelNetwork

PLANT THE SEEDS FOR A PROSPEROUS FUTURE

ARI BAUM, CFP®

WHAT IF YOU COULD GIVE YOUR CHILDREN A BRIGHTER FINANCIAL FUTURE WITHOUT SPENDING A SINGLE PENNY? WHAT IF IT ONLY TOOK THE RIGHT WORDS? BELIEVE IT OR NOT, THAT IS POSSIBLE. TALKING TO CHILDREN ABOUT MONEY NOW CAN PAY OFF IN A BIG WAY LATER.

That’s true for children of any age — from kiddos in elementary school to adult children who have kids of their own. Why? Because talking about money is a way of sharing what you know about it. These talks can help children understand how money works and what can come up when it’s time to spend money — or earn it, invest it, or save it.

Yet, those talks aren’t happening as often as they could be. That’s true despite the fact that most folks say parents should teach their kids about finance.

In fact, when it comes down to it, most parents rarely discuss money with their kids. Many folks say they never talk money with their children.

Maybe that’s why most millennials and Gen Z-ers turn to social media for advice about money. But they won’t find your money wisdom there.

It’s easy enough to start a meaningful conversation about finance and share what you know if you know where to begin.

So, here are some simple, thought-provoking conversation starters to use with anyone age eight and older. If you have these in your back pocket — ready to go — you can easily kickstart a talk about money the next time you have the chance. You could end up sharing some enlightening pearls of money wisdom in the process.

7 INSPIRED WAYS TO START TALKING ABOUT MONEY & KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING

#1 SAVING MONEY HAS ALLOWED ME TO…

What have you accomplished because you’ve been able to save money? What challenges did you face along the way and how did you overcome them?

Saving up for a life-changing purchase can be just one answer here, but it’s not the only one. Retiring early or being able to give more to charity are also wins that can come from successful saving. Sharing these accomplishments can inspire younger generations to stay on track with their own savings goals.

#2 WHEN I’M DECIDING WHETHER TO BUY SOMETHING OR SAVE THE MONEY, I…

What do you consider and weigh out when you’re not sure whether to buy or save? Who do you talk to and how much time do you give yourself to make the decision?

Everyone’s different, so explaining how you make these decisions can help others figure out new ways to handle them. That can be especially true when it comes to high-stakes purchases and challenging money choices.

#3 IF SOMEONE ASKS TO BORROW MONEY FROM ME, I…

What’s your go-to reaction when someone hits you up for a sizable loan? And what have you learned from lending out money in the past? What factors sway or dissuade you from lending your hard-earned money?

Whether it’s family, friends, or business, lending money can be tricky. And you may have more insights to share than you realize from your past experiences — good and bad.

#4 IF I COULD GO BACK IN TIME, I WOULD TELL MY YOUNGER SELF…

What piece of money advice do you wish you had 10, 20, or even 30+ years ago? How would that knowledge have changed your outlook, your choices, or your life?

As you dig into what you didn’t know, you can open up about money mistakes and how your views or behaviors have changed since then. That you can create a far more engaging dialogue and make a lasting impression.

#5 ONE THING I REGRET BUYING IS…

Which expenditures have stood out as mistakes and why? How has your regret for those purchases changed the way you buy things now?

Most of us end up with buyer’s remorse at some time in our lives. Shining some light on that may help your kids or grandkids take a thoughtful pause the next time they feel the urge to make a purchase they could regret.

#6 ONE THING I’M SAVING UP TO PURCHASE IS…

What big-ticket item or experience do you want to invest in next? Why?

Sharing these goals can dial the conversation out to the long term. That can be motivating, and it may even help younger generations stop and think before their next impulse buy. This opener can also touch on your values and show how you spend money to support those values.

#7 I AM GRATEFUL FOR…

What truly enriches your life? Which people, experiences, or tangible objects bring you joy? How do they make your life better?

Money is important, but so are a lot of other parts of your life. Taking time to think about what you’re grateful for — beyond finances — can be extremely grounding. It can also put things in better perspective, especially when life hands us bigger challenges.

