Do you always have to be right? Do you need to be in control? If so, you may be causing yourself undo stress. We hold on to so many things that cause us pain, stress and sufferingâand instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress-free and happyâwe cling to them. Itâs time to give up all the negativity in your life.
Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who canât stand the idea of being wrongâeven at the risk of ending great relationships. Itâs not worth it. Whenever you feel the need to fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: âWould I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?â Try saying, âYou may be right,â and leave it at that.
Give up your need for control. Itâs incredibly stressful to control everything that happens to you and around youâsituations, events, people, etc. Whether they are family, friends or coworkersâjust allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will feel so much better.
Give up on blame. Stop blaming others for what you have or donât have and for what you feel or donât feel. Start taking responsibility for your life.
Give up self-defeating talk. Are you hurting yourself due to a self-defeating mindset? Donât believe everything that your mind is telling youâespecially if itâs negative. Think positively. The mind is a superb instrument if used correctly. When used incorrectly, it becomes very destructive.
Stop complaining. Are you a complainer? Give up your constant need to complain about the people, situations and events that make you unhappy. Nothing and no one can make you unhappy, unless you allow it/them to. Itâs not the situation that triggers those feelings, itâs how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
Stop criticizing. Give up your need to criticize everything. If you donât like a situation, try to fix it. If you donât like a person, try to avoid him. Criticizing, like complaining, solves nothing.
Stop resisting change. Change is good. Change helps you make improvements in your life and the lives of those around you.
Stop being afraid. Fear is just an illusion; it doesnât existâyou create it. If you tell yourself that youâre not afraid, you wonât be. As Franklin D. Roosevelt said, âThe only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.â
Stop making excuses. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, making up excuses, which usually are not even real. Try to do things that you think you canât do and take responsibility for the things you canât do. Youâll be surprised by what you can do once you put your mind to it.
Stop trying to live up to otherâs expectations. Way too many people are living their lives according to what others think is best for them. Some do what their parents want them to do. Many people are so worried about pleasing others that they ignore their inner voice. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they needâand sometimes they forget about themselves. You have one lifeâthis one, right nowâyou must live it, own it, and donât let other peopleâs opinions distract you from your path.
Give up your need to impress others. Stop trying to be something that youâre not just to make others like you. The moment you stop trying, the moment you accept and embrace the real youâpeople will be drawn to you. Everyone likes a confident person.
Stop living in the past. This is difficult, especially when the past seems so much better than the present and the future looks frightening. However, the present is all we have. The past you are longing forâthe past that you are dreaming aboutâthat looks so good in retrospect was probably not as good as you remember it to be. Itâs so important to be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all, life is a journey, not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future and prepare yourself, but always be present in what you are doing.
If you donât have to be right 100% of the time; if you stop trying to control those around you, take complete responsibility for your life, stop thinking negatively, accept change, be brave, stop making excuses, live for today and stop trying to live up to anyone elseâs expectations you will be a much happier person. If this is too much to do all at once, pick one goal each month and eventually you will let go of all the negativity in your life.