FINANCIAL LESSON

Have you used any of these conversation starters yet? Which one will you try next (or first)?

The truth is that it doesn’t really matter whether you dive into a money talk using these openers or others. What matters much more is getting that discussion about finance started in the first place. After all, talking about money can be hard for any of us, even when we’re talking to the folks we care about the most — including our children.

Still, these discussions don’t have to be painful, and they don’t have to create anxiety for anyone involved. Even if they’re sensitive or challenging, remember, money talks can be incredibly valuable.

Talking about finance doesn’t just give you the chance to pass along hard-earned wisdom. It can also inspire children — young and older — to make more prudent choices and pick up better financial habits. In the big picture, these money talks can contribute to financial well-being and a much brighter future. But it probably won’t happen after just one talk with your kids.

The discussion about finance has to keep going to really make a difference. And one of the ways to keep that conversation going is with the help of someone you trust.

Risk Disclosure: The content is developed from sources believed to be providing accurate information. Consult your financial professional before making any investment decision.

Ari Baum, CFP® is the founder and CEO of Endurance Wealth Partners, with over 25 years of experience in the Financial Services industry. He brings his in-depth experience to Conceive. Believe. Achieve. for his clients.

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SENATOR ANDREW GOUNARDES

AS I WRITE THIS IN EARLY MARCH, MY COLLEAGUES IN THE NEW YORK STATE LEGISLATURE AND I ARE CURRENTLY NEGOTIATING THE STATE BUDGET — A DOCUMENT OUTLINING ROUGHLY $227 BILLION OF SPENDING PRIORITIES THAT REFLECT OUR VALUES. I’M FIGHTING HARD TO MAKE SURE THE BUDGET INCLUDES THE HEALTHY SCHOOL MEALS FOR ALL PROGRAM, WHICH WOULD PROVIDE ALL STUDENTS ACROSS OUR STATE — IN EVERY SCHOOL SETTING — WITH FREE SCHOOL MEALS EACH DAY.

Hunger is a daily problem for nearly a million of New York’s students across the state — and we know that students experiencing hunger struggle to focus, have lower attendance rates than their peers, and are at significantly higher risk of developing mental and physical health problems. In New York City alone, statistics have shown that providing free school meals to all students improved math and reading test scores. Providing free universal school meals to all students at a school also decreases the stigma of receiving free school meals by equalizing the lunchroom dynamics. This can also decrease bullying, and improve students’ relationships and self-esteem: two crucial factors in childhood development.

And there are millions of families across New York State right now whose lives would be changed by knowing their children could eat a healthy, nutritious breakfast and lunch at school each day for free. I know — because I’ve spoken with them at length about how they’re feeling a pinch in their pockets each day as they work hard to make ends meet, and because there is clear evidence that more New York children are in unpaid lunch debt than ever before. Our proposal would save families, on average, $140 per school-aged child per month: that’s over $3,000 per school year for a family with two school-aged children. That’s a significant amount of money that could go towards healthcare, buying groceries, paying rent, refilling MetroCards, and more.

With just a tiny fraction of the state’s $227 billion budget, we could make a huge difference in working families’ lives this year. Just $280 million — 0.01% of the state budget — would fully fund free school meals for all students across New York State, regardless of their meal debt, their application status, or their family’s income.

Up in Albany, it’s one of a number of measures to ease families’ financial burdens that I’m fighting hard to include in the state budget. From our Healthy School Meals for All program to my NYS Working Families Tax Credit bill — which would give working families across the state up to $1,500 per child to help make ends meet — fighting to make life more affordable on an everyday basis is my top priority this year, and I’m committed to seeing it through.

I am committed to doing everything I can to fully fund the Healthy School Meals For All program in this year’s budget. It has the chance to change the daily realities and the future possibilities for children all across New York, because no matter how engaging the lesson or how experienced the teacher, students can’t learn if they’re starving. It’s as simple as that.

“State Senator Andrew Gounardes represents New York’s 26th State Senate District, which includes the neighborhoods of Bay Ridge, Dyker Heights, Sunset Park, Red Hook, Park Slope, Gowanus, Carroll Gardens, Boerum Hill, Cobble Hill, Downtown Brooklyn, Fort Greene, Brooklyn Heights, Vinegar Hill, and DUMBO. He was elected in November 2018.

ON JANUARY 29 OF THIS YEAR, SIMHA (SEPHARDIC INITIATIVE FOR MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS) CELEBRATED THE GRADUATION OF ITS FIRST COHORT OF SEVEN RABBIS, ALL OF WHOM WERE AWARDED CERTIFICATIONS OF COMPLETION IN SIMHA’S INAUGURAL, SIX-MONTH RABBINICAL CLINICAL TRAINING PROGRAM.

SIMHA, a mental health organization based in Brooklyn, provides white-glove, expert mental health services, including clinical assessments, expedited referrals, case management, crisis intervention, and support groups, to those within Sephardic communities who are struggling with any and all mental health matters. SIMHA’s founding support group — for mothers of adolescent and adult children struggling with mental illness — is run by group therapist Elisheva Parry, LCSW.

What further separates SIMHA from so many other organizations is its investment in, and focus on, prevention. Its Education and Awareness division, overseen by SIMHA’s founder/director, Rabbi David Sutton and Chief Clinical Officer, Dr. David Katzenstein, DSW, LCSW-R, have offered to those on the frontlines of the community at no cost, myriad seminars, courses, and professional development workshops, given by experts and specialists in the field.

“Our community educators, rabbis, shadchanim, and hattan/kallah teachers, are often the very first to encounter mental health-related concerns among those with whom they work closely, and it is vital that they be readily equipped with the know-how to address these concerns,” said Rabbi Sutton.

The Rabbinical Clinical Training Program evolved from a vision into reality after a series of ten workshops given by experts on a variety of mental health topics left many of the rabbis wanting and requesting more.

SIMHA’s co-founders and prominent community leaders, Mr. Mark Adjmi and Mr. Nathan Hoffman, together with Rabbi Sutton, tapped renowned psychologist and speaker/author, Dr. Shloimie Zimmerman, Psy.D, to spearhead, develop, and lead the program. Dr. Zimmerman is a leading authority within Jewish communities across the globe on the issues of sexual abuse, community education, and spirituality. SIMHA’s Director of Operations, Shlomo Brecher, LMHC, coordinated all the administrative and logistical components required to help the program run smoothly.

The seven community rabbis: Rabbi Alex Mizrahi of the Yad Yosef Congregation and Kesher organization, Rabbi David Mansour of Yeshivat Shaare Torah and Khal Kol Yaakov, Rabbi David Nakash of YDE and Shaare Zion, Rabbi David Nakash of Khal Bnei Aliyah, Rabbi Joey Dana of the West Deal Synagogue and Hillel Yeshiva, Rabbi Joseph Sultan of the Deal Synagogue and Rabbi Diamond’s Yeshiva, and Rabbi Mourad Sardar of Khal Darchei Noam, and Yeshivat Mekor Haim gathered each Tuesday in SIMHA’s conference room and participated in a weekly three-hour lecture that focused on their integral roles as pastoral counselors. More than providing an extensive course in mental health, Dr. Zimmerman expertly trained the rabbis on the therapeutic nuances of active listening, reflection, validation, empathy, and the many additional skills needed to deal with the multitude of issues that are often presented to them by their congregants.

The objective of the course was not to turn rabbis into clinicians, but rather to equip them with the requisite tools to provide knowledgeable and compassionate spiritual care and guidance. Rabbi Joseph Dana, Assistant Rosh Yeshiva at Hillel, strongly concurred that this objective has been well-realized. “The information and hands-on knowledge that we discuss have armed me with what is most crucial: the ability to help those in our community who need it most. As a participant in the cohort, I feel confident that I have the tools to properly discuss even the most sensitive issues with my congregants and students.”

Concurrent with the lectures, the rabbis received bi-monthly individual case supervision from Dr. Zimmerman on cases and issues with which they were actively dealing. Most of the course graduates are continuing their training with ongoing weekly supervision, meeting together in a group led by Dr. Katzenstein.

“The fact that these rabbis, with their hectic schedules and busy lives, have voluntarily enrolled in this program in order to improve their skills and knowledge within the complex world of mental health, speaks to their commitment and dedication to the people who need them most,” Dr. Katzenstein noted. “It is awe-inspiring.”

Thanks to the incredible success of the first cohort, another twelve community rabbis have signed on for the next six-month course, already underway. They are Rabbi Avi Shmueli of Rabbi Diamond’s Kollel, Rabbi David Beyda of Meor Yeshiva High School, Rabbi David Maslaton of Bet Yaakov Orot Sarah and Congregation Shaare Zion, Rabbi Joe Mizrahi of Yeshivat Magen David and Congregation Bnai Yitzchak, Rabbi Joe Srour of Congregation Shaare Zion, Rabbi Meir Barnathan of Yeshivat Magen David and Congregation Ahava V’Achva, Rabbi Mordechai Sultan, Rabbi Ralph Gindi of YDE, Rabbi Raymond Azrak of Congregation Ahi Ezer and YDE, Rabbi Raymond Shamah of YDE, Rabbi Shelomo Haber of Congregation Magen Abraham and Yeshivat Shaare Torah.

To meet the needs of the community’s women, SIMHA co-founder Nathan Hoffman understands that an investment in clinical training programs for women leaders fits perfectly within SIMHA’s mission. “Our goal is to help every single individual in our community,” he stated. “So many women and girls seek out help or guidance for mental health struggles, and it is important that the women they turn to be properly trained, just as the rabbis have been.”

Among the programming already offered were a six-week kallah teacher course given by Mrs. Shevi Samet, the associate director of CORE’s Kallah Conversations Community of Practice and a well-known specialist who coaches brides with mental health issues, as well as a multi-day workshop for shadchanim, presented by Dr. Avi Muschel, Psy.D, an expert on dating and premarital relationships. The most recent experiential workshop SIMHA offered for kallah teachers was led by Dr. Sarah Miller, PhD, both a clinical psychologist and rebbetzin, on knowing how to differentiate between typical bride angst and real clinical anxiety.

Though SIMHA has opened its doors only a mere twelve months ago, the need for its launch is increasingly evident by the sheer number of cases it has accepted since its inception. Over six hundred members of the community have walked through its doors to receive clinical services. Each client is assessed and subsequently receives a custom-tailored treatment plan that is followed closely by SIMHA’s clinical coordination team, who ensure that services are provided with evidenced-based care and as expediently as possible.

Due to the increasing number of ongoing cases needing clinical expertise and oversight, SIMHA has hired noted psychologist Dr. Eli Mandelbaum, PsyD, to serve as its Director of Clinical Coordination. Dr Mandelbaum, who maintains a private practice in Monsey, New York, serves as a consulting psychologist for well-known organizations ATime (for infertility) and Ray of Hope (for survivors of sexual abuse), will additionally direct the recently developed Psychology Training Program — the first of its kind within the Sephardic community.

SIMHA’s board of directors, among them Mr. Ike Tawil, is keenly aware that so much more work still needs to be done. “Our ultimate aim is to alleviate much of the pain and subsequent confusion surrounding mental illness within our community and eradicate any associated stigma,” he said.

SIMHA’s president, Mr. Adjmi, concluded, “Our community is known to be there for one another when times are challenging, and this is especially true when dealing with mental health matters.”

As Mr. Adjmi succinctly put it, “We are just getting started.”

FINDING YOUR FREEDOM

RABBI EZRA MAX

DO YOU EVER FEEL LIKE YOU’RE LIVING IN BONDAGE — GOING THROUGH THE MOTIONS OF LIFE, BUT FEELING UNFULFILLED AND PURPOSELESS? IT’S TIME TO BREAK FREE AND FIND TRUE FREEDOM IN CONNECTION AND SPIRITUALITY.

Many people spend their days working tirelessly, chasing after material possessions or simply passing the time without a sense of direction. Perhaps, there is a better way to live. Please ask yourself this question honestly and without judgment. Why are you working so hard? Is it to distract, stay busy, get more stuff, or is there a deeper purpose that inspires you?

Purposeless work can feel like slavery, but work with a clear purpose and mission can be empowering and fulfilling. As I learned while running an ambulance company, the volunteers donated their time because they believed in the mission and valued the culture within the organization. They found a sense of purpose, respect and belonging that they didn’t experience at their paid jobs. Hence, they were willing to do the same work for free.

Human beings have the freedom of choice. Yet, too many choices can be overwhelming. This is true in business and at home. Design constraints or boundaries, help speed up the creative process and lead to productivity. Embracing constraints helps us be our best selves and enhance our lives. Your family, community and mitzvot provide such constraints, allowing you to expand your individuality while grounding you in connection and belonging.

Despite our hyper-connected world, people are more miserable than ever, and suffering in a profound sense of loneliness. Social media and technology can’t replace genuine human connection with family, friends, and community. We must free ourselves from the slavery of social media, algorithms, and artificial intelligence by connecting authentically within ourselves and with other real people.

As Jews, we understand the power of constraints and boundaries. Hashem freed us from slavery in Mitzrayim, chose us as His nation, and we accepted the “yolk of Heaven.” We are eternally grateful and indebted to the Almighty. Leaning into this connection and living our lives within the confines of Torah true freedom, leads to a deep sense of purpose and fulfillment. Without this connection, we are lost, figuratively and literally. This might very likely be why good people behave like addicts, without control or direction. Don’t let this be you.

This Passover, release the habits, actions, and beliefs that hold you back from realizing your potential. Declare your freedom to live your best lives, using your gifts, talents, and abilities to focus on your G-d given mission. Let us be unified as one nation, with one heart, dedicated to living our lives in service to and fulfillment of Torah ideals. This is true freedom from bondage into bonding — shifting yourself, from slavery of the spirit to the freedom of spirituality.

As you celebrate Passover, please remember the power of freedom in connection, and the importance of purpose and connection with yourself, your family, community and Hashem. Have a kosher and happy Passover.

Rabbi Ezra Max, PCC, MHMP, Xchange Guide & Creator of “The Max Method” assists businesses and professionals deal with stress and achieve success. Rabbi Max has witnessed 20 years of results helping executives, parents and teens overcome struggles, improve communication and thrive. He lives in New York with his wife and five children.

SBH NJ “BETTER TOGETHER” UNITES HILLEL’S 8TH GRADE STUDENTS WITH SENIORS

MEREDITH COHEN

“TELL ME AND I MAY FORGET, TEACH ME AND I MAY REMEMBER, BUT INVOLVE ME AND I WILL LEARN.” THIS IS A BEAUTIFUL MESSAGE THAT IS THE ESSENCE OF THE BETTER TOGETHER PROGRAM. THE PROGRAM’S MISSION IS TO BUILD MEANINGFUL CONNECTIONS BETWEEN OUR YOUTH AND COMMUNITY SENIORS.

This wonderful initiative was put together by the eighth-grade girls of Hillel Yeshiva and run by their assistant principal, Mrs. Rivky Edelman.

Every student is paired with a senior ‘partner.’ As the months go on, the students form a deep-rooted friendship. The students get to learn about their senior’s life, their family, and what they’ve accomplished throughout the years.

To make the program even more unique, each session is made up of a different theme and project, created by the students. For example, during our November session, the seniors got to enjoy a Thanksgiving play presented by the 4th grade students. Following the play, the 8th graders and their seniors discussed the importance of the holiday, how they used to celebrate when they were younger, and even made cranberry and apple pies together! For Purim, the students are planning a big celebration for the seniors, complete with costumes, music, and hamentaschen. Other programs planned by the students include a trip to Hillel’s Sephardic Heritage Fair, a Shavout-themed party and a year-end celebration.

By the end of the year, each senior will receive a book containing the interviews, photos and projects. The girls also make it their business to visit their seniors before Shabbat and holidays, securing their special relationships.

Throughout this program, the girls are learning so much about our community seniors while having fun. “We get to do hesed with the seniors, while benefiting ourselves by learning from them and having a good time,” said Hillel student Shelly Kassin.

Each month two students are picked to lead the program. This job and experience for them is so rewarding and fun they are all planning what they want to do for their month. “Last night my senior called just to tell me that she is excited for the next program,” said Sophia Goldschmidt. “It made me feel good to know that she thinks about me every day.”

As for the seniors, these moments have become exciting and something they really look forward to. It provides a sense of purpose and drive that is greatly beneficial to them. “Seeing the students every month brings me such joy, and to be able to talk to them and be a part of their lives is truly special,” said Pearl Mamiye.

Many seniors were so moved by the efforts of the students, that they independently composed letters expressing their heartfelt appreciation and words of advice to last a lifetime.

The stories and life journeys that are shared by the seniors will be etched in these students’ hearts forever and provide them with vital skills for life. They have all learned a new feeling of respect and love for our seniors.

Along with developing immense respect for elders, the girls have learned to be humble and kind.

May Hashem continue to shower our cherished seniors with blessings of health and love, and always continue to give our girls the feeling of growth and nourishment from this flourishing program.

To learn more about this program, contact Nina Safdieh at nhsafdieh@sbhonline.org.

Meredith Cohen is the Assistant Director of The Well in memory of the Sassoon children and a volunteer writer for SBH.

THE MDY WARRIORS JV TEAM TRAVELED TO CANADA ON THE WEEKEND OF FEBRUARY 3RD TO REPRESENT MAGEN DAVID YESHIVAH HIGH SCHOOL AT THE 26TH ANNUAL OREN GRUNBAUM – HEBREW ACADEMY OF MONTREAL INVITATIONAL BASKETBALL TOURNAMENT.

MDY opened up Thursday afternoon against Toronto and quickly put the tournament on notice that they were there to compete with a 20 point victory.

Thursday night the Warriors played another yeshivah from Montreal in a tough battle that was close throughout before they pulled away thanks to Joshua Chabbott’s 37 points. Later that night, MDYHS and cross town rivals Hillel Heat put aside the fact that they would be competing against each other the next day and enjoyed a friendly dinner together!

Friday afternoon the Warriors battled the Hillel Heat. This game was over early as the Warriors defeated their friends from Deal 62-36 to finish the regular season 3-0 and get top seed.

Friday afternoon the Warriors battled the Hillel Heat. This game was over early as the Warriors defeated their friends from Deal 62-36 to finish the regular season 3-0 and get top seed.

Saturday night it was MDY vs the entire city of Montreal in an intense game vs the host team Hebrew Academy of Montreal. The game went back and forth and ended up in overtime. MDY was down by 3 points with 1 minute left when Meyer Sakkal made a huge steal for a layup to cut the lead to 1 and then Philip Sherr hit two free throws for the win.

Sunday morning was a finals match-up with fellow 10-0 Yeshivah League team TABC in a battle of the unbeaten. Philip Sherr started off with a bang scoring 11 points in the first quarter. Max Abed hit three 3 pointers and Alfonse Shiloach made timely hoops to keep MDY ahead all game. Solly Hara anchored the entire defense and came up clutch yet again in a tournament finals for the Warriors as they took home the championship with a 60-54 victory.

Joshua Chabbott was tournament MVP shooting 70% from the field, Philip Sherr was named tournament all star for controlling the games and scoring 19 points in the finals, Alfonse Shiloach was named all star for his amazing offensive contributions.

The entire roster represented MDY with class and respect across the border and for that we are all all stars and champions.

Thank you coaches Harold Sherr and Morris Dweck and chaperone “Uncle” Morris Chabbott!